Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

Oh no @Annny27 I really hope it’s not AF. Was really hoping this would be ur cycle.

@Fizzl it must be so disheartening to be waiting so long. Did you look into getting the scan?

Thanks @Nuggetlover27, hopefully AF stays away for you now

@SunnySideUp2020 thanks, ya it prob is too early to see. I tested again today and BFN though so still not feeling its going to be this cycle!

@Abi0795 I’m so sorry ur here, it’s such a difficult thing to go through. Unfortunately I can’t answer about the misoprostol as I went straight for surgery. I hope something starts to happen for you soon.xx

Thank you for your responses ladies. I'm really torn on what to do because I don't think I can mentally sit here for maybe another 1-3 weeks waiting for this to happen naturally.

However, I am petrified of this tablet as I know the pain can be really intense but I think it gets it over with quicker 😣 maybe I'll speak with EPU today. Xxx

@Abi0795 i would go for the tablet.
I had the tablet for my termination (many many years ago when i was a teenager) and i had the natural one and honestly the tablet is better!- i was 7 weeks for both.
I found much more in control and at least it's over in a day- the cramps were more regular and more like tough period. Whereas with natural it went on over a few days some being almost nothing and some finding myself in a foetus position outside almost crying in pain and having to scoop pregnancy tissues in a public toilet. It's just so unpredictable.

Sorry better isn't the word. Both are horrible thing to go through. But tablet was less painful in my experience...

@SunnySideUp2020 That is so true, thank you so much. That is exactly the type of advice I needed because I've been in a horrible limbo of not knowing what to do. I think I am scared of how my body might react to having the pessary but I guess I could ask my EPU what advice they could offer on how to get through it. Like you I did think I'd rather know exactly what day it's going to happen rather than keep getting false alarms. I'm so sorry you had to go through this too. I'm 7 weeks also so it sounds like you've had a very similar experience xxx

@Annny27 i was very hopeful for your cycle too. Have you tested? Or you think it's defo af?

@Leok83 how many dpo are you now?

@Fizzl honestly rant away. You are coping very well with this whole thing. I would be depressed and off mumsnet feeling sorry for myself if that was me. Have you tried to exercise? I know it sounds stupid but might get things moving maybe?
Are you taking the b vitamins?

@Annny27 sorry your spotting has started again 😔 it's no consolation but your welcome to join me in feeling totally disheartened, frustrated and hopeless with this whole ttc business at the minute. It won't make you feel better but you're not alone 💐

I've looked into Agnus castus. I'm really tempted but also a bit anxious that it might mess things up further. I'm going to nip to Holland and barrat today and pick some up and mull it over some more.

@Nuggetlover27 that is some willpower there! I'm feeling ok today thanks. Trying to just put everything to the back of my mind but it's impossible! Going to go shopping soon as a bit of a distraction. Trying to get myself out the house most days now as I think my body may have gone into hibernation!

@Leok83 I totally forgot to ask about the scan. I think I'm going to speak with my husband tonight and maybe ring tomorrow to find out a bit more. Part of me wants to give it more time to hopefully just get back to normal but the other part of me needs to do something now to try and sort it. I think I'm probably scared they'll find something wrong! Although my scan in feb was apparently all fine so hopefully it's unlikely.

@SunnySideUp2020 thank you for saying that as I don't feel like I'm coping that well 😂 feel like I'm just bringing a lot of negativity at the minute! So apologies. I do try to exercise most days. I've gone back to doing hiit workouts but I don't push myself too much and make sure I take it easy so I'm not doing anything excessive. Still trying to stick with yoga too. I stopped taking the b-vitamins as I thought at first they were what messed up my cycle probably not the case. Still take multi vits.

@Fizzl from my google medical training I'd say maybe starts the b vitamins again? I read they regulated hormones? Worth giving it a try... no?

@Abi0795 hope it goes ok. Whatever way you choose. It's just a really sh*t time but you do go back to normal after and will get back to ttc soon x

@SunnySideUp2020 I guess not. Kind of got nothing to lose right now! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thanks everyone :) I mean I can't be 100% sure its AF until she arrives properly but I have had a lot of brown spotting today and that's how AF always starts.

Of course there's still a tiny chance.....

@fizzl yep I am definitely in the frustrated and fed up. Its actually making me quite depressed I don't want to see any family or friends because I think they are all just waiting for me to announce a pregnancy. Just wanna crawl into a blanket fort with my hubby and cat 🙈

@SunnySideUp2020 nope not tested - wish I had now a bfn is easier to take in haha

@Nuggetlover27 fingers crossed you are still in the running!

@Leok83 age sorry about the bfn :( do you feel prepared for the next cycle after seeing it?

@SunnySideUp2020 I'm 10/11DPO but more likely 11 cause I think I ovulated same day as peak based on temps. AF due Tuesday/Wednesday so I'll know soon anyways!

@Annny27 ya I'm definitely more prepared for AF now although been pretty down for the weekend. Yesterday morning when I tested early at 5.30 and went back to sleep I dreamt I had gotten a positive and it was so real, took few mins when I woke up to realise it was just a dream!

@Leok83 it's so weird i also have these dreams around when i can test that i get a positive...
I swear i never had a dream like this before i started ttc 😶 so sad ...

Thinking about trying preseed or conceive plus next cycle. About to buy online but reading mixed reviews with majority saying they're great and got their BFPs with either of them and others saying that fertility specialists have said they could slow down the swimmers. I'm torn as last 2 cycles have had no EWCM, only very small amount of watery CM close to peak so worried this may be hindering his swimmers. Have tried drinking lots of water and grapefruit juice but no luck with that. Was not an issue before the MC either, started to dry up after and now it's just gone. Has anyone tried them or know much about them?

@SunnySideUp2020 ya it's not the first one I've had..its weird and it's horrible!!

@leok
We have used preseed for some cycle but didnt see any difference. I also never had ewcm so thought it would help... but urologist told DP that it doesnt help swimmers it's just more psychological...

@Leok83 we have preseed and use it as normal lube in occasions, not because we think it will help just its the only fertility friendly lube for if we want to use lube :) but don't see how it could harm - it seems a faff if you used it with the applicators

Like Anny we just use as normal lube now... so not inserting with the applicators some crazy amount but just on the outside to make things more comfortable.
Otherwise it gets super watery in there...

@SunnySideUp2020 & @Annny27 thanks ladies! I've decided to give it a go, may as well at this stage😄

@Annny27 yep I agree. I've been feeling a lot like I miss my 'old life' recently and I just want to go back to enjoying myself/life and being carefree rather than being bogged down by everything at the minute. But I also desperately want to start our family 😒. I basically want it all 😂.

I also get the expectation for a pregnancy announcement. I was asked the other day if what I was drinking was alcoholic and I couldn't help but think they were probably trying to figure out if I was secretly pregnant again.

@Leok83 first time we used pre seed last year I fell pregnant. Have used it since and nothing but I still think it can't hurt. I do draw the line at the applicator tho! Ttc is very un-sexy as it is without pausing to insert lube 😂 feels like a right passion killer!

Morning :) 12dpo and although AF not arrived yet, I have had the brown spottinf yesterday and a little bit this morning plus been quite crampy with backache so I imagine she will arrive today

@fizzl if it wasn't for the miscarriage no-one would have known we were ttc and so its just an expectation now that its gonna happen 🙄

@leok83 yep like fizzl says, the applicators are a whole new step haha. I have used the applicators twice and tbh they hurt haha! The applicator is not smooth!

@sunnysideup2020 how are you feeling?

How are all the other ladies doing? @scrumdiddly123 @ELM7 @Ejb86 @Minster2012 @Dipsy77 @GlitterFairy1412

@annny27
Arghhh it does look like AF coming for you. But the luteal phase seems to be slightly longer right?

I am ok... 4 dpo and feels like an eternity.
Nothing to report symptoms wise (obvs)

This is my 6th cycle after having a miscarriage in December. Luckily cycle has FINaLLY been back to normal for two cycles now. I am now 1dpo so the wait begins...

I have bought calc Fluor as I heard it helps with implantation. Anyone heard of this or tried it with success?

Morning

How are we all today? I'm feeling very tired but trying not to read into that too much as it could just be AF

@Fizzl did shopping work as a good distraction for you?

@Annny27 I know how you feel about not wanting to see people because they think there's going to be an announcement. Before MC no one expected anything but now it's like they know you're trying and it's a little added pressure !

@Leok83 have you had any signs of AF yet?

Morning! Thanks for asking @Annny27 I’m fine thanks, waiting to Ov. CD 12 today, been having wet cm since day 7 and EWCM yesterday and today so hoping it won’t be long! Would be early for me if it happens in the next couple of days but after last cycle anything goes so I wont be surprised either way!
How are you? I really hope AF stays away for you!