TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Mumlili8]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

@SunStruck thank you - the two cp's happened 4 and 6 days following positive tests. I knew both times it was probably a chemical because the line wasn't as strong as my MMC. I didn't tell anyone about those as like you, I felt differently having not seen heartbeat etc like at MMC.

Definitely feel pressured too - we also really want the whole baby in 2020 too and the reality of that is stressful...! Wishing you lots of luck, I really hope it happens for you and you get your 2020 baby!!!

@Avocuddles - thank you. I've been following your journey a little bit over a few different threads and my heart goes out to you - you seem so strong and you've definitely made me give myself a kick up the bum sometimes!!

Hi all, I hopped off for a bit because we weren't ttc. We're still not officially but there is a slight chance since we dtd on cd14.
Off to read back, hope you're all okay ❤

Hi everyone apologies for being a bit quiet ... im back to work tomorrow and feeling a bit anxious about it all. Im also due AF this week and the timing could not have been worse 😕

I don't know if anyone has been following my problems with my partner and performance issues but we tried again last night and even without the pressure of it being the right time of the month it didnt end well.

I really dont know how to fix this 😪

Oh I almost forgot I also submitted my official complaint to the hospital about the way I was treated in A+E during the MC. I know that it wont change things but I feel better for getting it out of my head xx

Fingers crossed for you @Treaclepie19

I’m sorry to hear that @MissSparkles81 but we’ll done ok the complaint. I think it’s important that these things are fed back and if it helps get it off your mind to some degree

Hi all, ah lots to catch up on again...

@MissSparkles81. I’m sorry last night didn’t go well. I can’t remember if I said after the last chat about this, but I think if my DH can’t manage it this month at any time then I might try and suggest AI, although I really don’t think he’ll take it well. As well as ttc, is really also just like to have sex with my husband. Is very difficult, you have my sympathies. Can you talk to your husband about it? When we first got together and this was an issue, my DH would talk openly about it, but now it’s to do with ttc, he’s quite closed. 🤷🏻‍♀️

AF arrived this week, which was actually good as we hadn’t dtd, and I hadn’t been able to get a positive opk, so I’m just happy to be moving onto the next cycle. I turn 40 this week. Was actually really looking forward to it when I was pregnant, but now not so much. I’ve got the day off work so am just going for a nice day out with DH and our toddler. No big celebration as don’t think I’d enjoy it.

Much love to all x

Oh, also yes well done @MissSparkles81on the complaint. I’m waiting to hear back from mine as I’m still receiving letters about my ante natal appointments. Even if nothing happens, it’s good to have these things recorded. x

@tmc14 yeah you did mention that ... I dunno if thats for us either but if things dont improve then I would seriously consider it. Thats if we can actually get to that point too ... if you catch my drift 🙈

@tmc14 I cant believe you are still receiving letters. Thats awful. They have no idea the impact of receiving these letters are. Big hugs xx

@misssparkles81 I don’t think my DH will go for it but I think having the potential of an alternative route is the only thing keeping me sane right now!

@MissSparkles81 just wanted to wish you all the best for day one of work! X

Morning ladies 😀 how are we all? Wonder if anyone may know the answer to this?...

After a mmc in October and a cp in December my doctor suggested I try taking low dose aspirin. I've been taking this for a week or so now but realised I forgot to ask her how long you're supposed to take it for. Is there a set time?

Hi @MrsG3 I would assume at least until you get a BFP, and probably for the first twelve weeks, though I'd maybe leave a message with the receptionist and ask them to check? I have a history of blood clotting and I have to start taking low dose aspirin when I get a BFP (along with daily blood thinning injections). I've read about numerous women who are told to take it from ovulation onwards, in particular those who have CPs / very early losses. Mine have both been between 7 and 8 weeks so I guess there's not felt to be a need for me to take it during the 2WW though I will ask my consultant about it at my next appointment.....

@tmc14 I received several letters after my losses including one telling me off for not attending my 12 week scan! You would hope in this day and age that systems would be more joined up but it seems to happen repeatedly. I hope you manage to find some enjoyment on your birthday.

@MissSparkles81 hope day one of work went well and also hope that you don't have to wait too long for a response to your complaint.

Feeling a bit up and down this week. DHs close friend's baby was born on Saturday, their due date was within a few days of our first due date so although I'm looking forward to meeting their gorgeous little one I can't help but feel sad when I see photos and read comments about how 'nothing can beat the feeling of when your child is born'. I just wish I knew if I would ever get to experience that myself, or whether I am destined to never have my own child. It's the not knowing which is hardest!

That’s tough @Avocuddles I find comments like that hard. Hopefully our time will come but I agree it’s not knowing. If I have to wait two years, for example, then I’d feel better knowing that but I’m the meantime I have no idea if I’m putting so much time and energy into something that might not materialise. I’m still hopeful for 2020!

Hey everyone ♥️

Age 24 years old
2 MC
1 at 5 weeks and another at 7 weeks.
2 beautiful rainbow babies. 🌈

@avocuddles I know the feeling 😔 we just have to focus on ourselves and less on others I think (difficult when it's all around you... my SIL is giving birth in March). It will be our turn soon, it's positive we're currently getting some help!

@MrsG3 my dr told me to take baby aspirin from 1 DPO, so during 2ww. And continue during the first 12 weeks if I get pregnant. I don't have any clotting issues (that I know of), but I've had a mmc and an early loss at 5 weeks, so all the help I can get I guess..

Thanks @didsysquiddlydoo 😃 I'm also hopeful for this year! Currently 8 DPO, and my luteal phase is short at 10 days so fingers crossed. I won't test early!

Hi everyone. Not long back from my fertility appointment. Verdict is unexplained infertilty and straight to ivf. I'm a bit shell-shocked. In reality we won't start for about 6 months. I've been prescribed levothyroxine as my thyroid is slightly raised. The consultant wouldn't entertain giving me clomid or stimulated ovulation. My rmc tests are back and all fine, so no further forward. Feeling really deflated.
Already been feeling very low over the last few days.
Dh is quite upbeat, he's hopeful that removing the polyp and the thyroid meds will be the answer.

The consultant said the rmc don't support aspirin but he suggested I take it from getting a positive test as it won't harm anything.

Hope everyone is OK xx

@VenusStarr sorry you're feeling deflated. I'm a little surprised that your clinic recommended going straight to IVF - from what I recall our circumstances are similar (though not sure if your cycle is as irregular as mine?) and my clinic said that for me IVF probably wasn't the answer given that I did conceive naturally albeit not successfully. Did they explain why IVF is the best option for you?
On the plus side IVF success rates are high and you will have so much monitoring and support so although six months may seem a while off the wIt will be worthwhile if it leads to a baby. Are you going to actively keep trying until then? Your DH might be right and the other interventions may help you to get there without IVF....

@SunStruck I'm crossing everything for you!

Thank you @Avocuddles. I was surprised too. He said he didn't understand why we've struggled then lost 2 babies but as my cycles are regular and I definitely ovulate then clomid would do more harm than good. We can self fund iui but the success rates are so low just think I'd rather save the money for ivf if our only cycle fails - we get one fresh cycle.

We're ttc until ivf starts. I don't think we'll hear anything for a few months, so we have some time. I don't really know what else to try, back on bbt testing, opks and smep and a lot of wishing and hoping. I'm really scared of ivf but I'm more scared of never being a mom :(

@VenusStarr that makes sense. It seems that I very rarely ovulate so the drugs definitely have the potential to help me, if you already ovulate then clomid / letrozole has a higher risk of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome which would put a pause on your TTC efforts. I really hope that you get a result within the next couple of months, it's happened before so fingers crossed it will happen again..... x

@MrsG3 have I missed something are you pregnant xx

@Avocuddles and @LASandOtto thank you for the well wishes. It was a hard day but I managed to get through it. I pretty much hid in the office until I really needed to pee. I work in the maternity unit so was trying to avoid all contact with people and it worked.

Im off today but trecking across the country with the bf to see his lawyer regarding better contact with his son. Should be a fun day ...NOT!

@VenusStarr I would look at going straight to IVF as a positive thing chick. They aren't gonna mess you around trying things that might help and prob wont. Big hugs xx

@MrsG3 I'm sorry I just read back though and I've made a mistake, my apologies I didn't mean to up set. Very thoughtless of me xx