Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

Evening all!
Thanks @Annny27 for setting up the new thread!
You are definitely very strong and willed waiting for the weekend to test. Have everything crossed for you!!
@SunnySideUp2020 your up next then isn’t it? When are you testing?

@scrumdiddly123 that’s a good line on the OPK, looks like ovulation just around the corner hopefully!

@ELM7 good luck heading into the fertile week😊

@Ejb86 did you do another OPK?

@Minster2012 👋 you are prob still a bit away from ov if creamy CM, I’ve had 9 days of flashing smileys before peak, another time had flashing 1 day and solid the next so can be really variable how long they go for! Keep testing! And DTD regularly!

I decided to test again this eve and still negative, have AF pains now so I’ll be expecting the witch tomorrow. Onto month 6😩

@Leok83 sorry it was BFN for you but thank you for letting me know about the flashies, I’m really hoping not for 9 days I only have 5 sticks left!

@Leok83 i am indeed. Only 7 dpo tomorrow though
Going for my check at fertility clinic at 3pm so hoping she can see that i have ovulated at least from scan. And i will go from there

But so far my boobs arent even swollen like normal 7 dpo... so not having hopes at all this month and not looking forward to another bfn.

😒

But if i feel the urge to poas i will do so on Saturday

@Leok83 and sorry for your bfn.. i will join you onto month 6 i think!

Didn't do another OPK last night. This is fmu today though. Wont be able to do another til mid afternoon but at least theres finally been a change!

Hi everyone, I'm returning from the last thread after a while away from MN and then some hectic days as I'm a key worker and in the middle of sorting a book series for publishing so my life is all kinds of crazy in the middle of lockdown!

Just wanted to say I continue to wish everyone baby dust and luck on your TTC journeys as I continue lurking in the background!

This morning I woke up to (TMI) weird light pink spotting, not enough to need a liner or pad, four days before my due period. Waiting to see if it gets any heavier as it could be AF arriving unusually early (normally it's on time or late).

Where is everyone else in their cycle?

Morning all :) 10dpo here and usually at this point I would be itching to test, but the advantage of having no tests means I am not :D haha. I think I usually spot from about 12dpo so if I haven't spotted by Friday (13dpo) then I may do a test on Saturday which is when AF is due....we'll see! But I am not wanting to see a glimmer of a line and get my hopes up so I want to wait till I am late ideally.

Symptom wise nothing unusual from my normal luteal phase - got the sore boobs and a bit tired. Happens most months :p

@Ejb86 exciting! Yeah that one in the afternoon and make sure you don't drink a fee hours before so its concentrated :D fingers crossed this is it, especially with the ewcm you had yesterday!

@fizzl thats so frustrating! I haven't had an anovulatory cycle yet whilst ttc but it would be so gutting to miss a month 😪😪

@SunnySideUp2020 you are only 8dpo no reason to count yourself out just yet!

@Minster2012 ahhh my cm usually is stretchy a good week before ovulation but everyone's different! Keep tracking :D

@Leok83 ahh that's gutting:( whens AF due?

@glitterfairy1412 it could always be implantation bleeding! Keep us updated if it doesn't progress to AF!

Ooo @Annny27 that’s good on no tests then, stay strong & 🤞🏻🍀for you

Interesting on the CM stretchy front, I had a day of what I thought was ewcm on day 12 but then it disappeared & CB & IC showed no signs of ovulation. Day 3 of flashing smiles here and I’m really hoping it changes to static tomorrow 🤞🏻

@Ejb86 that looks good! Fingers crossed it’s darker later!
@Annny27 you seem really chilled, well done for not having the urge to test! I’ve hidden all of my mine so hopefully I’ll have the same strength when I eventually get round to the 2WW.
My opks got lighter again yesterday after my darkish one in the morning so none the wiser! My temp has increased slightly so will keep an eye on that and of course keep testing! CD 24 today and been testing/BD’ing since day 10! Fed up now 😂

This mornings opk, please let today be the day 🙏 ewcm is back too!

@SunnySideUp2020 and @Leok83 think I'll definitely be joining you! CD26 here and nada, nothing. It will only be cycle 4 of us trying again but cycle 7 since mc. I really hoped I'd be pregnant again by our due date in June. Assuming my body decides to ovulate next month that gives us one more shot! And depending on when AF actually arrives this month my period should be due around that time in June too - I'd much rather get a BFP than AF. I'm already dreading it. My husband doesn't think it's a big deal and I shouldn't make it a 'thing' but I can't help but well up when I think about where we should have been (around) that date welcoming our baby to where will be - probably very un-pregnant! And an extra kick in the teeth is we had planned to probably stop trying for a month in June so we could go on some elaborate holiday to make us feel better. I think I kind of (naively) assumed we would be pregnant again by now and that wouldn't happen but turns out the world had different plans anyway 😞

@Ejb86 that opk is looking good! Fingers crossed this is it for you.

Hi @GlitterFairy1412 good to hear from you again! The spotting could be a good sign if your period is normally pretty regular!

@Annny27 your willpower is amazing! I don't think symptom spotting means anything anymore - I've realised all pre-af symptoms could be pregnancy symptoms so don't get too disheartened yet.

@scrumdiddly123 I can relate - I've been peeing on sticks and dtd for 16 days now 😫 to be fair we haven't quite mustered up the energy the past 2 nights because I've realised there probably isn't any point anyway. We've said we'll keep going until af arrives. Think we'll both be ready for a break! And the before we know it it'll all start again next cycle 😂 not sure I can keep this up! The joys of ttc - it's all become very 'practical' and quick let's get the job done more than anything else 🙄

@scrumdiddly123 your opk is looking good too! At least your dtd efforts won't have been wasted!

It seems like the spotting might be getting heavier so I think I'm out this month. Boo

I don't do OPK's or anything because I know my personality would make me obsess over them Starting to wonder if it might be worth it because my last two cycles have been irregular

@Fizzl have you got any spotting?

@Ejb86 the opk with fmu can give you higher results i find but not so reliable. But yours looks dark anyway!!

@scrumdiddly123 yours is kinda dark but might be a couple of days no?

@Annny27 i like that you have no tests!!! So good for no being too tempted. I hope your patience gets rewarded with a bfp!

Been to my appointment today and she didnt find a baby doing the scan (shocking 😒) lol

Joke aside all looks ok with me but i am having a hysterescopy on june 3rd as she suspects some scarring tissue might cause my pains.
Also having blood tests done as they found a small bacteria in DP s sperm so i am also being tested for it and we may have to put ttc on hold for june to treat it.
Otherwise from DP side he should be good with sperm in three months...

Basically probably not happening next month but hopefully in a couple of months!

Afternoon:D I have been having a lot of creamy cm today. This time last month I had started spotting for AF at 10dpo so I am pleased I haven't spotted today as means my progesterone is hopefully okay! Last month I was worried about a luteal phase defect with me spotting early (always something to worry about - am I right fellow worrier @fizzl) haha!

@fizzl I know - even I am impressed with my patience to not test haha! My June due date is fast approaching and I am really hoping we are pregnant by then as well to soften the sadness! And with the current situation you can't 3ven go on an amazing holiday 😪😪

@sunnysideup2020 so the bacteria is causing the sperms issues? Well that's great that it can be fixed easily - great news! But still frustrating that its a few months away but it will be worth it in the end.

What country are you in again? I know you aren't in the UK. But seems like the health care is great!

@GlitterFairy1412 sorry it looks like it is AF :( I find opks really helpful - perhaps temping might be easier as that's just once a day instead of potentially several times a day with opks

@scrumdiddly123 opk is looking good!!!! Have you tested this afternoon?

@Minster2012 fingers crossed you ovulate soon! Nothing worse than waiting for the opks to turn positive

Also I saw this post yesterday saying that people shouldn't have multiple threads on here as it should just be quick questions to be answered. And I almost commented saying how ridiculous but couldn't be bothered. But honestly having the support of the same women every month is invaluable so thanks ladies 💗

@annny i usually never comment on this aggressive moany posts but i couldnt help myself lol i just replied this 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well they arent sure if it's causing dp issue but hopefully it will help a little in addition to many supplements specific to sperm he has been prescribed.

Lots of cm was one of my pregnancy symptoms 🤞 for you

Hey ladies

@SunnySideUp2020 sounds like you had a good appointment. Glad they are checking everything out for both you and DP

@GlitterFairy1412 sorry it sounds like AF is making an appearance.

@Annny27 I saw that post too and wondered what on earth their problem was. Like you say having a group of ladies who you have a history with on this TTC journey has really helped.

Good to see some strong lines on the OPKs let’s hope they turn in to strong BFP for us all!

Ladies! We're getting there!

Anyone know how long before AF arrives does our body decide AF is coming? Could be due AF anytime from Thursday based on recent cycles.

@Annny27 @SunnySideUp2020 oh my goodness I just read that post and I am now RAAAAAAAAGING!!!!!! I really want to reply but don't want to lower myself!! How DARE she?!!?! She clearly has no idea what it's like to go through what we've been through and how much support we've all got from each other. If she so wants the same then she can just start her own thread, surely?! I wonder if @ChampooPapi saw it haha!

Hi everyone!

I went for my ultrasound this morning and the tech said all looked normal, so no fibroids or structural abnormalities.

Now that my first period after miscarriage is out of the way I feel much calmer and it feels easier to believe that 2 miscarriages in a row was just bad luck. I think it must have been the hormones going crazy but I felt such a physical need to be pregnant again I was dreading AF arriving!

@MilsCookie where is this thread? I'm intrigued!

Totally agree with the notion of regular support, ignore the moaning minnie's. I personally love having the same people's journeys to share. Makes the whole experience a million times easier, especially for women like us who've suffered a loss.

Me too! Still chat daily with my friends I met in a similar way when I was pregnant 3 years ago with my lb.

Me too RE this thread! Which one was it? What a knob saying that! She sounds like a right fun sponge 😂

Guys I'm driving myself nuts here. I thought I had AF because the pink seemed to get heavier but now it's orange and still only spotting. No cramps, no PMS symptoms, 4 days early and of course an FRER would be a BFN because if it is implantation I've only just implanted. I hate the TWW so much 😅