Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

[SomeBunnyovertheRainbow]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Hi All,

Please could I join. I have just turned 40 and 3 months ago found out we were pregnant this was not planned in the slightest i had actually gone to the drs for a premenapaus test 🤦‍♀️.

Due to age we thought we would book in for a harmony test at 12 weeks we went for the scan and all looked good until the lady asked if i had had any pains i instantly knew something was wrong the baby was measuring 11+4 but no heartbeat.

I was booked in for an erpc which i had 3 weeks ago, I continued to bleed and was sent back for another scan where I was told I had retained tissue that now looked cystic so they needed to check if it was a molar pregnancy even though I had 3 scans and nothing mentioned or seen on these. I was booked back in to have my 2nd ERPC which i had last Wednesday. It has been a roller coaster of emotions but I am now desperate to ttc again. I have two children 8 and 11 so never in my life thouhgt I would want more but this loss has made me realise I do have room in my heart for more.

Sorry its so long it's been all go recently but hoping to now join you all in ttc.

Good luck ladies. 😊

@kim80 hello and welcome to the group no one ever wants to have to join. Im sorry for your loss. I understand the horrible time you've been through I too am one of those ladies that has mmc's followed by retained tissues every blooming time.
I hope this group can bring you support and advice if you want it. Im always welcome to pm if you like.

I've been here forever and probably will be long after you get your bfp so feel free to ask anything you like.

@Mumlili9 thank you for your kind words and letting me join the group.

I am new to the whole mumsnet so still trying to work it all out at the moment.

I am kinda stuck with the ttc until i get my af and if it returns normally as after reading some of the previous posts it sounds like its not so simple to get back into a routine.

I am sure I will learn alot from this group I have purchased the recommended vitamins and also so opk test strip things so will have a play around with it all and take all your kind suggestions and recommendations.

Its nice to see that we're not alone in how we all feel and look forward to getting to know you all better.

Good luck ladies. X

Hi girls. I was frillyfarmer. Just saw the news on Chrissy's baby loss this morning and I just thought I'd find the penguin huddle and see how you all are, send you my love, give you a virtual squish. News like that always cuts deep, especially when you've lived through losses.

I'm so fucking gutted to see both @Mumlili9 and @BunnyLovesBananas on here. You all deserve your rainbows xxx

Hi ladies.

Following my MMC with medical management I went for a check up today and I've got retained tissue so need to have a d&c tomorrow. I know some of you experienced this...any advice or anything I should know?? Was really hoping surgery wouldn't be needed.

@dryoldparty hello hun nice to hear from you x yeah im still here not sure why I'm still trying as my consultant said it was unlikely that I will ever fall pregnant again after my f*ed up last surgery but I m just not ready to lay down the opks yet. Hubby will not try ivf (catholic) so its between hope and heartbreak now plus im 39 and my time is drawing in now unfortunately as my cycles are getting shorter and lighter probably not long before they stop altogether. And as covid it destroying the NHS theres no help available either.

@Marshmallow123 sorry you have to go through this hun. My advice is have time off after in my experience you will feel bruised. Take comfy clothes and stuff to do while your waiting. Dont let the staff dismiss your feelings they tend to do this as its just a job to them. Make sure to take sanitary towels, the ones they give you are horrid and dont stick. Make sure they tell you how the procedure went in detail, I didnt ask questions as I felt stupid I regret that now. Make sure you make it really clear you are still going to ttc too. I didnt have much pain , more aching tbh but take any pain relief they offer, its emotional enough without period type cramps on top of it all. Sending you a virtual hand hold and healing thoughts. Dont worry you will be OK and we're all here for you when you feel upto it

@Mumlili9 thank you for your advice. I am living abroad just now (husband's work moved us in 2019 and we're hoping to come home in summer) so it's all very overwhelming doing it all in a foreign system. I've got a good, English speaking doctor though so that's helped and she will be the one to perform the surgery so she knows I'm still TTC.

Thank you for your kindness, it's really comforting knowing that there are others out there who've been through it....despite the fact I'd never wish this on anyone ever. Xxx

@Marshmallow123 I have had this procedure done twice in the last 3 weeks. The first failed and ended up with retained tissue so ended up having to have it done again last Wednesday.

Like @Mumlili9 said I felt a little tender for a few days after and just a bit groggy from the anesthetic, obviously the first time I bled heavy after it due to them not completing it properly but 2nd time I stopped within days and am just slightly spotting now. I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it was negative how ever hard that was to see i was also relieved that i now know its complete.

I am sure you will be fine, will be thinking of you good luck.

@dryoldparty 💗

@kim80 thank you for letting me know. I'm sorry you had to go through it twice xx

Had the worst day ever yesterday. Double baby bombs. First one was my bf pregnant again this will be her 9th child and anther friend sent me a BFP picture the same moment I was checking my BFN test . Im reslly happy for both of them but I can't stop myself feeling resentment and jealousy.
I hate days like this 😥

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to read this. Totally natural reaction for you to have....try to do something nice today / this weekend to keep your mind busy if you can. If you want to chat we're all here x

@Mumlili9 I am so sorry you had a day like that, its so hard when you feel everyone else is getting what we want.

I have returned back to work this week to two of the teachers being pregnant and due when I should have been 😭. i seem to be more aware of adverts about babies and pregnancy then i ever was before. I think when we want something so badly it heightens the emotions and feelings and this is a natural response.

Please don't beat yourself up on how you feel its natural to feel the way you are when you are trying to achieve the same thing.

Oh great thank you universe. Now AF has arrived 2 day early just to really piss me off. I give up white flag white flag 🏳

@Mumlili9 im so sorry to hear this 😔

@Mumlili9 that sucks big time. Sending huge hugs x

@Mumlili9 sending lots of love x

Hello ladies how are you all today?

@Mumlili9 how are you feeling today? Do you have anything planned this weekend to distract you from TTC related stuff?

I had my d&c yesterday morning and feel physically fine after. Emotionally I feel like it's a bit of closure too.

Hi ladies, I’ve lost 11 babies. Have 2 amazing sons desp trying with new partner. I used to conceive quickly not anymore. Last loss in May, love to all xxx

@Mumlili9 Are your friends being insensitive?

I get that we have to deal with people having babies around us but sometimes some consideration goes a long way

SIL just posted on Facebook that she had her baby girl. She is early 40s and has been quite thoughtful about us losing DD so I am happy for her but will always be sad my baby died. I will send her a card today.

@Jaysdream7 Is that 11 MCs? That's a lot to go through. I lost a full term baby last year and a MC also last year and I feel fed up but it seems like fertility goes up and down for people eg can take years to conceive one and then the next can happen straight away or vice versa

No some chemical some mc and some medical reasons! Been heartbreaking

@Jaysdream7 I can imagine how fed up you must feel. It's a year since my MC and now I feel like it's not going to happen for us.

@Marshmallow123 im glad it went ok for you and your recovering well 😊.

I'm ao confused as had two in 3 weeks had 3 days of non bleeding and now started again so if be coming up for 4 weeks from 1st one and only 2 weeks from 2nd so have no idea if this is still from 2nd one or if my af is now following on top.

Its so frustrating 😫