I thought, if its ok with you all, to give my 2p just in case someone like me was in my position and frantically googling for answers.
I really wanted to mc at home naturally. I got the scan about my mmc (no fetus tiny sac and yolk only) on the 30th of July with no better news the next monday's scan (no growth) and a bit of spotting shortly thereafter. For the next three weeks I set on the couch waiting and nothing happened but a bit more spotting. I went back to the EPA and asked to go forward with the medical mgmt. Bare in mind that I have nightmare periods so figured would be ok with pain and blood.
Sunday I went to hosp to get the pills it was just cramps and a some red blood w/ medium sized clots. I went back to hosp on Tuesday at 8:30am, had another scan at 10 am and went ahead with the pessiaries to start the labour and suppositories (the nurse let me do that myself to let me have what was left of my diginity). She set up a cardboard bedpan in the toilet that I had my own room.
One hour later it was pretty hard and heavy cramping with heavy bleeding like I've never had before until about 6:30pm when I finally passed the sac and tissue. They kept me in until 8:00pm to make sure that the heavy clots and contractions were over. Otherwise the gyn would have checked me out to make sure there weren't any products of conception still stuck in the womb.
I went home limp and managed to dope myself up and get on a plane to the states to see my mom and family. I bled on and off for two more weeks and finally stopped completely on sept 1st.
I chose this option as it gave me the max time to allow for travel, otherwise it would have been a ERPC the day before the flight. I was freaking out and wanted to see my mom so I did what I had to do. The hospital nurses were really good to me. I had my own room and my DH to keep me sane and make sure I was getting the drugs in a timely fashion. You must have a partner or close friend, bring comforting things, lots of water, and snacks and things to read. I was also told this method would allow for us to TTC after the next cycle. The ERPC recommended 3 cycles wait. The med evac is humbling and you will need the support.
I didn't dare say a word about any of this before but now I know that sadly many will have to make this decision. It messed me up really badly for a while, but I feel myself thawing out. I cried thinking about chucking out my maternity clothes. I'm still in this game damnit. Roll on October
Anyone know if I have to go back to the hospital to get an "All Clear" ? I'm just kind of sore still. Thanks so much for listening and letting me share ladies. I hope I didn't go on too much.
SK- I hear you about being hit hard and people can say the most insensitive things. I'm in Glasgow if you need anything or want to chat. We don't have any kids yet so can help at any time