All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

Ronshar I know how you feel about being happier now than before about BFPs. I was so so every time someone on here got PG! Hope you get some good news at the weekend!

Thanks everyone. People I know try to help but unless you have gone through it yourself you have no idea.

Is very true. Someone said on another thread that MC 'rocked them to the core'- that was exactly how I was feeling at the time, and I remember feeling that it was so good knowing I wasn't alone. And you aren't either x

I thought I was handling it ok this time but today I just can't stop crying.

Dustin - so sorry you have to go through this I know there are people on here that have gone through multiple mcs and know more about tests etc I had mine about 6 weeks ago (I already have 2 DDs) I thought if I ever had a mc I would be like "oh well it wasn't meant to be" and be fine about it. "Rocked to the core" describes it exactly, I never thought it would affect me so deeply. Theres not a day goes by I don't think about it and even now I still cry from time to time. I think crying and shouting it's not bloody fair is allowed. For me getting over it has meant throwing myself into ttc another, not for everyone I admit but it's taking my mind off it but I know my world will come crashing down again when I get another BFN.

Have you got a lot of support around you in RL?

Yes DH is great. Haven't told friends yet as best friend is pregnant and I don't want to bring her down. Work have been very good but then I feel guilty about having time off.

That's good you are getting support don't worry about work it's only a job after all and some things in life are more important thats the way I see it and no one would grudge you time off.

hey splishspolsh and dustin - Also very sorry you have to be here but glad to see that you've found a good place to share.

Dustin- Big hugs to you darlin. Three times! Then again, I can't see myself past 8 weeks. DH keeps telling me to stop saying things like, "the next time this happens" but it's automatic...like a loop.

I'm still stuck like KD73 was and STILL waiting on my AF. My last natural AF was May 23 before preg and my MC (med evac) was on Aug 21. I bled for 2 weeks after that, so really I've been bleed free since the 1st of September. I just want to start so I can have something familiar and my body can start over. UGH! so frustrating. Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Sweetkitty Thanks I am sure you are right.
mcchesers Thanks to you too- hope everything gets back to normal for you soon.

I am lucky as I have a DS already so I know that I can go full term but I am the wrong side of 35 now so age is a factor.

sorry cross post. "Rocked to the core" pretty much describes it, and the hormones didn't help. I remember the nurse in the hospital saying I would be going through hell and I thought she was being a bit dramatic. I sobbed all over the NYC tour bus, there was no consolation. But it gets better and when you are ready to TTC, there will be a big group of ladies waiting to hear about that BFP.

So you go ahead and cry and scream and whatever you want to do. I'd suggest not kicking the bathtub.. my big toe went black and blue and I suck at painting,ugh and only purple varnish seems to cover it.

Morning girls~ (waves and blows kisses). How are ya today?!

splishspolsh and dustin - I am terribly sorry about your losses and you're more than welcome, as you could tell by now, to join us in our virtual lounge to share your sorrows, fears and hopes. We also dream, laugh and get silly at times. I am sure you'll find this place comforting and supportive.

splishsplosh - this is the thread I told you about in your post - glad you found it without my help .

Goingfor3, how are you feeling? You know I'll run to the post office lickity split to ship you some Monistat if you're not feeling better!

Rosy, girly, did you give you DD a big hug for me for being the best little student in the whole wild world?

Girls, need your support again. You'll be floored but it is not with TTC or DH (imagine that! I'm giving my man a mental break for a second) - it's with my DS. I think I told you (yeah, like 1000 times) - he is 19 mnth but doesn't talk yet. He makes sounds but doesn't make up words. I am worried sick... We had his hearing clinically tested last week and he passed! Yeah! My little bumble bee!

BUT tomorrow we have folks from "Early Intervention" coming - it's a child psychologist and a speech pathologist to evaluate him and build a treatment plan. I am scared... what if they find something terribly wrong with him?! Like... or I don't know! I so want them to like him and tell me he is great and everything will be fine... but what if it is not what they tell me?! He is still the MOST PERFECT little person in the world for me but I so want him to be well... So girls - need lots of positive "toddler" vibes for a change! LOL

kate - my DD1 was the same at 18 months (when DD2 was born) all she said was mama and dada I was really getting worried, at bout 20 months she seemed to have 5 new words a day and at 3yo now she never stops talking. I don't think at 20 months there should be a worry about not talking, I'm sure he will be the same, a chatterbox in no time. They are all so different, DD2 is almost 20 months now they are such a handful at this age aren't they?

dustin - don't feel guilty for taking time off. You've been through the mill, physically and emotionally, and you need a break. Took me ages to get over mine, and even when found out PG again still had a little cry for the lost one. Don't beat yourself up for crying, or try and stop it, sometimes you need to. Have lots of hugs from your DP and keep talking to us x Sending lots of love xxx

hi ladies!

i moved and have no internet yet, so i had a long tedious weekend unpacking all my endless shoes, bags and tupperware in my new apartment.

splish and dustin - welcome and i am so so sorry that you have to be here actually. its really tough and i hope that you are doing as well as you can. take it really easy.

flosspot, NH and Triggles - CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Fabulous, fabulous news. I do have to admit feeling a bit "Why isn't it me??" but i am a spoiled git. Its wonderful though - please stay on here . . .

Katend - what a horrible nurse. Its really shocking how insensitive some people can be. I am sorry on her behalf.

Well, I am confused as to where I could be in my cycle. I had two days of v.light brown bleeding last mon and tues and that was it. Was that supposed to be my AF?? Should I count last monday as CD1 now?

Then has weird pains during bd-ing on sat (sorry tmi) and had a v. small bleed for 15 mins afterwards. . .

Totally fine now but wtf?

On a brighter note, I just ate half a chocolate and apple muffin - which was excellent.

sweetkitty thank you for sharing your DD's story! It sure helps! Yes, they're a handful but what a great age - they're like little grown-up people, with this full-blown personality coming through in everything. I tell everyone - he's 19 mnth going on 19 years . I was even thinking of posting some of his pictures on my MN profile... but I have been so brainwashed by all the stories that warn you about sharing your DC pictures on the internet so weirdoes don't get a hold of them, blah blah... I know, I am being silly. It doesn't make any sense... so I think I will post some. I think he's cute as a button but then again - I think I'm biased .

Any more great stories about not-talking toddlers turning into chatter box kids? Keep 'em coming!

TJuice, don't know what to tell you girl. I am as confused about my body as you're about yours. I think if you had a break in bleeding after your mc of like a good couple of weeks - then whatever/ however small your next bleeding was - I'd count it as AF.

kate - I do know what you mean it is a very good age but they get so frustrated as they don't have the vocabulary yet to express themselves DD2 just screams, she's been really quick at talking but she's been really quick at everything mostly in part due to having her older sister to copy, she has to be doing everything she is, she does think she is 3 as well. DD1 is 3 going on 13 a proper little madam. They do fight quite a lot as well but are v close. I love the gap and wanted a small gap to the next one but nature has played it's bit in not letting that happen. I know what you mean about photos I don't have any on here but I have some on facebook if anyone wants to add me as a friend let me know, I think I already have some MN friends on there.

TJuice - I don't have a clue sorry, I was told that you count the first day of fresh red bleeding where you have to wear a pad or tampon as AF. Could it be a bit of old blood from the mc? Sorry when I had mine I had a break in bleeding for about 4 days then I had a day or two of brown blood, they scanned me inbetween and told me I still had some left to come down so to speak. About 2 weeks after this I got AF proper. That's why I used opks this month just to check I was oving and everything was back to normal.

my ds is exactly the same, even now at 4 he still says "me want" etc instead of i want, he was a very slow talker but he can talk now and you can understand him fine its just the baby talk he needs to get rid of.

Thank you girls ! We're yet to hear the "baby talk" and so looking forward to that from our little guy . Knowing his mom, and you do now, why would anybody worry about him not being a chatter box?

I hear what you're saying though - they do get frustrated when they can't articulate their needs and that's in part why I want to seek help for him. Even now he at times breaks down in tears when he can't explain what he's looking for. He did get quite advance in his non verbal behaviors though lately.

Ok, I'll keep you posted on how things go tomorrow. Keep your fingers crossed for my little guy though, ok?

Now, how are our mc'ing friends doing? How's you pain level? How are you coping emotions wise?! Don't shut down now - keep on float and tell us. We're worrying about you - you know we're, truthfully!

Big hello to our preggy mamas . How are those little munchkins of yours are doing?

Hi Katendmom, just a follow up on the speech thing. My perfect little man had reflux from 8 months to 2 years (throwing up with every meal - what a lovely time!) which meant that his tongue and lips didn't strengthen and develop enough for him to form the sounds to make words. At 4 he was intelligable (SP) and no one apart from us could make any sense of what he was saying.

Our local speech therapy unit was overwhelmed and he wasn't getting the help he needed and so in the end we paid for him to see a private speech therapist every fortnight for a year. To begin with she just worked in getting him to exercise his mouth and tongue to strengthen them and then she moved on to individual sounds and then complex cluster sounds. It took six months for him to learn to manipulate his tongue enough to say 'l'. But now, at six, his speech is practically perfect.

This was then a long message to say, if he does need help, it is an excellent thing that he is being seen so quickly. And the sooner you work on it, the sooner the problem can be resolved. I had no idea his problems were all caused by his tongue positioning etc, but apparently it is really common and fairly easily taught.

katendmom - I saw on another thread that your DS is exposed to two languages (1 at home and 1 at nursery). I believe it's common for speech development to be slower than for children in a monolingual environment. After all they're having to learn 2 languages rather than just one!
I was brought up in a bilingual home environment and according to my Mum I didn't start talking until I was 2, if not older. However, when I did start, apparently I spoke in complete sentences. I think what she means is that I strung more than 2 words together My younger sister started talking earlier but I think that is also common for younger siblings in bilingual households. Hope this helps and good luck tomorrow!

sorry that should have been 'un-intelligable' (sp)!!

can i just pop my head in and say that if you are mc-ing you should NEVER wear a tampon, it can cause infection. still checking in on you all. x

Thank you all so much for taking the time to read my story and share your experiences. Yes, cricri, true - he is in a bilingual environment, which I think is interfering...

wow, how interesting about speech organs needing to develop/ be enhanced. I would have never thought! SO GLAD that your little sunshine is now Mr. TV anchor! .

Will let you know how things shape up for us tomorrow.

For those of you girls who're TTC/ pg with your first - see, worries only BEGIN at conception... they NEVER-EVER end! Just ask my mom! She's all worried about me now since now she knows that we?re TTC after an mc. She is wishing I had troubles with talking I bet! She'd known less and would worry less

Tjuice - I am a little worried that you only ate HALF a muffin. Especially something as nice sounding as a chocolate and apple one. Somewhat letting the cake-eaters among us down there young lady.

hey kat - let us know how you get on with your little lad tomorrow won't you? I reckon you'll be fine though - children don't often seem to have read the books that tell them when they 'should' be doing things, and do insist on taking their own time and pace....he sounds lovely, and you sound like a lovely mummy to him, so whatever they say am sure will be all OK x