TTC baby #1 Threat #2

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Hi ladies ,

@Cheyanne101
@hopefulhel
@Liam2018
@Maddy0405
@notalwaysalondoner
@Hannahb26
@CurbsideProphet
@ToCaden
@JEMMA18
@LeaBri
@bubblyboo900

Our other thread is getting quite long and I know they stop at 1,000 comments so thought I’d make a new one for us .
I am so sorry if I’ve missed anyone , just going by usernames I remember off the top of my head !
I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant (miscalculated and thought I was only 4+3). Going for an 8 week scan (I’ll be almost 9 weeks) on 25th Jan.
but I am really enjoying joining you on your journeys on TTC and you’ve all been amazing so I didn’t want to just say goodbye to the thread .
Please come on in if you’re new here , and join everyone on their journeys . I feel like we’ve been chatting forever but it’s only been a couple of months. What a roller coaster it’s been!

Anyway, as we were!

@CurbsideProphet @MGee123 I used to use the Headspace app, I'll need to get back into it. Yoga is also a good idea!

I also loved Big Little Lies. We're currently just watching Modern Family. I'm 1dpo today and my boobs are already so sore 😩 I'm also very tired today so we're having a very chilled day.

@camha quiet day for me too! I've got Modern Family on my list 🙂 This afternoon I was watching Dead to Me season 2. Some dark comedy / drama for Saturday afternoon 😀
6dpo for me. I'm always tired, so nothing new here!

@MGee123 I wanted to do some gardening today but we've had 40 odd mph winds and I couldn't be bothered 😀

Quiet day for us too! I did get out in the garden but just littered really. It's been really windy here as well! I've settled down for the evening with a glass of red - the only perk of AF arriving 🙈😂

I've just ordered a BBT thermometer and more clearblue ovulation sticks. I haven't tried temping before - have either of you done it? Figured it can't hurt 🤷‍♀️

@MGee123 I've never tried temping before but have thought about it. I might try it if no luck this cycle!

@MGee123 I don't think I would know what to do with a BBT thermometer 😳😂 When I first read about temping last year I thought it meant the temperature inside the vagina and I didn't investigate further 😀

😂😂😂 no you can take it under your tongue! Not shoving a thermometer up there 😳. Mine arrived yesterday so I've started doing it this morning. Not really sure I know what I'm doing but at least it's a distraction!

I don't know whether to start doing the clearblue ovulation sticks earlier this month? Last cycle was 27 days but this one was 21!

@MGee123 that makes more sense 😂
TTC has its own language that I don't always understand 😂
Maybe start the ovulation sticks from day 8 this cycle just to see if there is a difference?

So I'm cd 22 / 11 dpo and I've got a bit of crampy discomfort low down. I'm guessing AF is nearly ready. Sigh.

How are you both @camha and @MGee123?

@CurbsideProphet I'm cd23 / 5dpo and I've also got some cramping today ☹️

@camha I really hope that you're having good cramping🤞🏻🤞🏻

Fingers crossed for good cramping for you both. From what I've read there is no way of knowing whether it's AF related or possible early signs. Hoping it's the latter!

I'm good, feeling a bit better now AF is over and done with. I've started the temping which is easy enough and i'm going to start the ovulation sticks again tomorrow (CD7) as well, and DTD every other day from tomorrow too!

I seem to really struggle just before AF is due and during, but cope better once it's finished again. Work has been really busy this week too which has definitely helped!

@CurbsideProphet hopefully, and hope yours is too! I'm not sure what to make of it, but it's not unusual for me to get cramping around this time so I don't want to get my hopes up 🤷🏽‍♀️

@MGee123 I totally get what you're saying, I also struggle more in the lead up to AF and during. I've also been very busy at work recently, which is a nice distraction but I also feel absolutely exhausted. I just had 4 days off but I feel like I could do with 2 weeks... Can I ask what thermometer you have? I've been toying with the idea of it but unsure whether to just get a basic one and track manually, or go for something like Natural Cycles 🤔

Oh I definitely agree about feeling worse when you know AF is coming and when she's there giving grief 😩
I still feel the same today. Bit nauseous, but I actually think that is anxiety about having another cp.

Time goes so slow at this stage of my cycle.

@CurbsideProphet I'm also feeling the same today, though possibly slightly less crampy. Still knackered, cannot wait for the weekend.

And I agree - so slow 😩

Brown discharge and some cramps for me today, so must mean AF is on her way 😬
At least this cycle will have been longer. Trying to find a bright side!

So I've been reading NHS statistics to make myself feel better. 84 % of couples with no fertility issues will conceive within 12 months of ttc. Of the remaining 16%, half of those couples will conceive within the next year.

Nothing more sad than reading these statistics on a Friday night 😬

Sorry about the cramps and spotting @CurbsideProphet. How many days was this cycle? Yes the statistics are reassuring - just wish it would all hurry up!!

I got the Femometer digital thermometer which does the job. I just put the temp in to the apps I use. I am on CD 9 and got a flashing smiley on the clearblue sticks this morning. We're DTD every other day after struggling to cope with daily last month!! If I get a peak smiley I think we will then do it 2 days in a row though.

I forgot to call the doctors so must do that Monday! I'm feeling okay at the moment though and really enjoying going out running/walking in this lovely weather.

Hope you both are okay 😊

Thank you @MGee123 🙂 This is cd 25 so much better than last month. I was always unsure what counted as day 1 of AF. The internet has told me it's the first full day of bleeding, ie you wake up bleeding and not just spotting then starting a bleed in the evening. I wonder if I've been counting my days a bit wrong 🤔

DH and I will be getting serious on the every other day, then every day for a couple of dayswhen I think I'm ovulating. I agree every day is a struggle for a sustained period of time!!

I'm seeing my GP around when I should be ovulating, so I'm hoping she might suggest a blood test while I'm there and again at day 21 to check my hormones. I really want to ask, but it's difficult trying not to sound like I'm diagnosing myself!

I feel more cheery now. I let myself have a little mope, then I've had a couple of walks and been to my favourite farm shop. I'm trying to remember to live in the present moment, rather than creating storylines in my mind 🧘🏻‍♀️I hope you're ok @camha

That sounds like a really helpful attitude @CurbsideProphet 🙌 I am trying to do similar and am also feeling a bit better. I am also very guilty of creating stories in my head and it really hurts when they come crashing down! Living in the moment is definitely the way to go!

Yes I get confused about the day counting too. I just go with the day it starts as day 1, as mine always seems to start mid afternoon. No idea if that's right or wrong!

Sorry to hear about cramps and spotting @CurbsideProphet but good that your cycle has been longer this month!

Living in the present is such a good outlook to have, I really must try to adopt that myself. Though it really is easier said than done, isn't it!

That's really interesting about the thermometer @MGee123, it's definitely something I want to look into.

I'm on cd26 / 8dpo, and on my fifth day of cramping. I also had some spotting today so looks like AF is on her way and I'm out this cycle. To be honest I've been quite down since ovulation and I'm struggling not to let it get to me. This whole ttc journey is such an emotional rollercoaster, isn't it. DH and I had a really good chat last night though and took the dogs out for a really nice walk / picnic today, so feeling a little bit better.

I'm considering whether to maybe skip the OPKs this next cycle and make DH put a passcode on my Flo app, as I feel I'm getting a bit too obsessed. Perhaps letting go a bit will help with the stress..

It's definitely easier said than done @camha ! I guarantee when I hit the second week of the TWW I'll be back to a frustrated neurotic mess 😂 these are my 'best weeks' of my cycle when I feel a cope okay. The last 2 weeks and first few days of AF I find hellish.

Will keep my fingers crossed for you. Talking about it definitely helps - my husband and I don't discuss it in detail that often but did have a heart to heart when AF arrived so early last week. He said he was really disappointed too, and it helped to comfort each other. I stopped using OPKs for 3 cycles and did find it helped a bit. I was less fixated on everything, although it didn't have the desired effect of pregnancy!! It might be worth trying for a month? 🤷‍♀️

Oh I definitely had my cry last night, however, I cried about the chemical pregnancies and that I'm still not pregnant. As soon as I drifted into "and there must definitely be something wrong and I'll never be pregnant and never have a baby" I worked really hard to pull myself into the present and not feel sad about something that isn't true. Yes I feel sad that I'm on my period and it's painful and grim, especially when it's this hot 😩 but I need to keep stopping myself from being sad about something I've created in my mind that isn't actually true, if that makes any sense?!

@MGee123 I think I'm going to try no OPKs / no app this month. Even if it doesn't result in pregnancy, at least hopefully it'll lower my stress levels a bit.

@CurbsideProphet it definitely makes sense, it's so difficult to not spiral into the 'there must be something wrong with me' mindset. I've had some really rubbish few days and need to constantly remind myself that it's not true..

On a different note @CurbsideProphet were you able to find a good prenatal? I'm trying to find one as I'm about to run out of pregnacare, but there's so many choices out there!

AF has just arrived, so on to cycle 7 for me. I was very much expecting it as I've had my usual PMS symptoms for a good week now, but I'm still gutted. Onwards and upwards I suppose.

How are you both doing @CurbsideProphet and @MGee123 ?

I've just finished cycle 7 I think @camha I'm sorry AF arrived for you.
I've struggled finding the right multivitamin, as so many actually contained vitamin A which you shouldn't have when ttc 🤔
I take 5mg (mcg? Whatever it is, it's on prescription!) folic acid anyway, so I've just ordered D3, CoQ10, and Omega 3 from Holland and Barrett.
DH is going to reduce his alcohol units to below 10 a week (I don't drink anyway). He really likes his craft ale at the weekend, but is happy to take one for the team 😀