TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@renna it’s completely up to you. Everyone is different but as long as you check ovulation you should be ok even if u ovulate late.

The l’arginine I googled a bit about it after we talked about it on here and it has conflicting results regarding female fertility. Some studies show that it improves egg quality but then other studies show it, or too much of it may actually affect egg quality negativity. Read a few reviews on it and some woman stated that years of not being successful ttc and even after 2 rounds of ivf that failed she started researching some of the things the fertility specialist put her on. On of which was l’arginine and she also read the studies about it maybe decreasing female fertility so she stopped taking to and even up falling pregnant naturally after. Could of been a coincidence. But that’s why I decided not to take it for now. Reviews say it’s good for vegetarians as they can lack it but most people do get enough. I didn’t google to hard work some of those reviews and studies are pretty easy to find. Right now I’m taking seven seas and then biotin, b6, extra folic acid and calc Fluor 6c x

@Hayleylou89 yeah mine actually dropped only slightly for the morning after I got my peak and then shot up the day after that. But I think everyone's charts are slightly different. I always see on NC charts that it plots as if the temp drops slowly towards AF but all the charts I've seen appear to drop the morning of your period, does your slowly drop so you have a clue beforehand or not really?

@2020wish ooh interesting you say that about l'arginine as it is in the preconception pills 🤯 think I should do some more research, this ttc lark is such a mine field... like you say too much of a good thing can be bad and I honestly have no idea what my levels of anything are 🙈

@SmileyT yeah mine drops a day or so before and i know its coming then ..just dtd so thats night one done and dusted 😎 x

Thanks hun @2020wish yeah I saw a lot of what you said about l'arginine..the reviews and studies .. seemed to have good results and bad ones ! .
I've also seen ladies say they got BFP first month after not taking all the extra stuff and just taking folic acid. But sometimes you just wonder if its coincidence.

I kinda feel like every month I'm not lucky I want to try something new the next month. Like might try the cup next month If not lucky this cycle . Think it just makes me feel like I'm being pro active about it. Xx .
Thanks for the info 😘 I may stick with my seven seas or just get some simple folic acid next cycle as that's the most important thing xxx

I know everything is such a mine field. If I’m not lucky this month I am just going to stick to my flock acid, b6, vit d and calc Fluor and cup and see how I go lol I really hope this is my month though

@2020wish I hope it's your month too hun xxx

Dh has just rang me saying work has gave him tomorrow off and he’s on his way home and wanted to get us a bottle of wine but I promised myself I’d be good in my tww and try not to drink this limbo is hard lol he gets one day off a week lol

@2020wish aw that's cute. I'd personally have a couple glasses... I had a few over the weekend .. feel like it relaxes me 😁 and got to enjoy yourself still xx dont think a couple glasses is harmful xx have a good eve 😁 xx

@2020wish definitely enjoy the wine and evening with your partner. Hopefully soon you won't be able to drink at all xx

10dpo based on bbt and OPK.. (except for the Femometer app puts me at 9dpo) and woke up to brown tinge on the tissue when I wiped. 😭 I struggled my bbt with as I've had awful sleep the last 4 or 5 days so it's probably not accurate but had a jump in RHR and temp yesterday and a big drop this morning.
I knew I was too hopeful for the first month after a miscarriage.
Maybe June is a luckier month 🤞🏻

@2020wish I hope you had a nice evening with hubby wine or no wine ❤️

@Hayleylou89 1 down 3 to go 👊

@ttcin2020 could it just be spotting rather than full AF? If AF does arrive in full force just be kind to yourself and remember that even in perfect circumstances there is only a 25% of conception but you've got pg before and it will happen again for you xx

@ttcin2020 if you're 10DPO then there isna chance it could be IB spotting? Was it alot? If you've had unsettled sleep and it is being up/down please don't torture yourself with it. All those things can affect your temps and RHR etc. so it won't be accurate. Xx

@SmileyT @VP91x I guess it could be implantation.. I did have with the pregnancy I miscarried actually.. had it on the Monday morning and got my BFP on Wednesday evening (night shift).
It was tiny just like a tinged cm.. but I desperately don't want to get my hopes (impossible almost 🤣) so I've stuck a pad on and what will be will be.

I think I'll be relieved anyway as it's 7 weeks from my miscarriage so even if it's a period it's a fresh start so got to look at the positives!

Thanks for your positive thoughts 💖

@ttcin2020 yeah there is every chance, especially if you know when you ovulated and DTD. Fingers crossed for you! Xx

Thanks @SmileyT will go again tonight after work 🙏 just got a text to say my ferti lily will be here before 10am today so will use that later too 🥰 xx

Hi, can I join? Recently miscarried, still currently bleeding, but would like to try again as soon as possible. It was en early loss so it hasn't been too bad psychically! I have 4 children already, and they were all conceived right after an early loss so I'm hopeful it won't take long.

@Renna @2020wish hey girls so when do i start the calc fluor? Last night before bed i did another cheapy and iv never had one so dark before... so when is it likely ill ovulate would it be today or tomorrow ... my app says its tomorrow so will dtd tonight and again tomorrow but do i start the calc fluor thursday in that case? X First pic is last night and the second one is fmu today x

@misssoaps sorry for your loss xx fingers crossed for you xxx

@hayleylou89 yeah I'd start the calc fluor the day after it says you will ovulate so Thursday, mine didnt arrive until 2 days after ovualtion so just started it then, and the first couple of days I forgot to take the 2nd tablet 🙄 as it says take 2 a day.. so thought I'd spread them out rather than take them at once but probably no harm taking 2 at once I guess , but remembered yesterday to take both ! Xx
I'm having one of those days where I just feel deflated.. typical early TWW feeling I reckon ! Whens theres not much to do other than wait. Much prefer the fertile period you're in , feel more productive lol xxx

Hi all, hope your all okay! Congratulations to those who have had their BFP 🎉
I’ve been quite lately just waiting for my cycle to go back to normal, on CD 15 now and have got a flashing smilie. You swear I’d won the lottery how exited I got this morning 😂🙈 (I usually ovulate on CD18 so fingers crossed things are settling down). My IC is very faint though, has anyone else had this?

@Renna Ahh i know as much as u want to be in that tww its a long 2 weeks isnt it, I treated myself to some new trainers and gym leggings last night nike had 50% off members sale... maybe have a little online shop to take ur mind off things xx my ferti lily just arrived so im looking forward to trying that out later, thursday will be my 1dpo then i guess 🙏 x I take my seven seas & omega 3 so ill take calc fluor the same time, always take them after eating as one of them makes me feel sick if i have it before eating x the girl i ordered my ava off has put in a lost claim for it :( such a shame it never arrived i am gutted x

@Hayleylou89 my online shopping habits are getting out of control these days 😂 what with TWWs , shopping for conception gadgets and lockdown .. and getting our new puppy! That's the thing as well we were supposed to be getting her next week but it's being delayed to the following week so thought I'd have our new pup to take my mind off things and AF due next week so I thought if Af comes wed have our puppy to brighten my days ! And occupy me with training her..
Glad your cup arrived :) sad times about the ava but you've been temping etc which is what it does ultimately so you know you're ovulating soon and you're DTD so that's the main thing :) let us know how you get on with the cup ! I may give it a go next cycle if not lucky this cycle. When I mentioned it to DH he was a bit like not sure you need that etc etc ... but we both want this .. so gets to a point where itll be like 4 months since MC next month so I'll say to him let's just give all these things a go 🤷‍♀️ may work may not but what's the harm in trying . Think he wants us to be more chilled about it as you hear that's when it happens for people ... but if these little things have worked for some people then why not ... xx

@Renna aww thats a shame about ur pup :( but hopefully u will get ur bfp and be on cloud nine and have the best few weeks ever with the pup arriving too x

Have u felt any symptoms or not much yet? Xx

Dont know if the weathers rubbish where you are but it is here 🙄 and that doesnt help does it xx

Hey @Sallyjo27 glad you got your flashing smiley. Im on CD14 also on flashy still and my IC are still faint. Hoping today or tomorrow I peak! Following SMEP this cycle so will be DTD today anyway xx

@Hayleylou89 ahh such a shame about your Ava! Do you get your money back when she has put in the claim? At least your cup has arrived let me know how you get on with it xx

@Hayleylou89 well yes that alternative would be amazing 😁🐶🌈 fingers crossed 🤞🤞 but I think Now I've had a couple of AFs I get pessimistic that it wont happen . Do you ever feel like that like ah it's never gonna happen. I felt like that the cycle I got pg last time I was just expecting af to come. Also I keep imagining when I do get BFP all I will feel is massive fear and feel sick about the thought of going to my first scan as that's where I found out, I'm just going to be a nervous scared wreck that it will happen again. I've never been to a scan and seen a heart beat so I just csnt imagine it. Just have bad memories/association with going to a scan now. And it's a long bloody wait to the first scan isnt it. Xx
Nah dont feel anything and the odd thing I feel I'm just ignoring as I'm only 5dpo so its unlikely related and last month I symptom spotted and obvs wasnt relevant , plus I didnt really get any symptoms before BFP last time that I noticed so just gotta ignore it and wait it out . App predicts af will come next Friday but based on my cycle length last month I think she could even arrive next Thursday

Looking out my office window its blue skies and sunny but its cold... deffo need to get out for a walk today. I didnt yday and may be why I'm feeling a bit rubbish today too ! Xx
Hope the sun makes an appearance up your way 🌞 xx