TTC after loss penguins get fit & healthy in 2020

[BunnytheBlueWhale]

This is the thread for those of us in the TTC after loss penguin huddle who want to try to eat a more healthy diet, exercise more, lose weight or just feel better physically this year
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@MrsMGE @Avocuddles @MissSparkles81 @SunshineCrocodile @Mumlili8 @VenusStarr @SunStruck

If I’ve missed anyone please tag them

How about we start by saying what our goals are whether that he the number on the scale, doing more exercise or just feeling better about ourselves?

I’m BunnytheBlueWhale (NC recently - see TTC thread). I’m 35 and probably weigh about a stone more than I’d like since I had my stillborn daughter in February. I don’t need to lose weight massively but having post-baby weight and no baby is a bit rubbish!

I’d like to lose a bit of a weight all over and also target my belly with brushing, moisturising and maybe microneedling at home...

I eat a lot of sugary snacks so want to massively reduce those and also try to take a healthy lunch to work to stop me spending so much money on food!

Hi All, sorry I have been v quiet for the last few days. It has been manic at work and I have been very, very stressed. I am trying to focus on what is really important in life - including making time for things so I can stay happy and healthy, I haven't eaten much sugar at all - but it's tough at the moment, and I am tired and grumpy.

@BunnytheBlueWhale I really feel for you. It's my time this week but DH has a bad cold / man flu and so it's not happening (plus I am stressed out, so it's hard to feel amorous anyway!) We've scrapped about DTD before as well-he is confident that my getting pregnant again will just happen, he is not the one who is absolutely devastated each month when AF arrives. If you're off today might a nap help? (I love a good nap on the weekend!!) be good to yourself today, try and do something you enjoy and have a treat x

@Avocuddles what lovely news! Keeping fingers crossed for you

@MrsMGE I am SO up for your club night starting at 7pm! I am nostalgic about my uni days but even at the time wasn't keen on a 4am finish 😂😂

Ooooh, we'd have such a good one, girls! It's got me in a party mood 🎉😁

@LASandOtto That's so thoughtful of you. I do all this all the time, mortgage, builders, booking everything, planning, organising, you name it. My DH isn't great at this sort of stuff, but he'd never think to do something as nice as you do for DH, for me. 🙄 You're a good egg. Xxx

I'm starving today. Woke up at 6, smashed my workout, did my hair (it takes a while!), sh*t hit the fan in work starting from 9:01 am (nightmare) and I need some food! I gotta keep going though... walk this lunch break and Zumba later 💪💪💪 xxx

@LASandOtto That’s a really nice idea to get DH a little gift!

@tortiecat I wish I could but I’m a bad sleeper. Once I’m up, I’m up. But I am sitting in front of the tv watching Netflix and relaxing. My DH is the same thinking it will just happen! Easy for him as there is not much at stake. I feel I have a limited window to have another baby if I want to be a mum. I think he knows I’m upset and he’ll make it up later hopefully (if not you’ll probably be hearing from me!)

So just to annoy me further I set my alarm for 7 am today to book onto yoga for next Saturday. I woke up at 7, booked on at 7:01 (or thought I had) but just happened to go into the app now and I am not booked on and even the waiting list is full! I wouldn’t have minded so much if I hadn’t got up for that. I have the day off. I didn’t need to get up at 7 am!! I’m really annoyed at that 🤷🏻‍♀️

@BunnytheBlueWhale Ring them up and tell them there's been a glitch and to add you in. I would!

I called @MrsMGE and she can’t put me on as even the waitlist is full.

That's annoying. Keep an eye maybe someone's going to cancel. If it makes you feel better, I just got soaked on my lunch break and now it's sunny. Happy Friday to us!

@MrsMGE No the class is full and the waitlist of 10 people is also full so the best I coild hope for is to get on the waitlist but no way will everyone on the waitlist drop out too... Sorry you got soaked!

I’m so emotional my DH thinks I’m hormonal and just asked if I could be pregnant. No. How do you know? Because I had a period a week ago! 🙄 I do feel like I have PMT!!

@BunnytheBlueWhale I sense some Hotel Chocolat chocolate might be of assistance? What do you think? 😘

@Avocuddles You GOT ME with Oasis, girl! I'm frantically drafting today listening to What's the Story, Morning Glory and about a 100 other Oasis songs alllll day ❤️ DH and I are big fans 😊 xxx

@MrsMGE me too! I saw them live several times including one of the final gigs at Heaton Park. Amazing memories!

@MrsMGE Yes!! I’m starting with pizza! I went out to have my root canal (part 2) and it was fine and then popped to the shop after and feel great for going out. I bought a pizza in aldi while I was out as I fancied it and food always helps! I feel fine now 😬🙈 xx

So I'm annoyed, they've changed the time of my Zumba class to an hour later without notice. I rushed from work, arrived on time only to be greeted by a rude receptionist (she's always rude!!) who was trying to convince me the booking system does show the new time... until I showed her it doesn't. No apology. Fuming!

Anyway... I came back home, did another HIIT workout and now I'm going to tidy up, change my bedsheets (love it when they're crisp & fresh ❤️) and tidy up.

Not sure if I'm going to bother with Zumba again, I think I have better things to do on Friday night than still sweating somewhere till 8.15pm after a full week of work...xxx

Oh sorry to hear you were messed around by the gym too @MrsMGE! But we’ll done on keeping up with your workouts. I already haven’t had as good a week as I did last week

@BunnytheBlueWhale It wasn't an easy week for all of us by the looks of it. But Monday is the start of a new week and may it be a better one! Let's approach it thinking we'll do well. And for now, hope you enjoyed your pizza 😊 xxx

Separate question... do you all have cleaners? I've been debating having one for years...but not sure if it's worth it? I got quite a big house and obviously with three pets there's quite a lot of fur flying around, but we're always on top of it and tbf, you probably wouldn't notice we have pets looking at the state of the house. I tidy up as I go along (basically don't leave stuff dirty and rarely leave anything out instead of putting it away) and do a very thorough clean every fortnight. Not a believer anyone can do it better than me 😏 DH does stuff too, but only simple (mops the floors, hoovers, polishes). Is it sensible to get a cleaner for a fairly big house, but with only two of us living in there, or a waste of money?

@MrsMGE I don’t know what a “fairly big” house is, it’s all relative, but it comes down to whether it’s worth it to you. I like cleaning and manage to clean the house so would rather not spend money on a cleaner but, if it would save you time, and you’re willing to pay for that, then it’s worth it. Some people would pay someone else to do their ironing. I’d rather do it myself and spend money on other things. You could always give it a go and see how you get on. I have a friend who has a cleaner come in once a week (shes in an apartment and it’s big enough but it’s not a huge space) and she has a cleaner once a week. It’s easier for her to keep up with, having someone else give it a proper once over, and also the cleaner changes the sheets, which I sometimes find a chore...

@MrsMGE the pizza was ok thanks and I also had some of my hotel chocolat chocolate twice today 😬

@MrsMGE I have a cleaner every four weeks to do more of a 'deep clean'. I clean in between of course but I always love it after they've been and think it's well worth the money. I don't really enjoy cleaning but also don't really feel I can justify the cost more frequently.

@BunnytheBlueWhale I'm glad the root canal went ok and hope the chocolate was therapeutic!

At my mother in law's tonight / tomorrow and she has a really bad cold so I'm trying to sit as far away from her as possible to avoid the line of fire from her constant coughing....

Thanks @Avocuddles That would stress me out. Maybe make you’re excused now for bed!

@MrsMGE we have a lady that comes every two weeks, with DH and I doing a reasonable job in between. She does the whole house but the thing I find most helpful is that she does a really deep clean of the kitchen and bathroom for us when she is here, which means I can get away with doing less in between her visits! Like @Avocuddles I gallop around tidying up before she comes as well, which totally bemuses DH but means she is a lot more efficient and can tackle surfaces more easily than I do when I clean the rest of the time.

@BunnytheBlueWhale I hope all is OK with DH, and glad you enjoyed your pizza! I love pizza and would eat it every day if I could.

Wishing you all a good weekend...I'm hosting a little family dinner for my Mum's birthday this evening (in which I need to eat much less bread and birthday cake and much more salad!!) and tomorrow seeing three of my oldest friends. One is heavily pregnant with DC3 and very whiney about how hard she is finding it, which is difficult for me but I am just trying to remind myself that her life can be tough and she can't possibly understand how I might feel after three normal pregnancies, and also that I am hopeful that DH's and my turn will come.

Thanks girls. I think I might consider a once a month option (with some tidying up beforehand, I completely get you @tortiecat 😂). This way I wouldn't feel like it costs too much and also I'd still clean myself every other week which I'm fine with. Hmm. I really might look into this. One thing I hate is ironing, although I cope by catching up on Netflix as I do it. It makes it better 😂 I have colleagues who don't iron at all (we don't do dress down), I cannot imagine how you can do that. I'd love not to have to do it! I've invested in blouses and dresses that don't crease that much, good tumble dryer etc, and I still give them a quick iron just because they look better. I don't know how people get away without doing it?! 😂

@Avocuddles Ewww, that's not ideal. How did you survive?

@tortiecat It's DH's big birthday soon and I'm planning on having a 3 course meal tbh. I will be good before and after and allow myself to enjoy it on the day. Don't worry too much about food today, it's a special occasion. Of course nothing stopping you from making better choices today, as long as you enjoy yourself ❤️

Re your friends, that can be hard. I think your pg friend should really put things into perspective. Yes, she has 3 and it can be hard, but she has them, whereas your baby is dead. That's the point. The difference is such that it makes her day-to-day difficulties incomparable, tbh. Her difficulties are something you yearn for and imo as a woman and your friend, she should pause, think and shut up. I had to point that out to my pg friend who was moaning about her nausea to me (first pg, everything going absolutely perfect). I just looked at her and said "I wish I had that problem". She apologised and never moaned again since. I get your friend might have it difficult, but ultimately, she chose to have her kids and she was blessed to have them, unlike you to date. She probably wouldn't say anything to hurt you, but that's still incinsiderate. I genuinely would tell her if it gets too much.

On a separate note, my other pg friend's baby was born this week (beautiful, to be fair - I saw the photos and smiled, happy for her). She was due on my due date, but luckily the baby was born 3 days later. Maybe there is a god. Xxx

@tortiecat Yes he came home wanted to dtd before dinner!! 😃😂 The Pizza was nice, Aldi’s Finest, but I only had half of it. I didn’t eat well yesterday tbf.

I hope you have a nice time later. Does your friend know about what you’ve been through at all? I’d find those comments difficult. I think it’s quite inconsiderate of her to say that to someone they know has had a loss or is having difficulty conceiving

@MrsMGE I don’t do any ironing! I realise I commented on ironing earlier but actually I don’t do any! We dress down now and I don’t need to iron jeans and t shirts etc but even when we didn’t dress down I didn’t iron as I had everything dry cleaned. DH does his own shirts 👔😁

Oh that’s lovely about your friend. It’s not that common for babies to come on their due dates, it’s often a couple of weeks either way, but I’m glad the baby wasn’t born that day xxx

@BunnytheBlueWhale I'm exactly the same - we moved to a 5 day a week dress down policy last year so I just avoid buying / wearing anything that requires ironing! DH does his own shirts but I never go near the iron if at all avoidable.

MIL is still coughing away so I'm staying put in bed with a cup of tea for as long as possible! Like me she's asthmatic which I think gives you a particularly nasty and rasping cough. You could probably hear it a street away!

@MrsMGE the once a month option works well for me, it's nice coming home to a sparkling clean and tidy house though it's usually a matter of hours before DH messes it up again!

Anyone have exciting plans this weekend or mostly a chilled one? We're off to meet DHs friend's week old baby this morning, then spend a few hours with his elderly grandparents before we head back home for a chilled evening. Quite a calm weekend by our usual standards!