Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

@Annny27 not long to go before you can test! I am still doing opks. It's almost become a subconscious habit I think! Still no peak tho, not even a high reading! No change in cm. Nothing. So not sure my body is getting ready to ovulate this week like I'd hoped. CD49 so if I hadn't missed my last period I would have expected ovulation now 😭

@SunnySideUp2020 I would really struggle with that. I'm not always the tidiest person in the world but I like everything to be clean. My husband is incredibly tidy and constantly picks up after me so it usually means between us our house is very tidy and clean so I would really struggle. I also think it's hard living with others in general. A few days is fine but after a while it's draining so I do feel for you. And trying to squeeze in dtd with others around I can imagine is tricky!

@fizzl 😑 so hard. But i did a deep clean today- dp helped me. Let's see how long it lasts...

My opk has turned to high so i ovulated today... we managed another dtd tbsi morning and tonight 😁

@Fizzl how was acupuncture?

Evening:D

@SunnySideUp2020 ah that's horrible when things aren't clean!! Must be quite tough living with in laws but hopefully you can get your own place soon 🤞🤞 atheist you can keep your room super clean for some sanity! And we all need to rant sometimes haha thats what this is for 🙌 and yayyyy for ovulating:D wishing you a fast paced tww haha

@fizzl you'll have shares in the opk company soon haha. Same as me I have a million atm.

Thats really frustrating :( do you feel bloated like before your period or is it really just in limbo?

@SunnySideUp2020 does sound like you could have done anymore this month so fingers crossed for you! And hopefully your cleaning wasn't wasted efforts too and they take the hint!

Acupuncture was really good. The acupuncturist was lovely and seemed to completely understand what I was going through. She did say there's no guarantees but she was hopeful things would get back to normal and she's seen lots of ladies have really good outcomes. She specialises in fertility so I'm feeling hopeful she will work some magic. It might be complete placebo but I've had cramps on and off all night but I think it might just be my imagination and wishful thinking. It was also surprisingly relaxing.

How's everyone else doing?

@Annny27 sorry x posted there! No no premenstrual symptoms at all either. But to be fair I don't usually get that many anyway, especially since mc. And not sure if my lack of ovulation will probably mean I won't get symptoms anyway? 🤷🏼‍♀️

How are you doing? Any more symptoms or are you trying not to obsess too much? 😄

Morning! Happy Friday everyone!

@Annny27 I won't test early either, I doubt I will test before 14dpo. I like to wait until after I'm late as I'm scared to find out too early because of my MC last time

@SunnySideUp2020 yay for ovulation! Fingers crossed!
Hang in there with the in laws. I know it's a nightmare now but keep thinking of when you have your own place. Hopefully by saying at the in laws you'll have loads of extra money to decorate your new place exactly how you want 😘

@Fizzl acupuncture sounds like it worked well. If not physically then defiantly helped mentally. I had no idea you could have acupuncture for fertility. I may have a look into it

@Fizzl glad accupuncture was good for you. It's a good stress reliever I find! Hopefully those cramps mean AF is on the way!!

@SunnySideUp2020 yay for ovulation! And seems like you have it well covered! Sorry ur having to put up with all that cleaning, I can't imagine how hard it would be living with in-laws like that. Whenever his parents come to stay here they treat it like a hotel, they don't so much as lift a cup to put in the dishwasher or put anything in the bin and after 2 days I'm literally about to kick them out (thank god they've never stayed longer!).

@Annny27 @Nuggetlover27 how are you guys doing? Any symptoms at all? I'm pretty tired but I think I'll attribute that to my cat waking me up constantly in the middle of the night!! He's giving me good practice for a baby😄
Testing tomorrow morning before my appointment but I don't think I'll get anything on it. I'm either 8/9dpo today (based on temps I'm 9dpo, opks 8DPO assuming I ovulated the day after peak and not the day of peak) so if tomorrow I'm only 9 it will definitely be too early.

How's everyone else doing?

Morning ladies 9dpo and 0 symptoms 🤣

@fizzl couldn't even make a symptom up, honestly nothing haha! Got the usual sore boobs (and sore boots :p) and increased hunger like I usually do in tww but not particularly tired or anything. So we'll see!

@Leok83 good luck for testing tomorrow but don't be too disheartened if its bfn because obviously still early! My cat also likes to wake us up early especially when it's light outside haha

@Nuggetlover27 I will try wait till 12dpo at earliest, hopefully wait a little longer 🤞any symptoms?

@Nuggetlover27 definitely worth looking into. If nothing else I feel a little more in control and like I'm being proactive and doing something. It may not work but no harm in trying I thought! I think my husband thinks I'm just burning money as he's generally quite sceptical about these kind of things but I think he's just happy it's keeping me happy for now 😂

@Leok83 cramps have disappeared today so I'm not too hopeful now but we'll see! She did say she was going to 'aggravate' my uterus tho 😂 maybe it's just being stubborn and I don't expect miracles straight away. How has your appointment gone?

@Annny27 ahh let's watch this space! We all established a long time ago symptoms spotting is pretty pointless but can't help but ask!

I can't believe I'm missing all these two week waits. Think I have ovulation envy as well as pregnancy envy right now 😑😒

@Leok83 @Annny27 I'm doing okay , no symptoms yet. I'm looking for them (maybe too hard). Am I imagining needing a wee more frequently 😂
My cat likes to lay on me in the middle of the night for a cuddle but I barely wake up anymore haha
Yes also hoping to wait longer. The plan is if AF isn't here by next weekend I will test. That'll be between weeks 5 and 6 since my last AF
🤞🏻 for us all!

Keep your hopes up @Fizzl ovulation could be any day for you 🤞🏻

@Fizzl glad you felt good with acupuncture... and really hoping it gets things moving down there !
I can totally understand you with having ovulation/tww envy right now. 😔

@Annny27 arghh i know this moment when you realise you cant even make up symptoms !! So annoying but you are stilll early and personally last time didnt get any before 12 dpo.

@Leok83
Good luck for tomorrow lovely x

@Nuggetlover27 such a good thing to be able to wait to test. I think cp are really sad and when you test early it can happen...
Definitely with you on waiting (although never managed to wait for AF myself)

morning everybody 🙌

@Leok83 good luck with the testing🤞🤞 we are well overdue a bfp on here haha

@SunnySideUp2020 yeah thats true! Some people get all the symptoms and some people get none! Last pregnancy I was noticeably tired from 10dpo and then felt like I had a bit of a cold 11dpo but I could have just been tired with a cold and might not even have been pregnancy related 🤣

@Nuggetlover27 yep I used to be such an early tester but I seem to have broken the cycle these past months. Much less stress and much less expensive 🙈🥳

@Fizzl I feel you :( when I have a long cycle (37 days) I get annoyed knowing that if I had had a normal cycle I would have had ovulation by the time I was having my AF for the long cycle

Thanks everyone! Unfortunately BFN this morning but had my appointment and thankfully my ultrasound is all good (no sign of a bean so I’d say I’m out this month anyways!) Getting tested for clotting and myself and DH getting testing for genetic defects on Monday but he said it’s unlikely anything shows and to just keep trying for now. Now I’ve had all that testing done I’ll be waiting a for AF now to test in future.

@Annny27 and @Nuggetlover27 cats can be serious thugs in the middle of the night although urs sounds very sweet @Nugget! I can cope with cuddles, that’s his day time thing but middle of the night he knocks my water down, then my phone, scratches the door..anything he can do to wake me! I hand reared him into a spoilt monster but I love him dearly despite his night time antics😂
Have my 🤞 for you guys now to give us long overdue BFPs!!

@Fizzl I’m glad the accupuncture went well, My DH is the same not believing it could work but I’ve I know in my field of work (veterinary) it has definitely been clinically proven to work for arthritis and so I think it’s definitely worth a try! Also my mum and sister swear by it for arthritis and injuries.

Hi Ladies,
I really hope you don't mind if I join! I unfortunately have suffered a miscarriage at 7 weeks, found out yesterday that beans heart had stopped. I haven't actually started bleeding really heavy yet and I'm really looking for some advice. I am spotting lightly at the moment but when would the first day of your miscarriage actually be classed as? We are really keen to start TTC as soon as we can, I had accepted something wasn't right with this pregnancy quite early on so I'm craving to be pregnant again.
Any advice would be appreciated and I'm so sorry everyone has had to experience a loss ❤️

Afternoon ladies :) I am exhausted today honestly so the progesterone is definitely doing its work whether its AF or pregnancy haha!

Sorry about bfn @Leok83 :( always sucks to see!:( but great news that everything looked good physically on your examination!

@abi0795 sorry about your loss lovely! For me I had to have a medically induced miscarriage and then surgery so my first day of miscarriage was when I took the tablets and it started pretty much full flow! Sorry I can't be of much help but I know some of the other girls Had natural miscarriages

Hi @Abi0795 so sorry for your loss. I’ve had three natural miscarriages and have counted the first day of full flow bleeding as day 1. Hear if you need to talk/vent, it’s a truly awful thing to go through xx

@Leok83 sorry it was bfn but still so early! Also she would not see a bean yet or even a sac so therr s still hope x

@Annny27 🤞 that this is a pregnancy symptoms

@Abi0795 sorry you find yourself here x
I had a natural mc and like @scrumdiddly123 said i counted the first red blood full on bleed as CD 1 and ovulated exactly 16 days later which is my normal cycle. From my experience i would advise to wait until your bleeding completely stop before dtd again. Dp and I were a bit too keen and i got an infection which brought me to A&E. I know there are pretty rare but it's just not worth it ...
Be kind to yourself and make sure you have some support. When the big bleed starts you might get strong cramps... like mini contractions.

Does anyone have any experience with Misoprostol? I've basically been given the option to wait for it to all come out naturally or take this. The problem is I had a big bleed Wednesday and then brown spotting, I've had cramps yesterday and today but unfortunately no heavy bleeding yet. I have no idea what to do 😢 I don't want this to go on any longer xxx

@sunnysideup2020 I have got it in my mind now that wouldn't be lovely to announce a pregnancy to DH on fathers day next Sunday.....don't know why I torture myself haha

@abi0795 those are the tablets I took to induce the miscarriage as literally didn't even have spotting and baby had stopped growing 3 weeks ago at that point! I would give it a week longer maybe. The tablets were fine but they did cause a lot of bowel cramps and obviously uterus cramps which were quite painful but I suspect all miscarriages are that level of pain anyway.

Still nothing happening here 😭 I'm starting to get a little worried about it all now as I really hoped I'd just skipped 1 cycle but now I'm quickly heading towards missing 2 cycles and still haven't ovulated.

I feel at a bit of a loss as I know I can't go back to the GP yet. They clearly think it's because I'm anxious/stressed but it's a catch 22 because it's my lack of cycle now causing the anxiety! Not sure they will see it that way tho.

Felt quite tearful about it all today I just want my body to function. And if it's not going to function I want to be enjoying our life doing all the things we won't be able to when a baby arrives but I can't do that either 😒 all feels doubly cruel today. Sorry being a bit of a moaning minnie!

@Leok83 I've read lots of positive things and told my Dh it's scientifically proven and not just all 'woo'😂. Glad your appointments gone well and sounds like your having a bit of a mot so fingers crossed that all comes back good for you!

@Abi0795 sorry you're hear 💐. I can't offer much advice about natural/medical as I had surgery as I just needed it all over and dealt with as my body wasn't showing any signs doing anything naturally. It's not for everyone though and it's a personal choice. There's nothing wrong in feeling how you do and we can relate. It's an awful situation to be in.

I also realise my problems right now are nothing in comparison to what some people are experiencing and I keep trying to hold onto that perspective when it feels like everything's against me at the minute. I know it's really not in the grand scheme of things and I am thankful for that.

Morning everyone :)

@fizzl you are 100% allowed to rant and be frustrated - its such a standstill for you :( and you are so right about not being able to enjoy pre baby life. I wouldn't mind so much of we could be going on cool holidays, going out for dinner or to shows and stuff :(

Have you read anything online about how to naturally restart your cycle? That sucks that it will be approaching a 2nd missed period soon:(

How's everyone else? I am 11dpo, no spotting yet which is a good sign...but my period arrived at 11dpo last month so I am hoping to atleast have a longer LP this month

Screw all my optimism....just had some brown spotting at 11dpo so thats me out for another bloody month

Morning all

@Annny27 @SunnySideUp2020 its hard not to test but I do hold out. Do find myself holding my breath every time I go to the loo incase AF is here 😂
@Annny27 I'm so sorry to see your post this morning 😔 was really rooting for you this month. Do you still have any hope that it may be anything other than AF?

@Leok83 sorry about your BFN but glad your tests were positive.
My cat can be cute but also likes to "go fishing" in the night (i.e. put his paws in baskets and gaps in draws and pull thing out making noise! Haha) but like you say. I wouldn't have him any other way. He is my baby

@Abi0795 sorry to find you here. I know it's hard. It does get easier. I had a natural MC. We went for our dating scan at 10 weeks and found out baby had stopped growing at 5+4. Later that day my bleeding started and got heavier over there next couple of days. I counted the day I started bleeding as day 1. I still believe the internal scan they did on me prompted the MC to start coming out although obviously I will never know. I bled for a week and a bit. And didn't get my first period for 6 weeks after.
Sometimes it takes your body time to adjust back to normal try not to rush even thought you really want it ❤️

Hope you are feeling better today @Fizzl ?