TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@HE88 they will monitor until it is 5 or below because that is regarded as a negative. 10 is still positive and will still show up as positive on more sensitive tests like first response. Ah that's good to know! I was wondering if there was something wrong because at people have said that they had really heavy AF after miscarriage. Xx

@SmileyT it's been so frustrating to keep being monitored every week, but you're right, at least I can have peace of mind and start the new cycle fresh and ready to go❤️

@Rainbowhope11 ah I see at least they are going to check again for you then it's a fresh start for you for ttc again. Xx

@SmileyT goood way to be and to be as relaxed as you can be. I'm trying to be like that and find myself a bit more relaxed than last month . I'm CD 11 got my peak CD 12 last cycle but previous cycles before MC got peaks on CD 14 too so we will see ! Xx xx

Yeah it's better to know everything is going down then having to head back to hospital after months of trying and notice something isn't quite right. My first period was a bit different to normal, really light, then heavy than light but no clots or anything and I was glad of that. @Rainbowhope11

@Renna yeah I keep telling myself that I need to make it to the 12week scan so these TWW are good practice for that. This is my first full cycle so even though I'm telling myself I'm not pregnant, deep down I think I'm still full of hope which is seeing me through. Just think you're in your fertile week now and by next week you'll be in your TWW. I'm really hoping we get some more BFPs this month, the odds say we have to, if more of you lot get them I think it will give me hope that it can happen🤞

Hey girls how are u all!!

@SmileyT Youv got every chance, good luck lovely!

@renna how exciting ur in ur fertile window wooohooo!

Iv got some advice that i honestly think is working for me ... GRAPEFRUIT juice ... I heard it helps with CM so iv been trying it and last night we dtd and it was noticeably different down there (so slippy 🤦🏽‍♀️). Sorry tmi! But thats the only thing it could be as im not in my fertile window yet... need to start testing with ICs ( might start this afternoon)

Can i ask anyone how do they drink when doing the afternoon IC's do u not drink and hold ur pee or drink normal but hold ur pee? Whats best practice with them? X

Swear this stuff does really work 🤦🏽‍♀️

Oh wish I had of known about the grape fruit juice trick. Entering fertile window today. Would it be too late to start?

@Hayleylou89 hey hun how are you ?
Yeahh weve DTD Sunday and Monday (I actually dont wanna over do it and be DTD every day as I did last cycle as didnt actually work ! Lol ) and I thought I'd get my peak today but still a flashing smiley but I think my ICs are getting darker so probably get the static smiley tomorrow ..
I'll attach my ICs see what you think . Top one was late last night , middle was early this morning then bottom was later on this morning.

I'm actually going to see my acupuncturist later today he can do electro acupuncture contact less so he directs you where to put it. DH went yesterday for his back so I just said hey I'm due to ovulate in next couple days will some treatment help and he said yeah he recommends having acupuncture just before or during ovulation.. so gonna give it a a go !

I'm trying to drink more water to improve CM . I've heard this about grapefruit juice ... I may need to give it a try although too late for this cycle really . Although I dont actually like the juice .. 😂😂 awesome you've seen some results with it 😁😁

Tbh with afternoon ICs I try hold wee for couple hours but like you I dont want another UTI so dont hold it much . As long as your wee not ridiculously diluted so dont drink loads before I think It should pick up on it ..?
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@Renna hey yeah iv heard Acupucture is fab for fertility i do want to try it! The grapefruit juice is not nice at first but then i enjoy it now x

Ill do an IC this afternoon then as i have ovulated cd18 before and im cd14 today so will wheres its at currently.

The grapefruit juice works... hand on heart haha! Iv been drinkijg it for a few weeks so i need to lay off it because it was a bit too slippy night 😆

Hope u get ur static soon! Dreading doing them cb sticks thats when the stress will start, but im proud of myself for being so calm since AF :) lets see how long it lasts 🙏 ... me and 2 of my older friends are all ttc they have both had mc's one through ivf and the other doesnt qualify for ivf as her partner has a child already to someone else so shes had 3 mcs and she is in her 40s soo desp for it to happen for her too, shes in her tww now 🙏 x x

@Hayleylou89 grapefruit also good for weight loss so win win 💪 haha
High five for being less stressed 🙌 I have felt less stressed to to an extent .. I guess the first cycle after MC always going to be heightened and harder to deal with so hopefully the more relaxed us continue ! Tbh it was the TWW I was an emotional wreck last cycle so hopefully I will chill more during the TWW this time!
Aw that's nice you have others to speak to about it. My group of girlfriends from school are just not even thinking about babies even though were not THAT young I would say . we are 28 but they're just really no where near my thinking lol so they dont get it yet. I got married 3 years ago and none of them are even engaged yet or just like anti having babies yet lol.

How old are your step kids then ? My step son just turned 11 the other day ! Madness as I met him when he was just turned 5. My DH is 10 years older than me . Do you see them on weekends or they live with you ? X
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Ah @Hayleylou89 that's interesting about grapefruit juice wish I had known about this before my fertile week now in tww. I feel like I don't have a lot of cm on the lead up to ovulation so might give this a try next cycle if I'm not lucky.
Also in terms of drinking and holding pee for the ic cheapies I used them this cycle and just drank as normal but not loads I don't really drink a lot which maybe isn't a good thing anyway I also tried to hold my pee for a couple of hours but honestly thought I was going to explode ha ha. Good luck using them. Xx

@Renna I followed SMEP this cycle as it was successful for me when I fell pregnant I forgot how much effort you need to put into it. Dtd Sunday, Monday and yesterday and huuby said to me this morning I'm so glad all that sex is over with now 🤦‍♀️😂. Xx

@HE88 I know right haha . I planned on doing SMEP last cycle and we did .. but we DTD more than it says to.. the lead up to ovulation we DTD on some of the days it says not .. so dunno if that affects it or not haha but we just ended up DTD more as I think it was Easter bank hol long weekend off together and lockdown boredom resulted in DTD most days .. haha. The month I got pg I only DTD on the peak day and the day after 🙄🤷‍♀️ but I remember thinking at the time we haven't done it enough theres no chance... haha. So this time trying to just go with the flow and not plan DTD other than the peak days . Funny my peak days falling on bank holiday again 😂
But I know the feeling you mean haha like when fertile window done less pressure 😂😂 xx

I know that's the thing with this lockdown you get fed up so hey why not let's just dtd. I don't know how much it affects dtd on the days you aren't supposed too I think it's just your luck.
Aw defo less pressure once fertile window is over hubby jokes that he is on a schedule I told him we can go by your schedule now lol xx

@Renna Iv got so much going on at the min iv got literally no time to think about it all which is really good, last month i jist stressed as it was my first proper full month and i thought id never get a peak on the cb but i did so i am working ok haha

So step kids - 2 girls (8,12) and 1 boy (16) there lovely kids! We go married last year and its our first anniversary the same week as the baby was due so lovely and not so lovely but we plan to have a nice bbq with the family if the weather is good if were still in lockdown by then that is. Xx

@HE88 honestly try the juice it def does work!

And thanks for the ic advice im going to take one soon they aay the best time is like 2-8 i think? X

Pomegranate and Grapefruit juice are supposed to be winners for before ovulation... so think I'll try them next cycle.

I've become mildly obsessed with my bbt but my chart is so much easier to read this month, keep showing my DP and he thinks I'm a maniac that I'm so excited by it 😂

@Hayleylou89 and @Renna glad you are feeling calmer this month it will happen for us all of that I'm sure.

@HE88 I was actually shocked how much sex SMEP felt like, I think it's because it's so scheduled. We had our one for good luck last night, definitely too late 3dpo but thought we might aswell go for it. But we ended up doing CD5,6,8,9,10,12,13,14,15 and 18, definitely have a couple nights off now 🙈

@SmileyT Thant was like me last month dtd for what felt like years had a uti on and off because of it.. this month i feel so much better about it l, my ava still hasnt arrived i rang royal mail this morning and they said they have extended expected arrival dates of signed for items by around a week which means its probably going to arrive too late for this cycle 🤦🏽‍♀️...lets hope i get pg and dont need it, that happened when i ordered the cb fertility monitor in sept 🤦🏽‍♀️ it arrived and i fell pregnant before i even to use it! 🙏...
Really want it though as my temping isnt the best at the min with waking up different times even though its still within to two hour time frame they say to do it but my ava would track this perfectly when it finally arrives 😒 x

@SmileyT jeez that's a lot of dtd ha ha we dtd CD 6, 8, 11, 14, 15, 16 doubt we do it again this cycle lol.
I'm feeling quite positive this cycle and trying not to think about it too much during the tww. Xx

Hello - popped by to say hello before just after I had miscarried - head in a bit of a better place now. Looking forward to trying again. Have ordered an ava bracelet which I hope will arrive soon - although only a couple of weeks post miscarriage and haven’t had a period yet.

Probably won’t try again for a couple of months but going to lurk in the background for a while first is that’s ok!

@Hayleylou89 ah, I definitely should have got onto the grapefruit juice on CD1. I will try next month if not lucky this one. Its a shame your Ava bracelet hasn't arrived yet 😔

@SmileyT I hope I keep as relaxed in my TWW. No harm in getting that extra BD 3DPO.

Hope the rest of you are all ok. CD 8 today so starting SMEP today. Had day 2 of blank smiley on CB. But interestingly had a small amount of what looked like EWCM when I wiped about an hour ago. So hopefully tomorrow get flashing and it'll be the start of FW. Xx

@Ranoutofgoodnames hello and welcome back. I'm new here and lurking too. I'm in my second month of ttc post mc although I don't think I ov'd first cycle and am still waiting for my cycle to regulate.

Sent hubby out for grapefruit juice tonight ladies! Thanks for the head up!! 😁

Got some frers and CB digital ovulation tests delivered today. Going to start testing tomorrow. Anyone else get excited with these sort of deliveries?! Love the grapefruit heads up. Can’t stand it but might have to try some! X

@Hayleylou89 I've never had a UTI but definitely felt like I had the start of one after the 4 days of BD, kept having the sudden need to wee but luckily it had passed when I woke up the next day and I had that day off. So bloody annoying about your Ava but hopefully you don't need it and you'll be preggers before it arrives, think you can use it in pregnancy aswell can't you?

@HE88 sounds like you have the right idea no point stressing over the TWW, I definitely won't get away with 3 weeks with no sex but definitely not as much 🤣

Hello 👋 @Ranoutofgoodnames good luck with your Ava come join us when your ready.

@VP91x is this your birthday BD? I had 4 days of blank CB before straight to static in an evening so keep at it 😉

Love those deliveries @Wishingfornumber2 nothing more exciting

Definitely love a delivery @Wishingfornumber2 my partner says.. "Oh, what now" 😂

@SmileyT haha yes, birthday BD. Although I have been eating cake and drinking lots of wine!

Welcome @Ranoutofgoodnames xx

Ahh hope you've had a fab birthday and enjoyed all the cake @VP91x xx

@SmileyT yup, definitely! Even though it was rather annoying having to go back and forth to the doctors office, I'm glad that they have taken good care of me. Ah good to know! My period has finally started flowing a bit, so looking a bit more normal. I went through my Ovia app and saw that most of my cycles started with a few days of spotting anyway, so maybe this cycle is just the same. How are you getting on @SmileyT? Fingers crossed that there's lots of Bfps on this thread this month 😊