TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@TerribleImagination yay glad you got your peak! So exciting

@EJb86 I'd never had this happen until today! Exactly the same and the same brand too.. very strange. Maybe a dodgy batch?

@SmileyT yeah I think I'll try SMEP this month too, seems to make sense! Wondering whether I should the CB alongside the OPKs I have a few sticks left so I won't buy any extra. I'll do a count and see how many I have x

@ttcin2020 I’ve only just used opks last cycle and didn’t get on with them so not too experienced but that doesn’t look quite right to me. Yes maybe dodgy. What are the reviews like??

@VP91x yay we'll be in it together 🙌🏾 support each other through, as you ovulate around CD9/10 will you test as soon as soon as AF finishes? CB app is telling me to start testing on 27th and I'm expecting peak on the 3rd. Until the 27th I guess it's just another waiting game - I've spent all day reading reviews on SMEP 😂

@ttcin2020 I have never had it smudge like that before definitely looks like a dodgy one, hopefully just a one off.

@SmileyT I am going to do some more review searching on SMEP later for sure. Such an obsessive googler, lol. Yeah as soon as flow starts to reduce I'm going to start testing. Don't want to miss it again this month. Xx

I had a missed miscarriage last Wednesday a day before my 12 week scan, was told the baby died at 8 weeks and a few days when I was examined. I think everything came out on Wednesday too over 3 hours, stopped bleeding yesterday (the whole time frame would have been my period dates) took a test today which was negative and took an ovulation test which was positive. I dont know if my body is playing tricks on me or I should start trying again.

@lynz2020. I'm sorry about your misscarrage it is an awful thing to go through. I had a scan at 7 weeks that showed my baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks. It is heartbreaking.

I got a positive opk a few days after my pregnancy test turned negative so it is possible. My cycle after my misscarrage was very short. I'm hoping that as I'm starting into my 2nd cycle things get back to normal. I wish you all the best X x

@Lynz2020 hello and welcome to the board. Oh to miscarry a day before your scan how cruel! I’m so sorry for your loss.
I mc middle of March at nine weeks. Also did it without needing medical management like you. It was horrible. Hoping you find some comfort in this board. I heard you can ovulate two weeks after. I’m not sure if it can happen earlier. Go ahead and try again if you feel ready. I tried again straight away but everyone is different.

Girls feeling a bit down today. My friend found out the gender of their baby. And I felt really low and jealous. I hate feeling like this. I feel like I can’t move on in my life or feel happy for people or at peace. Anyone else feel like thar sometimes? I’m still trying to wean my son to help with ttc. His dad is putting him to bed. I’ve gone from don’t offer don’t refuse to trying to distract him when he asks. It was going so well for a day but tonight he’s getting really upset with my husband and that’s also making me feel like crap! Tired of feeling so conflicted!

Ahh @Mommybear05 I'm sorry to read you are feeling low. I recently arranged a box of new born essentials for one of my best friends who is expecting in a couple months, full of baby grows, nipple cream, pram liner etc and when we actually dropped it outside her house i had this sick feeling in the pit of my stomach of jealousy/ sadness I dunno. I think it's completely normal it's all so new and fresh just be kind to yourself. And I know BF is such a personal thing but just remember your son will be fine he is at home and loved and being in put to bed by his daddy. It must be horrible to listen to but a happy mummy will lead to a happy toddler in the medium term. Feel free to rant whenever you need to, and if you haven't heard it today 'you're doing bloody fab' xx

@SmileyT aw thanks smiley. Also that’s so tough what you did for your friend. It just makes me feel crap that someone is happy and I feel it makes me feel the opposite because I’ve never been a jealous person. But it’s more than just jealousy it feels quite hurtful so hard to explain.
I spoke to hubby and he said he was crying because he was having his nappy changed (he always does) and then he settled quickly so that made me feel better. We talked it through. I had a little cry and got it out of my system but We said that it’s the right decision as like you say it will be happy in the long term. He apparently settled really quickly after having his nappy which he never likes anyway. I just really want to give us the best chance to conceive now. I’m like hungry for it you know.
But yes I’ve had my cry and it’s out my system and I’ll be ready to ttc this cycle. Thank you for listening to my grumble again 🙈 xxx

Hi ladies 👋 I hope it’s okay to jump on this tread. I recently had a missed miscarriage 3/4 weeks ago the worse experience of my life 😭. We decided to try again right away! That emptiness and knowing it’s just you again it’s horrible, I took a test 2 weeks ago and it was neg so I know I’m back to normal. I’m having the most strongest symptoms ever (I did stop having symptoms with my mmc) I just don’t wanna get my hopes up! Baby dust to all xoxo

@blackframe0175 hello and sorry you find yourself here! Yes it’s tough isn’t it? It’s strange with that first cycle cos u don’t really know when af is due. Are you planning on testing? Baby dust to you too x

@Mommybear05 I’m planning on testing when AF is due Thursday my average cycle length! Are you planning on testing? X

@blackframe0175 af got me this month so I’m
Back on cd 7 now. I had a 31 day cycle post mc. We tried straight Away but no luck last time x

@Blackframe0175 sorry you find yourself here and hoping that you get that BFP on Thursday. I had a SMM on the 24th March so completely understand that desire to get pg again as soon as possible unfortunately AF got me yesterday but all geared up ready to go again this month x

@Mommybear05 I'm here anytime you want to rant... and sounds like you have loads of support at home aswell which is lovely. Sending you loads of socially distanced virtual hugs right now xxx

@Mommybear05 Sorry that you're feeling so crappy today but this is so normal. My best friend was telling me today that she ordered a My first Harrods bear for the baby of a close friend of hers who is due in August and I felt so sad because if I was still pregnant she would be buying little bits for my little one. It makes you feel silly that you can't just be 100% happy for someone else when you know what a wonderful thing it is. However, that loss will never leave us I don't think. I had to accept that I will feel sad until I know I have conceived again and that I know they are safe and healthy. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

Has anyone had this happen? I miscarried on Wednesday just gone and bled until Sunday, took a clear blue pregnancy test on Monday which came back negative and an ovulation strip which had 2 dark lines. Took a cheap pregnancy test this morning and came back positive and my ovulation strip only has 1 faint and 1 dark line. In waiting until the pregnancy test comes back negative to try again as I'll know all hormones have gone but it's confusing when 2 tests say different in 2 days. I'll test again tomorrow also

@SmileyT @VP91x aw thanks girls. Socially distanced hugs love that. Yes I completely know what you mean VP. I am not usually like that at all and am happy for people I’m normally so grateful for everything I have in my life and I never get jealous at all but it really stings. Like you say I think it will keep stinging until we can also look forward to our rainbows. When I go for my walk each day I keep looking at all the rainbows in everyone’s windows and it’s just so strange with what’s happening right now and we are all thinking of thar light at the end of the tunnel. I’m
Sure we will all get there!
On a positive note my son has not even asked for a feed this morning and I’m feeling good about the weaning so far today. I think I’ll actually go through with it this time :) xx

@Lynz2020 I just typed a reply to you but don’t know where it went! 🙈
I think that different tests have different sensitivity so that’s why one is positive and one is negative. It can take a while for your hormones to settle again. Personally I had no luck with opks post mc and if I were to have my time again I would avoid them and just have regular sex for a while and see what happens. I got really hung up on the sticks! I’m sure you have nothing to worry about and your hormones will sort themselves out. Maybe take a pregnancy test in a few days to make sure that hcg is definitely out of your system?

@Lynz2020 I'd stick with one brand... So you can see them getting lighter aswell. I used clearblue and got a pretty much negative at 2weeks post surgery.

@Mommybear05 ahh I'm glad the weaning is going well... sounds like you are both ready and will definitely help with TTC, very exciting. I'm going to start looking for the rainbows now x

Ah ladies, no idea what's going on. So day before yesterday had my bleed so was sure AF was here and since yesterday, nothing! Just back to some CM with spotting. I am assuming that AF will be here soon, but now on CD24 which is the longest I have had now since the MC. I will take it as good news that my cycle is back to a more regular potentially 26 days +. With all this spotting - do you think something could be wrong? X

@VP91x hi I had quite a bit of spotting in the first cycle post mc. I had it and then it went away for a few days then came back. I never had spotting before so this was really unusual for me. I’m sure it’s nothing to worry about it’s just your hormones all over the place I think! Still it’s nice to have a regular cycle without worrying about all this! X

@Mommybear05 yeah you are right it probably just is hormones again. Would definitely help to just have a standard cycle!

I am glad your LO is asking less for a feed you must be so pleased. How has it been today? Xx

@VP91x how many dpo are you? How heavy was the bleed? I never thought I had spotting before AF before (although I'm not sure I'd remember) and I did for 24hrs before in this cycle so maybe your cycle is still just sorting itself out. If it continues for more than another few days maybe give your GP a call xx