TWW Let's keep put minds preoccupied!

[YellowFlower22]

Anyone else in the dreaded TWW? I think I'm around 5/6 dpo...not wanting to look at every symptom in a few days as don't want to get disappointed but i know it'll be so hard!
Wishing this week would hurry, due around 4th Feb. Anyone else around the same time as me?

Going to be hard not to test this weekend but a bit like @SkyBlue20 I don’t want a false negative (or a real one!) and these darn tests are SO expensive it’s literally like peeing on a fiver and flushing it down the loo!

So I MUST hold out until tues/weds and hope AF doesn’t show in interim (I have a feeling she will).

Thanks so much everyone you're all so kind xxx

@SkyBlue20 yes it’s horrible indeed. I usually find it catches me off guard - every time I go to the loo expecting it to be there it’s not, then the minute I forget about it, there she is!! Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you that the cramps are a good sign and not AF!

@burntpinky ‘ramming food down my gullet’, that made me chuckle! Hope you’re feeling a little calmer this eve, maybe hide the kitchen knives just in case OH pisses you off!! 😆

Welcome @RR369

BFN this morning. Feeling pretty crappy 😔

@YellowFlower22 oh no!! But you're only about 10 dpo yeah? Still early! Think positive and test again in a couple of days 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼
I'm trying my hardest to wait to 14 dpo. But absolutely will not let myself cave until at least 12, I've been psycho the last few months so many let downs and so much wasted $$$ lining the pockets of the pregnancy test companies!

@YellowFlower22 so sorry my love - you’re not out until AF here though

@skh197 I was until I have light pink on wiping which is normally sign of AF.

I know I shouldn’t get down, after all, this is only 4th month of trying and there was 1 month where we only DTD once so really I guess it’s 3 months, and I am 41, but it’s so bloody hard not to get down.

It affects flaming everything we are doing/planning. We want to move house but don’t want to be living in temporary accommodation (which I think we’ll have to given what we’re looking for) with a newborn. I suppose on bright side it gives us more time to save and our fixed rate doesn’t come to an end until Aug 2021 but tbh that really doesn’t matter in comparison to having a child.

I just have this horrible feeling it’s not going to happen. And I’m already finding I’m really depressed.

Sorry, don’t mean to be doom and gloom - just bloody sick of the whole process rep when we all spend so many years of our lives trying NOT to get pregnant!!!!

@RR369 we're about the same I'm 6dpo today & AF due not to arrive 9th feb. 3rd cycle ttc #2 but I feel this is the first cycle my body's working properly. Have had cycle back around 5 months still breastfeeding DS. Best of luck 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@burntpinky oh it's the biggest thing though. And so hard not to plan and want to plan life around it!

@Sjp17 thanks chick - I think it’s just so hard when it becomes so all consuming. It’s all I can think about!

Fingers crossed for you, 6dpo is a good place to be though frustrating at the same time having to wait!

@Sjp17 yeah 10dpo I caved I know. I shouldn't my OH got annoyed as he knows how it upsets me 😫 I know there is still a chance and trying to stay positive but i bloody hate all this. Agree with you @burntpinky why is it so difficult?! Years of having protective sex, who'd of known it was so difficult when trying!
We decided to try as both agreed with life there never feels a good time with plans etc so just have to go for it I guess when you can't determine when it happens either you just have to try.
Ps happy weekend girls! Hope you have a nice relaxing one.

Morning all!

Sorry to hear that, @YellowFlower22, but you’re not out until the fat lady sings so to speak, so keeping my fingers crossed for you - could just have been a bit too early to test 🤞🏼

@Sjp17 You can remain strong, I believe in you! 💪🏼 Only 6-8 days to go!

@burntpinky I’m sorry to hear you’re so low, it really is such an emotional thing and can take its toll (I’m only in month one and it’s already on my mind 24/7 so I can only imagine how much more difficult it can get). Can you make some nice fun plans as something to look forward to maybe (a short term solution, I know, but every little helps)?

I’m still crampy, not long awake and husband is hogging the loo so not been to check if AF is here but doesn’t feel like she is (sorry, TMI)! This is 11DPO I think (could be slightly more). Husband and I discussed whether to test tomorrow or wait until Tuesday (assuming AF doesn’t arrive) and didn’t come up with a real answer, I can’t decide!!

@SkyBlue20 ohhh when if your af due? I'd try wait till tomorrow if you can, you sound so calm so maybe you can! 🤞🏼 for your bfp in the next few days! X

@burntpinky haha yeah it is, I'm calm and really positive still, frustrating waiting but I know it's not even a possibility to test for yet so I'm not at the unable to resist the pee on a stick urge stage yet. Entering the over analyse every symptom phase though, 3 days till I have accupuncture again, finding it so calming and grounding so hopefully it gets me thru the crazy last few days fairly calmly 🤞🏼

Thanks @SkyBlue20 I'm feeling more the 6 days to go, we have a bbq at my brother and sister in laws on the Saturday, kinda can't stand her she just makes really rude comments like she doesn't have a filter they're expecting bub #2 atm. Would be so nice to go along knowing we've been successful than to fight back tears or bite my tongue if she makes any comments on the whereabouts of our second. So annoying that people that should know better make comments like this! We're all women we know it doesn't happen the same for everyone! Gah! Soz about the rant!

@Sjp17 Haha I don’t feel calm but I think I’m quite laid back about the testing because I expect AF to arrive, I don’t want to test too early and get a BFN or end up having a chemical pregnancy and it’s our first time around so it’s all just a bit terrifying anyway! I’m leaning towards tomorrow as would be nice to not have to go to work straight after finding out, plus we’re at a gig Monday night so I’m likely to wake up late Tuesday and be rushing around 😂 I don’t know when AF is due as recently off the pill so funny cycles - should have been yesterday if a normal 28 day cycle but obviously no idea what it should be.
Your sister-in-law sounds really difficult, people honestly need to be so much more aware of what they’re saying - I’ve had friends of my dad’s look me up and down in the past and be like ‘what, no news?!’ Like they’d be the first people I’d tell anyway!
Does anybody know you are trying or have you kept it to yourselves? I’ve told my sis-in-law (so by extension I’m sure she’s told my bro-in-law - husband’s bro) but keeping it quiet from parents etc as just too much pressure, don’t want the constant questions and checking for updates!

Just been the loo and full on AF so I’m out (cycle day 25 - annoying!!!). Fingers crossed for BFP’s for rest of you. For those that haven’t/don’t, hope to see you on a thread for next month!!! x

@burntpinky oh no 😢 so sorry to hear! Baby dust for next cycle!

@SkyBlue20 nah we haven't told anyone. My in-laws would kind of have an idea as I've gone back to work casually with the plan of making some extra money to have another so they'd be expecting it to happen sometime soon.

Super annoying huh! We didn't have our first till we'd been married almost 3 years and the amount of people that asked when baby was coming, didn't bother me cos we weren't trying, we were younger and still saving and had a big holiday we wanted to do beforehand, but now I look back so lucky we weren't trying and so many questions about the when of baby like people don't have common sense hey!

@SkyBlue20 when I say in laws o mean parents in law, they look after our son when I work.

Have you had a full cycle since coming off the pill? I'm a 32 day cycle chick, with a 13 day luteal phase, of you're not bursting to test maybe try wait a few more days, so you get a strong bfp 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@burntpinky sorry to hear that! Onwards to next month, filled with new possibility 🤞🏼

@Sjp17 Yeah we’ve been married just over two years and it was incessant the first year especially but we just shut everybody down with a ‘definitely no time soon’ and eventually they stopped asking.
I came off the pill end of Nov(ish), withdrawal bleed straight away pretty much, period early Jan. The plan was to come off the pill, let my body regulate a little and then start trying in March, so I wasn’t tracking anything at all, but then around Xmas we just thought ‘why are we waiting?!’ So we’re a bit ahead of schedule and therefore not as prepared as we could be so kind of winging it through this month. At least if AF does arrive, I’ll start getting an idea of my cycle length!
Honestly, this stuff should be taught in schools!

How old is your first child? How was your TTC experience that time around? X

@YellowFlower22 sorry to hear that, but as the others have said maybe it’s still just a little early, still hope until AF arrives. Am keeping my fingers crossed for you. I totally agree how soul destroying it is to see negative after negative. These days I can’t imagine seeing anything but that, but trying to keep positive. I had the most vivid dream last night that’s I’d just given birth, it was so real that I remember actually saying to myself this is definitely not a dream this time, this is real! The mind and body really can play cruel tricks when you want something this badly.x

@burntpinky so sorry to hear that, and please don’t apologise for the doom and gloom. I totally get it. I’m 40 and like you, I often get so upset by it all that I just can’t imagine it ever happening for me. But as you say, 3-4 months of trying really isn’t long in the grand scheme of things even though I know it feels like it. We’ve been trying for about 8 months but if I’m honest with myself there have been some months where we really didn’t maximise our chances. I’m still expecting AF to appear early next week so I’m not letting myself go near a test until later in the week. I hope you can at least relax this weekend and try to look forward to the positivity of a new cycle and new chance. I hope everyone will stay on this thread or start a new one next month as I’d love to hear how everyone’s getting on and hopefully get some good news!x

@burntpinky I'm sorry to read this and that it's not the month 😔 wishing you all the luck for your next cycle ✨
Let's all keep each other updated will be good to stay in touch

Sorry AF surprised you @burntpinky Please don't lose hope. I think it can definitely take a bit longer as we pass 40 but it will be worth the wait 💐
Hopefully you just tested too early @YellowFlower22 are you sure about ovulation date? FWIW my BFN on CD29, 15DPO is now my healthy 3 year old DD.
Hi @Sjp17 FertilityFriend says I'm 7dpo and due AF 7th so fingers crossed for us both 🤞 I do acupuncture too, next one day before AF. I'm hoping not to test until I'm late.