ttc after mc July/August 2007 - shiny new thread as the other was full

[winemakesmummyclever]

Hi,

I hope nobody minds me adding a new thread, but the other wouldn't let me reply.

LadyLush - Sorry to hear about your loss . In answer to your question, I thought I was around 11-12 weeks pg, but the scan said the baby was around 8-9 weeks. When I'd had the ERPC, the gynae reg said the uterus was around 14weeks and the baby was still 8-9 weeks.
I'm sure things do get better with time, but things are still pretty raw and new for me. I'm glad things are getting back to normal for you (and hopefully for others too).

Munz - really sorry to read about your situation. This on top of the mc is just too much. I'm sure things will work out for you eventually, but in the meantime, all strength to you.

Justjules - I don't know what to say. You sound so low, and after what you have been through, that is entirely understandable. Seeking help in dealing with your losses sounds like a very good idea. I hope your dp will support you in this. You've already been through so much together that your relationship must be under significant strain. Hang on in there - given time, I'm sure you'll come out the other side.

Hope everyone else is OK, and had a good weekend BDing, peeing on sticks, avoiding babies, decluttering or whatever. I went to see Run Fat Boy Run - quite good - no babies involved, just one small child, so a better bet than Knocked Up.

Thats a lovely message gillydaffodil

Flossie F - good choice on movie - I think watching knocked up would throw me over the edge at the moment!

Jules - that sounds like a lovely idea. It was the due date of my first LO today and I spent it out in the sunshine with DP and DSD, and was actually a really good day, tinged with sad, but full of laughter and cuddles all round. Made me feel lucky for what I have as well as sad for what I lost.
I started seeing my therapist again after my MC, and that (with MN) really helps me, I still see her and is so good to have someone there for me to howl at about the unfairness or whatever I want to do, grieve, be scared whatever. I hope you find something useful too. Will be thinking of you tomorrow x

X-post jules - that looks SO cool!

triggles - so sorry about your mc I had mine 4 weeks ago still feels quite raw and painful but hopefully each day I'm getting a little better

Lcy - I found that AF has reminded me of the mc this morning when I got up (TMI alert again) it was quite heavy and seeing all the blood brought it back a bit) but at least I can wear tampons again and in a way I know my body is functioning again so it's not all bad. Still can't get over the fact I was ovulating whilst still bleeding from the mc either.

lissie - best of luck with the move I really hope you have a new baby to put in your new house soon x

TJuice - you could have thrown your designer bags over here seriously though I use dot have a bag habit and now when I look at them it seems a lifetime ago. My bag of choice nowadays is a Samsonite Demin rucksack changing bag, glamourous!

Jules - I don't know what to say to you honey you seem to be so low and suffering so much, I think you need some counselling to sort things out in your own mind. I hope tomorrow isn't too bad for you and you remember your baby in your own way. Men do react so differently to us and I know you said neither of you in right or wrong but I hope you can some to some sort of understanding or common ground, thinking of you x

munz - what can I say? I'm so so sorry about you and your DH you so don't deserve this, I hope you stick around MN don't want to lose touch, take care of yourself and your little man x

we went shopping today actually bought myself some clothes for a change although I hope they don't fit me soon. Was doing OK until I saw a double buggy with newborn boy/girl twins in it why do they have to make them so cute and it's not like I'm not already pushing a buggy argh???!!! what is wrong with me?

jules - that looks fab you would never get me doing it though I'm too scared but good luck and let us know how you get on

mccheser and triggle sorry about your losses

I have had 2 expectant management m/c (waiting for it to happen naturally) and one medical (erpc). I would always go for the latter if in the unfortunate position of ever having to make such a decision again. I liked the fact that it was clinical, quick and clean (no big blood loss, no passing of sac etc)and that I was knocked out while they removed it. The GA was a blessing ime because it gave me an hour where my mind could have a break from the torment of knowing I had lost another baby. The only thing I found difficult was the opiate they gave me for analgesia. I felt strange and didn't like it. Obviously you need to make up your own mind but that was my experience anyway.

Period finally here so have started 2nd cycle ttc.

justjules - have a great day today , sounds like it will be fun!

Munz - really sorry to hear about whats happening to you.

I'm feeling really frustrated today. I'm using opk's and temping, I got an opk+ about four days ago but still no temp rise so I think I probably haven't ov'd this month. I take my temp again tommorow and then may aswell lose all hope for the month.

hi all of you, hope everyone is feeling ok.

Jules enjoy your day today, ill be thinking of you swinging from trees later lol

Im off to the hospital at 1:30 so i may or may not be on later

roll on sunday (official ttc day 1) YAY!!

Hi All - I'm back from hols. Have had a really lvoely time. VERY lazy... I don't think we've ever spent 2 weeks doing nothing before. It was ace. Slightly marred by arrival of AF on last day (had been convinced I was pg as on CD28 I almost threw up and couldn't eat lunch. As it turns out, I think it may have been teh free ouzo the night before ) so have now been officially ttc since m/c for a year - woo hoo - break out the champagne, hang out the bunting ... .

Have had a skim through to try and catch up.... but have bound to have missed something...

Munz/Pip - whats happened ?? Will try and find your other thread ?

Jules - sorry you're back here and hope today (think its today that would have been your due date). Thinking of you. I thought I'd be ok on mine but I lost it a bit for the whole week - I went out with my mum and we had a lovely day, I bought myself a necklace which will always ahve a special meaning.

Sorry to see lots of new people here - hope you don't have to stick around long...

Torres - WooooooHooooo ! Very pleased for you. Please take care of yourself and try not to worry....

Any other BFPs I've missed ?

Popsy - we'll miss you but understand totally about the real life thing. I made a decision on hols that I am fed up with planning my life around an event that we have no idea when (or if) it will happen so no longer won't say 'don't know if we'll plan that because I might be pg' etc etc. So, have told dh we're hypothetically planning a skiing trip as we missed this year as thought I would be pg. We won't book anything but book a week in our head and then get a last minute deal nearer the time. Am going to lose some flab and get fit (no well there's no point, hopefully I'll be pg soon thoughts) and generally get life back on track. We've just had some work started on house (new kitchen, main bathroom, sorting out a couple of bedrooms, decorating hall) so that should give us a kick start.

Lissie - the course sounds a great idea - good luck.

Kensgirl - good news on your all clear - thats fantatic news....

Ladylush - sorry about AF - is your appt at the m/c clinic coming up (remember thinking it was jut after I got back from hols) - how you feeling about that.

Glad the cake fest went well - I'll try and make a future one if I can.

Hello everyone else - Gilly, Sweetkitty, Herby, ronshar, floss, littlebitshy, ellie and everyone...

(Let me know if I've missed any other major news in my skim through)

hi all, Af made a surprise early visit yesterday to back to cd2. Was really hoping to be pg for end of month, the edd of my mc was then but unfortunately am going to have to face it without the crutch of another pregnancy.

Feeling a bit cheesed off with the whole thing today and think I am going to start taking a leaf out of wheelies book, getting back in shape, booking hols, etc that have been putting off 'just in case'.

Morning all-

justjules- thinking of you today. Hope hugging the trees help

Munz thinking of you too

Goingfor3 don't give up hope. I got so fed up of not ovulating regularly I gave up temping and opking. Am now ready to go back, and newly determined. Mayb a break will help??

I made it through the weddings, thank God. Thursday was easy, as no kids at all. Saturday was so much harder. I had no choice but to talk to hugely pregnant lady from DH work (! year old and one on the way!!!), hugely smug new mum from DH work, newly pregnant woman who got married a few months ago, and pregnant friend who is due when I would have been. She was even sitting on our table. The day was very hard and I struggled with tears. Itgot to about 9.30pm though and DH suggested we go home because I had had enough to deal with. I was so happy. Ended up going home and bding.

Fingers crossed something good will come from a really tough day!!!

Hi girls, need some advice please, i had a m/c end of June, my period arrived 5 weeks after and was normal about 5 days long. It has now been 6 weeks since that one, is it normal for my cycle to get longer rather than shorter? I was always regular before m/c and fell pregnant first mnth of ttc! I have taken pregnancy tests and they are negative, could i still be pregnant though?

duvetwoman - none of us on here can answer that for you unfortunatley. If you think you might be pregnant then go to your gp for a blood test.

Hi duvetwoman. After my last m/c in March I found my cycles all over the place - one would be six weeks, the next three, etc. They'll settle down soon.

hello ladies

Congrats on the bfps - esp Torres my cakefest buddy!!!

Floss - well done on getting through the wedding. What a lot of pg women you had to face. I feel as if everyone is pg at the moment though luckily i never have to face more than 1 at a time.... so far.

Jules - oh honey, i'm sorry about all you've been through - but for today......how cool is that tree clibming thing!?!?

wheely - hey there. glad you had a good hol!!!!!!!!!!!!

duvetwoman (cool name!) - someone more knowledgeable may be able to confirm/tell me i'm talking rubbish but i'm pretty sure that anything goes after m/c. cycles can be all over the place for a while, so don;t panic, just hang in there

Munz/shags/pip - ((((hugs))))

argh - who else???? am not v good at this catch up thing - i lose concentration after a while but don't want to offentd anyone by not saying anything to them....

I've realsied i never came back after my myserious cakefest message . sorry. i meant to. It was fab as the other ladies said!!!!

I'm on cd 18..... (30 day ish cycle) so we've been bd with intent! lol. i'm never quite sure when i ov but it's between about 15 and 19 i'm sure. lol. i meant to use the ov predictor sticks my friend sent me (along with loads of pg tests - cos she got pg first month so had no need for her stash lol) but day 13 when i needed to start testing passed.. so if i'm still standing next month i'll do it then!

dd is back to school and is so proud of being a big girl in reception. I'm so sad that my baby is back at school again, and is a big girl while i have no actual baby Am pondering about going back to work but it scares me sh*tless. I deliberately didn't look for anything in Jan when she started school ful time, cos I was not wanting to change everything immediately - she and we needed stability lol and then i got pg and thought it was all sorted, and baby would be coming so it was pointless to look for a job, but now i panic that it'll be years before i manage to have a successful pregnancy. But on the other hand i have no clue what i can do as a job now. Yes i'm all qualified in a profession but it's been 5 years since i worked full time (i do one eve now) but do i want to go back to that kid of work? could i? and the chances of getitng a job that fits in school hours are pretty low really....argh. just making me more stressed.

I am always checking in ladies, but if i'm not posting its not that I'm not engaging, more that i either have too much to say that i don't know wheere to start so don't....
or else that i'm feeling a bit like Popsy and wanting to think about moving on, but not being as brave or as sorted as popsy it's not fully happening yet... so i think i'll stick around and see how it goes!

hi herby!

Just a quick message to let you all know that I've had a bit of a set back in the TTC department. Had a scan this morning to check that everything was gone following the medical management, and was informed that it hasn't. So I'm going in for ERPC this afternoon. Big pile of arse. Only opted for the highly unpleasant medical management to avoid surgery, and completely failed to do that. Don't want to waste any more time though, so ERPC it is.

Would quite like to cheer myself up by stuffing my face with Liquorice Allsorts, but can't even do that because of the surgery. Double arse. Will send dp out to get supplies in for afterwards.

Anyway, I'll quit moaning, because so many of you are having / have had a far worse time than me.

Justjules - your plan for the day sounds excellent. Hope it goes well.

Duvetwoman - only just had first mc so can't offer any comments on the regularity of cycle question. Sorry!

Hello people I haven't heard from before, and everyone else, and as we say in Birmingham - ta-rah for a bit.