TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

Who is using Calcarea Fluorica ?
Been looking into it a bit. Whether to take in TWW but feel like theres not that much info out there about it. Says can help with implantation but also wanna make sure it's not gonna be harmful in any way like altering cycles xx says it's a natural mineral.

@VP91x thank you. Yes i think I’m going to be better asking for the time off as I wouldn’t be safe in work looking after my patients and running a team I feel like I just want to lay low for a bit. I’ve dropped off the face of the earth to a lot of friends, most of them know what’s happened and are trying to be supportive but I hate answering the texts asking how am I doing. Im hoping I fall pregnant again soon to help lift me out of this phase as I think it’s all that’s gonna make me feel better.

I haven’t went into the interpretation part I didn’t even know it existed lol will check it out now

@renna thanks for showing me urs, I’m sure I’ll see a pattern at some point lol 😆 never heard of that? What is it I’m open to trying everything and anything lol

@2020wish yes absolutely, it is so important to take the right time to work through our feelings after things like this. Especially with everything going on.

Yeah it gives me insights quite often when I log info etc. No idea if my temps are fluctuating too much, but I think you see a sharp rise post OV from what I have read so I'm assuming I will clearly be able to see that which is mainly what I want to know anyway. Xx

I've seen ladies say it helps with implantation. I saw it on a you tube video this morning about what you can do in the TWW . Xxx I've ordered some coming saturday just wondered if any one used /uses it who has more info:) xx

@Renna I have seen it being talked about but not done any research on it xx

Hey ladies! Hope you’re all well! FX for you all 💕

Still getting ⭕️ on the OPKs and it’s CD13 today! I have a very regular cycle of 28/29 days so surprised I’m still getting negatives. I even bought the CB advanced digital which tells you your 4 most fertile days. But I’ve not been DTD this cycle, fasting means we can only DTD at night and I’m usually exhausted by then. Was hoping to just DTD on my most fertile days buutttt think I may have missed it. I’m also not always testing at the same time - who knew not peeing for 4 hours was so hard!!
Really wanted to follow the SMEP this cycle but it’s been impossible with Ramadan - I just go into a food coma after breaking my fast loool

How r are u ladies?

@renna have u had ur static yet? Xxx

I start my cb tomorrow although not expecting a static until next weekend so Dnt know whether to delay starting my cb until maybe sunday and just do cheapies and monitor it from them starting off.

@Niisa stick with it xx I've had cycles in the past before MC where I got no flashing smileys then all of a sudden got a static and my cycles were around 28 days and I had a peak day on cycle day 16 before xx hope you get it soon xxx

Hey babe @Hayleylou89 yeah got my static last night xx yeah I sometimes start the CB a day or 2 after it tells me too. You're doing the cheapies so that'll pick up on it too xx was it you who mentioned Calcarea Fluorica or was it @smileyT? Xxx

@renna I can’t seem to find anywhere to buy those tablets. Online seems to be from India. Have you had any luck?

@Renna thanks hun I will.. I’m gonna test again in an hour just to see. TMI but I feel like I had EWCM this morning so fx! Xx

Haha I know exactly what you're talking about @SmileyT it's totally unromantic 🙈 we were doing the same! Ended up dtd every day during my fertile period at 1am when we got into bed! Sometimes I'd say, can we just make this 10 mins, I'm so tired😂

Is that in general you don't notice a lot of cm, or is that something that changed after the mc?

When I had the Mc, I was reading up all these articles that said that couples who try sooner after the Mc are more likely to conceive within 3 months, I was obsessing over that. But now I've lost 2 months waiting for AF and Hcg to drop, so I think I'm also happy if I conceive within 6 months!

We can do this @SmileyT 😊 fingers, toes, everything crossed for you hun Xx

@VP91x that's so funny that you didn't tell him 😂 he hasn't noticed anything different with the preseed? My DH actually bought the preseed for us, I never heard of it prior to that. Once I used too much, and he kept slipping out 😂 he was so not impressed😂🤣

@2020wish I found them on Holland and barrett , so thought at least I can trust that they're reputable too . But can take a while to deliver I think as looks like may be coming via royal mail so I found the exact same type on amazon and I have prime so coming Saturday xx it's called this : Schuessler Calc Fluor Tablets - Pack of 125

Fertility homeopath talks about it on this video

Xx

@Niisa fingers crossed xxxx

@Niisa I've had cycles in the past where I jumped straight from the ⭕️ to the static smiley, so I would just carry on testing 😊 Hope the fasting is going well hun!

I have been quiet on here this month - been busy at work but that hasn’t been a bad thing!! Am currently on CD13 - only using cheapy opks (I literally think I have the smallest LH peak time ever as I constantly get low, low, low, low - the first peak I ever got was last cycle!!) and I track my BBT - been trying to do SMEP but we still live at my parents whilst we sort our house - so we have to wait until everyone is in bed (and hopefully asleep lol!) I swear it has mucked up my BBT tracking lol - as we end up falling asleep later than normal so I sleep less/or wake up later than normal 🙄

So lleased for the BFP we have on here - and I have my fingers crossed for more to come!! I’m on my second cycle post MC, but mc was at the end of Feb - so it feels like I have been unsuccessful a lot..trying not to stress though!

Ooh lots to catch up with on my walk home from work 🙌🏾

@Rainbowhope11 im trying to make the next two weeks a lot more romantic so it doesn't feel like we have sex on demand for a week and then go our separate ways. My OH is exactly the same he would be telling me to shove it in as soon as we finished 😂 I wasn't ttc before mc so can honestly say I've never felt up there randomly for the consistency of my juices, now I'm obsessed 🙈

@Renna im going to give that meditation a go at the weekend thanks 🙏 also it was me that mentioned calc flour was going to order it next month, haven't done that much research but from what i read it doesn't affect cycle length and just helps with implantation. P.S if I say I'm
calm enough times it actually makes me feel calmer, positive affirmations 😇

@2020wish sorry you are feeling low it's totally normal to have ups and downs. I was only signed off for a week and actually found the overwhelming sadness kinda passed a bit when I got back into a routine but everyone will deal with things differently so just take your time. My first month temping was a hot mess but I started 2weeks after mc so guessing that impacted it. Femometer will analyse your bbt and confirm ovulation aswell. I've attached this months chart for you to see, the cover line appeared 3 days after ovulation and it confirmed when it thought it was 🙌🏾

@VP91x do you pay for femometer I'm thinking of upgrading to get more analysis.

@Niisa I have 28 day cycles and had blank ⭕️ for 4 days then I tried that night and it was static smiley so don't give up 😊

@SmileyT @2020wish yeah I have a monthly subscription with them at the moment so maybe that is why I get extra info. I never tried the free version so not too sure on the differences.

@SmileyT @Renna does the Calc Flour not affect cycle at all other than helping at implantation?

@SmileyT I definitely also get obsessed with my CM 😂😂 Ive had bit more EWCM but was still blank on CB digital. App says sunday for ovulation so hoping it is roughly correct. Tomorrow will be Cd10 so 2nd day of SMEP.

@Rainbowhope11 I don't think so!? He hasn't mentioned it. I remember the first night I used he said "oh, you seem keen" 😂😂 Maybe I should ask? I have used just over a quarter of the syringe each time xx

@Renna Inge fleur my favourite 😂

@VP91x the stuff I read said that people use it for head colds and stuff aswell and there are no side affects, I think because they aren't hormonal they shouldn't affect it. But I'm by no means a doctor and this is just from googling a few things x

@SmileyT I will have a little read for sure xx

@VP91x I was using about the same amount as you are using. But the one time, I thought I'd use over half the syringe...and let's just say, the more the better definitely doesn't apply to this 😂😂🤣

@Rainbowhope11 I know less is definitely more when it comes to that pre seed. Even a quarter of a syringe is alot 😂😂.

If it makes him feel like I'm even more up for it then my job is done haha xx

@Rainbowhope11 & @SmileyT y’all giving me hope! Will Deffo keep testing! Ramadan has been okay - a lot easier to fast at home doing nothing than it has been every other year teaching & talking non-stop haha

Hi girls just catching up I’ve been away for a few days as I’ve been in work and very busy! Also, I think I’ve stopped getting the email updates when someone posts/ tags me for some reason??? I know a few of you are coming up to your fertile time now. Exciting! How are you all feeling today?

Cd24 here. I had some spotting today. Last cycle (first post mc) was 31 days so this would be an early af! But remember that spotting I had last month before af? When I checked my app that was on cd 25 and 28 too so it looks like it could be following the same pattern? Who knows! I’m still so all over the place post mc and post breastfeeding so honestly anything could be happening! Xx

Hey @Mommybear05 all good here in my tww trying not to think about it too much and remain positive.

Oh fingers crossed the spotting doesn't come to anything. What are your normal cycle lengths? Xx