TTC Baby number 1 - Looking for buddies

[Hewie30]

Hi Ladies 🙋,

I'm new to the forum so thought I'd look for some TTC buddies.
I'm 30 and TTC baby number 1, I came off the pill beginning of May and had a withdrawal bleed a few days later then got my first AF 4 weeks after that. Last month I sadly had a chemical it was gutting seeing the faint line go but I guess it wasn't my time!
AF arrived on time Sunday so looks like my cycle ranges from 34-35 days.
I'm currently taking pregnacare and using the Ovia app for ovulation, I'm thinking if I don't concieve by month 6 I'll try ovulation sticks. Onward to month 4 I go 🤣

Morning Ladies!

Got a negative unfortunately 😒😔. Guessing I'm having a chemical so expecting AF to arrive but if it doesn't I'll test again in a few days

A friend thinks she can see a fainter in one of them when it's converted but I'd expect it to be darker but we'll see 🤞. @gigi318 Can you bring us any good news?

@Hewie30 so sorry. Hugs to you! 💕

Ladies, AF arrived with a bang in the night 💔

It almost broke my little heart, BUT I'm okay today. Just in an awful lot of pain! It's a new day, a fresh start, and my god I intend to DTD all month long to get my little poppy seed. I'm quite the determined little thing when I want to be!

@Hewie30 sorry to hear that lovely, I didn't even test! I'm hoping something comes of it for you chick. And if not, we're in this together, we're going to do things naturally this month and make that poppy seed and pea stick, okay!

@Hewie30 and @Gigi318 I'm so sorry it did not work out for you x keep your heads high, its a new month and a new chance for both of you!
@Gigi318 I hope you can get through the pain today and stay positive x
@Hewie30 have you got a photo you can post love? x

@nicecupofcoco Thanks hun ❤️😔

@gigi318 Noooo did it!! What a witch, I'm sorry hun but I'm glad your okay today. It's gutting isn't it ❤️. Haha! You got this! You'll make your little pea next cycle I know it 😍. We'll see what happens with my cycle, at the moment it's cd38. If I come on I'm definitely having a break with ttc, I just feel it'll never happen and my bodies being cruel to me

@Hewie30 and @Gigi318 it will happen for you both. Its so hard to stay positive when ttc, it took me 9 cycles with ds, I felt like it wasn't going to happen and at times like giving up but I'm glad I didn't now. xx

@Hewie30 Oh no, I'm so sorry about your chemical. Be kind to yourself and take your time

@Gigi318 Sorry to hear AF showed up - similar thing happened to me last cycle, I started spotting so thought it was AF, thwn the spotting stopped so I decided to take a test and AF arrived on the morning I was going to test...

@Katie1109 thank you babe, yes I am feeling good. OH is being very sweet about it and all positive 💫 it'd take a lot to knock that out of me 🙊🥰

@Hewie30 oh lovely, I'm sure you're going to have your little one either way. If it's not stick RN, then watch you catch next month when the pressure is off. The body works in such magical ways! Thank you chick, I definitely learnt a lot this month ready for cycle 2 🤞🏻 I just think it might be cycle 3 I catch. Because, 3 🤣🙈

@Nicecupofcoco absolutely, although I think if I can't be positive, what can I be 💖 so I'm feeling good today. I'm going to look after myself and rest these next few days and then get my energy up for a busy week next week 🙊 What cycle did you catch this time?

@Raizelrea crazy isn't it! My spotting was so so strange, light, and long! Never happens. It's like my body playing tricks on me. Or I caught and it didn't stick. For this cycle, I am going to distract myself in the TWW I think. Maybe I'll start a new project or book a trip 🤣 how are you feeling today?

@Gigi318 Yeah definitely a good idea to stay distracted! I'm ok thanks, feeling a little under the weather because of the flu jab, but that should hopefully go away within a day or two!

@Raizelrea oh yes I have heard it does that, but a nice excuse to slow down and look after yourself a little bit too. Always good. Think I'm going to get myself some chocolate for this evening and become a female cliche 🙌🏻 oh I do love being a woman hehehe!

@Gigi318 that's great your feeling positive. I'm on cycle two at the moment. Wasn't expecting to catch quickly... But last month when I had my chemical we weren't trying, so can't really count it, but I think because I had an early loss I was perhaps a little more fertile which is maybe why I've caught again so quickly....certainly wasn't expecting too with my age etc. Remember it's considered normal to take up to a year for the average couple, although I'm sure it'll happen very soon for you! 💕 I know it doesn't feel that way when af arrives though. Heres to a new cycle @Gigi318 lots of dtd and loads of baby dust for you! Xx

@Gigi318 @Hewie30 sorry ladies 😞 my spotting was weird this cycle as well! I swear the body knows and does things just to confuse us!
Wouldn't it be amazing if we all caught together next cycle/ this cycle?! ❤️

@Hewie30 don't give up hope completely just yet. Give it a couple of days and test again love x Well this was my 4th cycle so let's see if number 5 is my lucky one. I'm feeling ok today. I woke up in the middle of the night so hot that swat was literally dripping off me while windows were wide open. I'm normally one of those that sleeps completely wrapped up, but there was no chance of that last night. Still got a bit of heartburn this morning, but other than that all good.
I'm glad you're feeling ok @Gigi318 and sounding positive, positivity is the key in ttc I think x Nothing wrong with a cliché!

Thanks ladies ❤️. I'm hoping AF won't turn up and I'll get a late positive but also preparing for AF to come.
I want to continue trying but oh started to feel that dtd was beginning to become a task so I don't think he'll want to dtd as often as we did this month. So I just feel it'll take longer, two blows in one month 🙄

@Hewie30 it may just be the exact opposite! Remember that stress can decrease fertility, so if he feels less stressed about dtd because you're not sitting and planning it, it may happen quicker than when you did. Stay positive hun x try to make your sex life more exciting (I'm not saying it's boring), just do something different to make you OH feel like it's not just a chore x You'll be fine hun, trust me x for example, we now decided that this week we're going to dtd everywhere but in the bed ! That should be fun x

@Nicecupofcoco yes definitely, they always say your more fertile when you've been pregnant. So that definitely works in your favour. Hurrah! Oh absolutely, I also have endometriosis (although I don't expect it to affect my fertility) so I know I can go in after 6 months and elect to have the op if I need it 🤞🏻 but I don't think I will. I've always felt healthy and fertile, is that makes sense. I also think we didn't give it a real shot last month. I joined MN after my fertile window and have learnt a lot since 🤣🙈 I feel much more relaxed and knowledgeable going into this month. Yay! Thank you so, so much 💖

@Makeafamily19 oh absolutely it does. I also teamed it with cutting back on my mammoth 3-4 double shot black coffees this month and think that was the cause of my headaches! Silly me! Absolutely. I'm feel positive about this try!

@Katie1109 yes lucky number 5 and if sadly doesn't work out for Hewie it will be 5 for both of you 🤞🏻💫 but yes wait it out Hewie!! All of your symptoms are sounding good. Are you going with CD8 now? That's a quick way to speed it up if so!!!

@Hewie30 you're not out until AF arrives chick, remember that 💙 and I also want you to remember that it only takes ONE time of DTD to conceive. That one time. Sometimes you just need to relax and go with it and suddenly, because the pressure is off, it happens. I personally believe that doing things that way is more effective. You hear of so many people that stop ttc and bam, it happens. So I think it's a good thing. A handful of times over your fertile window will do the trick. You've got this. PLUS you may not even be out yet 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

And @Katie1109 is so right here chick. Sometimes a little more fun and less stress is exactly what the fertility god are looking for 🙌🏻

@Katie1109 Haha that's a good idea 😂😂. I did try and make it a bit more spontaneous by dressing up and sending photos etc but hopefully your right and because we'll be more relaxed it might happen. My only problem is I don't know when I properly ovulate that's why we dtd throughout my cycle last month. The opks picked up a peak earlier then the other one that was really late so I wouldn't know when my fertile period is 🤔.

@Gigi318 Ah I hope I'm not out Hun but the lines fading doesn't give me much hope to cling on to! Definatly going for the relaxed approach but my issue is I don't know when I ovulate that's why we dtd so much this month and he felt it was becoming a chore. Every cycle has been a different length and the opks picked up a high earlier on when I thought I'd ovulate and then a really late one so it's hard to tell 😒. But i definatly need to find the right time, he said he doesn't mind me doing opks but for me that will make me egar to dtd when I get my peak 😂

@Hewie30 dressing up? Hmm...that's something I've got to try! Maybe that's for a week after lol x don't worry hun. Firstly you're not out yet, secondly if you are then just relax and have fun! x

@Hewie30 I think you're in the best possible frame of mine right now my love. And I do think it will help you not to look into opks so much and in tune with your body. I always fine I really want to dtd much more when I'm fertile and ovulating, and then theres the EWs if I manage to spot them. That's always a good sign. Plus if you're enjoying yourself and just aiming for every other day or so and enjoying it, you've got the best chance 🙌🏻 I know you can do this!
Plus, you may still be in the game 🤞🏻💫

And yes, maybe I should treat myself to some new lingerie! @Katie1109 good shot too! Although not today. Feeling bloaty and in pain today 🤣🙈

@Gigi318 @Hewie30 sorry to hear that both of you. Lots of love and hugs headed your way. Be strong and come back fighting next month.
Still nothing from me, am now 9dpo but no symptoms what so ever (other than possible cramping yesterday though not sure if it was or not)

@Katie1109 Haha! I definitely recommend it, their faces light up 😂. Yeah we'll definitely see first of AF comes and if it does, the relaxed approach again it is! Thanks for the support you two Gigi318, your amazing ❤️

@gigi318 This is true I could be one of the lucky ones that gets a late positive 🤞❤️, I have read about that a few times since ttc. I thought I was quite intune with my body but I don't seem to get alot of ewcm 🤔. My sex drive does go up but by this months opks it goes high but not to peak. I got to think my time will come when the times right and there's no point fretting about it. Haha! Yess ladies do it!!

@claireb707 that all sounds quite positive to me chick. Not everyone gets symptoms and I think most of mine were me just looking into things too much - clearly 🤣🙈 when do you think you will test?

@Hewie30 babe honestly, that's very much what I believe. We can stress, worry, plan, and still not get it right. I just really think that relaxing and going with it will make things happen. Stress is such a killer for the mind and body, even when you don't think you're stressed. And maybe OH is feeling the pressure (even if he doesn't let on as you know what men can be like) so it's good to just relax, enjoy the month, and see what happens. I feel so hopeful for you either way. Awww thanks babe, I'm so pleased to have 'met' you guys too. Everyone is so kind and supportive. I love that we're in this together. Plus, October is a good month for you. Bday month, woohoo! 🙌🏻🤞🏻💫

Testing Friday morning before we go on holiday, but may take something with me just in case period doesn't put in an appearance

@claireb707 oh yes sorry chick, I did know this. Sounds like a good day to test and then you can enjoy your holiday too! Where are you going, if you don't mind me asking? I'm so very jealous - could do with a trip right now 🙊