TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

Wow I don't know how all my text just turned bold! Sorry @SmileyT 😂🤣

Thank you @SmileyT 😊😊

Used my ferti-lily cup after DTD which was interesting!

@Rainbowhope11 ahh I'm glad your period is feeling a bit more normal, funny to think we are all desperate to have the periods we had before 😂 I'm still feeling really good actually, post MC I felt super anxious and that has kinda passed (although I'm still obsessed with tracking) how are you tracking this month?

My apps say AF could arrive as late as the 19th which would be a 30day cycle but if it arrives on the 17th as I expect then it would be a 28day cycle with ovulation on CD14 so at least I'd know I'm back to 'normal'

@Renna did you get your static today?

@VP91x ooh yeah the cup is on my shopping list for next month 😂 did you sleep with it in?

@SmileyT haha hopefully you don't need to buy it!!

Well it says to leave in for an hour, but I fell asleep and woke up about 02:30am and took it out then. 😂

@SmileyT it is funny! I was so desperate to see AF, my DH thought I was going nuts! I feel like celebrating with a glass of wine 😂 what was an even stranger feeling, was doing hpts every day after mc, hoping that it would just turn negative. Can't believe it's taken 6 weeks! Oh well!

That's great that you're not feeling anxious anymore. I'm sure that will help with the baby making too 😊 it's such a liberating feeling to finally be able to let go and just relax. The anxiety was killing me too, felt like I couldn't concentrate on anything.

Haha I totally understand that fixation with tracking! I've been tracking bbt ever since my mc, will start doing clear blue opk in a few days and will also do cheapie oks too. And then I will also do my usual obsessive checking of cm😂 if there's anything else that I could possibly track, please let me know! How are you tracking?

I've been reading up on the SMEP because I saw a few ladies post on here about it, and hubby and I realised that we actually ended up following that plan by default the cycle we got pregnant! I had never heard of it before. So we are definitely going to try that again going forward, although it's pretty exhausting haha! Was it you that mentioned the SMEP a few days ago?

Morning ladies xx

Yeah @SmileyT got my peak and static last night 😁 xx still peak reading this morning on the femometer app . Before I put this mornings test stick in it said today was ovulation day . But then when I did this mornings cheapie and uploaded it it say tomorrow Is ovualtion day . Probably because it's still quite a strong peak this morning so I'll carry on doing them until I see the line get fainter . DTD few times already and both have a half day today then 3 days off so plenty of time to BD. So done all we can again this cycle 🌈🤞😊 and that's all you can do aye.

When I saw acupuncturist yesterday he suggested some fertility meditation which he thinks is free on you tube . If any one meditates could be worth a look . I may look for some this morning. If I find any good ones I'll post in here if itll help any one :) xxx

@VP91x how easy was it putting it in and taking it out ? I think I'd struggle as not use anything like that before like a moon cup etc 😂 x

Yay @Renna I had my peak on a Friday night and it said ovulation was Saturday on femometer but on Saturday morning it was still peak so moved it to Sunday - but after I got a high later that day it moved back to Saturday - If that makes any sense 😂 and yes so good you have the whole weekend so don't have to stress about it.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=z_oUeOJsqtE I've been listening to this meditation there is one for each week of your cycle 🙌🏾 good that your acupuncturist is working again now, you said it helped last time didn't you 🤞

@Rainbowhope11 are you using pre seed or anything? When I was tracking CM last cycle I found it harder to do because of using it etc. Everything gets kind of muddled up in there (Sorry TMI 😂).

I'm trying SMEP this cycle too! Hopefully it works.

@Renna ah yay, congrats on your peak! What time in the evening did you test with your CB? Trying to figure out what time I should do second tests once I get my flashing smiley.

I have never used a mooncup or anything either! It was easy but just obviously slippery. You kind of turn it inside out so it pushes everything up with it and then put it up as far as you can then pull on the string bit so it pops back into its normal cup shape and then I couldn't really feel it much. I popped a pillow under my bum and fell asleep! It was easy to get out. Just pulled on the string. Xx

@VP91x I used preseed the cycle I got pregnant, so I'm planning on using it going forward now 😊 I noticed that preseed doesn't stretch like EWCM so you can probably differentiate between the two by trying to stretch your cm between your fingers (waaaaay tmi 😂) but also, I don't think it stays up there very long, so if you try and check cm after a couple of hours after using it, it shouldn't affect anything, unless you've fallen asleep after dtd, then maybe it will still be up there?

@Rainbowhope11 yep I did SMEP this month, I'm just glad that I ovulate relatively early (CD14) because otherwise it's a lot of time having to schedule sex, especially as my OH works shifts. Some days I got in at 4.30pm and he'd have to leave at 6pm for a night shift so was serious quickies. Tbh we are pretty active but scheduling sex whichever way you dress it up isn't the most romantic 🙈

Im tracking exactly the same way as you plan to this month BBT, CB opk and cheapie opks. I've noticed that I barely get any CM - I had like blob of what I would call EWCM - so going to be getting on the grapefruit juice soon aswell.

If I conceive before August I think I'll be calm about it, I think if I'm still trying 6months after MC I think the anxiety will creep back but trying to keep a nice relaxed baby hotel until then 😂

@Rainbowhope11 ah, that's a good point actually! Thw ferti-lily cup I am now using keeps everything up there after DTD.so i am sure I can check like the afternoon next day etc. Need to up my water over the next few days but then don't want to dilute my wee for my tests. It's such a balancing act 😂

@SmileyT baby hotel, love that.

@VP91x thanks for reminding me about increasing water intake! I really need to do that too! Ooh I need to do some research on those fertility cups. Haven't heard about them up until now. I may have to get myself one too! I feel like I'm trying so many different things, I may drive myself insane 😂🤣

I didnt either @Rainbowhope11 until it was mentioned on the thread a few pages back! There were two that came up most popular. Soft cups which are diposable (on Amazon) and the ferti-lily which I got. Quite interesting!

I know yeah you end up with alot of stuff 😂
My partner knows I bought the preseed but I have never told him I have actually used it. Didn't bother to tell him I was using the cup either, he will just say I'm crazy. Haha. He just sees all the tests. X

Oo thanks @SmileyT I may look at that one deffo need something for TWW as found it hard last cycle ! I did this one this morning. Was good ..

Deffo loving your calm vibes trying to feed off it haha and thinking like you about thinking of the long haul like... I'd like to be pg in a few months. Rather than expecting it to happen every month. We started TTC sept 2019 and sept 2020 was when our due date should have been.. so August latest would be a nice point for me too . 🤞🌈 xx

@VP91x I did my second CB at like gone 10pm but I couldve done it earlier but I drank a lot so I thought I'd wait but I done 3 cheapies earlier in the day as I saw the line getting darker and pretty much got a peak on that but wanted to confirm with the CB and so it would connect to my app too and register it. Once i saw the cheapie line get dark I done the second CB other wise I wouldn't have done it and just done the CB in the morning xx
I may try the cup next cycle if no luck even though DH probs thinks its not needed but he has that attitude with everything I introduce haha at first when I was using the CP lube he was like oh really... but this morning we DTD before he went to work and he was like get the lube haha. Hope its given you a helping hand this month 🤞🌈 xx and hopefully I wont actually need it next month 🤞🤞 xx

Haha @VP91x or maybe I could do what you just said you do and not tell DH ... haha 😂👌 just pop to the bathroom after DTD and POP in the cup lol.
The other day when he started sying about his bad back I was like well maybe I SHOULD have got one of those cups !! Give me your donation and I pop it in 😂😂 so bad isnt it! Literally a transaction . When I was reading reviews about those cups that is literally how same sex couples use it to get pg . 😂👌 xx

@Renna Oh that's a good! Yeah I will probably do an evening one once I get my flashing smileys then!

Haha yeah, maybe he knows all my secrets and doesn't say anything 😂😂 hopefully you don't need anything after this month!

I had it next to my pillow and when got up after to go to the loo I just popped it in quickly. Haha, I sound so crazy 😩😂 xx

@Renna that was meant to say when my partner got up to go to the loo!

@VP91 dont worry were all crazy hahah. It makes you feel crazy all this and think were allowed to be crazy 😁👌 at least we can share these mad things with each other if I spoke to my mates about stuff like this they would certainly think I had lost it.
Do you have cheapies too? As I got flashing smiles for 4 days (5 including yday morning but then got static at night ) so can add up using the expensive sticks on all those days ! I wouldnt have missed it any way if I didnt do a CB at night as would have got the static this morning but then I guess its handy to know that my peak was actually yday rather than thinking it was today. Xx

@Renna yeah definitely love having these chats to be able to talk about it!

Yeah I have the femometer OPKs too, have been doing CB in the morning and afternoon Femometer. Might add one more OPK to the evening to see line progression. X

How are all you ladies? Sorry I’m just popping on and off. I’m finding I’m having good days and bad days after my MC. Still so down it happened. Anyone else?

@VP91x glad to see you ordered the cup. How you finding it lol my partner DTD with me then jumps up and grabs my cup said I need it in straight away lol 😂 I’m surprised he hasn’t tried putting it in for me.

I’m using the fermometer bbt and opks. So far I haven’t got my peak so I’m starting to panick. I’m testing roughly 3 times a day and also using CB digital. Also with temping how accurate are you u being? At the beginning I was really good and setting my alarm for 6am and temping straight away but with my partner back at work his alarm is going off at 4am and waking me up so some days I am temping then as soon as I open my eyes or some days I hadn’t had a good 3 hour stretch of sleep by the time 4 or 6am comes (partner snoring) so I’m going back to sleep as soon as he leaves for work and then taking my temp after a stretch of proper 3 hour sleep.

Am I wasting my time and probably best not temping at all?

@2020wish ah sending you a massive hug, I was a mess for 8 weeks after my MC. Affected my job, etc. Went on reduced hours for a bit. It's so natural. Let yourself feel everything you need to and try and see what works for you to help yourself feel a little better.

It was a little bit odd 😂 I wasn't sure if it was in right at first. Tomorrow I might be better at doing it. Haha, so funny about your partner. Do you just kept it in for the hour or have you left it in overnight?

I do my BBT between 05:10-5:45 according to my app depending on what time I wake up. What is it telling you about your measuring habit? I reckon you're still likely to see a shift in temperature post ovulation,but it's my first month doing it so I am not too sure. Xx

I just feel like I should be giving myself a shake and forgetting it but I can’t :( how long did u take off work? My doctor gave me a sick line for 2 weeks but dated from the Friday before I had the confirmed mc on scan so really I’ve just had under a week and a half from I really found out and it being the second time in a row I’m so deflated. I’m ringing to ask for a 4 weeks sick line from tomorrow

I’ve left it in an hour and then removed it and some nights I’ve fallen asleep with it in lol just depends really

My app hasn’t really said anything about my recording times. Should it? Here is a pick so far of my chart (I think I should be ovulating this weekend. Well I hope

@2020wish I had about 2 weeks off completely after the MC was confirmed and then for about 6 weeks I was on reduced hours. I would only do 6hrs a day and that felt overwhelming as it was. I dropped off the face off the earth at work so everyone knew something had happened, but obviously not what so that was hard. Everyone trying to be nice and ask if I was OK etc. Definitely ask for more time, it is such a process. I would have been due on July 14th and I know that is going to be a tough day. Just hoping I will be pregnant by then to help ease it a bit.

That is a screenshot of mine so far this month. Have you been on that page where it tells you your intepretation so far? Xx

Hey hun @2020wish yup deffo know what you mean about up and down days xx only natural I guess what weve been through xxx I did BBT last month and got dip for ovulation so assured me I'm ovulating and then not bothered with temping this month . I think it's good to confirm you're ovulating. When I started I did think the temps were erratic and I was like is there any point but then by the end I did actually see a theme and I wasnt that strict usually within a few hours of the same time each morning. Xx