TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 33- huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Mumlili8]

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to get and give support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy and baby. Pregnancy and child loss is the most awful thing anyone can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

Merry Christmas to you too @Avocuddles and everyone else here!

Sending lots of Christmas joy and positive thoughts for the year ahead

@ReeRi @SunshineCrocodile @Avocuddles @TwinkleStars15 @VenusStarr @MrsMGE @TerribleImagination and all you other ladies that I haven't tagged. Hope you have the best Christmas you can and may 2020 bring you everything you dream of xx

Merry Christmas @Mumlili8 @Avocuddles @SunshineCrocodile @MrsMGE @VenusStarr @strawberrye @Sunflower1608 @TwinkleStars15 @turquoisebaby @Mumlili8 @JuniperAndRose @Russkispy
and anyone I have missed.

I know we have all faced some massive obstacles and difficulties this year but you all have really been a massive support to me and I think we should all be proud of our strength in dealing with these things and supporting one another. I have said it before but I really hope 2020 is a great year for us all.

Merry christmas to everyone on the thread!
I have had the best christmas present this morning.... my BFP!

I am absolutely terrified now though as I started to miscarry the following day after my test last month. But I'm taking comfort in the fact that the tests this morning were super strong and my pregnancy symptoms are coming in thick and fast 🤞

I really do hope all you ladies get your BFP soon xxx

Happy Christmas everyone. Another year over (thank god) - but a new one nearly begun - let's hope it really is a better one for us all x

So far just the four pregnancy announcements on FB this morning, one a scan pic complete with Santa hat

Hey ho! MrsMGE I'm not tagging you as don't know if you want reminding of TTC today but thinking of you and I hope you get a bfp when you do test, whether today or tomorrow. Please don't worry that your post prompted me to think about testing, would have been on my mind anyway - it always is!

@Murree congratulations! Hope it's a sticky one x

@SunshineCrocodile I came across a new baby announcement on FB today. Reminded why I should stay off FB!

Congratulations @Murree I hope this sticks for you and you get a healthy 2020 baby!

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Hi girls. So it was a false alarm! Like I expected. But surprisingly, I'm ok with this and managed to have a lovely day.

Lots of love to you all, hope today is filled with love and relaxation for you (and a dash of bubbly, of course!).

Wishing all of us one thing for 2020: to be happy. It's a much harder venture after all that we've been through, but not impossible. And when I say happy, I mean it with or without children as this isn't the only thing in this life that determines this. ❤️🥂🌺 Xxx

@MrsMGE If that’s the case then I’m sorry. I was very hopeful for you xx

@Murree Massive congrats, what an amazing Christmas present Crossing everything for you! xx

Honestly, I'm alright @ReeRi 😊 I genuinely thought the first one was flooded and I know they're not very reliable anyway. I'd be more shocked if it was positive! I'm enjoying my red wine, cured meats and a fabulous Christmas Day cheeseboard 😊 Merry Christmas xxx

@MrsMGE sorry it was a false alarm but glad you got to join me in the wine / meats club today without having a 'what if' hanging over you. I think you're doing a very sensible thing trying to take it easy and focus on your wellbeing, life is too short to not make the most of what we have. Do keep in touch, I think of you often....

@Murree tentative congrats to you, hope this is a sticky one and maybe the first in a run of BFPs for this group.

@SunshineCrocodile @ReeRi it's hard to avoid them isn't it! We had to visit pregnant SIL this afternoon (thankfully no insensitive comments today....) and tomorrow morning we're visiting DHs friend and 9 months pregnant partner, the one due the same week we would have been. After that we're thankfully heading down to my family on the south coast where conversation will be blissfully baby free until 2020.....

I hope you have all had a good (or at least ok) day and that Santa has been generous

@Avocuddles Thank you ❤️ I think about you too.

I'm currently stuffing my face with cheese and prosciutto omg. Heaven.

Also DH made me cry happy tears today, he had a star named in memory of our baby and it was one of my Christmas gifts. I have to say, it's lovely to have something 'tangible' like this. I sometimes don't give him enough credit but he's lovely.

Right. End of soppiness, I'm off to watch Gavin & Stacey 😊 xxx

Merry Christmas everyone.

Wishing you all the best @Murree

I got a BFN today. I was ok. Thinking maybe that it's time to be grateful for the joy I do have in my life and be thankful for my children that I have managed to bring into this world and let go of the idea of having another one. A year putting everything on hold is enough. The loss broke my heart. I'm so lucky anyway for what I have in my life, my health and the health of my family.

I'm sad I won't carry the child of my partner, he truly deserves to be a father. But step dad may have to be it. And he does a fabulous job of it.

Thankyou so much to all of you for your support the past few months. And I will pray that you all get sticky beans and bring your baby's in to the world.
I may be back lol, but for now I need to have some space from TTC, get back to a normal sex life that isn't about introducing swimmers to their life partners 😆

@MrsMGE ah, I'm sorry it wasn't a Christmas surprise but I'm bloody glad you got to eat all the cheese and wine! Hope you had a lovely Christmas and I second @Avocuddles in hoping you'll still pop by now and again. I absolutely love the thought of your baby's star, what a wonderful gift.

@Sunflower1608 sorry about the BFN. If taking a break or stopping TTC is the best thing for you right now I'm glad you've been able to draw the line, (for now at least).

@Avocuddles hope you're now enjoying a bump/baby free Christmas!

We're back from holiday...BRRRR! Trying to avoid testing for another few days but I think my willpower will only last so long.

Hi ladies how are you getting on?

AF is arriving for me either today or tomorrow, bfn this morning. Appointment with gynaecology on 10 days so hopefully we will have a plan to start next year.

I’m glad you’re ok @MrsMGE

@Avocuddles Well done you for dealing with all the pregnancy and babies! I still find it hard unless it’s family or a good friend. I have no time, generally, for anyone who isn’t there for me, these days.

@Sunflower1608 I’m sorry you’ve had a tough time and wish you all the best. It would be a shame if your partner doesn’t get to become a Dad if he wants that but I think it is important to be grateful for what you have, which is easier said than done, sometimes, but none of us know what the future holds.

@SunshineCrocodile Hope you had a lovely holiday. We got back from Edinburgh last night but of course it’s no colder here than there, might be a tad warmer, in fact! We had a lovely time though and I still have another week off work! 😃

@Mumlili8 How are you? Sorry AF seems to be on her way but I really hope you get some answers this year.

@shanine I am just doing all the things I want to do this month too. I didn’t track or actively TTC this month but we did dtd at times when I might have been fertile so it’s possible but unlikely for me this month.

BTW if I have duplicated this post then apologies as I did reply on here yesterday I think but now can’t see it so maybe was in an area of bad service...

Hey @ReeRi @Mumlili8 @SunshineCrocodile thanks for asking after me & your kind comments!

I was due AF on 25/26 Dec, still no sign of it. I tested again and bfn, it looks like it's just casually late possibly because I'm still ill. I've had a cold for a week now, only just started feeling a bit better.

Anyway! Would love to get it out of the way! We're throwing a NYE party and just stocked up on some awesome food and drinks (Mediterranean theme), I can't wait!

And back on the healthy mission from January, I've got some £££ to spend on several gift cards this spring after I lose weight so no stopping me now 😊

Hope you're having a nice, relaxing post-Christmas weekend ladies xxx

@MrsMGE That happened to me last month. I had about five BFNs and one v faint positive at one stage and AF came about four days late. Keep us posted!

Yes I’m still planning to get healthy next year too but at the moment I have had lots of Christmas sweets and chocolates so I feel I should eat these in my week off and then start my new healthy eating kick on 6 Jan when I’m back at work 😂

@ReeRi Will do. Yes, I'm waiting for AF, I'm not even thinking there could be any other outcome with the tests that I took & considering I must be around 14-15 DPO now. That's OK. Hopefully AF will come soon and then it's a fresh start. I am planning to eat all of my Christmas chocolates by the end of the year AND I'm baking a giant chocolate cake for NYE 😂 At least we'll be sharing it with friends, right?! 😂 Going into the New Year with a massive sugar rush, haha!

I'm kind of glad 2019 is nearly gone, it was so shit that really things can hopefully only get better going forward, or at least I can deal with them better! I find this thought reassuring.

@Sunflower1608 I'm really sorry to read this. If you've made this decision because you feel it's too much and it's all got to you, please feel free to DM me as I've only been there recently. I know our situations are different because I don't have any living children, but it's a hard place to be when you're facing that decision. To be completely honest, I am now in a place when I don't know if we're going to continue TTC or not. I guess I'm just not labelling things and seeing what happens, not being hopeful, but not being dragged down by the process either. In the last few weeks I've worked hard to detach myself from thinking about this as much as I used to, to stop it being in the centre of my world. It works for now and I feel best I've felt in ages. Sometimes drawing a line is helpful and needed. It also helps with lifting the weight of this decision to realise that you don't have to stick to it for the rest of your days. Our lives, thoughts and attitudes evolve and you need to do what's right for you at any given time. If it's right, stand by it. If not, you can change it. Let me know if you ever need a chat. Sending you lots of love ❤️ Xxx

@MrsMGE I think all of us on here have had a tough time this year some way or another and I really hope 2020 will be a great year

Hi ladies. I'm Emily, 33, mum to a gorgeous 2 year old lb and twin girls who I lost in a mmc at 16 weeks back in September. Christmas has been phenomenally bittersweet. LB has had the best few days, but for me they've all been tinged with sadness.

We decided pretty quickly that we would TTC after xmas. CD1 was xmas eve, so I'm officially TTC now. We've been very lucky with both our previous pregnancies, only dtd once each cycle and caught on both times, first cycle of trying. Hoping that that will be the case this time, but not sure how I'll react if I get that BFN.

I know I'm very lucky to have my LB, and I absolutely adore him, but can't help but yearn to hold a baby (or 2) in my arms.

Sorry you find yourself here @Ejb86 and sorry for the loss of your twins. Hopefully you’ll be lucky and not see a BFN but if you do I’m sure you’ll get though and get your BFP soon!

I’m hoping we are all in the graduates thread by 2020!

I'm so sorry for the loss of your girls @Ejb86, and welcome to a lovely supportive thread. Fingers crossed you get your sticky bfp soon.

Hi all
@Ejb86 I’m so sorry to hear about your twins.

I’ve been reading quietly but not posting, I didn’t really feel I had much to add and I’ve been struggling to cope. This cycle has been tough, I thought I’d ovulate while away with family, but OPKs showed an almost positive today, several days late. We came home today so thought we’d have a chance but my DH couldn’t quite manage to dtd so I’m now I’m just lying in bed feeling gutted we haven’t even tried this month. I don’t know, I feel DHs pressure to perform limits our chances so much.

Anyway, I’m glad some of you have been enjoying Christmas, I’m sorry to those who are struggling. Wishing you all happier times for the new year xxx