TTC after miscarriage - January 2020

[MilsCookie]

Hello all (and late Merry Christmas!)

Looking for TTC buddies in a similar situation! 👋

In September I accidentally became pregnant. We had planned to begin TTC in Jan 2020 anyway, so we were really excited. Sadly, at my 12 week scan on 25th Nov, I found out I had had a missed miscarriage and the baby had stopped growing at about 9 weeks. The week that followed was one of the most traumatic in my life, having failed medical management and then an ERPC. All this happened whilst I was in another country.

Since then my recovery has been okay but all I can think about is wanting to be pregnant again and have been hoping and praying that my period returns soon so that we can officially start trying.

This morning I have had brown discharge and cramping, so it does feel like AF is on the way. So I guess I am going to count today as CD1 of my first official TTC cycle?

I wondered if anyone had been through anything similar and if so I am so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. It really is a horrendous time. 💐

Anyone want to join me? 💕

Ahh @toomanyleggings that’s brilliant it worked for you.
Does it need to be from ovulation? Iv already ovulated (I think) but haven’t started taking it yet. Maybe I should 😕

@Cruiser1 when you went private did he give you the prescription at the initial appointment?

@toomanyleggings do you need a prescription for low dose aspirin?

@Anny27 🤣🤣 that is so funny! We haven't done it since ovulation, 2 Saturdays ago but will do it a few times this week. Even though we were relieved it was over, we need to it for enjoyment and for each other too. I know that seems obvious but I just have such a low sex drive.

It is due Saturday and I feel like the time will drag. It is exciting to feel that I'm literally days away from potentially amazing news .... but I just dont feel that hopeful this month. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Please find attached my BD calendar for this month. Red circles = BD. Blue circles = positives OPK. As you can see we just didn't do it as much as would have liked so I think that limits our chances.

Fell on our one and only time last time though so shouldn't be too negative. 🙈

@Cruiser1 I don't see the harm in taking it now. I did as soon as I ovulated. You just need 75mg. It's only a low dose. I took it right through my pregnancy

@Michette no you can buy it in a chemist. I got these in savers

@MilsCookie from.a bit of research and asking mother on the phone earlier (she was a nurse) apparently thrush is more common around the time of ovulation, or just afterwards, so I think it's very likely your covered.

She also said it can be a very early indicator of pregnancy , but that might be an old wives tale from her 70s nursing life!

I'm cd 18 today and I have been basically dtd every day since cd4, I will be taking a break the next few days as the man is away but I'm going for gold and just going to do it a few more times to cover next weekend. Then business is definitely closed untill af/bfp. I won't be repeating the everyday throw down next month, it's become so ridiculous I actually started laughing my head off mid way through last night.

Mania....(straight-jacket emogi) 🤔😆

@ChampooPapi 😂😂😂 this made me laugh out loud!! I also thought I was going mad mid dtd the other night when I started thinking about you lot on MN!! 🙈🙈🙈 ridiculous!!
Thanks for advice from your mum! I hope she’s right but I’m not too hopeful!

Thanks @FireflyGirl and @Anny27. Yeah I was on antibiotics straight after ERPC but that was 6 weeks ago now so surely it wouldn’t be that that has caused it? Whatever it is it’s super annoying!!! 🙄

@Michette @toomanyleggings I need a prescription for it where I am (not UK) but the Dr gave me a prescription for both 75mg Aspirin and Progesterone. It wasn’t my first time to see her as I went to her after my first miscarriage as well so she kind of knew me at that stage. I also had bloods done which all came back Normal. As in thyroid, prolactin, antibodies and clotting tests. These tests weren’t very in depth though so not 100% giving me answers

Thanks @cruiser1 might see my gp to ask about a referral. Great that you have it ready to go once you get that bfp! 🤞

The baby aspirin thing is interesting too.

@MilsCookie so annoying, sounds like you’ve given it a good go though!

@MilsCookie I was 5weeks. I had symptoms from 3dpo so I'm hoping I will spot it next time. Finding myself randomly squeezing a boob to see if its sore yet

@ChampooPapi thank you!!!!
I thought i was the only one to find DTD so many times and in such a by the book kinda way ridiculous!!!
I couldn’t stop laughing and it didn’t help DP at al. He also feels some pressure when i am ovulating. Even though on normal daily life not TTC we have sex daily.
But dunno why when it comes to ttc actively we both get stressed out and we just can’t help but laugh at ourselves

Hi everyone,
Sorry have been very busy at work & home since last week and haven’t had a chance to check MN. Still trying to catch up with all the messages.
Congratulations @MrsB16 on the BFP. Good luck with the pregnancy...Hope you have a sticky one!
Good to see that TTC is going on in full swing here. All the DTD stories have lifted my mood really!! Hoping to see more BFP news soon Xx

@SweetpeaOrMarigold wow that’s early, what symptoms did you have? Haha - I was giving my boobs a squeeze the time I was pregnant because they didn’t hurt at all in the lead up to AF when they usually do! Turns out the most excruciating boob pain began for me around 6 weeks!

Hi lovely ladies. I haven’t been on here for a while. This post is moving fast. Sad to see there’s more ladies in this position, but happy you have all found this supportive bunch. I hope everyone is doing well. So glad to see our first BFP of the group! Congratulations @MrsB16!

Hopefully that’s the first of many to come.

I’ve been tracking my ovulation using OPK. My app said I should have ovulated yesterday at CD15, I’ve been having high readings but no peek so think it’s not going to happen this month. We have been DTD everyday for the past 3 days so far but think at this point it’s just for fun. It’s the first cycle since the surgery. But hearing all you guys keeps me positive. Thank you Ladies xx

So I’m joining the TWW gang my OPK went from peak yesterday to zero today so really hoping DTD a few times over the weekend was perfect timing.
Although according to my husband since I started with OPKs - DTD is now a chore 😂 told him he was so romantic to which he replied dipping a stick wasn’t romantic! Got to love him! ❤️

So according to OPK app AF is due 28/1 and the Flo app (which was always spot on before MC) AF is due 25/1. The joys of waiting and hoping AF doesn’t arrive

@MilsCookie I’m with you on the most excruciating boob pain starting last time about 6weeks! Hated it at the time now would give anything to have it again!

@ELM7 I’m just a little behind you I think. I think I should be ovulating around now/soon but not entirely sure (CD16) with next AF due on 29th. Gosh this TTC after MC is making me a bit of an anxious mess. I am already totally convincing myself that there’s no way I will conceive this month it’s driving me mad! Even though we conceived quickly both times previously I am now so focussed on it I just think it won’t happen... anyone feel the same? It’s all consuming! X

I've had some strong ish lines on ovulation sticks, but not as dark as the control line. Was waiting for a peak but the one I've done this evening is barely visible. God knows what im doing, lol.
DTD again tonight... Then having a break!!!

Hi everyone,
Hope you don’t mind me joining. I’ve spent the last day reading this thread from the start and I’m so sorry about all of your losses. You are all so strong and I love the support you are giving each other here💗.
I found out last Tuesday I had a MMC, 1 was 8 weeks 6 days and was measured at 8 weeks 5 days with no heartbeat so had obviously only stopped in the previous 24 hours. I’m 36 and it’s my first. Got BFP 3rd cycle ttc. Had all the symptoms of a normal pg right to the end. Given my age I was always a bit worried as hear so much about friends and family who’ve had MC so I never really relaxed into it. I went for early scan more to put my mind at ease but I really didn’t expect it to happen to me.
I opted for ERPC as was so nauseous and the hospital were great and did it the next day (last Wednesday the 08/01). Was told I also have a fibroid after ERPC which has been a big source of additional anxiety for me. Coming to terms with it since is so tough. I literally feel broken. On top of that started cramping and bleeding a good bit since yesterday so have constant reminder of what’s happened even though I’ve gone back to work today to try and keep my mind busy. Didn’t really bleed at all until yesterday so was quite concerned but hospital said as long as I’m not feverish and it doesn’t smell it’s normal. Did anyone else start to bleed after 4 days?
I really want to get back to TTC ASAP as I’m aware of time just ticking away, part of me really wants to try before AF, emotionally I think I’m ready but physically obviously have a bit to go!
Have started back BBT and will check PT from Wednesday to make sure they’re going down.
I really hope the rest of 2020 brings us all sticky healthy BFPs! 💫🌈

@Mammacooks I could of wrote that post myself.
Feeling exactly the same! And very similar dates (based on pre mc cycle)!

Think I've already ovulated, I too already feel that this month is not my month x

@Mammacooks I’m the same of thinking it won’t of happened this month. And whilst on one side I tell myself not to be negative On the other side I think it’s my way of not getting my hopes up to protect myself from disappointment.

@BS9790 @ELM7 it is SO difficult isn’t it. Part of me occasionally allows myself to think it might be possible but mainly I think I’m preparing myself for it not to happen this month as a sort of self preservation exercise. I also keep thinking that it won’t happen because I want it so much, which I know is totally irrational and daft! I’ve never tracked my cycles or scrutinised over it to this degree so I really am finding it takes over my brain 90% of the day and I worry that this will now become my life for the foreseeable future if we don’t get pregnant quickly. Goodness me it’s so crazy isn’t it!
I did get pregnant twice before without so much as knowing my cycle so we must keep a glimmer of hope as it is possible but given these circumstances it really is tough. Sorry for the rant and wishing you all BFP so so SO soon!x

@Leok83 so sorry to hear you’ve also gone through this. It’s horrible isn’t it.
My ERPC was at 9weeks (baby measuring 6weeks) I had also had failed medical management so bled already so therefore this might not be relevant but I found I had light bleeding for about a week-10days after ERPC and then it stopped and I got a period 31 days after. We did have unprotected sex before my period but weren’t “trying” as such and looking back at my dates it would have been too late to conceive anyway. Good luck! X

@Mammacooks

Could have written your post lovely. Feel exactly the same way. Concieving, being pregnant, wanting to concieve again has completely consumed me. Wish I could just feel like normal Steph again. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Totally agree that because I want it so much, I just feel it wont happen. I feel like someone decided a long time ago that I wont be a Mum. It's so stupid. A ridiculously negative mindset to have but we are only human. We WILL get our BFPs though. 💗🤞

Wishing you lots of love @Leok83 and best wishes. Be gentle and kind on yourself. My baby was 8 weeks and 3 days, even though I made it all the way to 11 weeks and 3 days without knowing. Had an early scan too as I was mega anxious. Super glad I did because I can remember them forever. 💗💙

@Mammacooks @ELM7 @BS9790 @StephyRose Ladies I couldn’t agree with what you’ve all said more. I feel EXACTLY the same. My first pregnancy was an accident but we were planning on trying Jan 2020 anyway so we were absolutely over the moon. I can not believe how completely all-consuming this TTC business is. And having had a mc just makes it even harder because the anxiety is so much worse, knowing that it CAN happen to you because it already has. First time round I was so naive and just thought ‘that won’t happen to me’. Having said all that, I really believe that we should all try to think more positively (easier said than done I know- I am an anxious wreck all the time!) We need to trust in our bodies and that they know what to do and our time will come. Just because we’ve had one mc does NOT mean it will happen again. That pregnancy and future pregnancies are not related. Most mcs just happened and no one knows why. It’s very unlikely that we have an underlying medical condition, and even if we do, there are ways for us to get our babies. I am trying to start seeing this as a marathon, rather than a race, and it will happen. (except I’m so impatient and I desperately want to have a baby in my arms come October this year!! 🙈) All of us have future children and they are waiting for us. It just might take longer for some than others, but we will definitely all get there!!! This thread will hopefully bring every single one of us a healthy 2020 pregnancy!! ✨🌈

@Leok83 I am so, so sorry to hear of your loss. The first week after I had the news and then was in hospital for 3 days, I was a complete mess. Please be kind to yourself and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. If you need or want to cry you are well within your rights. Your body has been through a traumatic experience and you need to give yourself time to recover emotionally. Big hug 😘

Hey @GemLou88 how you doing? Fingers crossed for you lovely 🤞 😘