TTC for the Over 40s

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The first thread I've ever started.

Me age 41 and TTC since mmc in June. Anyone else out there.

How old is your ds RB? We had occasional outings on the balance bike before the last 2 months, but not very sucessful - we had an outing month ago and happened to bump into mother with her 4yo with a balance bike - ds is quite competitive and wanted to be as quick etc so was observant and saw how he was going fast. we had quite an interesting crash at one point, but his bike skills have been going fantastically since that point!

He will be 3.5 in a month's time I think? They definitely copy each other don't they? Now he is at nursery he has formed a few friendships, they cuddle each other and tickle each other then poke each other in the eye. He suddenly started to tell me he was Doctor Who, even though he hasn't watched the programme. I thought, surely they don't watch Doctor Who at nursery. It materialised that one of his, slightly older, friends is a Doctor Who fanatic, and he was copying him when he played.

My ds 2.11. Nursery is dreading tomorrow as his 'best friend' is going to be moving up so that they are in the same group all the time all day - no opportunities to put one or other of them in a different room!

Chuck him in the door and run away!
I'm in Scotland and they don't take them until they are three (and a bit in my DS's case). Mind you, it is every day and is a horrible time slot which means you can't do anything at all with your time until you pick them up again.
I told you he was cautious. He might lift up his feet when he is five.

Not so much 'chuck him in' as watch him disappear without a backward glance or even a goodbye [sob]

I know! My DS didn't say goodbye to me at all to begin with, just ran in and disappeared. Then he decided he didn't want to go after a couple of months, which was horrible. He seemed back to normal just before the holidays though, so we will see how he is when he goes back next week.
Really can't be bothered bding around ovulation time, it feels like a waste of time because of the dodgy tube. I told DP that I couldn't be bothered and I'm sure he found that a major aphrodisiac.

We've had the occasional 'I don't want to go to nursery' which, by the time we get there, has totally gone. The really time is when, at nursery picking up time, he decides that he would like to stay at nursery and doesn't want to come home

What! He didn't want to go home with his lovely mummy!
I'm soo tired today, it was the clocks going forward, I haven't caught up yet. ZZZ!

No, he didn't. Let me tell you, its VERY embarrasing having to remove your 2.something ds from nursery with him kicking and screaming and saying 'don't want to go home, want to stay at nursery!!!'

My local women's hospital told me that they don't have funding anymore - or something as strange - for selective HSGs. How crap is that? How am I supposed to get my tube unblocked

Any way on a lighter note. My neice is with us for the day. She has bought two Barbie dvds one is Cinderalla(?) and the other The 12 Dancing Princesses. She asked me which one should she watch and before I could answer my lovey ds aged 5 (actually 6 very soon) said lets watch the 12 Princesses I love the dancing I couldn't stop laughing to myself esp. when he started to demonstrate. This is coming from a boy whose feet seem almost permenantly attached to a football

That's a bummer about the HSG. My NHS trust didn't even mention that option to me. I think I said before, the doctor said at the time of the HSG that, if I didn't go for the IVF option, he would offer some kind of unblocking for the damaged tube.
Then when I returned for a follow-up consultancy, he said he would not bother to unblock the tube, even if I didn't go for IVF, because it was too damaged and might be a risk for ectopic pregnancy. Talk about inconsistent.
It has really put me off pursuing it, because I am terrified of the risk of an ectopic - I read years ago about a girl dying because it wasn't caught. I don't know much about this, but could you go to another trust or even another hospital covered by your area to ask?
My little boy like to dance as well, I took him to see 'Enchanted' yesterday (VUE have £1.50 ticket for the morning performance) and he was quite embarrassingly 'into' the dancing bits, jumping around like a crazy boy and doing giant, arms extended claps. It was so sweet though. Sometimes, when he is really enjoying himself I get tears in my eyes, it is just so lovely.
Oh, this might be a bit TMI,but I thought it worth mentioning. After I stopped taking agnus castus about a week ago, I increased my evening primrose oil from 1 capsule to 2 capsules (500mg capsules) and I have noticed it has increased the fertile CM. What I mean is it has started earlier than normal. Which can't be bad. Not that it makes any difference with a stupid blocked tube (me not you blessed)

I have just read that back and I meant to say 'my little boy likes to dance' not 'like to dance' - I sounds like Tarzan.
I also want to clarify I meant could you go to another hospital covered by the same trust, not same area. I'm onto my second coffee, so my brain has gone a bit weird. Can't give up coffee - too tired!!

Thanks rowinboat I understand what you mean

So is that it then? Has anyone had a baby with a blocked tube?

I don't know of anyone blessed but that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen - I know of people who have had babies after an ectopic has destroyed one tube tho'.

We really need some good news on this thred, I've been reading so many sad stories on ehre recently.

i agree, we need some good news! i think we need good weather, it will definitely lift up our moods.

just got back from my friend who has a newborn babe, he is such a sweet baby and DS is so sweet and gentle with the baby. makes me even more broody!

i really wish that DH and I had started our family a lot earlier.

I think it is highly likely that I had DS with a blocked tube. Even though they have only just discovered it. I had some procedures before DS that may well have caused the scarring. Also although it was a chemical back in October, I still did get a faint bfp with a blocked tube.
The doctor said, it reduces the chances by approximately 50%, because you ovulate from a different side each time. He did say to still try each time because it is possible that the egg/sperm can still move on the blocked side.
Hope that helps a bit.

Actually I think it is a myth that you ovulate alternate sides. I read somewhere that this is not true it just depends which follicle develops quickest and that can be either side.

Ladies can I join you? I'm 40 and ttc #2 (IVFer)

hi bambi, welcome! how old is your DC1?
how long have u been ttc#2?

i am 42 and have a DS who is 4. ttc#2 since last month, on 2nd cycle now.

Hi Ladies

Can I join? I'm 42 in the summer and ttc another!! Had a MMC last year and, 6 months later, nothing! I have 3 children - 21,19 ans 13.
I ache for another and am too terrified to stop ttc. There is lways hope isn't there?

Hello bambi and undervalued! I am a recnt joiner of this thread too, so welcome. It's nice to be somewhere I don't feel ancient at nearly 41! Undervalued we are ttc number 4 as well - always said 3 and no more, i have been retraining and due to go back to work in Sept. Then we got pg accidentally and it turned out to be a chemical pg; made us (well, me especially if i am honest) realise I want a 4th. This month was 1st cycle of ttc after the cp but period just arrived. I am now armed with a CB fertility monitor...

I'm trying not to go down the CB monitoring route, then I don't have to think about how obsessed I am. I am due my period on Monday -all the sighs are there that it will be on time.
I'm sorry for your cp, we too discovered our need after a surprise pregnancy, then sad MMC.It's hard isn't it? So close and yet so far. x

I know, CB monitor does rather feed the obsession, but tbh we are so knackered and busy most of the time I really need to make sure we know when the best time is to make the effort iyswim! That sounds awful doesn't it - we are really quite good at it when we do but with a night waking 2 year old and a commuting and thus exhausted dh it just doesn't happen as often as it might...probably our age...These surprise pgs are a bugger aren't they, i was all sorted mentally and now totally up in the air. But in a good way i think.

We have a 2 year old at home (long story, don't ask ) Well, he is three this month. He knackers me out - not cos I'm old but because I give him so much attention. There is a lot to be said for older mothers, which I am really. I adore the little man and am so glad he came into our lives.
There is nothing wrong with obsession RL, nothing wrong with it al all. Off to bed chick, speak to you soon.x