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[Happyhappy37]

Hello everyone,

I am 37 going on 38 in December. TTC baby number 3. Came off the pill on the 1st may (2020). Previously I was on syanna press( depo).
I ovulated yesterday 😊
I only just finished my period on the 9th so didn't expect ovulation just yet. Also I am very new to using ovulation test. This is my second time using it. I am using the easy@home brand.
I have two boys ages 15 and 3years.❤️

Please join on this journey with me, so we can cheer each other up, share advice and information etc..

Good luck to all.

I find the whole asking thing so strange, when we were newly engaged the wife of one of DH's friends said 'I assume you'll start trying as soon as your married?' I was having women's health probs at the time so briefly said that and tried to not answer. She pushed it, so I asked her if she 'made a habit of asking people when they planned to have unprotected sex?'... Little mean of me, but did the trick

@FridaKFangirl My pregnancy yoga teacher when I was pregnant with DS2 asked me if I would try for a third to see if I could "get a girl." I mean FFS what is wrong with people.

@Matilda19 I agree. Bobies are indeed very weird. I am still keeping my fingers crossed for you. The fat lady hasn't sang yet🤞🏾🤞🏾

Hope everyone is doing well. I fell asleep earlier, that made me late for work (pm shift) feeling abit under the weather.
Home now having a cup of tea. (I drink way too much tea) 😄

@Loladoodle late to reply, I have a boy 13 and a girl 9, and dh and I had this conversation, I said I genuinely have no preference, my son was a much easier baby, but my daughter is a much easier to parent child. I really dont have a desire for one over another but dh straightaway, before I even had the question finished, said BOY!!! which surprised me as dd is such a daddies girl and they are so close and he argues a lot with Ds (who is undoubtedly a mammys boy). I only worry if, at 40, I will have the energy for a toddler boy again! It's very full on!

@jiggly my two boys have been so different the first was a breeze, sailed through with him never an issue. My 4 year old is full on, so much energy and the opposite to my first. I guess you just get different personalities too so probably makes little difference if girl or boy that way.

@MrsTtobe I’ve always took b vits as I’m a hormonal psychopath without them 😱😂 and can still be even on them! Wild pms and painful periods. But the b vits do lengthen my cycle it would usually be 23 days with vits in the past I’ve found 25-26 days on them.

Having very heavy feeling low down in tummy tonight, kind of crampy but more uncomfortable/full.... of course it would be nothing to do with the beer/fish and chips I demolished 😳😬 3/4dpo..... ho hummm 😴

@Happyhappy37 i will stay positive untill she does..

Ive got one girl. Two boys. Both boys so different. I really dont mind this time round just want another one and a first with my fiance. Wedding is November and il happily be pregnant for the day! Fingers crossed we all get bfp soon! Xx

Oh man, I can't believe how nosey people are re: babies! Don't get me wrong, I love gossip etc, but asking people about family planning etc really riles me up... I just find it quite insensitive as you don't know what someone is going through, choices, etc! 🤬

Me and my husband have been married over 5 years, so I think people are just assuming we're not having any now! Hopefully we'll be surprising them soon! 🤞🏻😂 We'll be happy with either a boy or a girl, but for some reason, I'm convinced I'll have boys! No idea why! 😂

@Matilda19 ah lovely! Is your wedding all planned ready to go? I am with a new partner too... will be his first if it happens.. he’s a natural though with my two boys.. would be a real shame if this doesn’t work out more for him than me as I am blessed already with two boys but he has always said he’s happy as we are or if it happens. Initially I told him I wouldn’t be having any more as I didn’t see this going how it has... but have done a 360 on this since he moved in as he is honestly the most natural parent... I do worry about his disappointment if it doesn’t happen.. even though he would def try to hide it I’d know.. 😕

@M4v3r1ck I hear ya! Has always been a bug bear of Mine. No one knows what struggles couples could be having therefore should never ever ask this question! So insensitive. My 4 year old took 3 years to conceive and it was such a painful journey - people asking just added to the agony! It is top secret this time where I did tell close friends and sister last time- I just feel it’s between us completely this time around.

Ah this is not good for our first cycle. I am already stressing about DTD. 🙄
Managed it first two days of flashing smiley (high fertility), missed a night (because both tired so I planned for tonight) then got peak fertility this morning so all good. But then DH not feeling well ( he does get migraines) and so it's not happening tonight. Said let's try in the morning (NOT realistic with a 6 yr old around!).
I'm not mad at him, he can't help how he feels, but now I'm really frustrated and worried that we might have missed best time- need someone to talk me down.
But please don't say not to track my cycle and just DTD whenever- I'm the kind of person that needs to do it this way, and hope you'll all understand that I don't want to 'waste' a month trying on the wrong days. And it's going to put me off 'missing' a night next time. Sorry to rant- have insomnia and head full and can't talk to anyone else! 🤦🏼‍♀️
And breathe....

@musiceverywhere I want to give you the answer that will make you feel better. But the realistic answer is - sperm lives inside for 5-7 days - if you miss one night that is ok. Don’t put yourself under this pressure. I def missed ov day but I know we dtd quite a bit before and after. What will be will be- try not to stress (I can hear you saying no one in the world didn’t get stressed from being told not to stress... but please try) this whole process makes us all hormonal, irrational and afraid, and that is ok to feel that way. Tomorrow if and when you get the opportunity dtd. If not- that’s ok. What will be will be x

@Loladoodle thank you for replying it was helpful and you are so right, what will be will be. 😑 (my 'zen' face 😂) Will try and sleep and see what the morning/month brings. We are getting on so well at the moment- I don't want him to feel any pressure or anger from me about this.
Thank you again.

Awh no worries I hope it did help and didn’t make you feel any worse

And I agree I think the less pressure they guys are under the better ... not to be a total feminist ... but gals handle this better.. even if you think we don’t... I believe we do.

My DH actually asked me not to tell him about smiley faces next month 😂 I think he feels the additional pressure and that it takes a bit of the fun/love out of it! Well, certainly the spontaneity- so I will track privately. I’m sure it will still be pretty obvious!

I agree with it being annoying when people ask when you’re having a baby. I have lots of friends who have struggled to conceive or have sadly miscarried etc (and plenty who haven’t!) so I am always sensitive with conversations and never ask what people’s plans are! It can be so upsetting for some people.

@musiceverywhere You definitely won’t waste a month by missing a day or 2.. it’s so hard to not to stress about it sometimes though, I know. Hope you’re feeling better today!

@Loladoodle yeah wedding all booked just dresses and suits to get. Lockdown caused shopping day to be cancelled but still plenty of time. Exciting times all round. His such a natural with my three they are 7.9 and 12 x

@matilda that’s fab! Would be lovely for you all for this to happen soon

@Matilda19 aww hoping for a lovely baby bump for you on your wedding day. ❤

Where are we all at then? I get so confused, it's such a busy thread. 🤣
Im cycle #1 - CD 10
I hate this feeling mid cycle. The hoping, praying, the anxiety of having to dtd in a certain way and the pressure that neither me or oh put on each other but I can feel it's there so he must too. We both fell to sleep on sofa last night and woke up after midnight. Usually we would just go straight to bed to sleep but we dtd (quickly 😜) because both kind of felt we had to. 😴 x

@mrsttobe I’m #cycle1 - 4dpo approx. Af due around 4th June. Good work on the sleepy sofa dtd- needs must. We dtd yesterday and are past ovulation so was quite nice to just dtd for fun without thinking whether I’m ov or close to ov.

@mrsttobe I’m on cd2 of cycle number 4 post mc..had been really hoping for a bfp soon after mc, but it’s taking a little longer than I had hoped. I think my body just needs a bit longer to recover from mc though, so am trying to stay as relaxed as possible :)

@musiceverywhere not at all! We all have these moments. 4dpo here and I can feel the crazy increase as the days go on 🤪 glad I’ve purchased a stack of cheap tests - soon as they are delivered I’ll prob poas just for no reason at all other than because I can 🥜

@Bellabubble it’s so tough after mc I know! Be kind to yourself, and patient - it will happen

@MrsTtobe @musiceverywhere @Loladoodle thanks so much. Were both really hoping to have baby bump for wedding.

Good luck all.. Im cycle day 28 af due todsy apparently still nausea soooo hoping it doesnt arrive

Fingers crossed all x