TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

[SmileyT]

I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

Hi, moving over from the April thread. AF arrived today . Was sort of getting my hopes up a little bit as you do as it’s arrived 1 day later than last month. I had some cramping a couple of days ago but was willing it to be from implantation. Also had a sharp prickly feeling a couple of times in TWW that I hadn’t had before so thought that might be a good sign. Had a little cry this morning but nothing I can do but to reset and start again in May.

Sorry to see some familiar names here. Big hugs to all and fingers crossed this is our month! X

@wishingfornumber2 sorry AF got you :( I hooe this month is the month for us all!! I had a wobble this morn too - my friend who is 2 weeks ahead of where I should have been shared a bump pic on instagram this week, another friend announced she is 20weeks this week and AF got me - it was all a bit too much!!

@Mommybear05 amazing news about the bf - fingers crossed this is your month :)

Strange question, but before AF I was spotting for 4 days (I was soooo hoping it was IB!) bit now I don’t know whether the first day of spotting should be classed as AF, or yesterday when it came as the AF i know/expect from my body - I’m so confused! My temp dropped yesterday before AF came in her normal way which would make me think I’m right to assume yesterday was CD1 - but I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Bellabubble I have always read to count from first day of proper flow. So yeah yesterday would be right for you!

@TerribleImagination ah we are decorating too! Keeps you busy doesn't it! I know what you mean about convincing yourself that you are pregnant. I wish the symptoms were completely polar opposite to Pre AF.

@Wishingfornumber2 sorry that you also got AF but you can start trying again soon. Sending you lots of luck xx

@Wishingfornumber2 aw sorry to hear at got you. Big hugs! I was the same with that prickly sensation last month. You can’t help but get excited can you? It’s horrible when you realise you are wrong and get bfn/ af. Sorry to hear it’s got you so down. Have a good cry let it all out and then do something nice for yourself and remember that this could be your month. Looks like we’re all in the same boat. I’m sure your ovulation time will come around before you know it and you can have another go. Take care xxxx

@Bellabubble I am avoiding social media and all that sort of stuff for now. Don’t want to see it I know it sounds harsh but I feel like I’m protecting myself in that way. Try not to look at it if it’s upsetting you.

I would count the full flow as cd1, not the spotting but I don’t know what others think, I’m not experienced with tracking cycles!

Thanks I hope it’s my month but if not that’s ok as well. I’m trying to relax about it at the moment :) xx

Hi hope it’s ok to jump on this post with you all,I had a miscarriage on 6th April approx 6 - 7 weeks starting clear blue ovulation tests after bleeding stopped finally got my static face after 10 days of flashing face so now I’m 1 day post ovulation so fingers crossed will get positive in May xx

@VP91x There really should be some sort of siren that goes off when you get pregnant 😂 Just so you know for sure! Wouldn’t that be nice 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

@TerribleImagination haha imagine 😂 if you just started to glow or something. But, no we spend our time googling everything 😂 we really should get some sort of user manual for our cycles.

@Tink20058 welcome, so sorry that you suffered a loss so recently. How are you? Fingers crossed you have a lucky month to o!! Xx

@Bellabubble Thanks. Yes it’s so hard isn’t it. It seems as soon as you are TTC everyone else seems to be pregnant. Yes, as the other ladies have said, I read the other day that you count cd1 from the day you get a full flow. X

@VP91x thanks. Yes just got to think of it as a fresh start! X

@Mommybear05 thanks, I’m pleased to hear that someone else has had that prickly sensation too. I wonder what it is? Yes at least we are all in the same boat and understand. X

@Tink20058 hello and welcome. Sorry for your loss and I hope that you have good news this month. A static smiley so positive too. I’m sure I missed my ovulation after mc. How do you plan to keep yourself occupied in the 2ww? X

@Wishingfornumber2 who knows what it is? But like all of us I was there googling it.

I’m really trying not to do that stuff this time. When I conceived my son it was the First time and that was it. I wasn’t too sure I was completely ready for a baby but hubby said we should go for it and I’m so glad we did. I don’t feel I ever would have felt ready as it’s such a big change but anyway I came off the pill and had one cycle, we were pulling out. Then next cycle he left it in and that was it. But I had absolutely no symptoms before I did the test. I waited until I was one week past period due date before testing as well and no symptoms at all although I had been off wine and I’d had a cold sore but thought nothing of it. So I would have been five weeks when I got my bfp. Then for a week I had some mild symptoms and then after that the symptoms got really bad.

I think the point I’m making is that I was one week past my period and I had no symptoms last time so I don’t know why I’m crazy symptom spotting this time. I think it’s cos last time I was so relaxed and I was like oh if it takes a while it takes a while but this time I really want a baby soon. I think we put pressure on ourselves and it’s hard not to work all the googling and stuff! I’m really trying not to this time but don’t know how I’ll be with the 2ww. 🙈 xx

@TerribleImagination yeah I do wonder about symptoms, frustratingly up until implantation it's pretty much the same as AF. Sometimes in these threads it's so easy to get caught up in symptom spotting but I didn't have an inkling in my last pregnancy apart from the fact my period was late. I think it's best just to wait until AF is late and take it from there, but obviously much harder when we are all tracking every little thing not to think ahead. X

@Wishingfornumber2 sorry AF got you, hope you've got a few treats in for the first couple period days x

@Bellabubble I'd agree with the other ladies and count CD1 as first day of full flow x

@Tink20058 good luck for this month, hopefully you have loads to keep you occupied in this TWW xx

@VP91x I’m not too bad I have come to terms with it now but it has definitely made us realise just how much we want a baby so I see it as a positive in a way xx

@Tink20058 completely understand. I felt the same after my MC. Glad you are feeling OK xz

@SmileyT Oh definitely. I make a point to never test before my period is due and just try and not overthink the twinges and other ‘symptoms’... Not always as easy as it sounds though 😂 as all of us on here know haha!

@Mommybear05 I was exactly the same! Googling everything this time! Found some pages where people had a prickly feeling and were pregnant and others who weren’t but I was just taking notice about the fact people were pregnant. Also same with my son, was a novice to it all even though it took us 6 months to conceive, I didn’t have any symptoms and just decided to test after a while as I hadn’t been tracking my cycles. Think I will have to try and lay off google this time too! X

@SmileyT Thanks. Yes husband is going food shopping tomorrow and going to make sure he gets some chocolate in! X

Morning ☺️ just catching up with the thread, decided to take a break off social media over the weekend. Still no sign of af and can't see her coming anytime soon 😣
Definitely think a lot of my symptoms are all in my head as when I take a break from all the apps & tracking I don't seem to notice any symptoms 🙄

Hoping to see some BFP's in the group soon!!

@francis05 I took a break as well sometimes I find it easier to not think about ttc and other times I like the support 🤷

I'm coming up to my fertile days so I have started using the ovulation tests again - usually at this time I'm positive that this will be my month but I'm struggling at bit at the moment.
I think it's because I'm on shift today with my colleague who is due at the same time my baby would have been and I'm feeling a bit jealous that it should be me talking about pregnancy plans as well as her ☹️

I'm sure I'll get over it, just feel at bit rubbish.

I hope everyone else is ok x

Afternoon Ladies, AF has finally started properly again. So I am pleased we can start trying again in a few days.

@Quail15 @francis05 agree with you both in making sure you are balancing time on the threads etc. Sometimes you need them for comfort, I am grateful I have you all to talk to 😊😊 xx

Hi I’ve just tested and got this within 2 mins. Only thing is I spotted earlier at 12 dpo. This is a BAD sign as both my prev mc have started this way just not this early

Hey @Jaylou7 definitely a second line there. How was much was the spotting? Is it possible that was a bit from IB?

As hard as this is, please try to keep positive as it might not be like before. Xx

Hi won’t let me tag you. Thank you for your comment. The spotting was only when I wiped and stint spot down toilet but just reminds me of prev mc. Only thing is my periods is never due early and it’s 3 days before my period is due. Saying that my last period was a chemical so god knows what my cycle was x

31days on from the start of my MC, 18 days from when the bleeding started, 14 days from my 'peak' according to the Premom app (I think the around 29 or lower of HCG in my system affected the result), and 9 days from my negative hpt.

And nothing is happening! FRER negative yesterday, no sign of AF (my boobs normally become massively swollen and painful spot on a week before), CM doesn't seem to have changed at all in the last 10 days.. maybe a little increase but nothing very noticeable.

My OPK are getting lighter and lighter apart from the odd one that's slight darker for a day but still showing a faint line.

I know it's my first month post MC, but with this lockdown and the fact I've been off sick for 4 weeks as I'm a front line worker I feel as though I'm going insane and my body is doing nothing.

@Jaylou7 I can definitely see the second line! Sounds like maybe it could be an implantation bleed at 12dpo so fingers crossed for you🤞🏻