The Kalahari Bonging School for Men (No1 Babies Detective Agency pt2)

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Hi

i too hate choosing childs name-me and DP never ever agree, last time i got him in the delivery room and he couldn't say no! This time we maybe like Toby, and thats as far as we have got! we will have a boy anyway I like Otto for a middle name but its two short names then, IYSWIM?

Hope everyone well.

I think the name you give your child is really important, it's something I'm always thinking of/looking out for ideas on. I can never quite believe those 'my baby's five weeks old and hasn't got a name yet - please help me choose one' threads. Don't worry about 'pressuring' me to tell kensgirl, I've decided not to be so superstitious anymore!
CD1 here again feel crappy - why do I ever believe that anything other than AF arriving will happen? It's been 21 months wit the same result - someone on here said madness was repeating the same actions but expecting a different result - well that's me today. Why oh why do I let myself believe?

Nomore, don't beat yourself up, we are all the same boat. I think it is natural to believe 'this month could really be the one' otherwise how would we manage to keep going on?

Nomore, I was there again last month, even though s*all action so chances were minute... This month, I know that nothing's happened at the right time again, so no chance again

I also can't imagine not having a name for 5 weeks - even a difficult to name family dog got one in 3 days even though we still might have had to take her back to rescue centre (due to other dog not being remotely happy - all worked out OK in the end). When ds arrived eventually (34hrs plus emergency x as obviously got stuck) it was lovely to be able to say 'Hello ....' to him immediately (and it suited him!)

One problem that I do have is when I meet a child who has a name that I already associate with a dog (you know all the dogs' names in dog walking circles, even if you don't know the owner's!) - at least one suggested on this thread is definitely a dog's name. Also there is a horse's name too (into horse riding when younger - too expensive now as no horse to share and no time)

There are lots of non-standard names about at the moment, whereas we have gone for a very traditional one. In ds's group there are: Fergus, Frazer, Scarlet (x3) Edie, Anton... also know a Zac, Alfie, Archie (that's all I can think of at the moment) Come to think of it, most of those are boys names... ?

ho all- saw my friends beautiful baby yesterday and turned green with envy. I'm sooooooooooooooo jelous ladies! grrrrr!

I hate being jealous- its not like me at all.

i hope my time will come soon after the op. I would be over the moon to put it lightly to be preg by christmas!

Ive started my runnin again to get in shape for my op and pregs!!!!

Talking of manes-

Elizabeth for a girl (libby)
Oscar for a boy.

these have been decide for years by me and DH!

Great names Fifi. Libby is lovely.

Hi all. Gilly, I definitely think it is best to have a long name and shorten, as then you have the best of both worlds. But I do think that it means you need to be careful with the name you choose as you have to like both long and short versions - and the short versions you don't like but the kid will be called at school!

I really like Libby, but not as keen on Elizabeth, plus I have a friend who was nicknamed 'Big bottom Bess' and that has put me off for life! Similarly, I really like Patrick, but could not live with Pat or Ricky as short cuts so it will have to be a second name.

Agree with Sybil- think carefully about what the name could or would be shortened to. DH and I chose names that menat we could decide early on what they would be shortened to. My parents deliberately chose names that couldn't be shortened.

Also bear in mind future child's initials....we could have CGI, CSI, DTI, FYI etc as our surneme begins with I....and we can't have names that begin with certain letters because intial + surname= something very close to bins and penis...

Nobody said it would be this hard!

At school I got grief because if you switched my first and last initials round you got Belly Kicker. Seriously.

Names are a minefield aren't they? You have to think 'now what might a 7 year old think is a really funny insult'?
gilly it's not just you that does the dates thing - DH due to best man in May08, me thinking - ohh, pg by then. you'd think I'd learn by experience - I said exactly the same thing about my sister's wedding (this May just gone) thinking that by then I could have either a baby or a bump and I had neither (that was about 16 months after we started ttc, so not unreasonable to expect) Don't honestly know how I will cope if DSis is expecting before me....

sybil Patrick would also be shortened to Paddy - no end of childish jokes there

Why when I get an afternoon on MN are you all elsewhere? Not fair [sulk]

I was talking to a friend at work who I don't see very often (works on a diff site) and she's pg with 2nd. I said 'when's it due?' she said 'feb - we wanted a spring baby but got pg straight away' AAARRRGGGHHHH!! If only it was that easy. If I'd had what I 'hoped' for I would have had DC1 (well if I'm choosing a DD) at the start of this year and might just about be thinking of when to start ttc for no2. Life's never what you plan it to be though is it? When planning this summer what to do for our summer hols next year DH said 'well if you're pg by then it might have to be closer to home/shorthaul' and I just thought - 'we said that this time last year and look at us, no further forward'

Umm, I am definitely with flosspot on the whole initials minefield, and for a girl you need to think ahead too. My parents gave me the initials P M for for christian names which was great with their surname but just think if i had married a smith, or taylor!!!!!

As it is I have had junk mail addressed to p m t XXX (x being surname) Dh thinks this hilarious and apt...

Nomore, and Gilly, I'm sorry to se its the start of another cycle for you both. Its horrible, and I fully expect to be joining you in a day or two, as I've getting the dreaded cramps. I almost don't know why I bother thinking I will ever be pg anymore.

I know just what you mean about names being such a minefield. I always worry about the initials being putting into word association games. I think I would give a child the longer name and shoten it if you ant to. As you know I'm a nursery teacher, and I often hear nams which are adorable on small chldren, but not so much as they grow into spotty teenagers..
My mum always sai she chose names that couldn't be shortened, and , wait for it, would still be suitable if we grew up to be beautiful or ugly!! She reasons it be saying there is nothing that people will take the p out more than a really ugly woman with a fairy~like name!! We were cursed from birth by our owm mother to be hit by the ugly stick, and they do sy beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

Hi to everyone else!

Flosspot! Really?

Really. Sorry not around today. Lost my soul to the devil that is Facebook. Why???????

Crumbs, I didn't realise my last post was Monday!! Have you missed me

Gilly - I am sorry that it is CD1 for you. Hope you are ok? I know what you mean about setting yourself targets. We know it's not good for us, but we can't stop, can we. ((hugs))
I am glad that you like Cara sadly DH does not - That put an end to that! The move is going ok. Slower than I would like, but it gives us time to sort out where we are going, so I shouldn't complain How are you enjoying life in the Capital?
My friend is very religious and has no middle name, and it might be due to religion. I've never asked her. But I have always thought it was sad that she didn't have a middle name. I think they are important, but then I would only have one that was significant. I wouldn't choose one just because it went well with the first. IYSWIM?
Also, since you asked I would officially use the long name and possibly call by the short version. For example, we like Samuel - so it would be Sam for short. I hope I don't offend anyone, but I know someone who called their boys Billy and Bobby (not William and Robert) and I think it is really awful. I think it is important to have a proper name as your name, and nicknames can be whatever you like.

Nomore - Sorry you are in a new cycle ((Big hugs)). I know exactly what you mean with regards to booking holidays. This time last year we had decided not to book a holiday for that very same reason. We said we'd do day trips etc as we hoped I'd be 'with bump' - I am not sure what to do for the best for next year. We are thinking of Paris
Sorry I wasn't on this afternoon, most unlike me, I had the time too!! Busy sorting out the office, so well placed too. We need a radar system I think Hope you are ok?

Kensgirl - I'm with you, I am not keen on Siobhan either. Although I am drawn to the Irish names. But it is in my blood
That's what I was worried about with regard to teaching real little ones. How do you manage it on CD1??
PMSL at your mum's reasoning on choosing a name for ugly or beautiful

Scorpio - Lovely to see you, hope you are well??

Flosspot - I am with you, I think about the initials all the time. When we were thinking about Olivia as a possibility, DH suggested a J middle name, and I said "No, you can't have OJ" and he said "Our last name isn't Simpson!"... which is true, but I still think OJ would be odd.

Sybil - LOL at PMT or PMS I hadn't even thought about when they go on to get married! Eek. Just something else to think about huh

Fifilou - I am with you, I keep trying to imagine I will be pg by Christmas. It would be wonderful! It's what I want to put on my list and send to Father Christmas now

Mistlethrush - Good for you not going on looks - I do need to stop looking at the pretty things. But I figure, until I actually conceive, I might as well indulge in some less serious window-shopping

How's everyone else??

Crossed with you flosspot - I know what you mean, I seem to have caught the Facebook bug

I too am addicted to Facebook.

Hugs to everyone who have found themselves on CD1 again.

Scorpio hope the wedding plans are going well.

Hi guys, haven't been on MN for ages but thought I'd pop in and see how everyone is going. I needed a break from the ttc and feel better for it, although it is so hard!

I had MC about 14 months ago and ttc for about 1 year now and nothing

Nomore - I can so relate to your not trying to plan hols etc.. I have booked an exotic hol in Dec as we got fed up with not being able to plan things. I also have so many friends who are expecting and they are already planning when they will start ttc for no. two, they just assume it will happen straight away like No.1. It all seems quite unfair at times.On a more cheerful note a friend of mine who has been ttc for 5 years and has had 5 MC has announced she 14 weeks I'm so happy for her!!

Whoops didn't mean to cross post there

I'm a FB addict too! Though not as addicted as MN

Do any of you want to be friends on FB - if it's not bad MN etiquette to ask? If so say so on here (just say yes without giving your name) and I'll CAT you with my name and you can add me to your FB. Please feel free to ignore this if you'd prefer to be anonymous, I just wondered...as long as you keep talking to me on here that is

I'll be your friend nomore. Though no idea how I go about it. So new to facebook I find it all confusing. Or maybe thats an early symptom...here's hoping