First time TTC - help please!! Any one else TTC for their first time?

[BeeR2009]

Hi everyone,

Me and my husband have made the decision to try for a baby - we had a talk last month after I thought I might be pregnant (we weren't actively trying) and after 12 years together feel that now is the right time.

I'm feeling really excited and a little nervous - I know it may take a while and I just want to be as prepared as possible and be doing as many of the right things as I can.

What do people recommend for trying to get pregnant? Is anyone else in the same boat and would like to keep in touch/progress?

I'm due to finish AF in around 2 days and due to ovulate around 28th according to my tracker app - I've got folic acid and vitamin D arriving tomorrow that I can start taking, what else can I be doing to prepare as much as possible? I know it sounds silly, but do we just start 'trying' as soon as my period is over?

Look forward to speaking to you all soon!

Thanks,

Bee x

Welcome @Amethyst2502 I’m pretty new here too but have been reading threads for a while.

I would say it’s probably too soon for a natural period but you never know, our bodies do weird things when stopping the pill. I’m having the strangest cycle this month since stopping the pill in March. Day 49 and still no period this cycle..

Have you thought about ovulation testing?

Hi @Amethyst2502 I'm around the same as you, stopped the pill on 21st May. Exciting! How are you finding it all. I'm doing opk but I'm worried il get obsessed with it so maybe should enjoy dtd and see what happens!

@svc11 it’s so easy to get caught up in the OPK obsession but I did find it helpful to see the line getting darker and then the clear blue smiley face!

Sorry if this is the worlds most stupid q but if you have a regular cycle (also not been on the pill for years) do we ovulate at the same time (or within a few days) each month?

It was my first month TTC and I have had two BPN. It's two days before AF arrives so I know the test today is accurate.

I just feel for the next cycle, I need to have a clearer understanding of my cycle as the apps I will be using are just a guess so could not be accurate.

I'm thinking of getting the clear blue ovulation kits for next month only - a) they seem easier to use but b) they are more expensive by a fair bit and because c) I will end up getting a bit psycho if I test OPKs each month and therefore would rather just DTD every two days on and around ovulation.

Any advice welcome!

*BFN should have said!

Sorry about your BFN @LennyAndToots. I tested this morning and it couldn't have been more negative.

Not sure on days if you have a regular cycle, sorry.

@Dreaming101 @SVC11 I find OPKs useful so you know when you should be expecting NG your period. As long as you're dtd every couple of days you should hit the right day, but when I haven't used OPKs I find the TWW that little bit harder (but my cycles can vary from 34-42 days!)

Sorry to hear about your BFN @Daffodil21 , it's not the best start to our day is it. Fingers crossed for next month x

@LennyAndToots I think that if your cycle is regular you should be ovulating regularly (within a certain number of days before AF). Most apps show 14 days before AF. Of course everyone is different and you could have an earlier or later ovulation but I think it should be pretty similar from month to month.

i'm just using apps this month and supposedly about 5DPO but feeling completely normal, not noticing any symptoms at all.

@LennyAndToots no it's really not. I'm 11dpo so keep holding onto some hope. This is going to be a slow week.

There is still a chance that it was too early for you to test. I don't want to get your hopes up now if AF does arrive, but you're not out until AF arrives

@SaraVB I think that would be too early for symptoms?

@Daffodil21 thanks, I suppose it may be too early but I don't have my hopes high. Tbh I've had a lot going on so outside the FW, me and the OH weren't DTD so if my ovulation is later than I realised, I might have missed it.

My OH told me off earlier for doing a test saying 'they aren't cheap you know!' so if I continue to test early, then I need to get some cheapies next month.

Hi all. Jumping on this thread for support.
I stopped the pill in January. First period in March. So I think I'm on my 3rd cycle now. I'll be 31 at the end of this week. TTC first baby.

We were DTD every other day and a touch over the FW though so I had been optimistic.

I feel like around me there a lot of people that get pregnant easily (I work it out from when people get married ... even though I'm not actually married) so I do feel incredibly jealous of them right now.

@LennyAndToots Yes you're right it's probably too early for symptoms. It's just that last month I followed a couple of other threads and people seemed to immediately feel a lot of symptoms.. i think it's just messing with my head a bit.

@Daffodil21 is right.. It might still be too early. I know it's really difficult but try to wait until a couple of days after AF is due to arrive if you can. Last month I tested early and again on the day it was due, unfortunately AF turned up a couple of days late.

Hi @KeepSmiling89 welcome to the thread. I'm on my second cycle and 33 years old. Where are you in this cycle?

@KeepSmiling89 welcome! Glad you've popped on here, everyone is so supportive.

@LennyAndToots definitely feeling the same as you right now. There are people who got married nearly a year after us who are pregnant (literally got pregnant the month after they got married and I know she didn't come off the pill until the wedding). It was our choice to wait so we could get in some incredible holidays and a 4 week honeymoon so I don't regret it but do feel like some are lucky and getting this easier but then there are others who are having it so much harder. I think just all of the excitement of TTC and believing it would happen quick means when it doesn't it puts a downer on it.

Xxx

@LennyAndToots I don't even tell my DH I'm testing most of the time 😂 he doesn't know I tested this morning and I probably won't tell him next time I test (planning on testing again thursday if no AF by then). I don't know why I don't tell him, probably because I usually end up testing early. Plus the last couple of months I've told him of 'symptoms' which turned out to be nothing so this month I've kept my 'symptoms' to myself. I sort of think it's a bit unfair on him if I'm constantly feeding him bits of hope then a few days later I go and buy a bottle of wine when AF arrives. I can never even bring myself to tell him AF arrives, I guess he just knows by the wine in the fridge!

I know. I feel the same way. The closer it gets to AF the harder it is. We live on a corner in a town so we see lots of people walk past, every time there's a pram or a child I feel so irrationally jealous

@SaraVB
Day 2 I believe (according to Flo app its day 2) AF came yesterday. I had some spotting over the weekend which I've discovered is what happens before my full blown period. Not as much cramping for this one though...

@KeepSmiling89 that's good about the cramping, my AF is so painful for 3 full days.

@Daffodil21 I didn't tell my OH I was testing last month, I told him afterwards when AF arrived and I was disappointed. I don't mean to keep things from him but at the same time it's just something for my own peace of mind. I guess if I got a BFP I would tell him right away.

@LennyAndToots I think it's pretty normal to be jealous.. but just because it's taking a little bit longer doesn't mean it won't happen.

It's really difficult to stay positive during this process and not get disheartened and impatient. I really want to try though because I don't want to look back and think that this was my mindset when conceiving my first child.

@SaraVB yeah when I did get a faint line once we did the digital test together after, and the next time I used the clear blue first and told him straight away. I just don't see the point in having him in limbo too, especially when I test early. As you say, it's for our own peace of mind. Good point about the mind set, it's just too far in for me with too much heartache

Aargh I'm so close to cracking and Testing early... I've not had any of the common symptoms (boob pain, tiredness etc) but I have been feeling a bit sicky the last couple of days, and I just looked at my bbt chart, and it's distinctly higher than this time last cycle!!

Everyone's stories of baby envy ring true for me as well. I've got a couple of Facebook friends who've had babies recently or have announced their pregnancies and am seeing bumpdates etc. I've gotten to the point of hiding their posts to avoid feeling low...anyone else do this?

@KeepSmiling89 Not hiding posts or anything yet but I do feel a pang of jealousy every time I see a picture!

@Poppyismyfavourite sorry maybe I missed it but how many DPO are you?

@Daffodil21 yes of course I can understand. It's a lot easier to say than do and easier for me since I haven't been TTC long. Really keeping my fingers crossed for you x

@SaraVB I'm not 100% sure, as the two apps I'm using give different days for ovulation, but either 7 or 10!

If you're 7 I'd definitely try to hold off for a few more days.. There's a good chance that even if you were pregnant it wouldn't show up yet and from personal experience I can tell you that the the negative won't do anything to give you peace of mine, as you'll just wonder if it was too early!

@KeepSmiling89 I've definitely snoozed people for 30 days, sometimes repeatedly. There's one person in particular who I went to uni with. She has the most beautiful boy and she gave birth around the time of one of my MCs. She posts frequently and it's just too much!

@SaraVB you are right though. Thanks, my fingers are crossed for you too. That's true about testing early, when I saw the complete negative this morning I thought 'well that's that then' but since I keep thinking 'well what about this 'symptom', maybe be it was too early etc'.