TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

This is the thread for those of us in the TTC after loss penguin huddle who want to try to eat a more healthy diet, exercise more, lose weight or just feel better physically this year
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@MrsMGE @Avocuddles @MissSparkles81 @SunshineCrocodile @Mumlili8 @VenusStarr @SunStruck

If I’ve missed anyone please tag them

How about we start by saying what our goals are whether that he the number on the scale, doing more exercise or just feeling better about ourselves?

I’m BunnytheBlueWhale (NC recently - see TTC thread). I’m 35 and probably weigh about a stone more than I’d like since I had my stillborn daughter in February. I don’t need to lose weight massively but having post-baby weight and no baby is a bit rubbish!

I’d like to lose a bit of a weight all over and also target my belly with brushing, moisturising and maybe microneedling at home...

I eat a lot of sugary snacks so want to massively reduce those and also try to take a healthy lunch to work to stop me spending so much money on food!

@MrsMGE I know but I’m very much a planner and like to get things in the diary or be quite prescriptive about running / gym / yoga X times a week and I’ve been trying to do that this month and we’re nearly on Feb so ... I might still do it in Feb so I have something to focus on but maybe not too much pressure eg 1 run, 1 walk, 1 yoga and then anything else is a bonus 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel better when I eat well and exercise but if I don’t feel like a run then I don’t feel like it...

@BunnytheBlueWhale You'll have to book your classes in advance anyway, so there's your planning bit done. Add running in between whenever you feel like going. Like you said earlier it gives you freedom.

@MissSparkles81 That's a tough one if someone cannot see that the best option for the sake of everyone would be to reach an agreement sooner than later. Hopefully your DPs solicitors will be sensible. It tends to be easier to drum out a sensible settlement in a difficult matter when it's dealt with by professional advisers. Keep the faith both.

Enjoy your swimming session today 😊

Happy Sunday, girls 😊 xxx

@Shefliesonherownwings what a difficult meeting for you and DH to have gone through - you are living a parent's worst nightmare and to have heard that they could have done more for you and for Isla must have been indescribably awful, I am not surprised that you are angry! It is really good that you voiced your thoughts - I am keeping everything crossed for you that the upcoming investigations go well (as well as these things can, I'm so sorry) and that you and DH are supported. I hope that restorative yoga is helpful this afternoon - don't feel bad about ducking out if you need to x

@MissSparkles81 - don't be hard on yourself, you've had a very tough week. I hope you enjoy swimming today x

@BunnytheBlueWhale I am not sure daily yoga is for me either! You are doing really well with everything else, from the sounds of it - particularly the running. I know you mentioned that next month will be tough for you, as it's DD's birthday - I guess do what you can, take it day by day and don't be hard on yourself if you don't feel like working out / do feel like eating chocolate etc some days, you have gone through so much as a bereaved mum and are doing the very best you can in this awful situation xx

@MrsMGE Happy Sunday! 6lb?? Woohoo! You have made me and Heather very proud, thank you kindly kind regards I'm glad your eczema has cleared up - I am going to give your Zumba workout a go this afternoon.

Excepting Zumba I don't really have any plans today except for a stroll to the shops - DH and I are having a roast dinner later on which I am quite excited about, it's been ages since we made one at home

@Shefliesonherownwings what a difficult meeting for you and DH to have gone through - you are living a parent's worst nightmare and to have heard that they could have done more for you and for Isla must have been indescribably awful, I am not surprised that you are angry! It is really good that you voiced your thoughts - I am keeping everything crossed for you that the upcoming investigations go well (as well as these things can, I'm so sorry) and that you and DH are supported. I hope that restorative yoga is helpful this afternoon - don't feel bad about ducking out if you need to x

@MissSparkles81 - don't be hard on yourself, you've had a very tough week. I hope you enjoy swimming today x

@BunnytheBlueWhale I am not sure daily yoga is for me either! You are doing really well with everything else, from the sounds of it - particularly the running. I know you mentioned that next month will be tough for you, as it's DD's birthday - I guess do what you can, take it day by day and don't be hard on yourself if you don't feel like working out / do feel like eating chocolate etc some days, you have gone through so much as a bereaved mum and are doing the very best you can in this awful situation xx

@MrsMGE Happy Sunday! 6lb?? Woohoo! You have made me and Heather very proud, thank you kindly kind regards I'm glad your eczema has cleared up - I am going to give your Zumba workout a go this afternoon.

Excepting Zumba I don't really have any plans today except for a stroll to the shops - DH and I are having a roast dinner later on which I am quite excited about, it's been ages since we made one at home

@tortiecat I did that Zumba yesterday and it was hard! Top tip, it's really good because one of the trainers shows a lighter version of the moves so you can follow her instead if it gets too much. I did that for part of the workout, I couldn't follow all of the moves otherwise. It's a 20 min session and she sats she does 60 min sessions, I can't even imagine how much you burn in 60 mins, and how you can keep going tbh! 20 is enough and it made me burn 250+ calories yesterday, it was brilliant.

So I went to the gym today and had to stop as I had a back muscle spasm. I've never had anything like this before, extremely painful and I nearly fainted. Luckily DH was with me and brought me home. I couldn't move, honestly never felt the pain like this before. DH gave me a massage and showered me (bless him) and I'm now in bed on ibuprofen with a pack of ice. I'll be watching tv all day haha. I have no idea what's happened, it wasn't a particular move that's done it, I think I slept awkwardly and it's the combination of that and the weights exercises I did today. Safe to say I should have stuck to my usual routine haha 😂 Oh, well. I hope I'll be able to walk around fine tomorrow xxx

@MrsMGE Oh no, that sounds awful but sounds like you were well looked after by DH! Do you think you’ve overdone it a bit or not warmed up or something? You’ve been doing a lot of exercise! Maybe take it easy this week xx

@tortiecat I have an easy day too. DH is going to be out and about so I’ll be home alone for a few hours. I’d go for a run but it’s raining a lot at the moment so we’ll see and he’ll have the car so I can’t go to the gym. I need to clean the rabbits out though and that is a workout! It’s like mucking our horses!! 😂

I am tempted to try the daily yoga again but I really just found it boring! Unless there’s another channel on YouTube that I’d prefer. I like the idea of trying some exercise evey day first thing in the morning but not a run as I’’ll shower after but not wash my hair before work. I used to like Blogilates so might try that instead or maybe mix it up and maybe try to do at least 20 of something everyday like yoga, blogilates, abs...

I think with the anniversary it’s a bit of a source of anxiety and maybe trying to stick to normality, but without putting too much h pressure on myself, is the best thing... It’s just incredibly sad. I always planned to have a big family 1st birthday party for her (well always wanted that for my child when I had them) and I can’t believe that year has come around so quickly and she’s not even here!

I’m ok today though. Bit tired although my tomtom watch says I had 8:42 hr sleep!

@BunnytheBlueWhale Thanks lovely. I woke up today with an achy back. I had no issues with it whatsoever beforehand. I definitely slept awkwardly and tbh had I done some stretching before exercising today maybe it wouldn't have been that bad, but I didn't. Silly me. Lesson learnt, I'm not a fit 18 yo anymore!

I'm glad you slept well, I remember you said before you had some trouble sleeping. Do you actually have rabbits?? How cute!

What's blogilates? Is it like pilates? I was going to suggest pilates rather than yoga, I'd find yoga at home really boring. Short exercises in the morning are definitely the way to go! Xxx

@MrsMGE ouch!!!! you poor thing! This has happened to me once before, last summer, when I tried to do an intense fitness yoga workout from cold (and being several pounds heavier, and having done nothing for months previously) - I am cringing at the memory! How lovely that your DH was so good to you - hope it improves throughout the course of today, stay in and entertain yourself with the cats (and vegete-pals, if you have any sticky eyes lying around..?)

@BunnytheBlueWhale following the Rudding Park convo, I know we live fairly close to each other - the rain is coming down in sheets! I need to find my umbrella! My heart aches for you - it's unbelievably sad and beyond unfair that your beloved DD isn't here with you for her birthday, I wish that things had been different for you. Just do what you need to do to get through the next month xx

Thank you @tortiecat 😊 Sadly no sticky eyes, but you've made me laugh! And my back didn't hurt, success! 😂

It's miserable down South as well, rainy and cold, so I feel better about staying in bed all day 🙌 My dog is cuddled up in bed next to me and the cats are munching away now, but they'll probably come for cuddles soon. Loving this duvet day xxx

@MrsMGE Bloglites is a Youtube channel with a woman called Cassie (I think?) and it is pilates based. It’s been going for ages and she does videos on different things and she also does the 30-day calendars and stuff. She’s quite good and I don’t think I’d find it boring.

This is the website:

www.blogilates.com/

but I just watched her videos on YouTube (probably a few years ago now)

I’d wanted to do yoga for the mindfulness / relaxation aspect but I found it so boring that I wasn’t relaxed at all and was wishing the sessions away so pilates might be better.

I have two rabbits, a black french lop, and a brown and white rex (he has fur like a soft reddy bear). They lived in the house at one stage but they are in the garage now which is warm enough for them while not making mess in the house! They are about 3 and a half years old bunny 🐰🐰💕

@tortiecat Thank you. There seems to be a few of us near one another. The rain is not great for cleaning out the bunnies or for running later but it looks like it might stop around 4 so I might be able to get in a short run before it gets dark.

This is my black French lop looming quite distinguished in the garden

And my rex. He’s a little smaller 💕

@BunnytheBlueWhale your bunnies are gorgeous!

Thanks @tortiecat I just spent well over an hour cleaning them out but they’re very sweet and I love them. When we first moved here, after we lost DD, and DH had just gone back to work, the black one used to keep me company in the house 🏡 and it helped a lot to have a little friend in the house. He had a spot at the top of the stairs where he liked to sleep 💕

Might not have energy for that run now though 😬

Oh by the way the DE bar was not as good as the balls, as predicted, but nice enough for a healthy snack!

@BunnytheBlueWhale They're gorgeous ❤️ I had a gorgeous cat that was my closest companion when I was going through the MMC. Sadly she passed away days after and I was crushed to bits. I still cry every time I think about her, miss her so, so much ❤️ They are our babies and family members, definitely xxx

@tortiecat thank you. We're still reeling from it all but I'm glad we do have some answers even if it's hard to hear that more could have been done.

It's been a pretty unhealthy weekend food wise. We went to 5 guys yesterday and had ice cream at the cinema. We saw The Gentleman, the new Guy Ritchie film. It was good, we enjoyed it.

I went to the yoga workshop today. It was nice, very serene and peaceful. I struggled to relax and switch off but it was a nice couple of hours with tea and cake at the end. I'd like to try some more yoga like that so am going to look into a few classes. I've also booked into some spinning and LBT at the gym this week and still try to get back into healthier meals. Here's to a healthy stress free week for us all.

@MrsMGE I think our furry friends can be such a comfort and DH wants a dog but I don’t want any pets in the house at the moment. So sad that your cat died. Weirdly the cat from across the road used to come over a lot when I was on maternity leave. She would just come in, even came to sleep one night, but never ate here. She died not long after that and was only 3 I think. Sometimes I think they know when we need them xx

@Shefliesonherownwings Sounds like a nice weekend with the burger and the yoga 😬 Eating healthily is not the most important thing. Sometimes it can make me feel better. Other times I just need to indulge and try to enjoy myself. This has probably been the hardest year of our lives so we need to go easy on ourselves x

Oh I meant to say I’ve been tracking steps with my new found watch and I’ve managed it do nearly 13,000 steps so far and haven’t left the house! It must be down to housework and mucking out the rabbits!

Is this thread open to Newbies?

I am 27 years old, been TTC for 19 months now. (I have irregular cycles and ovulation comes rarely so it's been impossible to conceive)

I Conceived in december but had an early miscarriage 2 weeks ago now at 6 weeks pregnant.

I am feeling alot more normal and positive about the next steps in my journey than I did this time two weeks ago.

I need to lose a stone and a half to be at a healthy weight and I have just joined WW to help with that. Fingers crossed I can keep it up!

I want to feel good in my body and gain some confidence and self-esteem!

I vowed 2020 would be mine and DP's year... so far it's been 💩 crap but hopefully the next 11 months will bring some good news and happiness!

Hi @EssJayyCee I’m sorry you’ve had a tough time but this is a really lovely group which started as a sister thread to the TTC after loss penguin huddle thread (linked further up) and you are welcome on either / both threads. I think focussing on healthy eating and exercise is a really helpful just to focus on something other than TTC and your loss. I really hope 2020 has some great things ahead for all of us xx

@BunnytheBlueWhale You're on fire, girl 🔥 13k if you didn't go out out is hell of a result. I did 2.5k yesterday because of my back and felt physically awful. I'm in the healthy routine now and I didn't enjoy doing nothing at all. Pleased to report I'm much better today, my back is not right yet, but I'm getting there. Cancelled my dance class tonight (devastated) as Beyonce moves would have been too much... but I'll go out walking on my lunch break and maybe after work too. Get back on it gradually!

I weighed myself and I've put on a bit, however I'm around 3 days before AF and feeling the bloat is coming on. Very crampy too since about 5-6 days before AF so it might be making an appearance early. I feel like the mother of all AFs is coming 🙄

@EssJayyCee Welcome 😊 It sounds like this is the perfect thread for you, we're all mummies who lost their babies and are trying to get better physically and mentally. It's a warm and supportive place encouraging to do your best, even the smallest positive step, every day 💞 xxc

PS - I had my smear test results back and everything is fine 😊 I'm so happy. Getting back on the TTC bandwagon trying not to talk too much about it not to pressurise myself...if possible in Feb 😊

Happy Monday, girls ❤️ Let's all have a healthy week! Xxx

@MrsMGE Thank you! I think that was quite good for not having left the house / garden!

Don’t worry about your weight. You could weigh yourself in an hour and weigh less (I’m not suggesting you do that!) Great news about your smear. Good to have the all clear!

Hope everyone else is ok

I just read about the introduction of Jack's Law in April 2020 (i.e. the right to paid bereavement leave for parents who lost a child including parents who suffered stillbirth after 24 weeks of pregnancy). Whilst this is a step in the right direction, I can't help but feel really angry that the entitlement has not been extended to parents who suffered a miscarriage. Not only is this quantifying parents' grief by week of pregnancy, which is wrong in principle, but also a wasted opportunity to finally start a proper public dialogue about MCs. As always, they've brushed us under the carpet and for a good few years nothing will happen now. I am frankly fucked off. Somehow New Zealand can draft some decent legislation, but the UK apparently cannot.

Sorry about the rant, I had hopes to finally see some progressive legislation, but this doesn't even scratch the surface.

Xxx

@MrsMGE I feel similarly. I definitely think that miscarriages ought to attract at least some paid leave on a statutory basis, as employers vary so hugely in how they treat women prior to a 24 week loss. Partners need consideration too. Has the NZ law actually come into force now? I might write to my MP about this, I do feel strongly about it.

I'm glad your smear test results came back clear. My AF has arrived today! I am not as devastated as usual, like I said it would have been a miracle had we conceived. I have suffered very little this time with PMT symptoms (normally I suffer horrifically each month with bad bloating and very low mood and irrational tears) and having other things to focus on meant I didn't symptom spot at all! Bring on the pre-seed this month ha ha x