TTC - first cycle - baby #1

[Blondeandbroody]

I thought I’d create a space for people like me who are in their first cycle of TTC for baby number 1! Be nice to progress and learn together!

I do rely heavily on the advice of people further along in their journeys but I also love speaking to people in the exact same boat as me who are clueless about all of this and just starting on their journey. It’s comforting to know we’re not alone and not crazy haha!

If you wanna join (please do) then maybe share your CD, DPO and AF due date (if you know it).

I am:
CD - 18
DPO - around 2 or 3 can’t be sure
AF due - 16th December

I am just off the mini pill on which I had semi regular AFs and I stopped the pill on CD 1, when my last AF started. So I can’t be sure of anything other than my CD!!

@Blondeandbroody @SpimblesDimbles I'm 100% there on the symptom spotting. I don't want to lean in too much and I sure a heck am not telling DH what symptoms I'm experiencing until I get a BFP.

I don't want to jinx anything, but I swear, I finished flossing this morning and suddenly had a weird taste in my mouth. I knoooooow that coppery tastes in your mouth can be a symptom, but I'm trying so hard to not lean in...need to get to that 10 (ideally 14) DPO for testing, but it is getting hard.

I've been logging all my symptoms so if I don't get a BFP this cycle I'll be better clued up next cycle!

@zinrepus @SpimblesDimbles
Symptom spotter makes you think you've gone crazy haha!

@zinrepus @Blondeandbroody - its a good idea to log things, ive not done that! but i dont think i have too many anyway. im SO tired today mind, i was yesterday too.

i think if i told my other half about my 'symptoms' he would just tell me to shut up! i told him this afternoon about testing next week and he just looked at me blankly! he wont care until i get a bfp!

its so hard to not get sucked into having every symptom going! placebo effect! haha.

@SpimblesDimbles I've not been able to hide the cramps cause when I get them I react and just say cramps and he's like oh okay are you due in and I say no. That's the end of that haha!

He's told me to just tell him when I get a positive test so I don't think he will be thinking much about it in the meantime.

I wish I had that peace of mind as opposed to obsessing every little feeling thinking it's a symptom.

Hi can I join?

I’m CD15, ovulating today and AF due 25/12. I’m 29, TTC #1, cycle #1. OH is 32.

Really interested to see how you all get on and it is nice to have someone to share the journey with - strange to have something happening in my life that I can’t share with friends and family. Only my best friend and her husband know and that is only because she announced to me she is TTC just as we had decided we would!

@BoughsOfHolly of course! The more the merrier!

Ooo that's exciting it would be great if you both got your BFPs at similar times you'll have a real life pregnancy buddy!

Feeling frustrated and impatient again this evening ladies, not had much in the way of any symptoms today. Feel mild cramping at the moment (or do I, maybe I'm just imagining things HA). Got my works do tomorrow so I'm going to enjoy myself in moderation because I had spotting the last 2 days which could be implantation, could just be Mother Nature being wicked and tricking me too! Maybe a couple glasses of wine, I have been tempted to test tomorrow morning and if it's negative I will drink, but it's bound to be negative so I'll just drink anyway! Ha

I just don't know where I'm at in terms of DPO and what not. That's the most frustrating part for me and I actually can't wait to get my AF (BFP would be preferable though!!) so I know wtf is going on! All I know for sure is I'm on CD 23 and we DTD plenty around my fertile window so I feel like we have done everything we can, I just wish I had a better idea of dates and where I'm at!

@Blondeandbroody thank you! She is in a different country to me sadly but we talk on WhatsApp and call whenever we can. I’m flying out next May and would love for us to both be expecting by then (fingers crossed!)

Hope everyone is able to take their minds off TTC in the busy run up to Christmas. How are you planning to hide that you’re trying during the Christmas holiday? Fingers crossed we’ll have our BFPs and have something to hide!! I’m planning to be the designated driver as often as I can but would welcome your ideas xx

@Blondeandbroody we had unprotected last cycle and I convinced myself I was pregnant - period was 2 days after I was expecting, too, which didn’t help. Knowing your cycle definitely helps keep your peace of mind so hopefully you can find ways to track it next cycle if no BFP this time. Sending positive thoughts to you xx

Welcome @BoughsofHolly! I have no idea what's happening. Had penny mouth this morning, it disappeared, only to resurface a few minutes ago! I've also gotten some intense cramping so no idea if that's new cramping or exciting cramping...

We're doing some intense travel this break, so if need be, I will be leaning heavily into excuses like jetlag, plane lurgy, and the like.

I'm also usually the instigator for our drinking (we don't drink super heavily, but I'm the one who whips up the eggnog or suggests a trip to a winery) so theoretically nobody will start things if I'm not pushing for it... Here's hoping!

Exciting cramping or normal cramping*

@BoughsOfHolly thank you lovely. I'm going to look for the positives when I get BFNs totally preparing myself it at least trying to prepare myself for them!

Like if it's not this cycle;
At least I'll know my cycle better now
At least I won't be the size of a whale mid August for my due date
At least my child won't be the youngest in their school year
At least I'll be able to fly in summer holidays to go on holiday (maybe)
At least I've got another month of saving £££

That helps, I always have to find those silver linings otherwise I'd actually go mad

I keep thinking of all the positives

I love the positive thoughts list @Blondeandbroody thank you!

I tracked my ovulation this cycle using clear blue advanced digital (which was pricey but I have half the pack left for next cycle if needed). I’d recommend it although it didn’t identify 4 fertile days as both the hormones it detects surged at the same time rather than one then the other! So could have saved some money and bought the one that detects 2 fertile days 😂 you live and learn!!

@zinrepus hi! Thanks for the tips - we’re doing a fair bit of car travel seeing friends and family so can play that card a bit. We went to a festival with friends of friends a couple of years ago and they must have just got their BFP and told us that was why she wasn’t drinking - will do that with our close friends on New Years if we have had good news I think xx

Omg I've fallen so far behind on this chat I feel like I can't catch up now 😂😂 I so so hope everyone is feeling good ! And @Blondeandbroody spotting is so so positive !! 😯😯😯

It is definitely a strange time of year to be trying to keep this all under wraps and in a sad way I think I've totally stopped even looking forward to Christmas (my fave time of year) like I have been so so preoccupied !

It's so sweet to hear all you guys symptoms and I'm actually really jealous too :( to be honest I think I'm making things up in my own head but one thing for sure I am having and I've heard it's am early symptom is bizarre vivid dreams ! Literally last 3 nights extremely vivid dreams that are unusual for me ! The rest I think I'm making up like tender breasts and abdominal cramping 🤣🤣🤣

Xx

Haha @Newbie1992 you can only be part of the TTC crew if you think you're imagining symptoms haha!!

And after all my big talk, I cracked and did my first test today after a night of terrible jetlag sleep (approx 10 DPO). Negative, but I also don't expect to see anything until 13-14 DPO. How's everyone else holding out?

I’m only 2dpo and trying not to think about it! Think I will test on Christmas Eve morning before we go off to a christmas market - should get a result by then so will know where I stand re: drinking gluhwein or not 😂

@zinrepus looking forward to hearing how you get on in a few days 🤞

Hey All! Can I join?

TTC Baby#1, 1st cycle
AF due 22nd Dec
CD - 19
DPO - 7 (I think)
Average cycle is about 28 days. AF usually 3days long.
Used OPKs and found it quite hard to read so used the Premom app to help.
Doing some serious symptom spotting and googling, driving myself crazy lol also no idea how to survive the holiday season without knowing and trying to hide not drinking!

How’s everyone doing?!

Xx

Hey @Nmew welcome!!

Fingers crossed for a BFP right before Christmas for you!

I'm good had some nausea this morning but it's so frustrating because it could have been anything!

I'm also really bloated today! Feel really crappy.

No PMS symptoms yet I usually get sore boobs for a week before but they're fine so far!

@Blondeandbroody fingers crossed the lack of normal PMS symptom is a positive sign!

I feel so hyper aware of everything, especially things like nausea, cramping and such, so hard to tell if something is “normal” or not!

Not long to test now though if you are due AF soon, hopefully those days fly in for you! (And the rest of us lol)

*actually 6dpo, I have no idea why I thought it was already Friday

I think that's the least favourite bit is thinking is this a symptom or just you know normal bodily functions haha! @Nmew

Can't say I blame you for wishing the days away!

I'm due AF on 18th so still 6 days so sore boobs can happen any day now!

I totally agree, everything from a headache to a twitchy eye and I’m googling it haha. Though I have been trying to make note in my Clue app so that if it’s a BFN this month then I can look back and maybe feel a bit more sane next month when it comes to symptom spotting!

Ahh well here’s hoping for no PMS signs!

I’ve been trying to distract myself with housework and Christmas movies as I’m off work this week, will be glad to get back to work to get more distraction. Anything you do to help distract @Blondeandbroody

@Nmew yeah I've been logging everything I've felt as it may mean nothing this cycle but next cycle it might turn out to just be normal cycle stuff and not pregnancy related.

I only finish for work on Wednesday when I'm due AF so I'm gonna try and stay busy with work to pass the time!

Just want it over for this cycle now, either way! BFP or AF

hi girls! sorry ive been quiet, i find it so hard to see everything and reply from my phone but also dont want to log on at work incase someone sees my histrory!! hahha.

anyone testing? 10 dpo, should i try tomorrow at 11?!

@SpimblesDimbles have you got the mumsnet talk app? It's easier I find x

I tested today as im 6 days before missed period that's the rule on FRER packets but BFN.

Not too disheartened as it's not that accurate at that stage gets more accurate the closer to AF date, gonna wait a few days I think before testing again x if you can wait, wait but if you can't, do it and then see what it says. Not out until AF shows as they say.

I've got zero PMS symptoms and I am fairly sure I get them quite early on (sore boobs mainly) before I'm due! But I've worked myself up about symptoms this week so trying not to read into it anymore!

Just me that sees this? I'm pretty sure it is just me and my eyes wishful thinking and all that