TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@SmileyT cycle twin how's it going ? Have you started symptom spotting yet ?, I'm trying not to but I've had a few but that's probably because I've been thinking about it my Ovia app is also telling me to test in 4 days so I think I probably will although it's an awful feeling when you get the stark white negative x

Glad you got your peak @2020wish

@Mommybear05 @HE88 I know what you all mean. I've been feeling positive about things but then just hit me this afternoon.. saw a pg announcement of an old friend on fb . My heart sank too. I feel like pissed off and angry more than sad this PM .. frustrating . Makes you go through all sorts of emotions. But again I expected her to be pg years ago as she got married years ago and thought they would have a kid sooner so never know their story and what theyve been through too . And people may view us that way one day I guess . Xxx

@HE88 @Renna glad I don’t feel alone. A lot of my friends are pregnant. Really close ones and they were so excited that I was joining the journey with them and now I feel like I’ve to avoid them all cause it kills me everything they are texting about their pregnancy symptoms or appointments and due dates even tho they know I’ve just mc less than 2 weeks ago

@2020wish that's hard going hun. Luckily I dont have any close friends pg ... yet ... I keep thinking about one of them announcing it I'd find it so so hard. Does seem unfair they're not considering how thats going to make you feel listening to all that. I dont think people understand until its happened to them xx it will happen for you soon babe xxx until then you have us xx

Aw @2020wish that must be hard going having to listen/read about their journey, you would think they would be a bit more sensitive, but like @Renna says people don't understand until they have went through it. Well in saying that one of my sister in laws who has suffered a MC herself told us when she was 7 and half weeks cause she got an early scan and it was 3 weeks since my MC. At the time I didn't really think anything of it but now that I've had time to think about why didn't she just wait until she was a bit further on to tell us. Xx

@Isittimeforbubblesyet it may appear in the next couple of days and you may have a random 30 day cycle, try not to stress about it - although I know that is easier said than done ❤️

@Mommybear05 ahh so testing end of next week, exciting 🙌🏾 I think it's totally normal to be a bit agitated by people asking about another child. My mum is always quizzing me about it and honestly makes me feel like poop but I also know she is just desperate for a granddaughter and doesn't really mean any malice by it. You were doing so well staying positive so don't let this bring you down.

@2020wish glad that your peak arrived, you will probably see a shift in your BBT on Monday morning, confirming ovulation on Sunday 👌🏾 the apps normally work out a cover line for you aswell and confirm it

@Dipsy77 hey cycle twin 👋 what symptoms have you noticed? I've had loads of twinges and CM today but when I've looked at my app notes from this time last cycle I had exactly the same so feeling a bit bleurgh about it 😩 so random that Ovia has recommended testing later for me but maybe it thinks I've got a longer LP 🤷🏾‍♀️ Wednesday testing... ahh I'm excited already for you

@Renna you are so right about not knowing peoples stories sometimes, a girl I used to work with posted her 12week announcement on insta and I just felt very deflated then I read the blurb and it said 'people don't know what we've been through this year but this is a light at the end of the tunnel' and she had #rainbowbaby and #miscarriageawareness and it really made me think that so much goes on behind closed doors and we don't always know how much others have been through

@2020wish just wondering did u have the circle on cb this morning then went straight to peak this afternoon? Xx

@Hayleylou89 yes I took both digital and cheapie and both negative and then then at 16:20
I took a cheapie and it was a high (not a peak on digital intelligence in app) but took a digital in same sample and that came up peak static smiley face x

@smileyt my symptoms so far have been twinges and cramps, stabbing pains in my boobs extremely tired and bigger appetite although I have a 7 month old who is teething so I'm not getting much sleep at the minute so all my symptoms could be related to my little teething monster x

@Dipsy77 did you get any early pg symptoms with your 7 month old that would be a massive flag for you? Ahh why is the second week of the TWW so much worse 😩

Ahh @Dipsy77 when I have been pregnant those first few weeks I am always starving! I hope this is a good sign for you xx

Morning Ladies,

For those of you that track BBT I have a question -

My temps last two days have been:

• 36.29c
• 36.06c (so I thought maybe dipping pre ov)

Last night my daughter woke up at 3am so I took my temp straight away it was 35.90.

She didn't settle until 04:15ish and then back up at 06:15am I took my temp again and it was 36.34 so massive fluctuation. Should I discard both temps? Or take the 3am one even though it is hours before I would normally temp?

Xx

@SmileyT I was on the pill so wasn't trying how ironic is that we went away for Christmas and when we got back I realised I hadn't taken my pill with me but thought well we only DTD once and that's all it took my main symptoms were tiredness and really nice nails, my pregnancy that resulted in the MMC I had the same symptoms and I've looked back on Ovia and I had increased appetite and cramps I've ordered some FRERs and they are coming today so I need to hide them away until Wednesday my app says AF is due the 16th although I have 27 day cycles so not sure how that works x

@VP91x Morning lovely.

Do you normally take your temp at about 5am? I read that if you temp early you should add 0.2c to your temp for every hr earlier you woke up or minus 0.2c for every hr late you work up but think I read that anything further than 2hrs our should be disregarded. What was your CB saying this morning?

@SmileyT yeah I normally temp between 05:00-05:30ish. Ah, so that would make it about 36.30 based on that wouldn't it? I will make a note of it and see what my temp is like tomorrow maybe?

It was still blank circle this morning 😩 I feel nauseous and crap this morning. Going to hold for a few hours and test again. I keep dehydrating myself 😂 xx

I think I need to throw bbt out the window. When my other half up at all different hours during the night for work and my body waking I’m temping at all different times trying to do it after a good stretch of sleep but it varies between 4am and 7am. And now I’m just worried I’m not ovulating even tho my LH surge is there. Think next month I’m gonna not temp

Ah @2020wish but you got your peak! Why would you think you aren't ovulating? Xx

Just google lol says even though you can get a peak in tests it doesn’t mean you have ovulated, that just indicates ur body has tried to ovulate lol but I know it’s all in my head and my charting hasn’t helped but again I know I haven’t charted well lol

@VP91x yeah I would note down what the temps were, maybe put in 36.2 or something into your graph and then you can always mark it as abnormal then in a few days see how it sits and unmark it if it's in line with what happens afterwards.

@2020wish in the words of Marie Kondo remove things from your life that do not spark joy. I think as with all things ttc if something adds more stress to your life than it adds positivity just get rid.

@Dipsy77 ahh that's a good sign that it's all the same symptoms 🤞 yeah my cycles are normally 28days so I'm predicting my period for 17th but first cycle post MC was longer which is sending my Ovia app to the 19th for my period. I can definitely feel some twinges on my right hand side this morning but no heart rate rise which was my biggest clue last time 🤷🏾‍♀️

@SmileyT thank you 😊 I am going to go with that, see how it falls into the rest of the measurements x

@2020wish ahh, no don't google that stuff. You have had your peak and I am sure everything is fine! There's no reason to think you didn't actually ovulate. Google is our worst enemy at times like these. Xx

@SmileyT @VP91x you are both right. Google is gone peak is still showing this morning on the cheapie strips even darker so all looks good

@SmileyT where u tracking HR on Fitbit? Fingers crossed it’s all good signs

@VP91x I still record as advised above and then look back on ur chart at end of month to see how you got on, as in Is three a clear trend or have the off time Temps affected the chart

A lot of ovulation pain happening today, pulls and twinges in both sides of pelvis, usually only feel it in one side each month. And left pain around kidney area. Tested my urine this morning for infection and all clear. Anyone else experience stronger ovulation pains after mc?

@Dipsy77 that’s good that you’re having such symptoms. My fingers are crossed for you! X

@2020wish not sure about the ovulation pains. I think I found a bit of a twinge this month but I hadn’t ovulated many times before the mc so can’t compare 🤷‍♀️ Could both sides be two eggs??? X

Girls af got me today 😭 So I’m out this month! This means I’ve just had a 26 day cycle. First one post mc was 31 days and now 26 days! I wish my body would settle down! 😣 xx

@2020wish yeah, both the temps have synced into my daily log because I have the Bluetooth thermometer so that's good. Will see what my temp is like tomorrow and next few days.

Ah, see!!😊😊 You will be noticing more changes that you might not have paid attention to before aswell! Xx

@Mommybear05 ah, I am sorry that AF has arrived 😔😔😔 how are you feeling? Xx

@Mommybear05 :( hopefully that’s your cycle starting to settle. Sorry af has come. Is it defiantly af now? No chance if implantation?