TTC 6months + please can people share some positive stories

[Banoffeepie91]

Feel like everywhere I look people are getting BFPs which is great but I’m starting to worry a bit. We’ve been trying since June and have had nothing yet. OH had sperm tests last year as part of something else and all came back fine. I’m 28 and he’s 41 so age hopefully shouldn’t be a problem.
Please could people share some positive 6 month+ ttc stories to cheer me up and stop me stressing as I know that won’t help all this either.
Also if anyone else is in the same situation and wants to chat that would be lovely.

The clear blue digital needs a much higher level of hcg. So ive heard for most people it doesn't show a positive until after AF is due xx

Congratulations @BeingATwatItsABingThing so exciting one of us has actually got a BFP! Especially after trying for so long!

I don’t want to get my hopes up until AF doesn’t come.

How’s everyone else fairing this month? I’m 2 DPO I think, using clear blue OPKs, have enough for another month and think I’ll give up with them after that. Showed DH how they work he was quite impressed with the Bluetooth 😆

I’ve still not got AF! Gave up testing because kept getting BFN :( I’ve got a drs appointment booked for next Tuesday to work out what is wrong with me. Really upset as it’s another bloody spanner in the works to all this trying if I can’t even get regular periods.

@Banoffeepie91 how late are you? Do another test before you go as defo the first thing they’ll ask. I’m sure AF knows when we’re TTC and likes to mess with us ! Hope you get a BFP or AF soon! It’s the limbo that’s so bad isn’t it :(

@MesMeow2019 now 9 days late! I’ll buy some more tests at the weekend and do one then but it just gets depressing seeing BFNs which is why I stopped testing.

@banoffeepie91 yes definitely test. Did you use OPK this month to confirm when you ovulated?

@MrsMeow2019 I have just finished AF not due to ovulate till probably end of next week. Im not tracking this month. Im done in with it all. Just having sex when we want it and not scheduled. Id forgotten what a normal sex life is xx

I'm 5DPO I think. Trying not to think about it too much (which isn't working!)

I honestly don't think we would DTD enough if we only did it when we felt like it as we are just always so tired 😂 we used to pretty much only do it at the weekend before TTC and maybe the odd weekday. I had a month off from tracking and in one way it was nice but I do like knowing when I have ovulated so I can then relax a bit.

I know how you feel about seeing BFNs all the time @Banoffeepie91 It just gets you even more down. I haven't actually done a test in months as I just end up waiting for AF as I don't want to see that BFN!
I have my blood test on Friday for day 21 test so feeling positive at least I'm getting things rolling!

@Trying2019 yes I did but starting to wonder if maybe my body tried to ovulate and then didn’t. I’ve heard it can do that sometimes. Once I get AF back going to try harder with temps as I think that will be the most accurate.
I’m hoping the drs will be able to start some tests with me next week as I think I may have PCOS or cysts which may be messing with my cycles and causing these problems. I’ll be upset if I do but at least I’d have some answers.

Hey Ladies,

@banoffeepie91 I hope you can get some answers when you see the GP , still keeping my fingers crossed for you for a BFP!

I've had a busy week at work, work in healthcare and see a lot of different things. Had a lot of interaction with couples going through fertility treatments, having to go abroad as is cheaper etc, so tough. Starting to worry that's going to be my path :(. I know it's early days but it's hard to stay positive isn't it?

I'm 4 DPO and it's always this time where the 2ww gets me....trying not to test until next week, ordered some FRER to arrive next Friday so I can't be tempted!

Hope you've all had a good week

@MrsMeow2019 thank you but AF arrived yesterday. I knew in my head I wasn’t pregnant but I think OH had got his hopes up a bit so he was a bit deflated.

Don’t worry about the future too much though I know it must be difficult in your job.
I’m trying to relax over the next few months and just take things as they come. Give it a few weeks and I bet that will have all gone out the window haha!

Hope everyone has had a good week and has a nice weekend planned.

@Banoffeepie91 sorry to hear AF got you. Hope you get your positive soon.

Ive been quite quiet on the boards as i really needed a break from the TTC. Ive just been feeling so low and a bit anxious which isnt like me at all. I swear its not doing me any good and probably just going to delay ovulation. I am finally starting to feel more positive today. Im in my fertile week i think but not testing as hate the pressure to DTD. Got an appointment at the doctors tomorrow which i booked when i was feeling crap so will let u all know if it was worth going. Im meditating nightly, started exercise (currently cant walk im so unfit) and eating healthily. Im trying to keep busy and distract myself but cant lie i am still thinking about getting pregnant justnot obsessing as much.

Hope youre all getting on ok x

@Trying2019 sounds like you’ve really turned a corner, it makes you feel so good when you think positively about this. I’m thinking of starting yoga soon as a bit of a destress after work. OH said he’ll do it with me so I think it will be a nice thing to do together.
Had my drs appointment today and really pleased with the outcome. They’re doing bloods, ultrasound scan and a pelvic exam so at least I’m getting everything checked for my dodgy periods. Also it means if we haven’t conceived in a year they’ll have done all those checks already so maybe we’ll have a bit of a head start on things. Don’t think the gp I saw know a lot about women’s health so just sent me for all the tests he could think of haha! I’m not complaining! He was googling things during my appointment which I’d already googled!

@banoffeepie91 so glad your appointment went well and you have got the ball moving. I think if i knew everything was normal with me and it does just take time id be so much happier and not obsessing over google so much. Glad i booked my appointment when i was feeling low id probably not have bothered based on how i feel now and then AF would hit me again.

Yoga is a great idea. I was going to start it tonight but still cant bend after Sundays work out haha. Im hoping exercise makes me feel better and i read somewhere people who regularly exercise have a higher chance of conceiving so its win win xx

I'm 11dpo and started spotting very lightly and BFN this evening so I'm 99% out. Always hold on to that 1% hope every month!!
Had my day 21 test and some other blood tests last Friday so hoping to hear back soon from that.
I keep having this thought that the problem is with DH so I just want to get the results back and get him checked. I really hope it isn't him though and it is just taking us longer 😩
This whole thing is just shit. I had this perception before we started that it would be a magical process that would be relatively quick. Nope.

Just thought i'd share how i got on at doctors today. If anyone is considering going i'd definitely recommend it as i feel so much better. I did say we had been trying for nearly 12months (its actually 7) and she said although it is completely normal to take a while it was worth doing some tests.

I have a massive lists of blood tests im getting done which i am happy to post if anyone would like more info. She really recommend temping to confirm ovulation so I may actually try it and she did mention limiting caffeine and alcohol intake (without denying yourself a life) and not too much exercise as it can mess hormones up. I also mentioned that my husband has the kit for the sperm sample. Once all our tests are back if everything is normal they would normally tell me to try a few more months. However as i have just turned 34 she will refer us to a specialist as it can take some time to get an appointment through. Im going to get the tests done this cycle and next cycle and then will go back either way to get referred as at that point id have had 10 cylces.

Trying2019

How did your husband get on with the Gp for getting his sperm tested? Was it a battle to get the kit?

I have had blood tests and everything was normal.

@rae444 hi it wasnt a problem at all. He went about a sore leg and i told him to ask when he was there. He just said we had been trying for 12 months they asked if i was at same surgery. I'm not. They then gave him the kit and instructions. We have had it about a month now. It was hard with my fertile week and christmas to get it done x

@Trying2019
Ah great, thanks, hopefully it is easy for us too! Thanks for your reply!

Hi op, sorry you got AF. Fingers crossed for you and everyone else trying, just thought I’d share my positive story.
I fell pregnant with dd aged 18 and on the pill, so 6 years later when we decided it was time to have another baby we presumed it would happen quickly. When it didn’t I would get upset every month, but dp was always really upbeat and kept saying “relax it’ll happen when it happens, and if it doesn’t I’m happy with just dd.” He refused to change his diet/take vitamins etc and said if it happened last time it will happen again. Whereas I was using opk’s and eating better and still nothing was happening.

About month 10 I started getting a bit down about it, so we booked a family holiday. I didn’t use opk’s that month and had a little break. I ate what I wanted, had a couple of drinks because I’d given up alcohol, but had resigned myself that it wasn’t going to happen.

We got back from holiday and my period was late, but 7 days later I was still getting negative results. On about day 9 I finally got my bfp!! The midwife said I had ovulated late, as when I went for my scan I was behind where I thought i should be.

It’s very cliche to say relax and let it happen, and I wanted to punch everyone that said it when we were ttc. (Also I hate to let dp be proved right) but I do think me relaxing on the holiday helped..maybe it was the sun, or the extra dtd I’m not sure my son is 5 months now, so stay positive!

hope you get good news soon

How is everyone doing? Im currently in the 2ww 4 or 5 DPO not feeling any different to previous months apart from a little more chilled. X

I’ve got a pelvic ultrasound today to check my ovaries to see if I have any cysts. I don’t think I’ll get the results until my drs appointment next week.
Just started using OvuSense as well so I can track bbt a bit better. Means I don’t have to stress about remembering to take temperatures in the morning.
Got a big holiday booked for April so have that to look forward to. Feeling more relaxed about it all now. I think the Christmas period heightened my emotions about it all a bit because it makes you think about family a lot.
How is everyone else?
@Trying2019 good to hear you’re feeling more chilled. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

I am CD7, my FW starts today I think. I don't even really know how I am, I just feel really deflated at the moment, like what's even the point of trying this month as it will undoubtedly be a BFN anyway. I know that's really negative but I'm fed up of it all.
Booked a GP appointment for the 5th Feb for both of us to start things rolling. Haven't got the results of my blood test yet, figured I may as well wait till the appointment so the GP can go through them.
Feel like I'm taking so many pills as well! Agnus castus, folic acid, b complex, omega 3 with primrose oil...

@Makeafamily19 i know exactly how you feel as i have been there. I found what helped this month was doing things that will help by general health rather than just help me conceive such as exercise, meditation, eating healthy and positive thinking. Its so shit isnt it. I wish id known before how crap this whole business is xx

@banoffeepie91 i definitely agree the christmas period did really heighten thing. Its definitely made me feel so much worse. Ovusense sounds good will take the pressure of you a bit and help you relax x