TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

@MrsMGE GOOD LUCK for your interview today!!! I'll be thinking of you all day and sending lots of lucky thoughts 💭 🍀 Thanks as always for kind words and advice! I will also wait until next year closer to my 1 year mark I think, I don't want to ruin Xmas and NYE with obsessing over this! Our situation is so similar and it's feels so good to have you on the same journey for support (obviously not wishing this on you, just that we're in this unfortunate boat together!). I'm keeping my fingers crossed we both come out of this year with a new promotion 😃 you sound stronger now MH wise, am I right? I really hope I am ❤️

@LASandOtto Thanks for your words, I'm thinking of you too!! Exciting you get the next cycle monitored so you know exactly what's going on! And good that you've been busy with your friend, that is needed - Especially lots of wine 😃😃😃

@Avocuddles happy belated anniversary! I hope you two had a good one. Also thinking of you and @ReeRi often.

Obviously all the other ladies too, we're so many on this thread now! 😘

Aaaaannnnddddd it's done! Phew! It went well. Awaiting approval from the board, but two of the partners from my interview panel have already popped in to tell me that it was very good, that my business plan was very comprehensive, "glowing client feedback" (😳) and that I have "nothing to worry about". So I'm taking this as a positive sign, albeit not opening bubbly till I receive the final approval!

It has given me a boost, primarily because it's nice to know that people around you see some potential in you and are there to support you in taking things forward. And of course at least some of my clients must genuinely like me, thank God for that 🤣

Thanks so much for your support, girls! I felt some real girl power this morning abd it's helped me to stay cool immensely, I had a tummy revolution this morning due to stress, but I've composed myself having read all your positive messages ❤️

I'm done now, feel like I need to go home and sleep 😂 xxxx

@MrsMGE well done so proud of you!!! It sounds great! Love good client feedback too, it's the best part of the job 😄

Promotion, Christmas, New Year... life's good! 🥳

@MrsMGE glad it went went and that it's given you a boost. Onwards and upwards for all of us!!!

I don’t know whats going on today. I replied earlier!

Hope everyone is ok

Are you applying for partner @MrsMGE?

@ReeRi For a SA. I took a slight detour in-house before returning to private practice and climbing up the ladder in a different specialist area. I think I'll leave partnership for a few years longer till the current partners retire, which should be perfect timing, if everything goes well that is. For me partnership would also mean leading the practice area and working between several offices, and I am happy to focus on practising the law rather than moving to a managerial role in my mid-30s. I don't fancy nearly 40 years of management in law, if that makes sense? Hopefully I'll take time off soon to have my rainbow(s) too, which should work out well. Where are you now, are you thinking about partnership?

Thanks so much @Avocuddles @SunStruck! Big relief. I'm stuffing my face with Nutella on toast as my AF arrived this afternoon and I'm dying for some chocolate. I'm so delighted that AF didn't crush me this month, no flashbacks yet and I'm actually quite OK. This is my biggest win, bigger than any promotion tbh. You're right @SunStruck, MH is better now, but I don't want to say I turned the corner completely just yet.

AF also means I will be enjoying my Aldi Baileys over Christmas and I am going to get smashed with my workmate who also went for a promotion at our Christmas do, YAY 😂❤️!!! Little things in life! 😂

How is everyone doing??? Xxx

@MrsMGE That makes sense. I am Assoc level and my firm have just introduced Principal Associate this year (before was just Sol, assoc and partner)... Good luck 🍀

@ReeRi Principal Associate? I've not heard this one before. Are you going for it at some point? Do you have that funny thing as well that you get the more senior title, but no automatic pay rise? I have to apply for mine separately, here's hoping! Only in lae, eh... Thank you for your kind wishes ❤️ xxx

law not lae, silly phone, sorry @ReeRi*!

@MrsMGE yay to Nutella and getting smashed!!!!

I am so bloody confused with my body this month. CD42 and suddenly I've got plenty of EWCM (which I NEVER usually have) but only the palest line on a OPK. Feels like another bonkers anovulatory cycle, I just wish AF would hurry up and arrive so I can reset the clock!

@MrsMGE I got promoted to associate and didn’t get a pay rise but got 5% separately a month later when it was pay reviews. I’ll probably think about PA next year but I feel a bit occupied as I came back from mat leave at the end of August and have been really busy since with client work and client relationship stuff.

Fingers crossed for you @Avocuddles It can be frustrating when you don’t know what your cycle is doing

I’m so tired. I’m just on my way from work but found it all hard work today!

@ReeRi I know what you mean, it takes so long to prep everything for it! You nearly need 48 hr days at times to fit everything in with business development as well. But hey ho, I'm grateful to be where I am and I love my job. Wishing you the very best of luck with whatever you decide for next year 🍀 And tonight just relax, sounds like a long day? Xxx

@Avocuddles Heyyyy! I know, right, what a combo 😂 Do you reckon you should DTD for the next few days perhaps?? Maybe you've skipped your period, it is possible? I'd be having some fun tonight if I were you 😁

I had a 29 day cycle for the first time in forever, they've been over 30 days for ages. That's ok, but I'm slightly concerned about my LP which has gone down from 13 days last month to 10. But maybe it's a one-off? Who knows.

I'm not tracking or temping next month, just going to enjoy life for once, it's Christmas xxx

@MrsMGE still working away so if I had some 'fun' tonight it wouldn't be with my husband! 😂
Back home tomorrow evening so we'll see then......

@MrsMGE TBH I’m not even thinking about that yet as I feel I have a lot to get through just to Christmas with my first Christmas without our daughter and TTC as well as just day to day work but hoping 2020 will be a good year 😊

@Avocuddles You made me chuckle here 😂😂😂 Your DH better braces himself for tomorrow night!

@ReeRi ❤️ It's not the way things should be, but you will go through the Christmas period and you will find happy moments. As you say, one step at a time, and onwards and upwards in 2020 xxx

Evening ladies

I wanted to post on here today- I used to post on the earlier threads, I think the ones in the early 20s!

Today I realised that it was exactly 2 years since I got my BFP for DC2.
I remember crying with happiness and pure fear- and also the fact that Harry & Meghan getting engaged was breaking news on the BBC!

The BFP followed around 16 months of TTC after my 2nd pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage, discovered at the dating scan during summer 2016.

DC2 is now coming up to 16 months and I thank my lucky stars every day for both DC1 & DC2.

Following on from my MMC there were times when I honestly did not believe that I would ever become pregnant again or that any further pregnancy would successfully go to term.

I got so much amazing support & advice on here, it really kept me going through the dark times.

This day 2 years ago I was around 3 days late for my period but I had been temping for a good few months (after trying and giving up a few times) and I'd noticed that my temperature didn't dip as it usually did.
So I already had an inkling that something was going on!

I wanted to post on here to give others some hope that things can work out in the end and to keep going

I really do hope that this post is not taken the wrong way, and that it's clear my intention of why I wanted to write on here.

@TurquoiseDress thank you for sharing your encouraging story! It's great to hear a success story.
Was there anything you did differently i
/ additional medical support during your successful pregnancy?

@TurquoiseDress

Thank you so much for your post. I came onto this board looking for some encouraging stories as I have a MMC last week and had an EPRC last Thursday. It would have been our 1st baby.

Was literally looking for some fab stories as I feel that I will never get pregnant again or be able to carry to term at the moment ...and yours has really perked me up. Thank you :D

Folks where TTC again ... is there any supplements or dietary things you have done different this time?

The first time I took Vital Dha tablets, folic acid and vitamin D all as separate supplements ... but I've heard really great things about Seven Seas Trying for a Baby. Apparently they can regulate your periods as well, rather than them being unpredictable which mine were before BFP #1.

Thanks in advance xx

@MrsMGE Yes I think because we have booked a few days away I am looking forward to it a bit rather than just sitting at home thinking that our daughter should be with us. To anyone dreading Christmas, I recommend booking something fun to do or time away if you can do it!

Hi again, please can I ask your advice? This is driving me crazy and I need to ask people who may know the answers. I think I might be having my 3rd loss, possibly a chemical pregnancy. My first missed miscarriage was last year at 11 weeks and then a miscarriage 2 months ago at 5 weeks.

So, I’ve been testing since 8dpo and nothing, until 13dpo where I got an extremely light line on an internet cheapie. Tested again at 14dpo and again got a faint line on the cheapie and on a supermarket own brand. Did a Clear Blue Digi which said not pregnant (that was hard to see). Also had a slight bit of blood when wiping on two occasions so though AF was coming as the lines were so faint for 14dpo. I tested again this morning on internet cheapie and own brand and the line is fainter than yesterday, and I’m now 15dpo. Do you think this sounds like a chemical? I’ve had no more bleeding. Surely the lines should be a bit more obvious by now? The waiting is killing me, it’s awful. I didn’t want to post the pictures of the tests as I know how hard it can be seeing positive tests when you are ttc, but can if people are happy for me to. Any help would be really welcome right now

@turquoiseDress thanks for sharing. These things really help me remain positive!!

@TwinkleStars15 happy for you to PM me the photos lovely xx

Hi @TwinkleStars15 I’m sorry your dealing with this and hope it is not what you think. I wouldn’t mind you posting the pics personally but it probably isn’t necessary as it sounds like they are still positive albeit getting fainter. I think it might be a waiting game unfortunately.

Hello, hope it's ok for me to join this thread. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks on the 4th November and had medical management (picked up at private early scan, as we were going to tell my partners parents that weekend we were pregnant) I had no signs before that scan that anything was wrong. Did a negative pregnancy test on Friday 22nd and again to double check on Sunday 24th Nov.
Ttc again and using clear blue digital ovulation tests. Am hoping to get pregnant again ASAP (fingers crossed!) , does anyone have any experience of getting pregnant before 1st period after miscarriage?
Just would really help to talk to people that are in similar situations. Xxx

@TwinkleStars15 I have no problem with you posting the tests. As @ReeRi says it's unfortunately probably a waiting game over the next few days to see what happens. It does sound like it could be a chemical pregnancy, but you probably need to give a little longer to know for certain where you stand.

@StephyRose hi! I've miscarried twice unfortunately, and my periods are very irregular so I'm under referral to the fertility clinic though haven't had any treatment beyond tests / consultations so far. After my first loss I started acupuncture which I find very helpful - I go to a practitioner who specialises in fertility and pregnancy who also offers advice around supplements, lifestyle etc. If this is something you might be interested in I would recommend looking up Zita West accredited practitioners as they are trained to have extensive knowledge of miscarriage and fertility issues. At the advice of my acupuncturist I take Pregnacare Max - they're fairly expensive but apparently tick all of the boxes in terms of nutritional needs whilst trying to conceive and throughout pregnancy. The key benefit compared to other supplements is that the folic acid is in folate form which is more readily absorbed by the body. I also take 200mg of Ubiquinol along with a high strength vitamin c tablet to aid absorption - this is supposed to improve egg quality though may take several months to see the full benefits.
I hope you get another BFP soon and that it leads to your rainbow!

Hi @Peach7744, so sorry to hear about your experience. I managed to conceive on the second cycle after my first miscarriage but unfortunately that pregnancy also failed. After the second loss I took a couple of months off TTC which I personally think was a good idea as I definitely benefited from having some time to heal physically and emotionally. There's no harm in TTC immediately but make sure you look after yourself and focus on your wellbeing as you've been through a lot x