TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@2020wish yep I just track on my Fitbit 👌🏾

@Mommybear05 ahh sorry that AF got you, but it's the start of a new cycle and another opportunity for you. Carry on being relaxed and enjoying time with your little family and it will happen for you xx

@SmileyT I wear a fit bit. How are u pinpointing what hr rate ur tracking

Thanks girls. @2020wish no it’s definitely af. Very heavy and painful. Come on quite fast too. I’ll be alright. Just not my time. I just feel a bit fed up about how it’s a 26 day cycle after a 31 day. My body’s all over the place! But I know this is common especially as it’s the first month I stopped bf. It’s a bit bitter after those comments from my neighbours yesterday. But will get over it! Xx

@2020wish ah thats good just shows you how quick it can change, iv had 3 days of circles and my cheapies are also so faint but jv been getting ovulation pains but i have noticed now that i tend to get my pains around a week before & building up to ovulation too so it must just be how my body works, going to dtd every other day until peak then 3 days over ovulation miss a day then again like smep and see how we get on 🙏 x

I ordered the ferti lily last night aswell so i'm hoping that arrives before next weekend too 🙏 x

@Mommybear05

Hey you ! So sorry AF has arrived for you and as a bit of a surprise...Iv heard that the seven seas tabs "trying for a baby" tabs are meant to be good for regulating periods I'm on the second cycle of them now so still in the testing period but there are a few good reviews about them and cant be no harm in trying them x

@renna what DPO are u now? So excited for u, hope ur well. Nice lazy sunday for me today x

Morning hun @Hayleylou89. I'm 3dpo. We DTD for a couple days before ovulation .. on the day of ov .. the day after ... didnt DTD yesterday .. and I'm trying to entice DH to the one more for luck today like SMEP .. 😂 we will see how that goes lol think hes almost done in considering he has had a bad back too ... but it's a lazy sunday for us too around the house ... so no excuse right .. 😂🤷‍♀️ I thought I could entice him for some morning DTD .. so when I went to the toilet this morning I put a tiny bit of pre seed in ... no morning sex occured 😂😂 that was pointless haha ... maybe later 😂 but if not I feel like we DTD plenty . Even DTD twice on day of ov so think weve done all we can this month 🤞 now just to wait 😊 I feel less up tight about this TWW I think
. Just gonna let time pass see if AF arrives . Started taking the calc fluor yesterday. 🤞 xx
How are you ? Xxxxx

Hey everyone, how are we all? I’ve been looking for a may ttw thread for ages because I am going mad with this wait. I am 13 dpo today and AF is due tomorrow. I have had lower back pain and cramping on and off and breasts a little tender, but I just help but feel this is not my month and I can’t be bothered at all with getting AF tomorrow 😭 is anyone else climbing the walls like me???

I have attached my bbt chart. Just feel like dipping temperature towards AF isn’t a good sign too. Uhh .

@Renna ahh fab sounds like ur well covered even if u dnt manage it today, So funny u putting the preseed in hoping to get lucky 🙈😂 ah well least its there if you do manage it today!! do u tell ur DH when ur ovulating and plan it with him? I have told him its next weekend im due to ovulate thats it but not going to tell him when i get my static after last month ... funny though because the reverse psychology seems to work best with my hubby, the less keen i seem the more keen he seems so im playing it out like im not too fussed and hes like "so what do we need to do then, every other day" he seems excited.. let see how excited he is once i hit my fertility window 😂...hes had quite a few HCG shots now so hes probably feeling it now, we dtd last night after a couple of drinks which was nice and not forced as such...still getting low on my cb still so think natural cycles will be spot on again with next weekend being ovualation time and we don't have the step kids next weekend so it works out well 🥰 Iv ordered the ferti lily too so to try an avoid ghose horrible uti's just hope it arrives in time, with the Ava too and my calc tabs arrived yest aswell so all prepared this cycle 😂 other than dtd as much as poss i cant do no more x x

Hey @lollipop93 have you done a test at all? This is my first month temping but I think I have read as long as it says high above coverline then you are still in. Xx

@Hayleylou89 haha I know arent we all crazy haha
.. hes annoying me this morning any way so I'm no longer in the mood lmao. Why do men just like aimlessly look into a fridge saying theres no room to fit something in ... why can only women move things around in the fridge and make things fit I dont know... 😂😂🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
I tell him it's the fertile week coming up but dont tell him exactly when it starts and finishes and I did tell him on the day that I got the static . And I dont plan to do it every other day or whatever I just think we both make a conscious effort to DTD more up to the peak then on the peak we both know we should DTD that day and day after .
Yeahhh we may DTD later but I'm not too worried as when I got pg in December we literally only DTD the 2 days over peak so 🤷‍♀️
Yup you have well and truly covered every thing this month. Just DTD left to cover next week 👌🤞 xx
Deffo handy not having the step kids around lol. Were not seeing my step son at the mo he has to stay at his mums for 3 months as considered high risk as he has had leukaemia.. he is cured but still high risk :) so we miss him but making it easier for DTD on weekends!
Deffo think reverse psych works on men haha xxx

@2020wish on the Fitbit app it just shows you the RHR daily with a chart. I think everyone has a slightly different pattern but month i concieved it was the highest resting heart rate I'd had in the 3 and a half years I'd had a Fitbit.

@Lollipop93 ahh I hope AF stays away for you, I've read BBT should stay high if pregnant but can also see that FF has marked the last two measurements as unusual times so maybe that's impacted the pattern and it is still above cover line 🙌🏾. Try not to get down about it and maybe treat yourself to something nice if AF does arrive tomorrow?

Hey @VP91xVP91x

No not did a test yet. I feel like I don’t want the disappointment. With my last pregnancy I didn’t get a positive until like a week past my missing period so I feel like if I test now there is no chance. This is my first month temping too... I think it was good to see when ovulation happened but now I just feel like the temps are stressing me out lol what do you think.

@SmileyT thanks so much for replying. I didn’t know that’s what that meant on FF however I haven’t always been putting the temps in to FF at the same time everyday because I use Natural cycles first and when I was looking online I noticed people used FF To get a better graph. I have been waking up at different times so it is entirely possible that the temps aren’t completely accurate but maybe that’s me holding on to the little bit of positivity left lol. I wonder if there is an option on NC to see what time u chart?

Where is everyone else in their cycles/tww?

Aw @Mommybear05 sorry af got you just take this a fresh start for a new cycle xx

@Hayleylou89 thanks Hayley. I have been on those for ages. The purple ones you mean? I think it’s just a perfectly normal combination of the mc and then stopping bf has made my body crazy haha. It’s just not my time and I don’t want to be down.
How are you feeling? Xx

@HE88 thank you. Yes that’s all you can do isn’t it? How are you today? Xx

Update: just did three tests and all came back positive... it’s still so early though I’m scared to get my hopes up!

@Lollipop93 three tests 😂 Congratulations lovely, hope you have a happy healthy 9months bet you and OH are over the moon ❤️

I know hahah go from none to three. Started with one internet cheapy and it came back with two lines and didn’t believe it so did another IC and one CB lol. Still early days.

@lollipop93 congrats!!! Woohoo

@Lollipop93 congrats xx

@Lollipop93 that’s wonderful news. Congratulations 🥳

@Mommybear05 Ah yeah it will be those big changes affecting you, fingers crossed for next cycle for u 🤞🏻... im ok and keeping busy with the house things, although its pretty much nearly done now so my tww will be a long one with not much other than work to keep my mind occupied x im still a few days away from ovulation but really looking forward to dtd this month as the hubby is fully on board this time as iv not pressured him one bit... yet anyway hahaa x

@Renna Men cant find things full stop never mind space in the fridge, They just open a cupboard to looknfor things and expect to see it without having to move something out the way it winds me up when i ask my dh to find somethin.

Im just cooking a roast for us and the kids now while hes finishing off last bits in the loft as the carpet goes down tomorrow 🥰 then we just need our bed to get delivered otherwise we will be dtd on a mattress up there 🤦🏽‍♀️ or in our current bedroom but really want to be in the loft by the end of the week before ovualtion thats the goal haha 🙏

@Hayleylou89 ooh sounds exciting. And I love a new carpet haha. I’m glad he’s on board :) here’s hoping that new bedroom brings you luck xx

Ahhh @lollipop93 congratulations!😊 Glad you got your BFP.

I am on CD12 and following SMEP this month xx