Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 3

[Annny27]

Setting up this new thread for all the lovely ladies who have been on the ttc after miscarriage journey. And also all the ladies who have had their bfps but still want to stay in touch:)

Will post this in the existing chat :D

Evening ladies!

@Nuggetlover27 I used the CB for a while and on the longest run I think I got 8 flashing smileys before my peak so keep going and hopefully you'll get it soon! I used to add in the IC with them at that stage just to make sure I wasn't missing anything!

@Skb89 sorry ur feeling so down about it at the moment. It definitely does become all consuming after a loss and it seems like everyone's getting pregnant which makes it all the worse but we will all eventually get there, even if the journey is a tough one, and we will never take our little sticky beans for granted💕

@SunnySideUp2020 glad to hear everything healing well, I'd imagine if the doc was ok for you to go ahead it should be ok. Hopefully all stays good for ovulation!

@Fizzl sorry to hear there's still no sign of anything happening. Hopefully as you say ovulation will be coming soon and things will be back to normal then. That's definitely so frustrating that it's happening at a time when your at your healthiest. But don't worry about the lining being old, it can't build if you didn't ovulate so just treat it like it's been a long cycle if you do ovulate soon. Shouldn't have any impact on your chances of conceiving.

@Annny27 how's the TWW going? Any symptom spotting yet? I've noticed slightly sorer boobs than normal so having to stop myself from reading into it already!! I'm only 3-4 dpo so I'll drive myself insane if I start this already!!

@BeeMakesTea glad to hear it went well. Take care of yourself over the next few weeks, I know they'll be tough. Xx

@Leok83 Thankyou for your kind words 💕 I just hope it’s my turn sooner rather than later, as I’m sure lots of other people feel the same. I’m 31 and always imagined being a mum by now. I worry my time will run out xx

@Skb89 i am 31 too. Don't worry please... we are still young and even if we aren't mothers when we hoped to be it will come!
MC are very tough but it shows you it can happen and so will definitely happen again and most likely this time it will be a beautiful healthy baby 🌈

@Leok83
sore boobs is good! Shows you ovulated and hopefully it's a little egg travelling in there.
Any symptoms on your side @Annny27 ?

@Fizzl will you get your swabs results today?

So we decided to dtd properly yesterday and so far so good. 😊

@Fizzl that's also what i thought... that if it's just brown then it's not actively bleeding so should be ok regarding infections 🤞

Thankyou @SunnySideUp2020 💕💕

Thanks for the advice ladies. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for us all this month

@Fizzl at least I'm not the only control freak here 🤣 sorry to hear about your lack of periods. It's must not help with the situation I know how frustrating TTC is with regular cycles ❤️ but we will get there!

@Skb89 sorry to see you here hun. The only advise I have is take some time to rest and think of yourself. It does get easier I promise. Your time will come ❤️

Thankyou @nuggetlover20 💕

Morning! I’ve had a little break from here over the weekend so just catching up. Welcome to the new ladies, sorry you find yourselves with us but hopefully won’t be for long! 🤞🏻 I hope everyone is doing ok. CD5 for me today and AF has just about left. I’ve just been looking on FF and realised that this cycle will be the first one since December that I haven’t been pregnant/miscarrying or getting over a MC! Which seems crazy, no wonder I didn’t conceive last month with HCG still in my system and the late OV. my poor body obviously needed a rest! Feeling positive about this month though, hopefully I ovulate on time!
Can’t believe you’re still in limbo @Fizzl! How annoying 😫
How’s the 2WW going @Annny27 @Leok83? Anyone else getting close to AF/testing?

morning everyone :) 5dpo here!

@scrumdiddly123 I don't know when I will test, my AF arrived at 11dpo last time when it's usually 14 so guess I will go with the flow this month and wait and see! Yes let's hope you ovulate earlier this month as its hard keeping to dtd after so long!

@SunnySideUp2020 glad you have managed to dtd now and hopefully ovulation is soon! What cd are you? No symptoms apart from the usual fuller boots that shows I have ovulate

@Leok83 sore boobs (or more like full boobs for me) too so thats good! Yep I am 5dpo now and feeling calm at the moment haha. When will you test?

@fizzl hoping something happens soon either AF or ovulation!!

@annny27
Fuller boots is defo a good sign 👢👢
😁

I am on CD13 but ovulate on CD16/17 normally so will do opk from Wednesday

Hahaha it always autocorrects to boots for me 🤣🤣 I probably talk about boobs more than boots so my phone should learn haha @sunnysideup2020

Oh that's good you still have a few days for some more dtd then:D

@Skb89 I think we can all relate to how you're feeling 💐 it was my first pregnancy too and it does feel a little life consuming. I also spent my 20s in the mindset that I'd leave my 20s to travel and enjoy ourselves and when I got to 30 that's when we'd worry about kids. I fell pregnant 3months before my 30th and thought my life plan had worked perfectly. And now 6months into being 30 I'm panicking that I've left things too late and I'm going to be too old etc etc. It's totally irrational though and our time is nowhere near running out. You will see that most of us on this thread are late 20s through to late 30s so this age seems to be the 'norm'.

Thanks @Leok83 That's reassuring. I just need my body to give me a healthy egg now! Anytime soon preferably 😂. Hope you're doing ok! Hopefully the tww won't drag for you.

@SunnySideUp2020 they said it would take about a week so I'm expecting them to phone at some point early this week. I'm not really expecting any answers from the swabs but hoping they might offer to do something else to see what's happening. It probably is just one of those blips but I'm sure my hormones are a bit iffy so hoping they offer to run some bloods or something (even tho my bloods in feb were apparently fine)

@scrumdiddly123 hopefully your body will be in a better position for the break and having time to rest and reset.

@Annny27 Fingers crossed for you! Hopefully fuller boobs and boots are a good sign 😂

My body just doesn't feel like it's doing anything. I just feel I'm in neutral if that makes any sense 😂 I have no symptoms of af or ovulation. Just nothing. Officially broken due to my confused uterus I think.

Thankyou @Fizzl it's reassuring to know it's normal to feel how I feel at the moment. It's only been 3 months since I miscarried but feels so much longer. I find I'm putting so much pressure on myself which I know I shouldn't and am trying to stop but it's easier said than done. I hope you're doing ok xx

@Annny27 love the fuller boots 👢 👢🤣🤣 I’ve got my obgyn appointment Saturday so will prob test before I go in to know where I am but I’ll only be 9-10dpo so will still be early. How about you?

@Skb89 honestly I still think 31 is so young!! I’m 37 now and MC my first too so you’ve a long way to go to catch up with my age😄 (and my DH is 41). I lived my 20s and early 30s to the fullest, travelled the world, waited for a job I wanted to keep to settle and buy/renovate our house, get married and then start TTC. I have no regrets and we are in the best position financially with a forever home we love but I do feel like we should have started trying a bit earlier now, I think your age is perfect!

@scrumdiddly123 you have been through a lot over the last few months alright. Hopefully AF was a good reset and your body’s good and ready this cycle!

@Fizzl don’t lose hope, something has to get you out of neutral soon one way or another, even it does take the gps getting involved. Hopefully the swabs come back ok but if nothing’s happened by then I’d be full on looking for help to ovulate. Tell them it’s causing severe anxiety but hopefully it won’t be nescessary and your uterus stops being confused soon!!

@Leok83 I definitely hear what you're saying. I wouldn't have been able to do half the things I did in my 20's if I'd started a family then and I also wasn't with the right person, I definitely wasn't ready back then. A lot of my friends had their children in their early 20s and back then it didn't bother me and I was still undecided if it was for me. Now the last few friends that hadn't had children younger are now having them and I guess I'm feeling a bit left behind. Until my first pregnancy I wasn't even sure I was able to conceive because I'd never been a position where I had tried but now I think what if that was the only time i would be able to, what do I do then. Sounds silly and typical me for overthinking I guess. It sounds like you've achieved so much by waiting until now and I guess many have babies later in life these days xxx

morning everyone:) 6dpo and noticeable fuller boobs now, no other symptoms but too early really

@leok83 yeah that's sensible to test before your appointment just to see where you are at. I haven't got a testing date in mind to be honest just going to see how it goes!

@fizzl totally I have a cousin who is 19 and really wants kids at 21 and I keep sharing with her what amazing things I did and places I went to aged 22-26. By 21 I didn't even have any money yet as had been in uni for 3 years so would have missed out on so much if I did have them then!

@SunnySideUp2020 fingers crossed ovulation is semi on time for you!!! Are you doing dtd every other day?

@ejb86 @elm7 how are you?

Totally agree with all the ladies here... being a young mum has many advantages but personally i wasn't in the right place to be mother until two years ago. And wasn't even sure i wanted it. was talking about having kids with my ex and i am so glad we never actually tried because he wasn't the right person. On top of that i did soooo much stuff in my 20s in terms of travels partying experimenting crazy stuff etc that now i really want the family life. I feel so much calmer from within -i know it sounds cheesy 🧀 but it's true!! I think early 30s is the perfect age.

@Annny27 we are taking a two day break so yesterday and today and then will aim for every other day so that we give the swimmers time to build up again 😅

Is anyone around ovulation with me..?

@Fizzl agree with @Leok83 if nothing changes and you can't find an explanation i would say the situation gives you anxiety so that maybe they can push for a referral to get help with ovulation?

Hi @Annny27 I'm ok thanks for asking. I've been back in school since last Monday so feels like it has been non-stop!

I've had some EWCM yesterday and today, so going to do a cheapie tonight just to check my body hasn't thrown me a complete curve ball and decided to ovulate over a week earlier than it has been doing recently.

Are you ok?

@Annny27 @Leok83 and @Skb89 totally agree I can't imagine having had children in my early twenties. I know this is right for some people but for us we were buying our house, going out, travelling, sorting careers etc and now just feels like a much better time. Only one of my friends had children in their mid-twenties so I never really felt left behind at that point. Now we've all reached our 30s everyone is cracking on which is great as we're all kind of meeting this milestone at the same time, only I'm starting to feel a little left behind now! 😑 out of 4 lots of friends I would have been the first one due this year and by the end of the year all 4 of us would have all had our babies. I know the statistic is 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and sadly out of my group I was that 1 😞. I don't regret waiting until now, just wish it had happened as planned the first time around!

So my swabs came back all clear which I expected! I've got another appointment with the GP in the morning now and I've booked my first acupuncture session for Thursday just for good measure! I will get my body to cooperate one way or another 😂

I had my first 2 dd at 20 and 22 married at 21 I had my dd3 last year at 43 with new partner and I'm so much calmer and laid back this time hence why I want another x

42 god I'm adding years on lol x

I had my first at 19 which was very hard. I was in an unhappy relationship and had just left for uni, moving away from home and discovered not long after that I was 12 weeks pregnant! I wouldn’t recommend it at all, I was skint and totally not ready to be a mum! Thank goodness my own mum and dad were so supportive and looked after me and the baby.
I then had my second at 22 and was a single mum by this point as realised their dad was an absolute knob and not worth the heartache he caused!
Thankfully I met my husband soon after, got married at 24 and had our DS at 25. So I’m now 30 with an 11, 8 and 5 year old! Absolutely wouldn’t change a thing about my babies but I definitely did it the hard way! I’ve been a Mum nearly all of my adult life so not had the chance to travel or do anything wild. You ladies are all very sensible waiting, it must be so much easier knowing you’re financially and emotionally secure! And 30 is still young! 🙂