TTC baby #1 Threat #2

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Hi ladies ,

@Cheyanne101
@hopefulhel
@Liam2018
@Maddy0405
@notalwaysalondoner
@Hannahb26
@CurbsideProphet
@ToCaden
@JEMMA18
@LeaBri
@bubblyboo900

Our other thread is getting quite long and I know they stop at 1,000 comments so thought I’d make a new one for us .
I am so sorry if I’ve missed anyone , just going by usernames I remember off the top of my head !
I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant (miscalculated and thought I was only 4+3). Going for an 8 week scan (I’ll be almost 9 weeks) on 25th Jan.
but I am really enjoying joining you on your journeys on TTC and you’ve all been amazing so I didn’t want to just say goodbye to the thread .
Please come on in if you’re new here , and join everyone on their journeys . I feel like we’ve been chatting forever but it’s only been a couple of months. What a roller coaster it’s been!

Anyway, as we were!

@notalwaysalondoner I had been on the pill for years and when I came off had no periods at all for over six months so paid privately to see a consultant who said I needed to kick start everything. I had drugs to force a bleed then Clomid to make sure I ovulated. I am 40 so didn't want to wait for a period any longer!

Welcome @dragonfly1978 👋. Fingers crossed for you this cycle. Sounds like you've thrown everything at it! 🤞. When is AF due?

I haven't been doing the weird lying down after thing but might start 😂 can't hurt?! 🤷‍♀️

I had some random cramping last night and my boobs have started to get a bit full and sore. Seems a bit early compared to when that would usually start (5-7 days before AF) but with my cycles being a bit irregular I'm trying not to read too much into it.

Hi @dragonfly1978 👋🏻 welcome to the gang 🙂

I'm on cd 11 and already feel a bit anxious about having yet another period 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm working hard to combat these feelings, so I've been doing a lot of yoga and having a short walk everyday. I mainly work from home (very lucky in that respect) so I've been able to keep this up for the past week which feels like a victory. I'm treating myself to a hot oil massage at the weekend and reflexology again in a fortnight.

We're also going to start the process for getting a new bathroom. I can't wait to have a bath 🙏🏻 the plug mechanism doesn't work (since we bought the house 2.5 years ago) and I'm dreaming about having a lovely relaxing bath once a month 🙂

@CurbsideProphet that's such a good idea to get a few treats booked in. I might do the same to tide over the TWW! Great excuse for a massage 😉 I go running a lot which helps me de-stress. I've been going a lot lately!

We are also needing to renovate our bathroom and don't currently have a bath! I feel your pain with needing a long soak sometimes. We're hoping to get ours done in the summer. I quite enjoy house renovation stuff, although we're resisting the temptation to do too much to ours as we are hoping we will get it extended in 3-5 years.

I feel like I need to keep busy and not feel like I'm always hanging around waiting.

In ideal dream world we would extend the kitchen and do a loft conversion, but the works wouldn't add that much value to the house and we would need to consider if we're definitely just staying.

Oh all this adulting makes me want to hide

@notalwaysalondoner I'm impressed you manage to DTD before work 😳 we're doing well if we DTD on a week night.

So much adulting! I couldn’t live without my bath, I have at least two per week in the winter! It’s such a luxury - I have candles and a bath pillow and a wooden bath tray for my cup of tea or wine and my iPad so I can watch Netflix or read. Bliss!

We’re very lazy doing anything else to our flat as we plan to move as soon as we get a BFP - although starting to wonder how soon that will be...! Don’t want to increase our commute sooner than necessary though. Plus as DH says if we don’t move at least we’ll have the money to throw at IVF. Hope it doesn’t come to that though.

Right, off to book massage and acupuncture...

😂😂😂 far too much adulting. Your bath set up sounds 👌 @notalwaysalondoner!

We're more of a once a week DTD kind of couple so this TTC lark has been a bit of the shock to the system 😂 we've got into the swing of it but at times it does feel a bit like we're doing it for the sake of it 🙈

My boobs have really started aching today. I think I'm starting to get the hang of the cervix feeling business 😳. It still seems quite high even though my EWCM has stopped. Don't know if that's a good thing? Is it supposed to become lower again before your period?

@MGee123 we normally dtd once at the weekend. It's been a bit of an effort to get in the mood on a Wednesday 🤦🏻‍♀️I think I'm ovulating now, so we could be going for 3 times in 3 days 😲😂 I can't remember then cervix rules. I'll need to google them again...

Hope everyone is having a good weekend 🙂
I feel super zen after a little walk in the sun and a lovely massage. Judging by my CM I'm ovulating today, so DH has been warned that we're going for 4 times in 4 days 😂
We've agreed that as this is technically only our 3rd month of trying we'll try to enjoy it!

Go for it @CurbsideProphet 😂 time to get busy!

We're easing off DTD as we're somewhat tired of it 😂 I think AF is due next Saturday.

Glad you've had a zen day. I am off work the week after next so might book in a few treats for then.

I'm not convinced I understand the cervix stuff. Think I will just wait and see what the PG test says next week (or AF if it shows up first!)

@MGee123 I definitely don't know how to feel my cervix!

Are feeling ok this weekend @notalwaysalondoner? I was thinking about your post that half of pregnancies are unplanned. It reminded me that 3 of DH's friends have become parents in the past year - all unexpected (they told us that). Does seem ridiculous that they can get pregnant while using various forms of contraception while we are actively ttc

Feeling better although still tired from flu. Had a chat with DH about TTC- he’s an optimist (I love that about him) so is quite chill about the fact that we’re now onto our sixth cycle. Wish I could be as chilled but I’m going to try! Massage yesterday was lovey so feeling more relaxed.

Ok I don’t know what’s going on - I’m only CD8 and got a negative OPK this morning but noticed I was very “wet” and now have quite a lot of EWCM (which i normally barely get at ovulation time) and my cervix is very soft. God I wish my body would be more predictable! Good reason to just DTD every other day for the whole month as it is all so mysterious!

Going to buy myself the book “it starts with the egg” as a “treat”... TTC does funny things to you!

I'm lucky that I get noticeable EWCM around day 12. If you don't normally notice it then I would assume that you are at least heading towards ovulating and dtd every other day to be sure. It's definitely all too mysterious!

The unpredictability is such a pain isn't it! Perhaps as @CurbsideProphet says it's just the start of your fertile window, which has come a bit early this month? Maybe you'll ovulate in a few days time? I think DTD every other day is a good idea just in case.

I'm fairly certain AF is on the way for me 🙄 my boobs have been really tender and now I've got backache which I've had pre-AF before. That said, last month I didn't have it so who knows 🤷‍♀️😂 If I haven't come on by Friday I think I might do a test. AF is due at the weekend so figure I might as well!

I'm on cd 16. Tbh I'm anxious about not being pregnant, but also about having another chemical pregnancy.

It's hard to not let ttc take over everything. I've turned down a work opportunity in March. On that date I would either have just started my period and be feeling down, or be late and feeling anxious about it. Grrrr 😬

Hi, can I join please? I'm 25 (soon 26) and currently TTC #1. I'm on cycle 2 of trying, I'm currently on CD27 and AF has just arrived, so now CD1 I suppose.. Gutted as I had convinced myself I was pregnant! But onwards and upwards I suppose..

Hi @camha, welcome! We’re a mixture here - some of us are on month 5, others earlier on in their journey. Fingers crossed for you and sorry AF showed up!

I’m on cd10 and got a negative OPK this morning, so just waiting for ovulation. DTD yesterday and two days ago and trying to keep up every other day for the whole month. I’m not going to lie tip-off, TTC for five months hasn’t been great for our sex life - the frequency has gone up but the quality not so much. I’m starting to find it all a bit mechanical but don’t want to upset DH... it just sucks doing it when you’re not really in the mood. Anyone else finding that?

@notalwaysalondoner I can’t stress enough the importance of just DTD every other day or every 3 days throughout your whole cycle as it’s so easy to miss the egg otherwise, and stressful. I ovulated earlier than my ‘fertile window’ predicted and we would’ve missed it if we had just had sex on certain days . Good luck everyone you’re all doing great. Xx

@notalwaysalondoner I'm only on 3rd cycle of trying, but DH and I have had a bit of a conversation about trying to not just feel like we're dtd to get me pregnant. I don't know the answer to that tbh.

Before ttc we would never dtd mid week because we're tired from work and life. That has been an adjustment...

Hi @camha 👋🏻 We're a friendly group here 🙂
I'm on my 3rd cycle of ttc #1. I had a chemical pregnancy at new year which was pretty crap, but I'm back trying again now. Currently cd 18.

Welcome @camha 👋 wishing you luck this cycle! We also had to do a bit of adjusting to DTD as we were a once a week couple. So far we've been managing okay but it is a bit of a change!

AF arrived for me today 😔 I kind of knew it was coming so not surprised but rather disappointed. Another 24 day cycle for me - seem to be evening out a bit which might be a good thing 🤷‍♀️ I'm going to go to my GP next week and see if I can have a blood test to check vitamin levels - I'm vegan so kind of think it's worth seeing if there is anything obvious I might need to sort out first, in terms of definiciencys etc? I think I'm fine but feel it's worth checking.

TGIF tomorrow!

I know what you mean @MGee123, I kind of wish we’d had a fertility check a few years ago as we’ve been together since we were 18 but DH didn't feel ready to TTC until this year (10.5 years later...). Now it’s taken us a few months I do kind of wish we’d confirmed everything was ok a few years ago so we’d made a more informed decision about waiting.

We’ve agreed that if we get to six months we’ll go private for some checks - there are fertility fitness checks you can have. I’m not so worried about vitamins but more egg and sperm quality. Presumably if you’re taking prenatal vitamins you should probably be ok even if you’re vegan? At least I’m getting consistent positive OPKs so am not too worried that I’m not ovulating.

Hi everyone and hello to the new ladies!

We got back from our extended holiday yesterday morning so just trying to get through the jet lag.

We DTD so much while we were on holiday and were as relaxed as we could possibly have been so I was feeling super confident this month and so was DH.

My cycles have been long and irregular since I came off the pill last May so I was gonna do a test when I got home from my holiday if AF didn’t come but no such luck - AF came on 12th Feb. 42 day cycle this time. Previously to that my cycles have been 59 days, 36 days, 38 days, 39 days, 56 days...

Pretty gutted as I really thought this would be the one! Onto our 5th month of trying now.

I went to the GP before we went away to talk about my long cycles and whether or not they are normal and the GP sent me for bloods which were normal and she also requested a scan of my ovaries which is happening next Saturday so will wait and see what that says I guess.

Haven’t been doing anything special just trying to to DTD every other day. Feel pretty disheartened at the moment though.

Glad to read some of you are taking some ‘me’ time with the massages, exercise and acupuncture. I think I’m going to book some reflexology in after pay day.

Sending you all love and best wishes anyway ladies xxx