Ttc at 40 something!

[Mumof4andahalf]

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

Hi Ladies, so pleased to have found this thread. I was 40 in January have 2 ds 14 & 3 and desp for a third. So I’ve had 2 chemicals in the last 7 months. I also lost a baby in between that due to medical complications. My last chemical was beginning this month. We tried straight away and today I got a faint pos on first response. There is a huge doubt for me as a this am I spotted a little. This is how my chemicals normally start. My period is due Wed/Thurs. I’m in a bit of a state because my partner is saying that this is the last month he wants to try!! I pray this one sticks but 99% doubtful now. The line was super faint also. I have to get a girl but it’s like an awful waiting game.
I am so sorry for your loses (briefly read the thread) @Chickoletta you seem so strong and positive. Thoughts with you all.
Ladies never give up.
If this is a loss will def get some tests as had none to date. Xx

Thank you both. Being in lockdown with the DCs (6&9) has forced us to put on a brave face and get on with things rather!
Will keep everything crossed for you both this month.

Just caught up with this thread and read your sad news @chickoletta - I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You sound so brave and positive considering - good luck with your next attempt xxx

@lucieloos - we were taking on the other thread I think, and you asked about progesterone supplementation? My LP is short too - it used to be 10 days but the longest I've had since I stopped breastfeeding my twins in December is just over 9 days, so I'm currently using utrogestan to lengthen it in a (fairly hopeless) effort to try naturally while we wait for it clinic to reopen. It does work - I start it the day after ovulation and take for two weeks then test. AF arrives 2 days after stopping it. Obviously if a miracle happens and I get a BFP will need to keep using it to 12 weeks.

Good morning. Have any of you ladies been advised to take aspirin during pregnancy? If so do you personally recommend ?

@Jaylou7 I wasn't advised but took low dose aspirin following my miscarriage, it definitely helped with clots (sorry if TMI)

Thank you. Sorry for your loss x

I was advised to take it for pregnancy. Apparently it helps and has no downside.

Is also told to take low dose (75mg) aspirin throughout my pregnancy

Do you know why it is supposed to help? X

I think any blood clotting disorder that may stop blood flow to the placenta, as well as preeclampsia. But you should ask your doctor, I am no expert!

Being in lockdown is starting to do funny things to my brain I swear! I go so up and down in my feelings about TTC. Partner and I both turned 40 at the beginning of the year, all tests show that I have a decent egg reserve, am ovulating, partner's sperm count on the low end (16mil) but no other problems. We've been trying for a year with no luck. Had one failed IUI so far and not sure if we should try any more or just go straight to IVF.

We actually live in South Africa although I'm British and so the lockdown here is very strict with no new fertility treatments allowed, we haven't been allowed out to exercise for 5 weeks - plus no alcohol on sale! Might not be a bad thing as I do like a glass of wine.

I've read so many different articles on diet and alcohol but I'm never really sure how much impact that actually has. I know tons of friends who drank and smoked and did little to no exercise and fell pregnant easily. But maybe I'm using that as an excuse because I know I should cut down on the caffeine and wine!

I do have some eggs that I froze when I was 35 and so the minute we're allowed to, I am thinking of getting those fertilized with partner's eggs so we can at least see where we're at.

There are some nights when I just lie in bed awake at 3am and feel such total devastation at the idea of never becoming a mother.

Anyone with any failed IUIs that can advise on trying more rounds or skipping straight to IVF? The success rates are so depressingly low over 40.

*with partner's sperm! not eggs. Lockdown has made me insane.

So it’s official but after 2 loses I won’t be celebrating until I see my baby at my 12 weeks scan. X

@Jaylou7 - congratulations! And @loulamay - I hear you. Also trying for first baby (at 41, almost 42). In turns devastated at the idea that I’ve left it too late and terrified that it might happen and turn my life upside down.

That’s exciting @Jaylou7. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Tested (earlyish). No luck this time.

Congrats @Jaylou7! I hope it works out for you this time xxx

@Jaylou7 congratulations!

Thank you 😊

Congrats jaylou

So this month I'm 100% sure I'm not pregnant, ovulation was Tuesday, today I've got really tender boobs - which is exactly what happens when af is on the way.

Dh is also waivering and wants to give up ttc, obviously I have to accept this, in hindsight I think that although initially he felt the same way as me, it's been almost two years now and he wants to move on, I haven't had a pregnancy during that time so I'm not sure what's going on, but in all honesty I'm just devastated, I cried today and feel so sad, Dh keeps asking what's wrong and I don't have the Ability to tell him, plus I don't want an argument.

I hope everyone else is in a better place than me right now, thinking of you all xx

Congratulations @Jaylou7, wonderful news!

@StraightOuttaCamden it’s an absolute rollercoaster isn’t it? Have you had an investigations done?

I’m two days late but so afraid to test after two mc’s last year. Maybe over the weekend, I don’t want to be disappointed with a negative test.

Thank you @StraightOuttaCamden 😊
I lost 2 so I’m very anxious.
Sorry it’s been so difficult for you. It’s not fair. Xxx

Oooh @TheFoz! Keep us posted! @StraightOuttaCamden, I am so sorry you are feeling down. It is really horrible isn’t it? The uncertainty of it all, and the feeling that nothing one does makes any difference to the outcome. I agree with the idea of investigations if not done before - they may help you and DH understand what is happening and how to take things forward.

Thank you @TheFoz xxx

Unfortunately AF arrived this morning. I wasn’t really expecting it to happen this month so I’m not too disappointed.