First time TTC - help please!! Any one else TTC for their first time?

[BeeR2009]

Hi everyone,

Me and my husband have made the decision to try for a baby - we had a talk last month after I thought I might be pregnant (we weren't actively trying) and after 12 years together feel that now is the right time.

I'm feeling really excited and a little nervous - I know it may take a while and I just want to be as prepared as possible and be doing as many of the right things as I can.

What do people recommend for trying to get pregnant? Is anyone else in the same boat and would like to keep in touch/progress?

I'm due to finish AF in around 2 days and due to ovulate around 28th according to my tracker app - I've got folic acid and vitamin D arriving tomorrow that I can start taking, what else can I be doing to prepare as much as possible? I know it sounds silly, but do we just start 'trying' as soon as my period is over?

Look forward to speaking to you all soon!

Thanks,

Bee x

@AlisonLew15 I'm thinking the same and still just starting the fertile week haha let's hope I'm wrong and he has a sudden burst of stamina 😂

I'm sure I'll end up taking a test early again but will really try not to!

@M4v3r1ck if I remember well it's raw fish and shellfish that's an issue. Definitely double check when the time comes though!

Apparently the caffeine can make quite a difference. I love my coffee and addicted to Diet Coke but managed to switch to caffeine free versions for both. Have to admit I take cream and sugar in the coffee so might be why I can't tell much of a difference.

@SaraVB thank you! Good to know! Better start trialling the decaf tea! 😃 and getting any shellfish cravings out of the way! 😂

Hey everyone, i'm currently 3dpo and am experiencing cramping and just had creamy cm, this is waaay to much info but I haven't had cm actually filter into my pants since coming off pill and I've just had some there this evening? Anyone know what this could mean, if anything at all? Who knew you could get so excited about cm ha! x

Hi @Aokbaby I'm not very clued up with CM but also trying to track. I'm only on cd6 but yesterday had what would imply ovulation was close. I was reading up about it the other day, and found this x

Had my static smiley on my clearblue opk this morning. So I guess that means I’m ovulating today? Closely followed by my first argument with DH today as he wasn’t feeling upto the hanky panky as it ‘feels forced’ just great! We’ve only done it once this fertile window so I’m not feeling too optimistic 😭

@AlisonLew15 oh noo! It is a little forced - Unfortunately that's just the way it is. There's no way we dtd this much before we were TTC, even in the early stages of our relationship, so of course it is a little forced, he'll just have to accept that a bit (sorry I don't mean that to sound harsh towards him at all!!). I think the static smiley face means you are going to ovulate the next day. There is a helpful graph in this link:
uk.clearblue.com/ovulation-tests/advanced-digital
I might be misinterpreting the graph though? Either way I would dtd today and tomorrow if you can.

@Aokbaby are you sure you're 3/4dpo?

@Mrskcam no idea on cervix position I'm afraid, hopefully someone will be along with some advice for you soon. Any signs of AF today?

@AlisonLew15 oh sorry to hear about the situation with your husband. I know it can be really difficult as I was having the same issues with my OH at the beginning. Have you tried having a conversation with him and explaining how you're feeling? I talked to him early on about how I was finding it quite stressful and overwhelming, trying not to focus too much on the DTD part, and he's been much more supportive (and cooperative!) since then. I also don't specifically tell him when I'm ovulating to avoid making him feel like it's completely forced.

@AlisonLew15 falling out is never fun 😔 but yeah perhaps just try and tell him how you're feeling. I agree with @SaraVB last month I had said I was ovulating and this month I won't. I spoke with my OH last night and said it's hard to know when exactly I am and we just need to do it more often over the whole few weeks. Made a little joke for him to enjoy it whilst he can before I'm PG and don't want to/have a baby and am knackered 😂

it's quite a tricky one and I don't want my OH to think I'm obsessing - he's all like "this is new to me" as even though he had a child it wasn't planned. It's new to me too! I had no idea there was only one fertile week etc!!

I haven't broached the subject with my DH yet! I did manage to tell him last month because we were having a serious conversation about it and it was that day but think I will be nervous to bring it up again! Despite being together for 5 years, I'm still afraid of rejection as I definitely have a higher drive than him! Fingers crossed for a BFP soon!
I'm 10 dpo and all sorts of signs! Not quite gone crazy yet but think I will have done by Saturday and Sunday!

@Daffodil21 yep af here today thank god! Apparently the seven seas vitamins can cause your cycle to change a little as your body is adjusting to having plenty of what it needs so that's good and I'm excited to start a new cycle!!

@AlisonLew15 sorry to hear about what happened. Maybe just make sure he knows you have acknowledged his feelings and then reinforce that you're not trying to force things just trying to improve your chances.

Sometimes I think men forget that it's like a 25% chance each month, I'm not even going to tell my partner when im ovulating I'm just gonna go for it lol 😝

I do worry that my DH will think it's all about having a baby eventually. At the moment we are both in that excited phase but don't know if that will continue!

I'm so tired today. I could quite happily go to bed right now! 😂

Xxx

@SK2970 it might not hurt to have a conversation, after talking to my OH i realised that half the time he wasn't even realising that I was trying to get things going haha I guess my hints were a little bit subtle. Then I was feeling really rejected and upset without him having a clue what was happening.

Really keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@Mrskcam glad you're not in limbo anymore but sorry AF arrived!

Tbh when it comes to our DH's, I sort of think they need to suck it up a little... realistically they can switch off to TTC most of the time. Yes, sometimes it's exciting and fun, but there comes a point when it isn't anymore (I hope no one here gets to that point, but it doesn't take long!) But they're not the ones doing OPKs (and working out when they can even be done), waiting until they can finally take a test and looking out for every possible symptom during the gruelling TWW. Not being funny but all they need to do is hop on board particularly when it's the most important time during the FW. The rest they are sort of in the dark to. Thankfully my DH is ok with that side of things, and even though sometimes I know he'd rather just go to sleep, he does 'do his part'. I would be bloody fuming if he didn't. I'm sorry to all of you that are struggling with that. I think a conversation should be had so you are both on the same page. I'm sure you'd prefer to just go straight to sleep most nights too (I know I certainly do!) but that is not what makes babies!!

Sorry that came across as very ranty 🙈

(iPhone autocorrected that to randy - how ironic 😂)

@Daffodil21 couldn't have said it better if I tried

Thanks @Daffodil21 for the pep talk! Will definitely be having a chat about it, totally agree - it’s on my mind all the time and like you said it’s not like we’re asking a lot from them. They’ll enjoy once they get going 😂 sorry for turning the conversation a bit blue haha. But that’s what makes babies! X

@AlisonLew15 I know what you mean. It's all I can think of most of the time. I'm pretty sure that's not the case for our DH's (I know it's not for mine!) so really we are not asking for much!! Never apologise for offloading - that's what we are here for

@Daffodil21 yea if say at least 2dpo anyway, got my positive opk on sat am. Totally agree with what you said earlier btw, there's just so much to think/stress/worry over and such short window to actually try x

@HJen22 thanks for posting this x

@Daffodil21 totally agree! Well said!! I wasn't aware of all this stuff before last month, so my OH definitely has no clue 😂

@SK2970 Fear of rejection plays on my mind too if I want to make the moves - but I'm hoping after a wee chat last night, and the fact I kept it quite light hearted he'll realise when I am and not to ignore it!

First day of one normal AM coffee and one decaf 3PM coffee and man I'm sleepy! But seven seas arrived yesterday so excited to have started them!

@Aokbaby I think I'm also about 3DPO and still having creamy CM, but not a lot and only if I actually go looking for it, if you see what I mean. This is my second cycle off the pill and I don't get anything in my underwear, only sometimes on the tissue when I pee x

Hi All, I agree the men do not have to do a lot other than the fun bit so they should just suck it up, god knows how they would cope if they were in our shoes.

My plan is not to tell my partner when am fertile and just jump him so he does not get any performance anxiety ;), he usually doesn't mind :).

I am so tired this week with reduction in caffeine and I think allergies, and heading into my fertile week tomorrow so will have to get to DTD, but have tried to keep to every other day anyway.

@MintGreenLife yea I was the same only ever noticed it when I went looking for it. Different this month when I actually felt 'damp' down there if you get me then was thrilled when I found some on my pants. Hoping it's my body getting back to normal x

Weirdly I think my DH found knowing in advance helpful - so the week before I was like "right babe, next week we need to have sex Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday". And he was fine with that. Although I think I ovulated a day later than I expected and I suggested Tuesday but he was totally done by then!
Although the woman has more to do, I'd rather have it this way round personally - at least you're in control.

Hey everyone. I’m 25 and my first time TTC. Anyone else giving up hope with trying to track ovulation? I came off the pill in March and absolutely no idea when fertile week is apart from looking at the apps which I don’t have much faith in. I’ve tried ovulation sticks and they always say negative :(

Thanks @Daffodil21 needed to hear that!!

@Poppyismyfavourite that actually sounds a good idea! I think DH would be interested in understanding it if it doesn't work first time so sitting down, discussing it and showing the FLO app calendar might help!

Thanks ladies