TTC after ectopic pregnancy

[Mumlili9]

Hello I'm hoping to chat with other ladies ttc after ectopic pregnancy with tubal removal. I recently had an ectopic pregnancy and lost my left tube. I don't know anyone who has been through this so I've no one to talk to about this. I would love this tread to become a kind of support group where we can support each other on the scary journey of ttc.

Hello everyone, wondering if I can join the thread. Today is a week since I collapsed At home and was rushed to hospital with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. I was 6 weeks along and I’ve lost my right tube in the surgery. It is the most traumatic experience of my life and I am still trying to come to terms with it. It was my first every pregnancy and it took us a year to conceive.

So sorry to hear of your experiences but I’ve seen whilst reading through the thread that there are some BFP since so congratulations to you. X

Welcome @positivity2019, at the moment I'm sure things feel very raw both physically and mentally. But have hope- I was the same as you, took us 12m to conceive at all and then ruptured ectopic at 6w. Then the next month I conceived my daughter. 2 years on I'm now 7w pregnant again and it took us about 6m ttc with a chemical a few months ago, so please have hope. This time was from my tubeless side too. Plus my husband has a varocele so on paper we are doomed!

The best advice I can offer is to take time to heal, you are grieving the loss of a baby as well as the shock you went through. It's a major event and took me a long time to get my head round it.

Ttc again and getting another bfp are all big hurdles mentally, but this isn't the end of the road. X

Welcome @Positivity2019 I am sorry for your loss. An ectopic pregnancy is truly awful. I hope you have a good support network. Please be kind to yourself. I had an ectopic at the end of last year. No BFP yet. I have two children so very lucky. One in school and one in nursery. Both were hard to conceive. Good luck going forward. Xxx

@Sammyclaire22 @Ivybutterfly thank you for your responses. I do feel utterly heartbroken and that is on top of the physical pain I am feeling from the surgery.
@Sammyclaire22 your story gives me so much hope for the future for sure. I do really hope we can fall pregnant again sooner rather than later.
@Ivybutterfly I do have a good support network thanks. My partner is amazing and bless him he was a superhero last week when I was collapsed in the house even though I know how hard it was for him to see me being driven away in an ambulance without him.

@Positivity2019 sorry to hear of your story. Mine was similar - I too collapsed at home but was able to get myself to hospital but kept collapsing there due to low blood pressure (because of the internal bleeding) I was admitted and had the op the next morning.

It's all very scary and traumatic, you go from planning your life with a new baby to being not pregnant and also have your future fertility threatened!

It's great we've had a pregnancy on this thread as it really does give us all hope. Also to hear that it came from the tubeless side, which is truly amazing!

I'm currently in cycle 4 of TTC since my op in Feb.
I would say take the time you need and get back to trying when you feel ready - I didn't wait the three cycles they suggested, I just wanted to get trying again but I felt physically and mentally ok.

It's nice to have this little group as I don't know anyone in real life who has gone through this! It's great to talk to likeminded people who know what it's like.

I'm currently in my fertile week and since my eptopic have started tracking BBT to pinpoint ovulation and to know my body a bit better. You may want to try ovulation sticks and BBT when you're ready - I find it's really reassuring to see that I'm actually ovulating and to know my body has gone back to 'normal' after what happened. I also figured we could do with all the extra help getting pregnant now so I'll do anything it takes!

Hope you are recovering ok - take time for yourself and grieve then pick yourself up when you're ready and look to the future - you have every chance of being a mummy.

Keep in touch - lots of lovely ladies and support on here x

I took a test. Not this month. 🙁

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Sorry to hear that @Ivybutterfly - stay positive! New cycle - new opportunity. X

Thank you. A bit annoying. Sore boobs and no period but negative test. Oh well, next month maybe. Xxx

Still no period. I think I might test again in a few days.

@Ivybutterfly still in with a chance! How late are you?

I got my bfp this month! Can't believe it 😊

I was due yesterday. I am probably being silly. I don’t want to get my hopes up. Fingers crossed though.

Congratulations!!!! Xxxx

My periods have been early for months. Now this one is over a month. This conception stuff really messes with our heads! 😂

Ahh congratulations!

Fc for you @ivybutterfly

@Springandsummer123 thanks for the message. I’ve used a Ava bracelet since May 2019 and track through that and I also bought the clear blue fertility monitor the month before my BFP. So I am good to go for tracking as soon as we start trying. Like you, I don’t plan to wait to start trying again. Once I have physically recovered I want to get to it. I am absolutely gutted to not be pregnant anymore and I just want that two line on a stick feeling back.
Saturday will be two weeks since the Surgery and that is when we can start having sex again so I will see how I feel. Unfortunately I have an infection in my belly button wound but antibiotics seems to be clearing it up already.
I am grateful for the people in this thread. I feel scared about falling pregnant in the future but oh so desperate to be. I also can’t believe I am back to the grind of tracking and living in periods of two weeks. However, it will be unbelievably worth it when we get our next BFP.

Congratulations @BMWL, wonderful news.

I got my period today. The 2WW is tough. I hope we get pregnant soon. Xx

Hi ladies

@BMWL congrats hun
@Positivity2019 welcome and sorry for your loss. It's taken me until now to really let what happened to truly sink in. Now I'm I'm terrified it'll never happen for me.
@Springandsummer123 I hadn't realised our ops were around the same time , I had mine 18th Feb.

As for me I'm 9 dpo and got a blazing bfn today. So I reckon I'm out this cycle. I don't feel pregnant at all so blah and on to next cycle.

Keep positive @mumlilli9, its still very recent to your surgery and there is absolutely no reason why you won't still be able to have a family.
Did you use a frer? I only got the faintest of faint lines at 9dpo with my frer and I was certain on dates so there is still a chance for this month. I didn't get a semi clear bfp until 12dpo with frer x

Bfn for me this cycle. How are you ladies?

Next month. I have a good feeling. Xx

Hi everyone. I did a pregnancy test this morning, just to check if I was still getting a faint line. It was completely negative so I guess things are nearly back to normal. Finally feel like I’m physically getting back to normal though still quite tired.
DP and I are really keen to start trying again, we plan to wait until I have a period and then go from there. Now we’ve been pregnant once I am so eager to have that special feeling again.
@Mumlili9 they always say your not out until your out so fingers crossed for you. I’m scared it’ll not happen or that it’ll take another year to happen or longer, but I have faith it will for us all.

Ok - so now I'm terrified....

Ahh congrats @springsummer123!