TTC - first cycle - baby #1

[Blondeandbroody]

I thought I’d create a space for people like me who are in their first cycle of TTC for baby number 1! Be nice to progress and learn together!

I do rely heavily on the advice of people further along in their journeys but I also love speaking to people in the exact same boat as me who are clueless about all of this and just starting on their journey. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone and not crazy haha!

If you wanna join (please do) then maybe share your CD, DPO and AF due date (if you know it).

I am:
CD - 18
DPO - around 2 or 3 can’t be sure
AF due - 16th December

I am just off the mini pill on which I had semi regular AFs and I stopped the pill on CD 1, when my last AF started. So I can’t be sure of anything other than my CD!!

There may well be something there @Blondeandbroody!

We'll keep fingers crossed for you tomorrow!!!

Hi guys I’m spamming abit tonight but I’ve had some good news a friend of mine ttc for six years has got pregnant after two months of using a menstrual cup. Me and my DH struggled for a year and got a positive after three months. Have a google if you don’t know about it. It might save months of those heartbreaking negative tests .

@Blondeandbroody seems like there’s something there, any more updates today? Fingers crossed for you.

I’m only 8dpo so I best wait another few days at least.

I’ve never heard of using the menstrual cup @katybob def worth keeping in mind!

I tested again today (against my own better judgment) and BFN on ICs and the same weird shadow line on the Sainsbury's (blue cross one) I've heard bad things about the Sainsbury's ones so I'm not trusting it.

Ordered some more FRERs should come tomorrow so I'll test again on Monday or Tuesday when I'll be cycle day 28/29 of a presumed 30 day cycle.

It's too soon so I shouldn't even be testing but it's addictive! @Nmew @zinrepus

@Nmew @katybob

I googled this cup thing and it says you put it in right after DTD to prevent the sperm from sneaking out!

Might give it a go!!

I'm off to amazon lolz

Yeah I've been testing using some cheapies I got from amazon and only realized after the order that people were giving them not great reviews.

I'm now visiting my folks, but don't want to let on, so I'm waiting for an opportunity to sneak off and get some reliable ones. Doing that while continuing to not drink or get caught avoiding food on the no no list.

12DPO today. If it's a BFN for me, I need to sort out what's causing this metallic taste because it's distracting as all get out.

I might have to join you on Amazon @Blondeandbroody lol I have considered using them for AF anyways so this might just convince me to buy one! So frustrating that tests like that can still be on the market, I don't blame you for not wanting to trust it.

@zinrepus Tell me about it, so hard to avoid all the festivities right now without someone questioning it!

@nmew and @Blondeandbroody I can vouch for the traditional moon cup which you can usually get at any larger Boots. I've been using it for years for AF and they're fab.

Cramps have started briefly I wonder if that's a good or bad sign 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Fingers crossed its a good sign @Blondeandbroody Ive fallen down a rabbit hole of googling, have had such a huge increase of CM, watery kind (TMI) for the past 2 days. Had some cramps too. Hoping good signs for both of us!

@Nmew the only thing I've learned is that cervix position and mucus isn't good for predicting pregnancy only ovulation. They say it's because not can change so much and every woman is different. I've stopped worrying about that now because it was low yesterday and I panicked thinking that meant it was gonna be AF soon but after reading loads it's not a strict rule and some ladies got their BFP after they had a low cervix. Same thing with CM, nine changes throughout the day it can be watery then thicker in the same day x

Both, not 'not'*

@Blondeandbroody it definitely seems like there isn’t really any one sign that is common for everyone so it makes it so hard to tell. I’m getting so impatient but thankfully I have a full week of work ahead to distract me.

Hope everyone else is surviving the tww alright. x

I'm suspecting I may be out this month. Took a reliable early detection test today (13DPO) and came up negative. I'll give it another go in two days, but if I ovulate much later than predicted, I'm probably out just from a BD timing perspective.

How are all you?

Hi all :)

I feel like I've done so much research that now o could be a doctor on the subject 🤣🤣 anyone who hasn't had af yet, there is still chance. There is no amount of symptoms or non symptoms that can mean you're not pregnant !

Unfortunately af came for me today. It was such a dad start to my day but after I called down I realised it meant I actually had my dates wrong and that next month I will do ovulation sticks to be sure so it's ok, I reckon I missed a lot of the fertile days this month based on af coming today.

Hope all well xx

Oh my god the amount of typos in that message !! 😖😖😖 ugh !! I'm having a funny day!!! 🙈🙈🙈

@Newbie1992 yeah that's true, everybody has such different symptoms so it's hard to truly know until you either get AF or that BFP!

I'm holding out some hope but not too much after taking FRER. I read a lot that says sometimes there's not enough of the hormones in your pee even after you're late to get a positive result on any test so a FRER negative isn't necessarily a true BFN. X (@zinrepus)

@Blondeandbroody Oh wow! Up to 19DPO without even accounting for insane ovulation. Huh. The more you know!

Had some cramping start up at a concert tonight, we'll have an answer before too long...

Tell me about it @Newbie1992 I feel like I’ve learnt more in the past few weeks than I ever did in high school lol! Sorry AF came, hopefully next time. I used the sticks and found it a little hard to read but using the Premom app helped me.

@Blondeandbroody I’ve seen times where people don’t get BFP until after AF is due even with frer, not out till AF sings!

I’m CD23 and 10dpo, due AF 22nd, took and ic with bfn (wishful thinking I’d get anything on ic this early lol) hopefully I can wait until AF is due to test again.

@zinrepus fingers crossed for you, this whole waiting game is the worst!

I'm still getting cramps and still no sore boobs - can't tell until I get AF or BFP whether this is my new normal PMS now I'm not on the pill or not!

Frustrating! Cycle day 29 now Ovia is telling me to take a test, took IC this morning and negative so I dunno.... time will tell, which is what's frustrating!!!!

@nmew have you been trying for long ? :)

@Newbie1992 this is the first cycle we are actively trying, but I’ve been off the pill over a year and we’ve not been using any other protection for about 6 months since we got married, figured it was time to start properly keeping an eye on what’s going on with my cycle. How about you?

Ovia was the one app telling me I was ovulating three days after my other apps... And then Flo determined I ovulated one day early about a week after the fact. Next month I'll be using OPKs for sure.

And yeah, now I've found some additional data referencing that hCG can be too low until 5 weeks into your cycle. So it looks like I'll be waiting another week (or AF) before definitely reaching for a bottle.

The only way I track ovulation was opk and using the app Premom but I’m not convinced I did it right. Think I’ll try keeping an eye out for cm next time round.

BFN on a CB early this morning so feeling discouraged but will see if AF arrives in 4 days time.

How are all you doing?

I'm due today, AF hasn't shown yet and BFN. Discourage but waiting for AF to arrive before counting myself out. X