3dpo and looking for TTC friends

[Lolliloo1234]

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

Haha we are attempting smep too though I don't think my dh is aware that tomorrow is our 3 days in a row marathon... Will need a week off to recover!!

@Sammyclaire22 😂😂😂 I got a static smiley face on a clearblue today which means I’m ovulating tomorrow. I’m going to give it a rest today because after 3 times this week even I need a break - I still have to work!! 😂😂
Will DTD tomorrow on ovulation day and then will probs give it a rest. I’ve got to trust the Clearblue I guess! I’m having bad ovulation pains today.

Can anyone help?

These are my OPKs. They are all the same and I'm supposed to be ovulating tomorrow / the next day??? Surely that's not normal.
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@mrsmummy111 thought I'd just jump in as I use these opks. With LH you will have a baseline throughout your whole cycle and then you will have LH released and it will peak and then it will reduce back to your baseline so basically the LH tests should pretty much be the same throughout cycle apart from a couple of days when you get your peak, so I wouldn't worry if you haven't seen them gradually increase towards ovulation. I've attached a pic of mine last month, you can see I literally only got one positive and if I'd been testing once a day I would've missed it, then it quickly goes back down to zero. Id also use pics to compare tests as once you leave them out past the 5minutes they will tend to get darker so can't really compare the actual sticks. Hope that helps a little and just keep testing a few times a day to make sure you catch it 😊

Now I'm panicking I've missed it!

Thank you so much @SmileyT for your advice it's super helpful as I've never used these before. I've either ovulated very early or am going to ovulate late because the clearblue test is still not detecting anything - just hope I haven't missed it!! How many times a day do you suggest testing with the cheapies?? Any of anyone's used clear blue is it safe to test once a day with these?? Thanks!

@mrsmummy111 with the clearblue - did you follow the instructions and start using them to test on the day instructed? I’ve not used the pink ones but the blue ones you have to start testing everyday from day 8/9.
If you’ve been DTD already sperm live for up to 5 days so don’t panic if you’ve missed it in that respect. I’d say DTD tomorrow and the next day just in case - your OPKs do look like they’re darkening!

Oh Christ @Lolliloo1234 no I definitely didn't! Just randomly tested today. Ok they only cost me £15 so I'd rather keep trying to use them and waste £15 than potentially miss my ovulation! So I'll keep using them and hope I've not missed it then if no luck, next month I'll use them properly. What a bummer. We have been DTD though so who knows. I'm annoyed really because I was a bit nonchalant about it just assuming I could trust my BBT and always ovulated around the same time as I did when I conceived the first time, looks like I was wrong!

@mrsmummy111 well it maybe be later - cycle one I ovulated CD16, cycle 2 was CD17 and this month I’m bang on CD14 so hang in there - it may still be coming!

I'm 3DPO today I hate the waiting game 🤞🏼🌈

Thanks @Lolliloo1234 always there to cheer me back up! 

Best of luck @BabyDust13 hopefully this month is your month! How long have you been TTC?

@mrsmummy111 thanks May will be our 9th month I'm trying not to let it take over but it's so difficult I had a chemical in Feb and then again at the beginning of April so keeping all my fingers and toes crossed 🤞🏼🌈

@mrsmummy111 This month I did clearblue in the morning and cheapies in the afternoon. I was planning on going to cheapies twice daily when CB had a flashy face (but I went straight to a static smile - peak) 🤷🏾‍♀️ stick in there x

I’m so frustrated today. I’m ovulating today and DP buckled under the pressure and couldn’t. I’m in tears. I just feel like this is never going to happen for me no matter how hard I try. DP is now not talking to me because I’m so upset. Need a virtual hand hold

@Lolliloo1234 sending hugs xxx I’m so sorry that’s happened today. He’s probably not talking to you because he’s embarrassed/ feeling bad as well, he will come round. My husband absolutely hates ‘baby making’ sex even though he wants a child as much as I do. Keep talking to him, the day isn’t over yet!xxx

@Wineandrun he’s now gone to work until midnight. We managed to DTD cd8, cd10 and cd12 so I’m hoping there is a minuscule change that it’ll be enough. I’m so disappointed.
He doesn’t know how to handle me when I get upset because of something he’s done hence why he retreats like this, it’s more of a sadness of his own as opposed to being angry at me.
I’m just feeling so sad. I guess I have to keep reading stories of people getting pregnant from sex before ovulation to try and keep positive.

Oh @Lolliloo1234 please don't be sad. There's absolutely a chance you can still get pregnant from DTD day 12 if you're ovulating today. Everyone always says they end up getting pregnant when they relax and just do it when they feel like it and I guarantee they don't all do it the day they ovulate!

You've definitely got a handhold here though, I know how you're feeling. DH & I have been ok so far this month but last month wasn't fun. He just said he feels like I'm using him for sex (and I promise you, they're words I never thought I'd hear him say 🤣) and he just wants to feel like I actually want to, rather than just doing it because I want a baby. So I've tried to make a conscious effort this month to just make it a bit more spontaneous. TMI - but honestly, he's usually the one that initiates it, but I don't want to have to say "hi, I'm ovulating" so I've had to go a bit out my comfort zone and just try to make it a bit less pressurised for him.

It's difficult for the man because really they are under pressure to perform, no matter which way you look at it, if you're trying to conceive. The only thing you can do is try your best to remind him that you actually are enjoying it and want to do it regardless of TTC. That's the only advice I can give.

Oh and also - there's no shame in trying it on tonight when he gets home. At the end of the day, he wants a baby too - and there's only one way to get one.

Don't let this stress you out or get you down too much. It's not over til the fat lady sings.

Thank you @mrsmummy111 so much, you’ve made me feel much better. I think he feels like he’s letting me down and it makes him struggle with it. He said he’s going to try to get home earlier so we can try again. It may end up being a syringe jobby (we have medical supplies at home thank god due to DP job) but that doesn’t matter too much.
I spent all of my twenties desperately trying not to get pregnant, it’s annoying how tough it is now!

💕💕 thank you again 💕💕

@Lolliloo1234 He sounds really understanding, you're v.lucky. The best thing you can do is once you feel like you've covered all bases tonight - say it's fine, if it happens it happens if not there's always next month. Even if inside you feel distraught that it may not happen this month. Don't let him know that. He wants that baby just as much as you do, unfortunately for him - the pressure is on him rather than you.
Hope tonight does well, sending lots of hugs

Try not to worry @mrsmummy111 as long as you have dtd in your fertile period you are in with a chance.
A few months ago we had the same issue- once we cleared the air it actually improved things between us x

Hi @Sammyclaire22 thanks a lot!
I was on my weekly Waitrose shop earlier today (the excitement knows no bounds) and picked up some of the blue clearblue and took one this afternoon and it was a static smiley. Which is weird...but then I read that if you don't use the first pee of the day it isn't accurate enough to rely on it.
So I'm going to take a clearblue first thing tomorrow and we DTD the last few days anyway, plus will do tonight and tomorrow.
Also sorry for overshare but CM has been really wet today, noticeably so, which I think means ovulation is coming. I've got a feeling it'll be in the next few days or so...fingers crossed!

Ahh good luck! I think I'm due to ov tomorrow or the day after going off my averages so we will be in the tww together

So an update...DP came home early bless him (he genuinely is the kindest, warmest person...I was married in my early 20s to someone AWFUL so he’s a breath of fresh air) ended up having to inseminate using a syringe but that works just as well as DTD so I’ve chilled out. Whatever will be will be 💕 technically sperm live for up to 5 days so I’ve had 3 shots (gaha no pun intended) at it this cycle which isn’t bad.

TWW begins again for me!!

Morning team.
Got my static smiley on the pink clearblue using first pee of the day  so we're back in business.

So glad you got everything sorted @Lolliloo1234, at least you can sit back and know you did everything you could this month. It's out of your hands now.

Do you feel better today? (Ps your DP honestly sounds wonderful!)

🎉🎉🎉🎉 @mrsmummy111 YES! I’m so pleased it turned up. You’ll be busy!! Baby dust to you 💐

I feel much better thank you, I’m a terrible perfectionist and always beat myself up thinking I could have done more/been better/tried harder but this whole baby thing is a marathon not a sprint!!

TWW is almost arriving for you all!! Haha here’s to symptom spotting like mad women for the foreseeable!!