Completely agree, "miscarriage" linguistically creates a negative association, it's a "failure to carry". I don't consider myself or anyone on here a failure. In fact, I consider women who suffered baby loss stronger than most women who haven't and I think just through that experience we ought to be respected. It's not something to be ashamed of.
I think a woman is never at the heart of it in our culture, unfortunately. We're fed this stereotype of having to sacrifice ourselves for others, men, children. If a woman is paid less, exhausted by juggling everything, given less opportunities, then it seems to be ok because it has been like that for ages, hasn't it. So why put her and her welfare at the heart of baby loss, it's just "one if those things". She might be distraught, grieving, in pain, bleeding. Her uterus might be in bits. She might have issues in work and no personal support. But yet again, it is widely accepted that she needs to get on with it and best not speak about her experience because someone else might be upset.
Well, do you know, I call BS. If no one wants to look after me, I'll look after myself. I'll speak out and make them as uncomfortable as they can be. I'll go and find doctors who are supportive and professional. I won't give up on my baby because of these attitudes.
I'm in a male-dominated environment and had to work twice as hard to prove myself, so sadly, that's nothing new. But I can climb that mountain, and we all can do it. There's no bigger strength in this world than a woman rising up to a challenge.