ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

[winemakesmummyclever]

Hi,

I hope nobody minds me adding a new thread, but the other wouldn't let me reply.

LadyLush - Sorry to hear about your loss . In answer to your question, I thought I was around 11-12 weeks pg, but the scan said the baby was around 8-9 weeks. When I'd had the ERPC, the gynae reg said the uterus was around 14weeks and the baby was still 8-9 weeks.
I'm sure things do get better with time, but things are still pretty raw and new for me. I'm glad things are getting back to normal for you (and hopefully for others too).

Hi all.

Goingfor3, sorry you are feeling so miserable today. I feel the same. I just passed 3 pregnant women in a row in a really short distance from the tube. I couldn't believe it!

Also, the other day I was on a bus and saw a girl who had been to the same information session at the hospital with me and she was chatting to her friend on her phone about how far on she is and how the baby is fine. It was quite upsetting, although obviously I'm pleased for her.

I bought an ovulation kit yesterday - Superdrug's own brand had a deal where you buy one and get one free so I got that - 10 sticks. As my AF was later than expected this month I don't want to leave it to chance again. I wish I hadn't waited for my first AF to start trying again now. I would have been due in January and it's going to be so difficult if I'm not pregnant again by then.

Lcy, glad you had your scan. I felt better after my final one. Have a great night tonight! Sounds like fun.

Sorry your feeling sad Going43 - i think it is perfectly natural to feel like that and tommorow will hopefully be a better day. It is so difficult to not get bothered about TTC - because we all really want babies.

Hi Tjuice - i think getting the all clear physically also helps with the emotional side of things. Bleeding from the D&C really reminded me of the miscarriage and i also kept worrying that there might be a complication from the operation. So yes - although sad - it has made me feel 100 times better.

Hi,

Had m/c earlier this month and can't face seeing friend who is heavily pregnant. I know she has been critical of the way I handled my grief (shut the door & turned off the phone).

She doesn't understand what a terrible time I/we have all had and says that I should be more considerate as she hormonal .

Has anyone else had similar problems, she is a dear friend but now I doen't know how to face her as I know she is angry at me for not replying to phone call immediately after the event and I am angry at her for judging me .... grrr

All advice welcome........

tbh even on my ttc break it was still all i thought about. i still have to test after every period and we had that brief scary blood test when i was poorly. however this last mc has really messed me up. the last 2 periods have been v odd and nasty. cue much panic from lissie, mr lissie and lissie's doc

oh KD, just explain it to her. losing a baby is awful and i dont think you can understand unless you have been thru it. you havent just lost that baby but you have lost a potenitial life. the feeds, the cuddles, the first smile/word/step, picking a nursery/school/college/uni, their wedding, their first child. those are all thhings that you have been mourning and she must try to understand that

MsG - I was also due in Jan and would like to be pregnant then. Fingers corssed for all of us.

KD73 - It really does sound like you friend could have handled thaings better and everything is much worse when you are hormonal, I really hope you can get your friendship back on track.

Lcy - good to hear everything went well at the scan.

so - what is happening tomorrow???

Thanks for the words of support from all of you guys. We're not anywhere near the ttc stage just yet. We've got a couple of breaks away coming up (one without ds - gulp), so I think we'll use that time to heal and recharge.

Lcy -I'm glad that your scan went as well as could be hoped.

KD - your friend is being more than a little insensitive. You must grieve in whatever way feels right to you, otherwise you will not begin to move forward when the time is right. Lissielou is right - we have all lost a future, it's not just a here and now loss. Hopefully, your friend will come to understand how you are feeling/coping in time.

jules, what a lovely post! would love a real cuppa one day. i really believe that we will all be reading each others birth announcements, the human spirit is a wonderful thing. we cant give up!

second that lissie birth announcements next year for us all 2008 will be a good year

and, (i hate to say it) we will have fun getting there too

Moving post Jules - you are right in all you say.

Lissielou - hugs to your ds

Lcy - glad you have peace of mind now post scan. Have a lovely girls night in - of all of it as I love mexican food, wine and chocolate.

Right - today's meet! Is it happening? I'm all set to get there anytime after 3, but happy for it to be any time, and for it to blend into a post work meet too.

I just need to know what's happening and to know i'm not turning up all on my own

my email is alittlebitshy at googlemail dot com - get in touch, then we can sort meeting and have mob nos for "where are you" purposes!!

Hello. My wife is in bed with a migraine, but insisted I let you know that she won't be there today. Something to do with a cake. Hope this makes sense.

Thanks

Cakefest- I'm still up for it! I can be there at 6. Gilly, alittlebit is that ok?
I have purposefully worn a bright green top and have a bright yellow handbag (doesnt really go but thought I might be noticeable!)alittlebit- I'll email you my phone number

Jules so sorry you're back with us. Sending lots of love and hugs. You sound like you have an amazing relationship with DP which is wonderful.

Hi everyone else- I will read through the posts at lunchtime- I'm getting evil stares!!

of cakefest. have a lovely time ladies
flosspot poor you x

ooh - bright clothes to look out for.....thanks torres
I've got a bright pink smocky top on (and i'll need you to tell me it doesn't make me look pregnant!!! lol)
so 6pm it is. still at otto wotsit?????????
i was worried it wasn't going to happen but, it looks like it is. yay!

gilly?
Herby?

I've got to be at work (in Battersea), until about 6, and then have to go and buy something to wear at a wedding tomorrow. This could be quite quick! So if anyone's still there after 7 or so, I'll see them then!