Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Oh @VenusStarr I'm so sorry. It's devastating even when you've braced yourself for it. Hope you get the gp to listen and you get answers from someone soon.

Pleased you are settling in to the new job @Mumlili9

Hi all

All ok thanks. A bit fed up with the TTC so sorry if I'm a bit quiet here. I find it hard to be around even early pregnancy chat and I just listened to my favourite podcast at 7:30 in the morning and my favourite podcast host is talking about how she was pregnant and I thought "great" and then she said she has had a miscarriage. She heard a heartbeat and then the next time there was no heartbeat.

I've said it's 18 months since I had my DD and a year since my miscarriage and I just feel fed up. We barely tried this month as DH and I have been a little at odds.

Otherwise I feel fine. Work is good but busy and it does seem like arguments with DH coincide with me being hormonal (which now seems to peak before ovulation) but he definitely doesn't handle it well and almost seems to wind me up!

I hope everyone is ok 💗

@BunnyLovesBananas I'm the same and practically divorcing every month now. It's really bad that I'm more upset at missing my fertile window than loosing DH 🙊

Hope everyone is okay, this extended lockdown is really affecting most people. I'm really beginning to struggle xx

@Kiki275 @BunnyLovesBananas you are not alone in this fall out with your other half thing. I too have been doing this for almost 3 years and even this month we fell out the night before we went on hols because my stupid peri menopausal body decided that ovulation would be cd9 this cycle which ment I ovulated the day we traveled 🙄 because that lead to a huge argument. After explaining through gritted teeth that its not like I can just delay it until its more convenient he said ' fine then let's just get on with it then ' not at all how you want things to go, and it really was the most uncomfortable dtd ever and most definitely no cuddling after he just got up and walked off muttering about needing to check the oil and tyre pressures on the car. Its most definitely a chore these days. Its a shame but it seems to be the nature of multiple miscarriage and ttc for many of us.

Hi everyone. Sorry to hear things are tough for you all right now @BunnyLovesBananas @Mumlili9 @Kiki275

Heartbroken that this pregnancy is a confirmed missed miscarriage 💔 the epu were awful today. Despite this being my 4th loss, they've offered no care - just wanted me out of there. Still technically pregnant but no plan for management. Luckily I called Tommy's in tears and they're seeing me tomorrow morning for another scan and to discuss options. I think I'm leaning to an mva so they can make sure they get the baby for testing. Feel exhausted and very sad. Just can't believe this is happening 😢

Oh @VenusStarr that's shocking treatment! Are there any alternative hospitals near you? I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through but glad Tommy's stepped in for you. Not sure what to say other than always here to listen and provide huge virtual hugs/handholds/wine xxx

I think I am in the right place. I have had two miscarriages before (one which took weeks to get past as the treatment didn’t work straight away and I got an infection ), we are in our 30s TTC for our first. We were gutted when I had the miscarriages.

I got a strong BFP yesterday on day 28 of the cycle. I had one day of bleeding before that which I know could be “implantation bleeding” but I consider it a bad sign. We are not torturing ourselves by going baby crazy this time! I probably should have waited longer before testing.

It is going to be an anxious time waiting to see if this is going to be a successful pregnancy or not.

Anyway good luck to everyone and if you are going through a loss you have my sympathy. It is hard because nobody talks about it and some people can be so dismissive, (even professionals!)

@badacorn I'm sorry to hear of your losses but will keep everything crossed for you with this little one. I totally understand the dismissive thing, it's like they're thinking "have you not got over it yet?" x

NC here

I hope everyone is okay as can be 💗

@Kiki275 I'm sorry you are struggling too. I'm on the 2WW but have zero hope now. I need something good to happen.

@Mumlili9 I absolutely get that dtd becomes a chore but at the time I don't care as long as we do it Then again, I'm also thinking what's the point and assuming it won't happen. I still have a lot of anger and resentment that I lost my baby and then had the MC and a year on nothing has happened for us so I'm trying not to even think about it.

@VenusStarr I'm sorry you've been treated that way and that life is so unfair.

I'm feeling good generally but have almost given up on TTC (though realise that might be a tad dramatic) so I apologise if I am not around as much.

Hi all.

Hoping I can join this thread.

Went for a scan last week and they thought something was wrong. Went back this Wednesday (8w2d) and they confirmed MMC as no growth since 6w3d and no heartbeat.

I just feel kind of lost if I'm honest.

This was our first pregnancy as we're both in early 30s.

Was given the cytotec to bring on the bleeding and now am waiting to see my Dr again in Monday.

We want to try again but we're worried about when is best.

Sorry for the long post ... as I said, I feel a bit lost.

Hi ladies just jumping on to say hello

@venusstarr im sorry you had awful treatment by the epu.

I've nothing to report. Just dragging my feet along waiting for something to happen. My hysteroscopy is cancelled so who knows what going to happen now .

Hope your all as well as you can be.

@Marshmallow123 I'm sorry you find yourself here. Take everything one day at a time, you'll know when you're ready to face the emotional rollercoaster that is TTC. We're all here to rant at if you need to in the meantime xx

@Kiki275 thank you. It's such s rollercoaster of emotions isn't it!

Hoping all of you TTC are keeping well.

@VenusStarr sorry to read about your experience

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Well ladies its a BFN from me this cycle. 9dpo and not even a shadow so on to next cycle

@Mumlili9 that sucks but it's not over yet. Keeping my fingers crossed for you x

Well I'm spotting so that's usually the start of AF but I wasn't expecting anything.

Hope everyone is ok xx

@LoveEatYoga sorry to hear this. On the bright side we can all have a few wines in commiseration. Silver clouds n all that x

@Kiki275 I would but im T total. Im boring I don't have any vises and my body is crap. So im just going too wallow in my crap until AF is over then worry about if I'm going to ovulate for a week, then if I do im going to worry we didn't dtd enough and then worry some more for a week , test cry about a BFN and repeat the process. God im a sad s**t I literally have no life. Hows things going for you?

@Mumlili9 you are not for one minute a sad sh**t. No one can call you that for doing your very best and everything possible to take care of your health & body and make conceiving an upmost priority. I think you're amazing for it! No one has a life in this eternal bloody lockdown, especially not me x

@Kiki275 you've been amazing at supporting so many of us, how are you getting on?

@Mumlili9 you're not a sad s**t at all, the TTC process is a complete head spinner. I am sending lots of positive vibes your way.

@Marshmallow123 I'm pretty good at the moment. Just need this BFP to happen as do we all, them we can worry what's next x

@Kiki275 keeping everything crossed for you. I'm now a week since MMC and still bleeding...just want this to be over now so can begin TTC again if I'm honest.

@Marshmallow123 I can only imagine. It's been 6 months since my loss, so I'm in a completely different headspace now. It's so easy for me to say now but please be gentle on yourself. 🤞it won't be long until your body & mind are aligned and it's all systems go again x

@Kiki275 thank you. And here's hoping for a positive month for you x

Thanks @Kiki275 How are you?

Like @Mumlili9 I don't drink much. I'm not t total but I drink less then once a month! I'm just a bit fed up now but trying not to think about it