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Thread for those who are Late for their AF, seems there is a few of us!!

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Ylladyoll · 11/02/2020 08:57

Hi, as you know I am late, i usually have my period CD28 and now on CD34, I've started this thread for others that are late so we can support eachother through this confusing time xx

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EnsignRoLaren · 03/03/2020 07:34

Another BFN this morning, now 8 days late for AF and 5 days later than it has ever been Confused

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Ylladyoll · 03/03/2020 08:48

It's so frustrating being late and not getting a BFP, not knowing as a BFN doesnt 100% mean your not pregnant but talking to the doctor they say wait until you miss your next period, take a test in a week and if your older like me, I'm 43 you get the the whole "perimenipause" talk just try to stay positive, get on with normal things is what I did xx it will resolve itself one way or another Smile

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EasterBunny7 · 03/03/2020 13:32

Not to burst anyone's bubbles but AF arrived today. It seems that all that symptom spotting of 9 days worth of cramps (one sided and then two sided) which I took for ovulation and implantation were completely false! I also had a lot of watery (and then creamy) 'cm' right up to the end, it didn't dry up at all which gave me false hope. I had acne breakout along my jaw early in the cycle, I was constipated throughout, and I spent the month wishing that all of it meant something.

And, it's so very true, when your period runs late and no matter how many negatives you get, there's always a little part that hopes... and that's the hardest part to deal with. So, I'm kind of relieved my period has arrived, a new cycle: a new opportunity. Because, what else can I do but carry on? Sad

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Ylladyoll · 03/03/2020 13:49

@EasterBunny7 roll on all the fun baby dancing and romance xx I always feel better after my period xx for about the first two weeks lol xx

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EnsignRoLaren · 03/03/2020 18:48

Sorry to hear that @EasterBunny7 - a mix of disappointment and relief at not being in limbo, I guess? I’ve had days of cramps now but I have noticed that being more common in the last year or so before AF.

I am assuming I’m not pregnant. Also, having a bit of a wobble that I can’t rely on fairly predictable cycles anymore (though to be fair my app shows 17-29 days over the last year, but I never had anything longer than 29 days until now).

When I thought AF must be due on day 31, we may have thrown caution to the wind 🤦‍♀️, so there’s still that sense of not knowing. Before that it had been a couple of weeks I think, so now I have had BFNs I know it couldn’t have happened earlier in my cycle.

I’m sad to face my own ageing Hmm and lamenting that I need to be much more organised from now on! And I will need to have a frank talk with DH that we need to be more careful.

Good luck to everyone hoping for BFPs - I know just how that feels Flowers

EasterBunny7 · 04/03/2020 17:41

@Ylladyoll and @EnsignRoLaren
Thanks for the supportive messages! I've had the sudden flood of tears here and there over the last few days but for the most part, keeping myself busy and at least pretending to be happy. Wish you both the best on your journey going forward.

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Ylladyoll · 04/03/2020 18:05

Lets all keep in touch xx

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Katbaby · 04/03/2020 19:26

Hope everyone is feeling a bit better tonight. I've decided to book a holiday and just go on like nothings happening (as that's exactly what is happening 🤣)it will happen if and when its meant to! Sure I will go back to my usual obsessive where is my baby ways tomorrow like..

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Ylladyoll · 04/03/2020 19:57

I split with my partner today so no more trying for a baby, I'm very sad but hey ho xx good luck all and I hope you all get BFPs by the end of the year xx

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EnsignRoLaren · 04/03/2020 21:08

@Ylladyoll poor you - must be a shock to go from TTC to that. Good luck

Katbaby · 04/03/2020 21:16

@Ylladyoll! Hope you are okay. Awful to hear that x

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Ylladyoll · 04/03/2020 21:52

It's ok, one door closes another one hopefully opens xx

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EasterBunny7 · 05/03/2020 10:07

@Ylladyoll so sorry to hear that! This not what you needed right now but you have a positive attitude and I wish you well!

iswhois · 05/03/2020 10:25

Sorry to hear that @Ylladyoll that is really rubbish Thanks

EnsignRoLaren · 08/03/2020 07:39

Just updating for reference - day 40 here now and BFN cd38. This is my longest ever cycle by ten days, and 15 days late according to my app.

I am wondering if it could be a thyroid thing - dry skin, cold sensitivity, exhaustion, low mood, joint pain, and a few other symptoms have been around for a while.

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Ylladyoll · 08/03/2020 09:20

@ensignrolaren have you contacted your doctor?

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EnsignRoLaren · 08/03/2020 16:46

@Ylladyoll not yet. Things have been a bit full on at home and work, and with everything happening in the NHS I think they are likely to hold me to three missed periods without investigating. Day 40 so in a week it could be counted as two missed periods for me!

OrganicSmorganic · 08/03/2020 16:48

Hi! I’m 3 days late (usually very regular) and get all sorts of early pregnancy symptoms- watery, metallic mouth, tiredness, nausea, headache, sore boobs, ligament pain, backache, emotional etc

I’ve tested a few time’s but all BFN so far, however history and experience tells me that I don’t usually get a BFP until 3-5 days after my missed period so I’ll test again on Wednesday.

EnsignRoLaren · 08/03/2020 16:49

I’ve also noticed my rings are tighter and I have swelling around my watch strap - oedema was one of the worst symptoms in my first pregnancy! I have a low resting heart rate - 40-43 bpm - am am no longer nearly fit enough to justify that (it used to be in the low 50s). That could be thyroid related too, I think.

EnsignRoLaren · 08/03/2020 16:50

@OrganicSmorganic welcome to the thread! I had quite a few symptoms a week ago but they’ve faded somewhat, except the cramps. Are you hoping for a BFP? Good luck!

OrganicSmorganic · 08/03/2020 17:05

@EnsignRoLauren thanks! Yes I am although terrified of what DP will say as it’s the last thing he wants- 3DC already 😬

Have you had a BFP? Symptoms do tend to fade as pregnancy goes on..

EnsignRoLaren · 08/03/2020 17:17

Ha! Good luck then.

No BFP here though a couple of those awful faint evap lines on cheap pharmacy tests - faint enough that they may not even be there 🤦‍♀️.

And I fell asleep before lunch today! Obviously not quite right one way or another. It is just taking up so much brain power to keep wondering!

Indigo89 · 08/03/2020 20:04

Hi, just joining to see others having similar limbo.
My last 3 periods since they returned (bfing) have been 29 days, 28, 28.
I'm now on cd30, got a bfn on cd29. I've been in a foul mood and snappy with DH all weekend but no cramps to suggest AF is in the way. I wish it would hurry up though as I'm pretty sure we only bd'd once at the end of my supposed fertile week due to working away.

I've got opks and Pre-seed ready to start trying properly next cycle but need AF to get a move on!

EnsignRoLaren · 10/03/2020 07:52

How are you getting on @Indigo89? Sorry you are in limbo too!

I thought I had an answer yesterday on CD41 as I started to see a pink tinge, which AF sometimes starts with. Definitely feeling slightly stronger AF-type cramping.

But nope. 20 hours later and I just have the slightest pink CM. Still waiting.

Katbaby · 10/03/2020 10:45

Thought I'd drop back with a (lack of) update

Cd81 and still no sign of the witch. Last bfn was cd 77.
I've given up and booked a holiday to Greece haha, in the mindframe of it happens when it happens. Nothing I can do except bd!