Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

so i typed an entire post an pressed "back" by accident 😒

Soooo

Hello ladies
Been away since Friday so not been checking mumsnet as much!
Lovely weather here as well in the Baltics!

@scrumdiddly123 promising symptoms!!!! When will you test??

@ELM7 fingers crossed for you too lovely

@Ejb86 sorry AF arrived but definitely a good thing to have a 9 days LP!

@Annny27 your friend is gold! Such a nice gesture to send you a card.
Dont know yet if we are supposed to be tryi f this month but my procedure is Wednesday so will ask the doc then!

@Fizzl hope you are ok x

Went to have my bloods done on friday. She drained all my blood i think!! There were millions of tests and bottles. But they came back and hormone wise everything looks really good. But vitamin D is deficient despite me taking two types of supplements everyday.
And i have neutropenia... my immune system looks crap and all the diff tests shows low stuff leukocytes related.
Obviously didnt have the doctor interpretation yet but i hope it will just be because of the antibiotics treatment.
All the infection tests were negative including lupus etc so dont see why i would have an issue there...
So waiting for my doc to review and come back to me :)

I had the most vivid dream that I tested and got a blazing positive, so of course I tested this morning and it was bfn! 😂 I know it’s crazy early though so it’s fine, I still have hope! 🤞🏻

@scrumdiddly123 hopefully the spotting is a good sign for you! Do you normally get that?

@Annny27 that sounds a lovely idea. I'm keen to maybe do a little something whereas I think my husband would rather just forget and focus on moving forward. He worries that I just upset myself and tries to always be positive. I'll have to broach that conversation with him and I can always mark the occasion in my own little way.

@SunnySideUp2020 it really sounds like they are checking everything out! Do you feel more reassured now they are doing all these tests? My inner control freak would love it as it feels like you're being really proactive and if there are any issues identified you can get them sorted. Good luck with your procedure next week! Will you be having GA?

No real updates here. I had the tiniest bit of really light brown spotting yesterday and some cramps so I got all excited and thought hallelujah it's starting and then.... nothing 🙄

Sorry @scrumdiddly123 cross posted with you there! Sorry it's a bfn this morning but like you've said it's still early so there's hope.

Thanks @Fizzl, I went on to have some bleeding yesterday morning so was gutted but it stopped as soon as it had started and then just had a tiny bit of brown cm. So who knows what’s going on! Temp is still high and AF due on Thursday! I don’t have any symptoms really so don’t think I am. How are you? Still waiting for something to happen?
@SunnySideUp it sounds like they’re being very thorough with you which is great!
How are you @Annny27 are you getting close to ov yet?
Are you still in the 2WW with me @ELM7?
Hope everyone is ok and making the most of these last couple of days of sun!

@scrumdiddly123 yep I’m still in the TWW with you AF due Sat. Woke up this morning with lower back pain and feeling emotional so sure AF will be showing up at some point this week.

Really hope the spotting is implantation and that AF stays away. I had zero symptoms with my last pregnancy until a week or so after my BFP so no symptoms could be a good thing.
Fingers crossed for you.

@scrumdiddly123 yep still just waiting. I've continued to have really small amounts of brown (sorry tmi) stringy spotting. It's really strange and I have no idea what's going on. I feel like AF could start but nothing so far. My opk was also the highest it's been today - not peak but a reading of 0.43 when my others have previously not gone about 0.21! 🤷🏼‍♀️

The on and off bleeding for you might be a positive sign maybe. Fingers crossed it is anyway. If not, our bodies are just playing cruel tricks.

@scrumdiddly123 hopefully that spotting was implantation!🤞

@ELM7 hopefully AF doesn’t show , how many DPO are you now?

@Fizzl any sign of anything yet? Do you think maybe the spotting was a really light AF because you didn’t ovulate?

@Ejb86 so sorry AF arrived, 9days is much better tho so hopefully next cycle will be good.

@Annny27 how are you feeling today lovely? Thinking of you this week, I know it must be so tough, I’m really dreading the week of my due date if I’m not pregnant by then. Any signs of Ov yet?

@SunnySideUp2020 sounds like thorough testing, definitely good to be proactive. Hoping I’ll get the same check over soon. Do they have any idea why vit D and white blood cells low?

I’m CD 13 and it looks like my opk is starting to darken so hoping for another early ov this month. Had planned to stay away from alcohol for the whole cycle but the weekend has been so fab we had a few cocktails and Proseccos yesterday and it was just lovely not to think about TTC for a day!

Morning ladies! hope we all enjoyed the nice warm weekend :)

@scrumdiddly123 the bleeding sounds so peculiar! Does it feel like AF? I ran out of opks yesterday so had to go to tesco to get some fancy looking ovulation tests haha. Looking like probably will peak tonight or tomorrow morning (am cd13 today). I have had loads of ewcm today!

@fizzl your high lh may be that AF is about to begin or ovulation may be finally happening for you!!!!!

@ELM7 stay strong and hope the last bit of tww isn't torture!

@SunnySideUp2020 my DH has very mild neutrophenia or however you spell it but the doctors aren't overly concerned about it. How are you feeling before your procedure on Wed?

@Fizzl sorry cross posted there. Maybe you are about to ovulate again you think? What Cd are you now?

@Annny27 very fancy ovulation test😂 looking very strong! Hopefully I’ll be following you in a day or so😊

@leok83 we must have been writing at the same time! Yep they cost 7 pound haha! Almost 1 pound per each stick so much different to my 30 for 5 pound that I get online haha

Are you doing opks? Yep will be nice to have a tww buddy!

@Leok83 I am wondering if this will be my AF this month. Although it's barely anything 😒. I'm CD39 😱 so if I totally skip a cycle I'd probably expect to ovulate roughly CD48 but who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

Fingers crossed for an early ovulation for you! I also don't blame you for enjoying a few drinks. We have to keep living our lives and can't put everything on hold.

@Annny27 that is a very fancy opk! Definitely looking almost positive tho. Yeah I thought maybe really late ovulation but the brown spotting is making me think probably AF just very slowly on her way. I'll keep testing!

Got a peak reading this evening (my normal cheapy opks arrived haha)! Dtd today and will dtd tomorrow probably as well!

Let's hope I have a longer LP this time 🤞🤞🤞🤞

@fizzl how are your temps looking? Thats so frustrating to not know where you are st with your cycle :(

That is definitely a strong peak @Annny27 - good luck! 😉

My temps have stayed low. They've not gone above 36.3 and seem to bob between 35.9 and 36.3. After ovulation normally above 36.6.

Tomorrow is CD40 so unless proper flow starts before then think I'm going to ring the GP 😒 not sure what I'm hoping to hear as I'm pretty sure they will say it's normal for a cycle where you haven't ovulated.

Got another peak this morning so probably ovulate today (cd14)

@fizzl yeah does seem like an anovulatory cycle doesn't it. I haven't had one since ttc but might have had one in the past. Very frustrating.

How are the two weekers getting on?

@annny27
Nice positive opk!! You are so lucky to ovulate on cd14 ... by the book :)

@Fizzl sorry it's not moving on your end lovely... perhaps ring the gp? Doesnt do any harm to just mention that you are anxious?

CD7 for me - no cycle buddies this month!
😕

Tomorrow leaving at 07:30am for my hysteroscopy.
Had a freak out yesterday almost cancelled everything. DP not allowed at all in the clinic and the receptionist said they would only put me to sleep if i need treatment. Had a mini breakdown as i am quite sensitive down there in the cervix and i know i won't tolerate the pain. So had to text the doctor to double check that she would give me the GA and THEN start her thing.... she finally confirmed this morning that yes i will be asleep 😅
But poor DP will have to find something to do for 3 hours in the city and not worry too much...

Also we haven't seen a BFP in a while!
🤞 hopefully the next few weeks will bring some 💞 🌈 🌟

@Annny27 that's bang on time then! Hopefully this is a good sign that everything is behaving itself for you this month!

@SunnySideUp2020 I've spoken with the GP today. Going for swabs later just to make sure there's nothing more sinister going on. GP seems fairly sure that I've had an anovulatory cycle and this can 'confuse' you uterus. So my current diagnosis seems to be confused uterus 😂 😒perfect. No imminent BFP here that's for sure!!

Ah I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow. I had a complete meltdown on the morning of my surgery and very nearly didn't go ahead with it. They had to postpone things whilst I had some time and just blubbered uncontrollably for about an hour. I managed to pull myself together in the end and I'm so glad I did now because it really was all fine. I think your husband will find it worse. I know mine didn't know what to do for a few hours whereas for me it felt like I'd only been away from him for about half an hour.

Good luck everyone else!

Yeah I have been fairly lucky the past few months with "on time" ovulation! Something I am thankful for atm.

Oh thats a relief that you are going under GA @sunnysideup2020 makes it less scary painwise. Will be thinking of you tomorrow!

@fizzl a confused uterus - think I have one of them too 🤣🤣🤣 keep giving her all she needs to make a baby and she doesn't 🤣

Hi ladies, I hope it’s ok if I join you? I was actually on the Feb and March threads but I’ve name changed- I was Happythecrocodile. I got my BFP on the March thread, unfortunately at my dating scan I was found to have a pregnancy sac but no foetus. Nothing has happened naturally so I’m booked in for a D&C on Friday.

As you can imagine I’m devastated but trying to focus on the future now, so I’m hoping you lovely ladies can give me some advice. I hope this isn’t triggering for anyone.

Have any of you had a D&C? Im so nervous about it. Did you TTC again straight away or leave it for a cycle or 2?

@beemakestea sorry you find yourself back in the ttc boards :(

I had a d&c after failed medical management and losing a lot of blood so mine was more of an emergency and didn't really get a chance to get too nervous! But I was definitely scared of the things that could go wrong and also the anaesthetic but everything turned out fine and I actually quite enjoyed the experience (apart from losing the baby....)

Good luck for your procedure! We waited one cycle before ttc because I had a lot of antibiotics, iron tablets and also thrush (🙄) so we wanted to make sure I was fully recovered

@BeeMakesTea I'm so sorry ur back onto this thread again. That's so hard and fair play to you for being so positive right now. I'd a D&C for MMC(they called ERPC) and it was fine, no pain other than the odd period type cramps after, anaesthetic was fine, really the worst of it is just the emotional side of things.
We decided to TTC straight away but I did spot and had positive hcg for about 6 weeks after so obviously my body wasn't ready. I think though if your body is ready (hcg back to normal and no bleeding) then I would continue TTC but it's definitely a personal choice and has to be right for you. xx

@Annny27 I'm doing OPK alright this cycle, too much in habit of doing it now to not! This is this afternoon so starting to get darker. Had peak Cd14 last cycle so was hoping for same this cycle but I'll be happy to get it tomorrow either and looks like might be gearing up for that. Hopefully I'll be ur cycle buddy soon!

@SunnySideUp2020 best of luck for tomorrow, thank god they're letting you go to sleep for it, I'm sure it'll make it more bearable!

@Fizzl a confused uterus😂that's a great diagnosis!! Glad the GP is finally going to do something to investigate though.

@BeeMakesTea I’m so so sorry for your loss I went straight for ERPC as felt I wouldn’t be able to handle dealing with medical management. Like @Leok83 said it was fine although I think I thought I was better than I was and the general anaesthetic wore off about 2am when it hit me like a ton of brick emotionally and also the cramps came so would suggest taking a hot water bottle to bed with you just in case. (Hubby was
Up making one for me in the middle of the night)

We waited until after AF before TTC as I also ended up on antibiotics for an infection but like the ladies have said it’s whenever you feel ready. Hope it all goes ok on Fri