TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Mumlili8]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

@BunnytheBlueWhale thank you!

@Russkispy that sounds really good! Fingers crossed x

@Russkispy hello lovely, that's great news.
I've an appointment on 7th so hoping for the same results xx

@Russkispy glad the test results all seem ok and hope you don't have to wait long for the transfer!

@Mumlili8 glad your appointment is finally here! Mine has been pushed back from Monday to Thursday but fingers crossed I'll be able to start a monitored ovulation cycle very soon....

Hope you are all having a good weekend x

@Russkispy that all sounds positive! Fingers crossed that this is your cycle.

@Avocuddles that's frustrating re your appointment. But still not too long to wait, hope you get started as soon as you're ready.

Bit up and down here - definite CP confirmed with BFN today but bleeding never got beyond spotting and has now stopped. So I don't really know what went on there, but then it was the first cycle/AF since MMC so I guess all bets were off. Treating the new year as the beginning of this cycle so just waiting for a week or so before starting the whole TTC routine again and trying to feel positive that I still potentially have a chance to grow a whole baby before the end of this year!

@BunnytheBlueWhale maybe I'm hormonal but your post re your friend just made me well up. It's a very generous spirit that can be happy for someone in these circumstances, but I so hope you're not waiting long for your rainbow to find you.

@SunshineCrocodile Sorry it was a CP but, as you say, this is a new cycle and a new chance and who knows where we’ll be in a year’s time! I hope it’s where we want to be, with our rainbow babies 🌈 I think I’m hormonal too(!) but I really do like this woman and would like to think I’ve made a friend for life in her

@shanine it's so hard. How long have you been trying now? Could you maybe take a break for a while, book a break away somewhere? It's such a cruel situation x

@shanine sorry I just read further down that it was June.

@shanine I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It is difficult. We have been trying since April after we lost our daughter in February. Since then I’ve had an early MC and many BFNs. I don’t know what to say. It’s hard. Sometimes (often) I wonder whether it will happen for us. But looking at the positives I have fallen pregnant twice without trying for that long. If you’re struggling could you take a month off and see how you feel or even just stop tracking if you’ve been using OPKs etc. I was using OPKs for a while but last cycle and this coming one I’m not tracking and seeing how I feel that way. None of us know what the future holds. My plan is to keep trying and then maybe speak to the GP about my options if I’m not pregnant by around March. I’m 36 in a few months and I worry time might not be on my side but I think there’s also some scaremongering and slightly out of date attitudes when it comes to age and pregnancy.

@shanine I didn’t realise the advice was to seek advice after 6 months. It helps just to have a plan in mind. Rather than feeling like i could be TTC for years, it helps me to have a timescale in mind to seek help. I have PMT so that is making me feel a little down too (I can get quite severe PMT)

Oh that’s interesting to know @shanine I will look that up. Hope you have a gentle evening. We are going to my parents but I’m waiting for DH to get home and it looks like he’s going to be late!

Just wondered if anyone can help....I miscarried on Christmas Day at 6 weeks - it all came away on that day and I’ve been rescanned since and has been confirmed that it’s all gone. I’m wanting to ttc again as soon as possible. Do you count day one of a new cycle from the date that you passed the embryo? I’ve searched this and there is lots of conflicting info. My pregnancy app seems to think that’s it’s day 14 from the first day of the bleeding which was 23rd December? Any help or advice would be so greatly received.

@shanine You keep me updated and let me know how it goes too but hopefully we won’t get to that point!!

@Broccolilover07 Sorry you find yourself here. I’m sure someone will be able to give you some advice

I just had a text from a friend who is pregnant. She is a work colleague who works in another office so I don’t see her often at all (3-4 times a year max) but we clicked from the start. She had a MMC a few years ago and then had her little boy a few months before I had my little girl who was stillborn. We were on mat leave together. I’m pleased for her because it took her a long time to get pregnant with her son and I really like her but I am selfishly also thinking about myself and once again feeling like every woman I know of childbearing age is pregnant! I do have PMT though so feeling a bit emosh... She said she wanted to tell me first (she is telling our boss tomorrow when we’re back at work) and I really appreciate her telling me actually

@Broccolilover07 I would say wait and start counting cycle days after your next period. Your miscarriage doesn't count as a period (in my opinion). I'm happy to be corrected if anyone knows otherwise.

@BunnytheBlueWhale there's definitely no harm in speaking to your GP sooner rather than later. Being 35+ is a blessing as well as a curse in so much as the NHS seems to sit up and pay much more attention to us 'geriatrics' who are struggling with TTC so there's every chance they might be willing to support you now. There's more likely than not nothing 'wrong', but it can reassuring to have the basic fertility tests to rule things out.

@shanine ditto it's definitely worth speaking to the doctor and explaining your concerns as well as making clear the negative impact this is having on your wellbeing. I don't ovulate every month (I haven't ovulated at all since my second miscarriage in September) but am about to start ovulation stimulation medication in the next couple of weeks so I at least know that I have a chance of pregnancy. I'm pretty terrified at the thought of another miscarriage but can't imagine how anxious you must feel after your heartbreaking experience. I hope the dark cloud of today passes quickly, it's understandably so disheartening when AF arrives but on the plus side this is the start of a new cycle which could be THE ONE!

@Broccolilover07 sorry you've found yourself here. In answer to your question, I understand that in theory you count from the day of passing the embryo, however be aware that your first cycle might be longer and you might potentially not ovulate this month as your body recovers. My MCs were both at 7-8 weeks and I had intermittent bleeding for a few weeks after, and took a full three weeks to get a negative test. Have you had a BFN yet?

No, I haven’t had a negative pregnancy test as yet, but I was going to try again this cycle on day 13/14, I feel that I will help me if I start trying again straight away.

@Broccolilover07 there's no harm at all in trying again immediately, but it's worth making sure you have a negative test before you do - not so much in case you fall pregnant again, but to make sure that there definitely isn't anything being retained in you that could put you at risk of infection. After my first miscarriage the scan looked completely clear and I thought I'd passed everything so was surprised when I still had a faint positive after two weeks, but a couple of days later I passed another clot and then a couple of days after that my test was completely clear.
I really hope you don't have to wait long for your rainbow baby! Was this your first pregnancy?

Yes that’s not a bad idea. Thanks @Avocuddles DH really wants to have another baby but seems to get frightened off easily by OPKs and too much planning. He would be spooked by me suggesting we go to the doctors. He smokes so I wished he’d just give that up! I can go on my own obviously but if it came to testing him he’d struggle with that.

@avocuddles @MrsMGE @venusstarr @Mumlil @lasotto and everyone else I've forgotten, Happy New Year! May 2020 bring us baby dust 😄

I've taken a break over the holidays to not think about this because our due date was 18th is December, and it's been good for the mind and soul!

How are all you ladies getting on? What's the plan for attack (if any, you might just want to chill and go with the flow which I completely understand - At 36 I don't have that luxury though 😔).

I'm currently on a protocol of letrezole @ gonal-f shots, and had my scan and trigger shot of ovidrel yesterday. I'm pretty certain I've ovulated last night as temp just shot up, so fingers crossed this time around! At the scan yesterday I had 2 large follicles so hopefully both ovulated with the shot so I have more of a chance this month. We dtd last night per Dr's order and should be tonight too, but poor DH got some performance issues now, there's lots of pressure on men too 😔 I don't know if we should try tonight or leave it, what do you think? I want to maximize our chances and we have paid for this cycle and the meds, but I also feel sorry for him.

How are you getting on with your protocol (or was that starting this month?) @avocuddles?

@mrsmge how's my sista from another mista? 😘

Happy New Year to you @SunStruck!

I think @MrsMGE has tagged you on our second thread which we set up to talk about healthy eating and exercise etc for the New Year