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[Sophieb15]

@mrssunshine @Tamalama @Sunflower2019

Can ye add more please x

@pottypotamus we haven't talked about it but I'm hoping so! Then maybe again tomorrow?? 🙈

Morning everyone! I'm on CD25. I took an opk yesterday out of curiosity and got another flashing smiley so that's 15 days of flashing smileys!

According to all my 4 apps, af is due on Tuesday. Don't really have any af or pregnancy symptoms. Boobs are quite sore but squishy. When I was pregnant at the beginning of the year they were firm, which was the main reason I took a pregnancy test! They're not like that at the moment... going to resist the urge to test. I'm still unwell, I've now got a cold! I've been unwell for two and a half weeks! That may have affected ov but who knows! 🤷‍♀️

How's is everyone else getting on?

Sorry to hear about the CP @pottypotamus 😢 it must be stressful, hoping so much that this is your month!
Looks me you, me and @mrssunshinexxx will maybe test around the same day all being well! Nice to have moral support. @Treaclepie19 You will only be a couple of days behind 😍
Can I ask, how do you guys go about talking about TTC? I've confided in 2 very close friends who have been nice about it but both fell pregnant unexpectedly so say things like "don't think of it as trying" and "it'll happen when it's meant to" and although it's well meaning, it kind of gets my back up. Not sure why! We only stopped using protection in Aug so it's early days and I'm not concerned, but I'm also so excited for it to happen. It just feels like some weird taboo?
Also had a friend who said "you've mentioned babies a lot today, I assume that means you're trying?" And I felt a little judged, as though I should be avoiding the baby topic...such a strange thing that I'm trying to get my head around why it's more acceptable for us to keep it all hush hush 🤔

@croissantmonster people are really odd about TTC chat.
I found it easiest each time just to talk on here about it and not to friends or family.

This time it's especially awkward because everyone wants to protect us after losing our little boy in December. So I'm just keeping quiet and will tell them when I have a positive test and/or have seen the consultants and genetics team.

@Treaclepie19 that's really tough 😓 I can only imagine how protective your family would feel towards you now. Your plan sounds very wise 💛
Since the slightly tricky chats I've had, I'm just keeping it between me and my DH, but part of me wonders whether it's one of those things from days gone by like "don't talk about your periods". I think we should all be free to keep it quiet or chat about it however we wish without judgement...

@croissantmonster I completely agree. It's the same with miscarriage. We should be able to talk or not talk, whichever we prefer.
I'm a talker and people do find that hard to accept.
I have a blog about the loss of our son and since I had a TFMR it's a bit of a taboo subject so I wasnt sure how it would be received but thankfully people have been very kind.

I'm sorry to hear that @Treaclepie19 x
sometimes I feel that if you've lost a child, had a mc, etc there's even more expectation and pressure from other people to have another child. It's like they're waiting for it to happen, and when it doesn't happen quickly it's so depressing. I'm on cycle 7, and feel that pressure but maybe I'm just putting it on myself. I think keeping it to yourself when you do fall pregnant is a good idea. We told so many people I was expecting and 3 weeks later I had a mc. I've told DH I want to keep it private until at least the first scan. Hopefully it'll happen for us all soon, and we'll get our bfps. X

@Tamalama thank you. I'm so sorry for your loss

I had a miscarriage at 9w before we had our son and then everyone was just waiting around for us to get pregnant again. It wasn't fun.
This time I feel like people are either waiting for it or dreading it because they know how hard it's been.
Still, I will tell those really close to me early on because its nice to have a bit of support.

I'll also get extra scans and checks this time so at least I have things to countdown to.

I completely agree. I feel like it has to be some big secret that we are 'trying' . It's really frustrating. I have only confided in my closet friend, my mum and my colleague at work (there's only 1) and she keeps telling me to 'just enjoy all the sex' - that really annoys me and I don't know why 🙈

All my friends have fallen pregnant by accident so have no idea how months of negative tests affect you. 😔

@Blossomingflower94 I completely get that. Most of my friends have no clue that you don't just get pregnant from having sex whenever and testing the next day. It's a bit infuriating.

@Treaclepie19 it takes so much courage to be vulnerable enough to put a blog out there about a painful, and sadly taboo, topic. It's amazing that people like you go for it and talk even when it might make some uncomfortable, true strength 💜 I bet it has already inspired to talk about their own experiences.

@Tamalama sorry to hear you've had a loss 😔 it must be hard to not put all the pressure on yourself. I do think sharing that you're TTC makes people feel like they have a right to comment, and if you're feeling sensitive it'll be the least helpful thing 😑

@Blossomingflower94 "just enjoy it" seems to imply that you're not, or belittles something that you're either super pumped for or feeling delicate about. I suppose those who fall pregnant unexpectedly must hear all sorts too..."you're not ready until it happens" etc. It'd just be nice if it was less of a judgey subject all round wouldn't it!!

Totally! The judgement just needs to end.

I'm loving it, I feel so close to DP at the moment but there's obviously that overwhelming desire for a child that no-one seems to understand.

Glad I have all you to understand how I feel.

Good morning everyone I'm sorry i'm very bad for being on here over the weekend. Between cleaning my house bring LO to Ballet and keeping her entertained and cuddling the puppy its nearly a break when I get to go to work
@mrssunshinexxx did you get results?

@Tamalama How are you feeling? I really hope AF doesn't show and you start off our BFP's

Morning everyone x
@Sophieb15 we have been away since yesterday for couple days home tomorrow think I will ring then x

@Sophieb15 I'm still feeling pretty much the same! 😕 af due tomorrow but I don't have any symptoms. I caved and took an frer yesterday afternoon and got a bfn. I'll wait until af is late before testing again, although I know being unwell can also delay af...

@mrssunshinexxx You have some patience I'd be after ringing already
@Tamalama What's your longest cycle in the last few months? I hope AF doesn't show. No more early testing. Try wait until CD 28 if you can is it only CD 25 today?

@Sophieb15 just got a text off doctors asking to rung so I did and receptionist said i need to have it done 7 days before predicted next period as it looks as though I didn't ovulate this month and my score was 20.9 I could cry
I got a static on clear blue opks and had really strong pains what's going on :(

@mrssunshinexxx What CD did you get it done?

Cd18 because 19 and 20 was the weekend didn't think it would matter that much? X

Cd18 because 19 and 20 was the weekend didn't think it would matter that much? X @Sophieb15

@Sophieb15 the longest was 28 days but on average it's 26 days. I'm CD26 today but af is predicted for tomorrow. I think I'm getting a bit of cramping so imagine she'll arrive in the next day or so.

@mrssunshinexxx I'm sorry to hear that, but maybe you did just get that blood test reading because you didn't do it on CD19 or CD20? I don't know how it all works though xx

@mrssunshinexxx it's supposed to be CD 21 with a 28day cycle u didn't O till CD15 so that means there was only 3 days for it to rise rather than 6or 7 so 20 is good for 3 days after O so don't worry. X

@Tamalama I hope AF doesn't show if it doesn't show by CD 28 then will you test? X

@Sophieb15 doctor told me cd 19 or 20 for sure she's going to call me today anyway as receptionist said it looks as though I didn't ovulate and I am sure I did I got a static and had all the pains I'll have to go again next month but hubby doesn't want me to x

@Sophieb15 I will tell her what day I ovulated on because otherwise I suppose o might have same problem next month the receptionist said to go next month 7 days before predicted af ?

@mrssunshinexxx If you google progesterone level testing its normally 6/7 days after O which is normally 7 days before AF is due. You are CD 22 today which is 7 days after AF so you could actually get them taken today and you should get a more accurate result. I would say you are Ovulating if it was that high after 3 days though. xx

Is anyone near to testing??