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Anyone get a BFP after BFN

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Cabbiefix · 10/09/2019 18:47

I'm approx 9dpo and have been having lots of twinges and pinching on my right side, been very very tired so decided to test today and got a BFN.....

Anyone had this and then gone on to get BFP? Or am I out this month?

Sorry been trying for 9 months and getting restless 🙄

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Gigi318 · 07/10/2019 21:43

@Trying93 ah just wondering as a lot of women say pregnacare has extended their cycles. Oh that's exciting. I hope it comes around quickly for us. Two weeks to go!

Trying93 · 07/10/2019 22:10

@Gigi318 oh really il not be taking it then. The last thing I need is longer cycles 😂

Yeah the two weeks of torture has started

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 08:43

@Gigi318 ah yes your 2ww starts today or tomorrow...annoyingly exciting lol I don't know how I've made it to 11dpo! Still no symptoms to report.

Gigi318 · 08/10/2019 09:20

Morning everyone, how are we all?

@Trying93 yes, perhaps not the case for all, but a lot of ladies have said it. One friend said it lengthened her cycle by 2-3 days each time, and she's now at 40 days!

@HoldingOn2Hope Yesss, going with 1dpo tomorrow. It could also be today. But I don't want to test until 23rd anyway so it's all okay hehe. That's good though, I think no symptoms can be a positive thing. Have you had a cold recently?

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 16:46

Hello ladies!
So after a rubbish afternoon and feeling very emotional (provably because AF is due) I succumbed to early testing! Now I feel even worse and have had a big cry! A BFN on a FRER test 🙁

Trying93 · 08/10/2019 16:55

@HoldingOn2Hope your not out until AF shows up. 11dpo is still early. I know you got a BFP early last time but statistics show most women dont get one that early

Got my fingers crossed for you 💜

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 17:09

@Trying93 is that the case even with the 6days early FR tests too? I know it wasn't the best month at ttc as OH was working late during fertile window but still had a tiny bit of hope! I feel very negative today and just feel like I'll never have a baby. To make matters worse a couple of us friends are meant to be going to see my bestie and her newborn tonight and I've decided to give it a miss. I don't mind the newborn but one of the friends just goes on and on about her pregnancies and her 3 children. Today's not the day for me to listen to all that.

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 17:10

@Trying93 thank you for keeping your fingers crossed for me xx

Gigi318 · 08/10/2019 17:33

@HoldingOn2Hope oh babe! It's still really early days and sometimes the BFPs don't show for a week or more. So hold the hope up! You can do it! Crying helps though, let it all out and have a chilled night. No need to put too much pressure on yourself chick. Also, being emotional is an early sign of PG! It will happen babe, it will. But you have to stay positive. That little bean will be yours no matter when it happens. You have to remember that 💖 and definitely don't worry about cancelling plans. You deserve to be selfish tonight. I would do the same. Get yourself a pizza or whatever and have a good old girly night. It will help 😘

Trying93 · 08/10/2019 18:34

@HoldingOn2Hope I've seen lots of people on here saying frers aren't as sensitive as they are made out. Iv never looked into it tho

I know the feeling some days im so negative and cry thinking il never get my happy ending. Im sure your friend will understand and your other friend sounds like a nightmare. Also a bit of a cow if she knows your circumstances!!

Stay positive and test in another few days
We're here for you 💕

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 19:05

@Gigi318 thank you! That's just made me cry a little more...what would we do without these forums? I don't think I'd have got through this last year as I've had little support from family/friends and have no expectations from them at all now.
I've just said I don't feel up to it this eve and want a quiet night in, I'm not going to explain my reasons why. I know being emotional is a sign of early pg but I get like this before a period too. I hate the fact that symptoms for pregnancy and AF are the same 😭
@Trying93 I think that friend is the one that's bothered me the most as she lost her grandad and aunt a couple of years ago and I spent most of my spring/summer that year being there for her, lunches, coffee dates as I know she was in a really dark place. I don't think I've even had a 'how are you' msg from her in months. When my bestie had her baby a few weeks ago she msgd me saying 'how exciting for you to be in the delivery room blah blah' and I actually did msg her back 'no I wasn't in the deliver with her, after the year I've had do you think I would have wanted to be?' She just said sorry.
I think it's a mixture of things that's made me feel rubbish today. OH is away til tomorrow, my nhs consultant is on long term sick and the bfn don't help. I can't see light at the end of the tunnel and I tested early thinking that way I can make a decision about whether I go away or not next week. I'll wait another couple of days and test again. Pizza and a box of chocs it is!

HoldingOn2Hope · 08/10/2019 19:07

The bestie has just called asking if I'm coming over and I've said no. She said come for a little while and I just said I don't feel up to it this eve. I think she understood. I feel selfish but this is self care isn't it? Doing what's right for me. I popped over at lunchtime as she only lives down the road to see the little one and I'm Absolutely fine with being around her I just don't like being around insensitive adults lol

Gigi318 · 08/10/2019 19:26

@HoldingOn2Hope awww chick, happy tears I hope? I know, I love the support on here. We're not telling anyone that we're sort of TTC and OH doesn't overly like talking about it, so I only have you girls to keep me sane. But it's so helpful! And definitely, you don't have to explain yourself. It's absolutely selfcare and fab that you already popped over today. You've got to so what's best for you, that's for sure!
That's it chick, it's good to remember that you've got a range of things on top of you, so it's not just you being crazy. There's a lot stressing you out at the moment. I always find it helps when you acknowledge everything and you can breeze easy for a bit. Delish. I had pizza last night as my OH is away too. What are we like, hey! But we're in this together.

Trying93 · 08/10/2019 19:33

@HoldingOn2Hope I would try to distance myself from that "friend" if I was you. How insensitive!!

100% self care, it's not selfish. Its hard always having to put on a brave face and you shouldn't have to do it all the time.

HoldingOn2Hope · 09/10/2019 15:13

Afternoon Ladies, how are we all doing? So I spent most of the evening sobbing out loud not even sure why! I've been on a shopping trip today and treated myself to lots of things I didn't even need and probably won't even wear (and probably can't afford if I end up seeing a private consultant lol) but it's made me feel better! I think AF is due as I'm sure I had some spotting today but couldn't really see in the dark toilets at Selfridges.

Gigi318 · 09/10/2019 15:28

@HoldingOn2Hope Good Afternoon, lovely lady. I'm so glad to hear this. You deserve it. And it's okay to treat yourself when you're feeling crap. So really pleased you did. I always find it's good to let it all out when you feel rubbish and then it always makes you feel better the next day. Oh no, I really hope not chick. Hope it stays away! I'm finally 1DPO and do glad it's fallen midweek as I kind of feel like only the big stretch next week will feel frustrating, rather than having two full weeks leading up to a weekend. Madness, I know!

HoldingOn2Hope · 09/10/2019 18:13

@Gigi318 Yayyyyy your countdown has started I really hope this is your month! I know exactly what you mean...mid week start to dpo is the one! Lol
I don't really know what was up with me yesterday, I think my nhs consultant being off sick has really stressed me out and even though I was like oh well I'll have to wait until he's back I think it really put a downer on life as he's been amazing and I feel so selfish but I hope it's nothing serious as he's been so good to me with all my recurrent mc tests and has put me on top of his list so no waiting times. Do you know when you feel like all the doors the are closing? That's how I felt. But tomorrow is a new day. Although I wish AF was not coming I can feel it...the cramps and twinges have started 🙄 another excuse for chocolate and maybe a G&T in a couple of days!

HoldingOn2Hope · 09/10/2019 18:14

@Cabbiefix How are you getting on? Have you succumbed to early testing or was it just me who was so impatient 😆

Gigi318 · 09/10/2019 19:59

@HoldingOn2Hope it is, it is! So exciting. Glad you got what I meant, I wondered if I sounded nuts but I feel like it's going to seem shorter this time around 🙌🏻 thank you, I really hope it is too - for both of us!
Awww chick, so sorry that you feel that way. But I would see that as a new door is opening. Your new NHS consultant could be amazing and it could all really work out for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 sorry to hear AF seems to be setting in. Chocolate and gin sounds fantastic chick. I could have done with some choc tonight but trying to be good. It's boring!!!

Trying93 · 09/10/2019 22:00

@holdingon2hope im glad your feeling abit better and I really hope AF doesnt show up 🤞

@Gigi318 fingers crossed for you too now your on your tww

I've been getting period type cramps but not as sore the last few days. Hope AF isnt coming this early as it would be very unusual. Dont even know if its worth thinking about as sometimes I think the mind tricks us into "symptoms" especially in tww

HoldingOn2Hope · 09/10/2019 23:06

@Trying93 could it be ovulation pain? Or have you definitely ovulated already? Xx

Gigi318 · 10/10/2019 09:05

Morning ladies, how are we all?

@Trying93 oh goodness tell me about it. That's all I did last month. But I also think a lot of AF symptoms are similar to PG so it's hard to know the difference 🙈 what DPO are you again? Yesssss, I know. 2DPO now. Woohoo, getting right into it now 🥂

@HoldingOn2Hope how are you today, chick?

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Cabbiefix · 10/10/2019 09:38

Morning everyone!

@HoldingOn2Hope no not done any early testing but AF should be due tomorrow/Saturday been feeling twinges and tired yesterday and today so think it's on it way.... Not going to bother testing now I don't think.....

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HoldingOn2Hope · 10/10/2019 09:47

Morning All,

AF is on her wicked way! Spotting today so I'm definitely out this month. Won't be ttc next cycle as I'm due to have a hysteroscopy so under strict instructions not to ttc! I feel better today knowing what's happening. Fingers crossed for you @Cabbiefix

Gigi318 · 10/10/2019 10:04

@Cabbiefix hope you're feeling okay. I think not testing is a good idea. And then, if you are late you can test. That saves a wasted test and any heartache from seeing a BFN. Girls, we've got this!

@HoldingOn2Hope oh no chick, sorry to hear that. Hope you're not feeling too crappy. Do you mind me asking what you're having it for? I hope you're not struggling with anything. Sending lots of love and thoughts. And girl, go get yourself some chocolate and wine and relax tonight. After all, it's pretty much the weekend 🙊😘