TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Mumlili8]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have only just finished bleeding and am testing positive still on pregnancy tests but have some EWCM??

We aren't TTC atall this cycle but I am confused haha. I thought hcg had to be 0 before you ovulated again.....maybe its not ovulation ewcm and some random post miscarriage cm instead.

@StephyRose think we're on another thread :D but seven seas ttc tablets really regulated my cycle

@Peach7744 welcome lovely , I don't have any experience sorry as only recently miscarried and I am going to wait a period as I ended up having a erpc:)

@Anny27 @Avocuddles @ReeRi thank you Unfortunately I have had some more light bleeding and a negative frer, so yes it seems to have been a chemical. I was pregnant for a whole 2 days I never thought when I started this journey that I would have had 3 loses. I am forever thankful for the daughter that I do have (who I never thought would have happened to me) so I know that I can count my lucky stars.

May I ask, what would your next steps be? Just continue ttc and see what happens, ask for some initial bloods, something else? This is my second loss in 3 months (I was 5 weeks last time), plus a missed miscarriage last year (11 weeks). Do they even count a chemical pregnancy as a loss?

@Anny27 I was literally just going to come on here and ask if anyone else was experiencing this. Im 2 weeks post "natural" mc and last night and today been having some clumpy mucus (not completely ew) but still testing positive. The bleeding has stopped but still have some stained discharge.

@TwinkleStars15 So sorry lovely ❤️ No words can express.

They do count CPs as they are early miscarriages. I think you neee to see your GP and get a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic with three consecutive losses. I've not gone through this myself, perhaps some other ladies on here (sadly) have got more experience?

I'm so sorry again ❤️ xxx

So sorry @TwinkleStars15 💓 xxxx

Yes a lady on another thread had 3 CPs and has been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic so definitely worth speaking to your GP xxx

@MissSparkles81 strange isn't it! I am not sure it is ovulation but just wanting to get a negative pregnancy test now so I can move on with the cycle. I am also having stained discharge just the last bits being cleared out

@anny27 it really is ... its been nearly 3 weeks now of bleeding/discharge ... I just want it over with so I can try and move on a wee bit.

Its reassuring to know that what im experiencing is normal. Thinking of you and sorry for your loss xx

@MissSparkles81 I'm still having some unusual discharge patterns (though no bleeding) over ten weeks after my miscarriage. Unfortunately whilst some are 'lucky' enough (said sarcastically as I appreciate that there is no luck at all when it comes to pregnancy loss) for things to revert to 'normal' quite quickly, I understand it's not unusual for it to take several cycles for the body to recover from a miscarriage. I also had some clotting a couple of weeks after both of my miscarriages even after I had had a negative test. I hope it doesn't take much longer for your symptoms to settle down.

If any of you use the Clear Blue Advanced Ovulation Tests (the purple one) Amazon are selling a pack of 20 for £23, super cheap. Just rude red some as my bleeding has ramped up today. Got a GP appointment for Tuesday.

@Avocuddles

Was there anything you did differently/additional medical support during your successful pregnancy?

No there was absolutely nothing I did differently in that pregnancy, compared with my first one and second (which only lasted till the end of the first trimester)

To be honest, my first pregnancy I didn't even know I was pregnant til several weeks down the line and I had been drinking liberal amounts of wine etc.

Second pregnancy I knew much earlier and was much more cautious with doing all the right things and that ended in MMC.

I've glad that my story has given some positivity!

@StephyRose

I'm sorry to hear about your MMC, it's a horrible time and you need the time to recover both physically and emotionally

We started TTC once the bleeding stopped properly- a good 3 weeks or so down the line from finding out about my MMC

I signed up for an ovulation app Ovia, I'd never used these before and I was determined to find out all about my cycles!

Also, I read about Ubiquinol on here and went through a few months on/off taking it. It helped me feel that I was doing something extra to help things but I don't know whether it made any difference.

It was certainly quite pricey!

Posted too soon!

The only thing that seemed to make a difference to me, was going for acupuncture and taking traditional Chinese herbs

I'd never ever done anything like that before, I thought of acupuncture as being totally woo and not something I'd ever considered

Had my first session in the September, second one the following month and in early November had my third session- exactly 2 weeks later I got my BFP

Who knows whether it was all just coincidence but for me, I felt that acupuncture made the difference. It certainly wasn't cheap and I can see why others can be cynical especially when they've had it over a period of months etc.

At first, I was annoyed with myself that I hadn't tried it sooner- once I passed 12 months of TTC, that was when I started exploring alternative options and things that I'd never considered before

However, I took the approach that it was all just meant to be and didn't dwell on things too much and the pregnancy progressed, although I held my breath until the day DC2 was born, convinced that something else might go wrong!

Baby dust to you all

@TurquoiseDress I definitely believe that acupuncture can be beneficial. I've been having it for six months now (since my first miscarriage) so have spent something of a small fortune but plan to keep it up. I fell pregnant fairly quickly again after my first loss with a cycle shorter than I'd ever experienced without the support of acupuncture. Acupuncture also helped me through the physical miscarriage process - a scan a week after I passed the sac showed that there was some tissue stuck up inside which showed no sign of budging naturally, my acupuncturist gave me a session intending to get things moving and within a couple of hours it passed. On the basis of this experience I would recommend it not just for those TTC but also for those going through a MMC as it might (for some) prevent the need for medical or surgical interventions.
I'm currently going through a very long cycle (CD 44 today!) which was the norm before my pregnancies and I'm wondering if the fact that I've only had one session so far this month due to holidays / work commitments might be contributing....

Reading what all of you say about acupuncture is selling it to me! I might try it in the new year.

I am on CD27. My cycle is usually 30 day and I ovulate around day 14 but I had lots of CM around day 18 so not sure if I ovulated later. I’ve been symptom spotting and was feeling a bit hopeful this cycle but got a BFN on Wednesday evening and again this morning (FRERs).

Now wondering whether I ovulated late or maybe not at all!

Does anyone know if you have an anovulatory cycle does that affect other symptoms you have because of the hormones? I have felt different this cycle but I suppose that could be down to anything...

Hi ladies. Sorry for radio silence - it's been a busy week and have finally passed the pregnancy this morning.

TMI/trigger warning - sorry for detail but I feel like I need to talk it through

Frankly horrendous, it's a couple of weeks later than any of my other miscarriages and I wasn't expecting it to be quite so dramatic and frankly bloody. I'm just debating calling the hospital to see if I need to be seen due to the blood loss. Been bleeding lightly for a couple of days then started with cramps this morning and shortly afterwards a big gush of what must have been the waters and sadly the baby came out with them - a proper tiny baby, with eyes and arms and legs. I just wasn't expecting that and it's hit me pretty hard - previous mcs have just been lumps of tissue but never anything identifiable.

Been bleeding very heavily since (so the past 3/4 hours or so), passed quite a lot of stringy tissue and have had to arrange cover for work as can't even stand up without soaking two maternity pads immediately and passing pretty huge clots. Ruining all the nightwear I own at a rate of knots! If anyone has any experience of mc at this stage (I was 13/14 weeks but the baby stopped growing at 10) I'd appreciate reassurance that this amount of bleeding is ok (or not) it's way more than I've had before.

Hope everyone's ok. I'm sorry to be all about me and so tmi, I'll go back and catch up with the thread when things are a bit more settled here.

Oh @SunshineCrocodile I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I can imagine how upsetting that would be. I haven’t been in your situation but I would suggest calling someone or going to A&E if you are worried about the bleeding. Do you have a number for someone you can call? Sending strength x

@SunshineCrocodile I have PMd you based on my experience xx

I hope you’re ok and not in too much pain @SunshineCrocodile And sorry I meant I can’t imagine what you’re going through obviously.

@Mumlili8 thank you for the new thread and the tag. I got a BFP in September and took myself off this thread. I didn’t add myself to the graduates thread as I was waiting for the 12 week scan. At the 12 week scan we got the terrible news that our baby is very sick- NT measurement of over 10mm plus fluid around lungs and belly. We had a CVS test the next day and received a diagnosis of a chromosomal abnormality. After a lot of research and distress, DH and I have decided to terminate this pregnancy due to these findings. I am booked in to have a termination under general anaesthetic on Monday. We know that the baby is a little girl. So in the space of one year we have had one daughter stillborn, and now are preparing ourselves to lose our second daughter.

I’m sorry not to be able to bring positive news after a BFP. I don’t know if or when we will start TTC again, at the moment we are just focusing on getting through one day at a time.

Hug to everyone x

@JuniperAndRose I am so sorry to read your update. You have been through so much and it is just so unfair are losing another baby girl. Life really is shit sometimes. I hope you are taken care of and have lots of support in real life to help you get through this.

@juniperandrose so very very sorry to hear this x

@JuniperAndRose I am so very sorry to read your news, I can't imagine how hard this must be. I remember you from the thread and wondered about you as you got your bfp just before I did. Nothing to say that can make this any better for you, it's just monumentally unfair and you have my hugest sympathy. Sending you love, I hope you have people to lean on IRL. If you want a chat, just for solidarity or venting or whatever you need, please do pm me. Not in a comparable situation but currently going through the loss of my second pregnancy this year.

@ReeRi and @Anny27, thank you - I've called EPU and they've said it sounds a lot and I can go in - bleeding has actually slowed quite a bit so I'm going to wait and see how the next hour goes and go in if it ramps up again. Pulse and temp all ok so hopefully it was just my body getting rid of everything in a rush.

@JuniperAndRose so sorry for your loss. Must be such a difficult time hearing that news and having to research and make a decision. Life can be so unfair xxx

@SunshineCrocodile glad that the EPU have agreed to see you xxx

@SunshineCrocodile glad to hear that epu are going to see you. With it being the weekend I would be inclined to go anyway no matter what happens with the bleeding.

@JuniperAndRose thinking of you and sending a massive hug

@Avocuddles thanks lovely ... I hope they do too. I done another test this morning and got the fainest of positives so hopefully the negative wont be too far away. Cant believe I am saying this ... such a mindf**k

@SunshineCrocodile @JuniperAndRose I'm so sorry to see you both here again going through such incredibly horrid and painful experiences.

@SunshineCrocodile if I were you I'd pop along to the EPU for peace of mind as much as anything. Both of my miscarriages were a few weeks earlier than yours so not as visually traumatic in some ways, however when I went into EPU during the first one it was a worthwhile experience as a doctor physically examined me and helped to gently remove some tissue which was 'stuck' in the opening of the uterus, and I also got to talk through my fears with a very kind nurse.

@JuniperAndRose I am devastated for you, this group really does make it seem like life can be so cruel and unfair sometimes, and I desperately hope that next year you will bring a rainbow into the world. We will all be thinking of you next Monday.