TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@VP91x I’ve been following it this month too, DH has thought all his Birthdays have come at once 😂

@Hayleylou89 that’s awful! Hope you get your money back. I’ve been reading up on the Ava bracelets. They look fab but so expensive. I heard that someone had bought a bracelet off eBay and the person selling it reported it missing to Ava after the buyer received it (maybe for Insurance?) so the buyer wasn’t able to use it. Not sure if she got her money back or not.

Thank you we ended up having a cheeky bottle of wine and sat up a bit later watching a movie. But feeling a bit deflated today as we have currently been DTD in the morning when we wake up and DD who is 9 is still sleeping because it’s impossible to DTD with her about the house and with schools being off she’s up late at night. But this morning she woke at 6am straight in our room and looking to start the day. So now I’m anxious I haven’t got following my smep plan. I feel later tonight is too late If I ovulated yesterday, possibly the day before. Lol

@Renna completely agree with you that if I get a BFP I will be so nervous all the time and a complete knicker checker addict! With my daughter I had a bleed at 8 weeks and everything was fine. Then obviously this time when I had the bleed it was a MC so you just never know!

I will ask for a scan at 6/7 weeks at the GP though and if they can't I will book privately. I couldn't wait for 12 week scan xx

@Sallyjo27 😂😂 same with my partner!
Hopefully you get your peak soon. Do you ever get ov pain or symptoms? Xx

So going by my chart and expecting that my temp will continue to stay up next two days, I can then assume ovulation happened yesterday when my temp dropped? I have to admit I haven’t been good getting temperatures at same time every morning but have been taking it after a good stretch of sleep and before I even open my eyes lol

Oh I know how you all feel ladies. I know once I get my BFP again I’ll have a fear and complete joy. But I’ll be testing constantly and being a total freak out pregnant bitch lol already warned my Dh lol and we have decided that once I get my positive I will take the first trimester off work to ensure my stress levels and activity levels are down as my job is very stressful and 13 +hours a days on my feet with minimal breaks

@VP91x yes I do, a sharp pain on the side I assume I’m ovulating from. My boobs get firmer and I tend to be slightly bloated too. A lot like pms but milder 😩 What about you?
Does anyone else have an “above Average bmi?” My bmi is really high so this month I’ve pulled myself together started eating better and walking 4km a day ( I know it’s not much but from doing nothing before) both myself and DH are really trying, hoping it will help us convince.

@sallyjo27 my bmi is 33. I never was this big but this year I dunno what happened lol are you taking the higher folic acid? 5mg prescribed by doctor?

I’m afraid to take up a now fitness regime while trying incase it has a negative affect. So conflicted.

@2020wish, I know that feeling! After the MMC I couldn’t be bothered to cook so I think there was about 2 weeks where we just ate crap. My Bmi is around 37, Yes been taking it for around 3/4 months now. I’ve heard it can affect cycle but In my case I think not doing anything was harming my cycle more.

@2020wish it looks like it because thats quite a sharp rise! That is a good idea to do that!

@Sallyjo27 my BMI is 34. I agree with you both though it is difficult to know how active to be during those first three months. I think if I get BFP I will aim to do 10k steps a day and add in some pregnancy safe strength home workouts a couple of times a week and see how I feel.

I've never been told about the higher dose of folic acid! Xx

@Sallyjo27 oh that's good that you get symptoms. I dont think I get any! I'm going to try and see if I recall any once I knownI have ovulated xx

@vp91x it might be worth you giving your gp a call? I rang them after my MMC and they prescribed me another 3 months worth. According to the Tommy’s website “ Some people may need to take a bigger dose of folic acid. This can be prescribed by GPs if you are planning a pregnancy or are in the early stages of pregnancy and if you:
(or the baby’s father) have had spina bifida
have had a previous baby with spina bifida
(or the baby’s father) have a family history of neural tube defects
have diabetes
have a high Body Mass Index (over 30)
are taking medication for epilepsy.”

@Sallyjo27 oh I literally have never heard of that. Even when I was PG with my daughter they just said about the normal dose. How interesting. Will have a read! Xx

Hey can I join? Cycle 1 for me.

If my strongest ov test was yesterday and we dtd lastnight and this morning is that enough? 🤷‍♀️

Sorry that was rude wasn't it! Just jumped right in!! Xx

Hey @mumoftwobeauts welcome 👋

So I'm planning to do 3 days in a row taking a break for a day then once more for luck as I am following the SMEP plan xx

@mumoftwobeauts sorry that was meant to say from when I get a positive test xx

@VP91x Thankyou. I wasn't too late if I had the positive test at 2pm and dtd at about 8pm? Lol

@VP91x what's the smep plan? X

@mumoftwobeauts definitely not! I think once you get a positive they say you will ovulate between 12-36hrs after which is where the whole 3 day in a row thing comes into play. X

@mumoftwobeauts SMEP is Sperm meets egg plan. So you are meant to DTD every other day from CD8 and then once you get a positive OPK you DTD 3 days in a row, have a day off then DTD again once more xx

@VP91x perfect thankyou!

@VP91x which cycle is it for you?

@VP91x yes with higher bmi it is now advised to be on higher dose of folic acid. Tbh I only knew being a nurse had to ring my gp myself and make her aware of it and she queried with the pharmacist and pharmacist agreed with me and so I was prescribed it. Maybe ring up and get prescribed it. Early pregnancy unit also advised me on the higher dose and to keep taking it while trying after I had the MC.

@mumoftwobeauts welcome :) smep plan is the sperm meets egg plan. It’s a plan to ensure u have given yourself highest chance of sperm meeting egg. You DTD every other day until you get ur peak ovulation, then you DTD that day and the next two days In a row, take a break for a day and then DTD again on the next day. Loads on google about it x

@mumoftwobeauts this will be cycle #2 but first time doing that plan xx

@2020wish ahhh I'm definitely going to look into it and get some thank you xxx

@Renna Yeah i know u will be worried but ur chances if it happening a second time are alot slimmer and hopefully ull get monitored more early on 🙏

@Sallyjo27 oh this is genuinely the post delayed and she has contact me about it, she said theres about 2 week backlog so ill Probably get it in a few weeks ready for next cycle if im not lucky enough for it this cycle.

@2020wish Im in the exact same boat as u, i feel 😒... i dtd last night and i wanted to dtd this morning aswell as my opks got really strong last night and now this afternoon they have faded and i knew they would fade so does that mean ovulation probably already happened I know we can still dtd tonight but i always think its better to have the sperm waiting for the egg and thought if we dtd this morning and i ovulated today id have a better chance to catch it rather than tonight or am i being thick? 🙈 x x

I would just DTD to cover yourself. I think once the lines fade again that means ovulation has happened but the egg does survive for 24 hours so you still can have a chance I think. I’m going to do the deed again and just completely cover myself lol