TTC first baby 1 year + thread 2

[Mrs71]

@KatBeCool @FlapJackered @Broodyaf @bunhead34 @RosettaR @MotherOfShihTzus @starkid @Lina365

I thought I'd start a new thread as the other one is full. Sorry if I've missed anyone out.

@KatBeCool thank you, I don't blame you for not temping etc, I really do think it plays a part in it all. I wish I could stop temping but I can have a cycle that's 27 days long and a cycle that's 50 days long so I really never know when I'm going to ovulate

The funny thing is when I started ttc and naively thought it would just happen my cycles were always 28-30 days long. It's only since temping and obsessing over things they have moved longer.

@Maisy24 I've just turned 35, so really feeling the time pressure!
I know what you mean about the comments. It's awful! I was at a wedding last weekend and someone asked me when we were having a baby, and then told me you shouldn't ask people that as you never know 🤪
I've had the 'you're not getting any younger' comment from my dads wife. Imagine saying that to someone?!

We got the referral right after the SA results.
I'm not sure what the 'rules' are here, but it seems like the GP's either follow them or do what they want, so if the gp won't give a referral yet it's worth making an appointment with a different one!

I'm on CD 9, H is away for work for half of the FW, but hey-ho we'll give it a go!

@bunhead34 I think we need to relax about age and put it out of our minds, as long as an egg is being released we are in the race!

The comments are awful, I would never ever say to someone when are you having a baby, it's rude. It's crazy how it would be unacceptable to say to someone "so when are you getting a career then?" Or "when are you buying your own house?" Yet constant comments about having a baby people don't think twice about

I will be pushing my doctor for a referral, I'm not sure if I want the results to come back low or normal; at least we'd have an answer if they weren't normal. Then again I don't want dh to be worried.

It's not such a bad thing he's working away for half of it, he can be building them up so you have a better chance on the times you bd!

Wishing you lots of luck this month, xxxx

@maisy24 if my cycle wasn't monitored by the fertility clinic, I'd continue temping, but I see no point. Taking all the hormones I am, it makes my temps go crazy and make me question everything, so I'd rather not.

@KatBeCool ahh I see, yeah that's good it takes it off your mind then

@KatBeCool good will power! 💪🏻 I think it is the way forward. I don't temp any more and it is amazing how I can almost forget about ttc sometimes now!

@FlapJackered @KatBeCool did you both notice any differences in cycle length when you stopped temping? I might consider it after this cycle and just put the effort into BDing every two days and using clear blue.

@Maisy24 no difference in cycle length or anything but definitely felt less anxious, I think it's worth a go!

Had a chat with DH yesterday and we have decided if no luck by January we will do IVF! Currently trying to decide where, but it feels good to have a deadline now.

So we have decided we will go for ivf as soon as possible, and forget the clomid. We have a planning appointment booked for two weeks time, and I'm hoping we will be able to do the cycle in November.

Thanks for your messages and your support after my appointment @KatBeCool, I was feeling terrible and you really helped.

I stopped temping as I was finding them a source of anxiety. So much questioning why my temp isn't higher or lower depending on the time of month, and googling what it might mean. I'm just using opks now which is better. The consultant told me to completely stop tracking but I can't bring myself to.

@RosettaR I think doing the opks is fine and not as stressful as temping, is keep up with that as you hear so many stories of people starting ivf and then conceiving naturally!

@RosettaR @FlapJackered how long have your two been trying? So exciting that you are both going to be starting ivf. I think we're going to look Into it if we get good results from dhs sperm analysis, probably January time.

@Maisy24 I've only been trying since last September so will be paying for ivf. I would probably leave it a bit longer if it wasn't for the low amh but that has me spooked!

I have spent this evening reading about recommended nutrition for ivf. It seems it is all about fat and protein which will be hard for me as I love carbs! I have also ordered co q10 supplements. Hopefully it's not too late for these things to make a difference!

@Maisy24 we have been trying for 2 years in January. We aren't eligible for nhs ivf for another year because I had a miscarriage in January but I have just found out in another thread than we have about a 1% likelihood of getting pregnant naturally as DH has anti-sperm antibodies. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Just wish I had realised earlier.
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@RosettaR my sister went on the anti-inflammatory diet before her latest ivf round and it was successful and she is sure the diet helped. We will have to start looking for ivf tips! Which clinic are you going to use?

@RosettaR ah ok so not that long: we have been not trying since July; but properly tracking and trying since January, I'm just hopeful that it's taking time and it will happen. I've not had AMH yet , I'm genuinely scared of having it, even though I know it doesn't really mean much.

@FlapJackered that's interesting, what does anti sperm antibodies actually mean then? Did you find that out from a sperm analysis? We're just waiting on the results of that. If it's 1% then you did well to get pregnant in January. I'm sorry for your loss I bet that was heartbreaking, but it's very promising for the upcoming IVF.

Thanks @Maisy24 it is really hard, but I just wish I had realised this before. Antisperm antibodies I think basically mean DHs immune system is overreacting and attacking his sperm which then clump together which means they can't access the egg.

@FlapJackered it's really harsh that a diagnosis like that doesn't mean you're eligible for ivf sooner on the nhs. What's the point of even testing if they still make you wait two years?

I am due af today, and I swore to myself that this month, I would not get my hopes up an I would not get upsrt when she does arrive. But when af is late it's so hard! Why is my body playing these games?

@RosettaR - so hard not to symptom spot each month, fingers crossed for you.
@FlapJackered - good for you for deciding to take back some control, you deserve it after everything you've been through xx

So I just got told I can have my HSG dye test this Thursday morning!
So happy, was sure would have to wait til next cycle. For those who have had it done, did you go back to work after or take the rest of the day off? Was there a lot of discomfort after, or just a bit during?

@starkid I had a hycosy but it’s basically the same, I was crampy after and bled for a few days. I had the whole day off and luckily it was a Friday so I didnt need to go back till Monday but I could have definitely gone back the next day, I wouldn’t have like to have gone back straight after the procedure though

@SeahorseWilderness - yeah I I'll book it off then go back in Friday. Think the afternoon at home curled up in PJ's will be called for! Thank you :)

Hi ladies. So much to catch up on. Been awol for a few days.

You all seem to be making much better progress than me. My consultant hasn't even called me back after I queried my blood test results with her. I'm seriously thinking about going to a different endocrinologist and paying privately the whole point of me being referred to her was so she could sort my thyroid out!!

@starkid good luck with the hycosy. Once I'm back off holiday I'm going to push for a referral to the fertility clinic get the ball rolling. Are you having you hycosy done on the NHS? I've got really bad anxiety about the hycosy test.

@FlapJackered I would have been trying for 2 years in January too. It's good to know you have a date for ivf now. I don't even know what to do at the moment because of this whole thyroid issue.

@RosettaR Wow! November isn't that far off at all. £280 isn't too bad for the endocrinologist did you pay for blood tests separate ? Plus prescription.

@Maisy24 👋🏼 I also turned 31 a couple weeks ago! I've never felt so low about everything.

@Mrs71 - Hi, I'm having a HSG done so not sure what the difference is between the two procedure-wise. And yes I've been referred for one through the NHS by my consultant, along with a 2nd blood test for progesterone on cycle day 21 and a second sperm analysis. After that I guess I'm off to the fertility clinic to talk IVF, but will wait and see what comes from these next tests first. I'll report back about how it was! Even if they seem scary, best to get done if possible so can move ahead with TTC :)

@Mrs71 yes the blood tests were separate, the thyroid one was £90 I think. I also paid for the levothyroxine but that was nothing, £8 for three months' supply. It's possible your medication would be more, but then if it was possibly they would be able to prescribe on the nhs, I'm not sure how that works.

Yes, November is soon but that's assuming they can do it then. The last time I asked they didn't have a waiting list. I will find out on 21 Oct.

I have a question, I have bought some ubiquinol / co q10, and it says to consult a doctor before taking if you are pregnant. Some of you take this right? Is it generally considered ok?

@RosettaR it does seem that the miscarriage makes all the doctors think we are fine despite the fact the test says otherwise. Very frustrating! I am sorry your body is playing games with you. I had the same thing this month, not fun!

Thanks @starkid X Good luck with the hsg! I am having the dye test when I have my cyst removed next week so I luckily avoid the experience! It will be good to know that the tubes are ok though.

@Mrs71 I can't believe we are both approaching 2 years; not good. I would definitely recommend going privately if you can, I think most GPs are just not that knowledgable about it.