TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@Jaylou7 finally a BFP thats def positive and it sounds like IB that i had which is normal, I had it with my pregnancy i didn't mc as such i lost my baby at 23 weeks due to preterm labour but i wouldnt worry if its just a spot of blood and ur test is quite strong xx congrats to u x

Hope everyone else is ok... CD 5 for me , think this is my lst day of AF 🙏...I decided to change the start of my AF to thursday rather than friday as it was continious from then it wasn't spotting and it started not as spotting so think that would be CD 1 even though it was in the evening when it started? What do u girls think? X

@Jaylou7 it definitely doesn't sound like something to be potentially worried about. It definitely could be IB!! Will you test again tomorrow? Xx

@ttcin2020 your cycle can definitely be delayed! Mine took almost 8 weeks to come back. I am sure yours won't be as long as I had some retained tissue so it was a bit more complicated. If you have had a negative HPT then hopefully not too much longer for you xx

@Hayleylou89 I'd definitely say that the first day of full flow whatever time is CD1, does that make your last cycle 38 days?

@ttcin2020 how long were your cycles pre-MC my AF was a few days longer than my normal cycle. Did you mean 18days from when bleeding started or stopped? Sorry that you are in the dark at the moment I know it's completely crap 🙁

@Jaylou7 congrats on the BFP please try and be positive and maybe leave it a few days and do another test. The private clinics around me are now open so maybe you could get a private viability scan in a couple of weeks. Sorry that you can't feel hopeful after everything you've been through xx

@ttcin2020 I know it’s frustrating feeling like nothings going on. My cycle if you count mc as cd1 was 31 days although I was told it could have been longer. It takes a while for things to settle and being patient is really hard! Hope you’re ok x

@SmileyT ...yeah id think so too, I just changed it, it would make my last cycle 37 days long 🙏 or 37 1/2 considering it was evening when AF showed haha 😂 I know its stupid to be so bothered over a day but a slightly shorter cycle is what i would really like x x

Hi ladies! I'm joining from the April thread. It's been 35 days since MC, no sign of AF and I think I miscalculated my ovulation dates. I thought I was ovulating 2 weeks ago, but according to my temps, I ovulated a week ago, so I think hubby and I probably missed the boat for this month. My bbt has been rising every day, I'm apparently 9dpo. I'm sure bbt will drop in the next few days and AF will show her ugly face 😫 how is everyone doing today?

Evening ladies xx
Catching up on the thread . I'm the same with taking breaks from things going forward, and how much I post on these threads but cant help see how you're getting on and you're right about the support . Hope everyone is okay xxxx
I'm CD3 . Thought AF stopped last night as no bleeding half of yesterday, none all night but then got some this afternoon , enough for a tampon which was weird as thought it had stopped. But then a 2 day AF would be pretty short even for me as im normally like 4 days . So guess it's good it kinda going back to normal but doesnt normally stop then start like that , guess that can happen after MC with AF going back to normal . ..?

CB all telling me to start testing for ovulation this Friday but I may leave it a few more days as I ovulated around CD13 /14 last cycle .

I've stopped doing BBT this cycle as only did it to check Im deffo ovulating really which it indicated I was last cycle and I got Pg before so other than that I feel like it just gives me something to over analyse ... so I'm feeling slightly better already this cycle not over thinking things as drove me mad last cycle ! And try be more relaxed..

@Rainbowhope11 hiya xx I think maybe after MC if it takes a while for hcg to leave your system it may delay everything so can take some time xx I hope AF shows for you soon though so you can start a fresh xx
@Hayleylou89 hope you're doing ok hun xx I'd start CD1 as the day AF was proper flow no matter what time of day xx

Thanks @Renna xx hopefully I get a fresh start soon, or a bfp, I'm happy with either at this stage. Good luck to you for this month! It's so hard to just let go and relax. I totally get you about the bbt. I feel like I'm googling every little temp rise or fall to see what it means 🤦🏻‍♀️

@VP91x
I can't imagine what that must've been like for 8 weeks, I feel like I'm going crazy in 4 weeks. But hopefully you are right and an egg or AF will be along soon 🤞🏻

@SmileyT oops sorry I did mean 18 days from when the bleeding stopped!!
I had 4 cycles before I fell pregnant, two were 26 days two were 30 but I'm not too sure with it being so soon after stopping contraception what my body will do naturally just they tended to only be a day or so late according to an app before the spotting start of a period.

@Mommybear05 thanks!! My EPU were brilliant during but just told me to take a test tomorrow and if it's positive still I should call them.. but not a lot of advice of what to expect or anything! But this is positive hopefully by next week I'll be starting to feel something going on. Just you read everywhere women just bouncing back instantly and I wish it was me!!

@Rainbowhope11 well at least you were DTD this month and you never know even if you weren't being as active you may have still caught a late ovulation. If not then I hope AF shows up so you can reset xx

@Renna I'm glad you are feeling more positive and definitely a good plan to scrap temping if it was something else to worry about. My period was a little random this time, I thought it had stopped (no bleeding all afternoon and all night day 3) and then we DTD the next day and I had another bleed 🤷🏾‍♀️ tbh i have no idea what normal is anymore. I'm currently CD9 and CB told me to start testing today, hoping to get a CD13 peak, which would mean I was back to a 28day cycle🤞 Xx

@ttcin2020 yeah thought that's what you meant but just wanted to make sure... well my first cycle I ovulated about a week later than my apps predicted and AF a few days late aswell so hopefully you get a BFP or AF this week and you can properly reset and get back to 'normal' xx

Hey @Renna lovely to see u again on here even though its only beeen about a day but still i would have been gutted if u didn't reappear... weve got to get r bfp soon 🙏... would love to find out we are pg in may for a few reasons.. its my mums bday so would love to suprise her... also id love to be pg before my due date 7th June and this month is my last chance 🙏 ...not too much pressure for me then 🙄 xxx my AVA Bracelet got posted today so hopefully it comes soon and i can see what its like..im going to start cheap opking the from around cd 12 (a week today) x just incase i ovulate early like i did on that random
32 day cycle x

@Rainbowhope11 bfp even better hun ! Fingers crossed for you xx

@SmileyT yeahh trying to be more positive and think the things I'm doing or not doing this cycle may help with that! :) sounds the same as me with AF! This is the thing ... I was in the mood for DTD today... thought af was done ... she knows how to ruin things ay !! Haha . Hope you get your peak when you're expecting 🤞 let the fun fertile window begin 😁👌

@Hayleylou89 aw I know only been like a day or 2 haha but I feel the same I'd be gutted not seeing you ladies get your BFP or see how you get on . And I'll deffo keep popping back on . I do see most the messages tbh as it comes through as an email when there is a new message so I cant avoid it any way lol . But the days are eve going quicker with me over thinking everything too much tbh ! Let us know how you get on with ava ! Really hope you get your BFP this cycle xxx massive luck and baby dust sent your way lovely xxx

I'm currently watching the series vikings ... doesnt it annoy you these people on TV DTD once and get Pg ... TV .. giving us a false idea of getting pregnant our whole lives... 🤣🤣🙄🙄

@ttcin2020 I know it took so long. I was so stressed with everything after and work were just pulling on the workload that my body was just so over the place. Hopefully you get a reset soon xx

@Renna

I know they make it look so easy on TV ... I get why ur not temping this month but dont u like to see when you have ovulated and see ur temp increase? I like the see that happen because we can have annovulary cycles now and again too and ur temps would tell u if that had happened, all personal preference of course :) xxx

@Hayleylou89 yeahh I liked seeing it last cycle that it went down then up at ovulation.. that was only part I liked lol ... the rest just gave me too much to think about and hated seeing the temp drop before AF too. I guess I feel like if I didnt ovulate one cycle then it's too late to do anything about it any way ... and nothing I can do..so will just give me something else to over think and question if I haven't ovulated or if BBT doesnt pick up on that dip. We said if were still not pg after a couple months maybe do temping again so I'm satisfied again that I am ovulating . But i dont actually doubt I'm ovulating. I saw a dip last cycle the only time I've temped and I've got pg before so think for me the temping made me over think more than it helped. I may change my mind though if still TTC in a few months. Deffo depends how each person feels about it and how it helps you though. I'm glad I did it last month as it reassured me I am ovulating. xxxJust gonna see how relaxing with it all next couple months works for me :) 🤞🌈

@Renna yeah it's so annoying that I'm sure I have an increased sex drive during my period and OH never appreciates a week off 😂 Us women have a lot to contend with. I think you are taking completely the right approach as you know you can get pregnant and if you don't see temp rise at ovulation it doesn't change the outcome at the end of the month and probably just leads to loads more worried days. I'm hoping you catch this month just taking it a bit easier, with less googling and anxious symptom spotting xx

CD1 is here! A new start and I can worry about getting better from tonsillitis/covid-19 whichever I've got without having to worry about a baby too.

@Renna OMG crazy what U out about Vikings haha haha! We’ve also been watching vikings in lockdown and I always say exactly the same thing to my hubby! It’s depressing they are all getting pregnant and I keep pouting every night! It’s so funny you just mentioned it too! lol. What bit are u on? We’re on season 6 episode 5 x

@Renna yeah ur doing what u think is best for you and thats the right thing... i hope this ava braclet does all the hard work for me so i dnt have to think about it and analyses everything while i sleep and just tells me what my bodys doing rather than have me guessing but still have to do my opks until it gets use to my cycle 🙏 x x last time i ordered the old Clearblue fertility monitor to try when we decided to ttc first time and was pregnant before it got delivered back in sept 😂🙈...if only that could happen again with the AVA x

@SmileyT haha same I think it's because you cant have it .. want it more haha .. hope you're lucky this month too sweety xx

@mommybear05 omg how funny haha weve binged it in lockdown last few weeks too. On season 6 ep 3 !! Nearly every bloody episode... 'I am with child '.... after DTD once... 🤣 DH are like yeah sure !!! That bloomin simple .. 🤣🙄 and DH said the other day ... how do they know they are with child so soon ! 🤣🙄 xx

@Hayleylou89 yeahh ava looks good and hopefully it does it all for you 👌 I've considered getting one too , so may see how I get on next cycle or 2 just doing opks only then get one of them if still trying:) so keep me posted how you find it! :) it may happen like that with ava !! 🤞🌈🤞🌈🤞 xxxxx

@Ejb86 How are you feeling lovey? Tonsillitis is so horrible isn’t it? Sending love ❤️

@TerribleImagination Thanks for asking. This is definitely the worst I've ever had it. My face is swollen, I cant swallow. My husband can barely make out what I'm saying. I keep switching from shivering to feeling too hot. Got some antibiotics today so hoping they're starting to clear it.

@Ejb86 hope you feel better asap hun ! Xx