TTC first baby 1 year + thread 2

[Mrs71]

@KatBeCool @FlapJackered @Broodyaf @bunhead34 @RosettaR @MotherOfShihTzus @starkid @Lina365

I thought I'd start a new thread as the other one is full. Sorry if I've missed anyone out.

@FlapJackered glad everything's going along smoothly for you now! It sounds like such a rollercoaster with all the scans and results! I didn't realise until I read some of the ivf groups just how many different "stages" there are! But I am sure it'll all be fine and totally worth it for us all😊

@Mrs71 glad everything is progressing well!

I am on cd2 today, so I start taking the pill tomorrow. Excited, but also a bit gutted that the final chance of a natural conception has gone!

Hello all! Long time no talk.

@FlapJackered that's wonderful news!

I'm getting ready for ivf. Need to see an immunologist first, but feeling much calmer.

And @Mrs71 delighted for you! X

DH is looking to book us a last minute Florida trip late Feb. I'm 9dpo and due this Weds so will see what happens with this cycle, then if not think we'll just book it and if I happen to get pregnant next cycle will just avoid the dodgiest theme park rides I guess and hope am not too nauseous/tired. Got the specialist appointment mid Feb first :)
Good luck with everyone starting IVF/medication at the moment!

@starkid that sounds amazing! Great to have a holiday to look forward to ☀️

@ValidUser lovely to hear from you, and exciting you're getting closer to ivf.

@PineappleC thanks lovely, yes so many stages, I think until we get our final embryo number the day before transfer I won't count my chickens. It has been much easier than I anticipated so far which is good.
That is so exciting you are getting started now! Good luck!! I will keep everything crossed it all goes smoothly for you!

@Mrs71 that is great news and must be very reassuring! I hope you are able to relax and enjoy it now. Xx

@Mrs71 that's such good news, I hope you're able to enjoy the pregnancy now.

@starkid your holiday plans sound lovely, my cousin had trouble ttc and got pregnant after a holiday in the caribbean so you never know.

@FlapJackered I'm glad it's going smoothly and easier than expected! Best of luck with the next stages.

I've got my appointment about my other medical condition on Wednesday, and then af due Sunday or Monday. I'm nervous to see what the consultant says about starting ivf. If he even wants to do blood tests that could push us back another month and mean ivf in April at the earliest. I am finding the endless delays a bit difficult, but I know it can't be rushed and I just have to be patient. So hard though!

Started spotting this morning so booking Florida tomorrow for 6 weeks time and on to cycle 20

@starkid Sorry af turned up but very exciting to have booked Florida! I am so longing for some sunshine ☀️

I have my Egg Collection tomorrow 😬 starting to feel pretty nervous about it, I have asked the clinic not to tell me how many eggs I get though, as I know I will just worry about it. There seems to be such a big fall out from egg collection to final embryo I think for peace of mind I would rather just hear when it is time to transfer how many embryos we have. They all think I am nuts though. 😕

@RosettaR how did the appointment go? X

@FlapJackered best of luck for your EC if it's not already happened! What was it like? I can completely understand not wanting to be given constant updates about egg numbers, if I can I might do the same. Will you be off work and resting until ET?

My appointment was OK, he was kind of 50 50 as to whether to do more tests which I found hard. I am going to have the tests anyway but still unsure if it's the right decision, it all started happening after I got told about low AMH so possibly it could all just be anxiety. I feel so unqualified to make these decisions about what to do!

@RosettaR thanks lovely, it was much better than expected, a little bit of pain after but paracetamol has sorted that out.
Unfortunately they told me the numbers when we got out 🤦🏼‍♀️. They have 6 eggs which isn't loads but hopefully it's enough and we will get at least one embryo from that.
I work from home so I can take it easy until the transfer which is good.

I don't know the details but i think you have to do what you think is right for you, go with your gut and what will make you feel confident going forward. X

@FlapJackered that's annoying that they didn't respect your wish not to know. Six eggs sounds good. Try to forget about it all and relax for a few days now!

@FlapJackered six eggs is better than one or none! I've read of many people getting only 5-6 eggs and most fertilized. All fingers crossed! Are you doing fresh or frozen transfer?

@RosettaR I can't stand when people who call themselves medical professionals are 50/50 on what to do next and ask you. Come on! They have years of education of experience and I'd be lucky enough to even pronounce the words in the medical book correctly, why they asking me? But honestly, if you think it can affect ttc, best to get all the tests and answers, it's not worth the ivf money and doubts.

@starkid did the af start? Spotting could mean anything.

I'm 14dpo. AF has been like the clock at this time so we'll see how today goes.

@FlapJackered really excited for you and fingers crossed!!
@KatBeCool yeah am on day 4 of AF now, been really heavy and crampy too just to add to it. Does mean we're off to Florida in 40 something days time though as we didn't want to keep putting life on hold but realistically didn't want to book holidays abroad too far in advance :)
Are you due today then? Sore boobs?

@FlapJackered that's great news! From a lot of the forums, it seems that those who get that sort of number the eggs are normally better quality than those who get a "bumper haul" (I.e. a higher % go on to be good embryos). So hopefully you will have a nice number in a few days 😊🤞

I am feeling pretty low at the moment. I'm on long protocol IVF so on the pill until 30 Jan. I feel in limbo - I'm not actually doing anything towards a BFP, just sitting and waiting, but I still can't live my life fully - having to be careful with alcohol, diet etc, can't run as much as I want, can't plan holidays. My husband keeps telling me to " think positively" and that he's fed up of me being stressed about it. But I really can't help it. This morning we had an argument because I said i had savings which could be used if the NHS round fails, and he got annoyed because he thought I was "admitting defeat" on this round. That's not the case, I just want a contingency plan and thought it was sensible to keep money aside. Anyway I now feel I can't talk about it with him, so feel quite alone! I think a lot of it is him feeling ashamed that the problem is his end, but I am really trying to be strong and not fall apart, but it is so damn hard after 18 unsuccessful TTC cycles. I'm sure I'll feel better once I start taking the drugs and doing something productive, but for now it feels like a long waiting game! Sorry to vent, but feeling very much like I can't say this to anyone IRL now xx

@KatBeCool yes, I'd just rather the doctor made the decision for me, because if it's my decision it's guaranteed I'll spend the next few months agonising over whether it was the right one! I'm 10 dpo af due Monday so just behind you! When is your af due? Fingers crossed for a miracle for us both!

@PineappleC I think my husband is getting frustrated with me being stressed all the time too. And when he gets annoyed with me I always feel so much more stressed so it just goes round in a circle! I'm sure you are right that it is hard for him and underneath it all he probably does feel guilty that although the problem is with him, most of the burden of ivf falls on you. I don't have any advice as i havent found a solution to this myself! But you can come on here and vent whenever!

Thanks @RosettaR 😊 I am really trying to keep positive and not be miserable about it all, but like you said, it's really hard and yes it does go round in circles! I've just made an enquiry about acupuncture which at least makes me feel I'm doing something. I'm just fed up of DH telling me I'm being negative when it's taking all my energy to stay positive. I'm trying to be supportive with him too as I know hes feeling guilty, but he doesn't talk about it enough. I'm sure I'll feel better once I start the nasal spray stage on 30th 🤞

That sounds annoying that they're asking you to decide for yourself. I guess these days doctors are so fearful into negiglence enquiries if they do the "wrong thing". But they should still give you their medical opinion! Xx

@PineappleC it sounds like you're doing really well and taking a lot on yourself. I'm sure you will feel better as the process starts to feel more real.

@KatBeCool did af show? Mine is due today and I'm going crazy. I keep thinking how amazing it would be to get a BFP at this point.

@PineappleC it sounds like you're doing really well and taking a lot on yourself. I'm sure you will feel better as the process starts to feel more real.

@KatBeCool did af show? Mine is due today and I'm going crazy. I keep thinking how amazing it would be to get a BFP at this point.

The clinic called today and 3 embryos are fertilised and good quality so I am booked in for a 5 day transfer on Wednesday. I just hope that all 3 survive and we get some frozen 🤞🏻

Thanks @KatBeCool I am doing a fresh transfer. 🤞🏻😬. How are you? Did Af show up?

I am so sorry you are having a hard time with it @PineappleC it is an emotional rollercoaster ivf. Don't underestimate the effect all the different drugs have on your head. It's really really hard and puts a massive strain on the relationship. It is hard but keep focusing on the end goal and that you're not that far from potentially being pregnant after such a long wait. ❤️

@PineappleC I'm sorry your DH isn't being more understanding. However, people can process and express things differently. Sometimes I'm very similar to your husband about things like that where you basically force yourself to think positively because being realistic hurts too much. I don't let myself say "well if this fails, or that fails...". And trust me, it's not easy. So your DH is most likely doing the same thing and it absolutely doesn't mean he's not being supportive or not on your side. It's a way to cope and his is that. I recognize I'm doing it, but he might not. Maybe you can talk to him and try to see his side? It'll make things easier for both of you.

@FlapJackered @RosettaR AF is here in full swing. Frustrating. And it again seems lighter, although it just started yesterday so I'm hoping it'll be more normal still.

@FlapJackered Wednesday! It's so exciting! Three is great! How many are they transferring?

@KatBeCool I am sorry af turned up. What are your next steps with it all?
They are just transferring the one, hopefully if they survive. I just read the day 3-5 maturation is the most likely time for failure. (I need to stop googling!) 🤦🏼‍♀️

@FlapJackered that sounds like a great number to have made it to day 3 and be looking strong. I have everything crossed that you will get one to transfer and one to freeze!

@KatBeCool sorry af turned up for you. She's done the same for me today. I shouldn't still be disappointed after this many cycles but I am!

@FlapJackered - good luck with your 3 embryos, so exciting!!

So I'm on day 7 of my period which sucks. It's easing off a bit now but I never have them this long, was heavy earlier on too :( And been sicky and lightheaded today. So weird and unpleasant!

But I've got a pack of the fancy clearblue advanced ovulation sticks for this next cycle which I'll start using tomorrow, been maybe a year since I had those - what a treat haha

@starkid sorry you're having a rubbish af this month, glad you're looking forward to your fancy opks!

I had a major meltdown today: af started, I found out someone at work Is pregnant, and it turns out the waiting time for my tests is longer than I expected, meaning I have a choice between paying to go privately and have it done sooner, or not having ivf until June which will also be at the height of hay fever season. I would probably pay but my husband is really against because we've already spent so much. Don't know what to do and just feeling so angry with myself that this is where I am.